How conflict can improve your bond

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Conflict can increase intimacy and trust

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How to resolve conflict

Conflict is a part of married life, but can you still have a good marriage if you argue from time to time? Today, Doug shares how conflict can actually improve your marriage.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Maria - My husband will ask pin pointed questions and I’ll give him the answer but he will respond with his own answer and its feeling very confrontational. (13:00)
Deedee - What causes a man to stonewall? (42:23)
Lily - Give me something else because none of this works. My husband won’t have a conversation. (45:38)

 

Resources:

 

Marriage Unhindered

https://www.marriageunhindered.com/

 

Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle

https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle

 

Happy Marriage for Life

https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Conflict is a part of married life, but can you still have a good marriage if you argue from time to time? Today, Doug shares how conflict can actually improve your marriage.
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Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Maria - My husband will ask pin pointed questions and I&rsquo;ll give him the answer but he will respond with his own answer and its feeling very confrontational. (13:00)</li>
<li>Deedee - What causes a man to stonewall? (42:23)</li>
<li>Lily - Give me something else because none of this works. My husband won&rsquo;t have a conversation. (45:38)</li>
</ul>
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Resources:
&nbsp;
Marriage Unhindered
<a href="https://www.marriageunhindered.com/">https://www.marriageunhindered.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle
<a href="https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle">https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle</a>
&nbsp;
Happy Marriage for Life
<a href="https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/">https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/</a>

Marriage Unhindered is a sincere exploration of the joys and challenges within the realm of marriage. Hosted by the seasoned Doug Hinderer, this one-hour, caller-based show is scheduled to air every Saturday from 11am – 12pm CT, and will offer listeners an authentic journey into the complexities of marital relationships.

Marriage Unhindered is a sincere exploration of the joys and challenges within the realm of marriage. Hosted by the seasoned Doug Hinderer, this one-hour, caller-based show is scheduled to air every Saturday from 11am – 12pm CT, and will offer listeners an authentic journey into the complexities of marital relationships.

Marriage Unhindered

Conflict is a good thing

My girlfriend broke up with me

Living with a hoarder

Practical tips for living with a hoarder

Can AI help your marriage?

Was my marriage valid?

Light a candle at dinner 

Why do break ups happen? How do you live with a hoarder? Can AI improve your marriage? Doug goes to the mailbag answering these questions and more.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Christine - I want to give you a solution: A friend of mine said that they made a very small area and her husband could be messy there. (17:41)
Mike - I am a hoarder and I would like to tell you how it is good. (28:56)
Rita - I am a retired therapist and my suggestion is that for the things you feel you can’t throw away, taking pictures help. (30:51)
Ken - I have a first communion garment that I don’t want to give to my nephew. Am I a hoarder for this? (35:00)
Jason - I think AI is a good mediator. It’s like a father but doesn’t get mad. (37:00)
Mike - It depends how you use the AI. If you put in negative prompts it will skew towards what it thinks you want. (37:50)

 

Resources:

 

Marriage Unhindered

https://www.marriageunhindered.com/

 

International OCD Foundation

https://iocdf.org/

 

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)

https://www.nami.org/

Why do break ups happen? How do you live with a hoarder? Can AI improve your marriage? Doug goes to the mailbag answering these questions and more.
&nbsp;
Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Christine - I want to give you a solution: A friend of mine said that they made a very small area and her husband could be messy there. (17:41)</li>
<li>Mike - I am a hoarder and I would like to tell you how it is good. (28:56)</li>
<li>Rita - I am a retired therapist and my suggestion is that for the things you feel you can&rsquo;t throw away, taking pictures help. (30:51)</li>
<li>Ken - I have a first communion garment that I don&rsquo;t want to give to my nephew. Am I a hoarder for this? (35:00)</li>
<li>Jason - I think AI is a good mediator. It&rsquo;s like a father but doesn&rsquo;t get mad. (37:00)</li>
<li>Mike - It depends how you use the AI. If you put in negative prompts it will skew towards what it thinks you want. (37:50)</li>
</ul>
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Resources:
&nbsp;
Marriage Unhindered
<a href="https://www.marriageunhindered.com/">https://www.marriageunhindered.com/</a>
&nbsp;
International OCD Foundation
<a href="https://iocdf.org/">https://iocdf.org/</a>
&nbsp;
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)
<a href="https://www.nami.org/">https://www.nami.org/</a>

Living with a Hoarder

Wife saw that divorce was an option

Husband's turning point - leadership

Is there a chance we can reconcile?

Importance of physical touch

Doug shares a case study from Impossible Marriages Redeemed by Leila Miller. When getting married, the wife’s backup plan was divorce. After years of arguing and the husband’s alcohol abuse, hope seemed grim.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Ted - My wife filed for divorce about a month ago and I am wondering how to keep her here or if I need to let her go. (35:11)
Angel - I was a military wife and my husband had a cheating and drug problem. He kept it from my children until right before he died. They are angry and hurt even though he’s dead. I want them to love their father after his death. (43:23)

 

Resources:

Impossible Marriages Redeemed

https://www.leilamiller.net/impossiblemarriagesredeemedpdf

 

The Forgiveness Institute

https://internationalforgiveness.com/

Doug shares a case study from&nbsp;Impossible Marriages Redeemed&nbsp;by Leila Miller. When getting married, the wife&rsquo;s backup plan was divorce. After years of arguing and the husband&rsquo;s alcohol abuse, hope seemed grim.
&nbsp;
Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Ted - My wife filed for divorce about a month ago and I am wondering how to keep her here or if I need to let her go. (35:11)</li>
<li>Angel - I was a military wife and my husband had a cheating and drug problem. He kept it from my children until right before he died. They are angry and hurt even though he&rsquo;s dead. I want them to love their father after his death. (43:23)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
Impossible Marriages Redeemed
<a href="https://www.leilamiller.net/impossiblemarriagesredeemedpdf">https://www.leilamiller.net/impossiblemarriagesredeemedpdf</a>
&nbsp;
The Forgiveness Institute
<a href="https://internationalforgiveness.com/">https://internationalforgiveness.com/</a>

With God All Things Are Possible

New Year's Resolutions

I want to help my granddaughter

Getting teens out of their rooms

Setting boundaries 

Rules for screens

Doug shares 6 New Year’s resolutions to help marriages thrive. He also gives rules for how to limit your teens social media use and screen time.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Tracey - My daughter took my granddaughter’s car. They think she was drunk driving but she was not and now my granddaughter is angry and wants to come live with me. What should I do? (21:59)

 

Resources:

The Anxious Generation

https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036

 

6 New Year’s resolutions for your marriage
I will use the daily pinpricks in married life to grow in virtue.
Every day I will pray for, and about my spouse.
I will give my spouse one compliment a day.
I will use 'the formula' to talk with my spouse to let them know when they hurt me.
I will use the words “I’m sorry” and “I forgive you” as many times as needed.
I will limit my use of screens, especially when my spouse and I are together.

Doug shares 6 New Year&rsquo;s resolutions to help marriages thrive. He also gives rules for how to limit your teens social media use and screen time.
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Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Tracey - My daughter took my granddaughter&rsquo;s car. They think she was drunk driving but she was not and now my granddaughter is angry and wants to come live with me. What should I do? (21:59)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
The Anxious Generation
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036">https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036</a>
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6 New Year&rsquo;s resolutions for your marriage
<ol>
<li>I will use the daily pinpricks in married life to grow in virtue.</li>
<li>Every day I will pray for, and about my spouse.</li>
<li>I will give my spouse one compliment a day.</li>
<li>I will use 'the formula' to talk with my spouse to let them know when they hurt me.</li>
<li>I will use the words &ldquo;I&rsquo;m sorry&rdquo; and &ldquo;I forgive you&rdquo; as many times as needed.</li>
<li>I will limit my use of screens, especially when my spouse and I are together.</li>
</ol>

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