It took the deliciously unhinged creative genius of Miranda July to invent a dating questionnaire that asks the questions no one else is brave enough to ask. Forget your height or if you like 'long walks on the beach'; Em is looking at the prompts that actually reveal your soul, like a photo of your bookshelves, your messy bed, or a screenshot of your ex describing you via text. So, what would you ask, to really get to know someone? And is the secret to finding love just showing someone the inside of your fridge?

There’s a name for that 'meh' feeling you have after a day at work: Office air. Thanks to a smart TikTok creator, Clare has finally figured out why we all look like 'sick Victorian children' by the time the clock strikes five. 

Meanwhile, Nicole Kidman is currently on a promo circuit, but she isn't talking about her latest film. Instead, she’s opening up about her desire to become a death doula after the devastating loss of her mother. So Holly’s asking: What is a death doula? Why don’t work and caring and basically, life, stop for you to deal with losing a loved one? And how do we get better at understanding that the loss of a parent - even at an age deemed ‘appropriate’ - is often completely unmooring. 

And finally, according to Vogue, nobody’s getting their nails done any more.

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This week’s recommendations:

• BOOK: Heir Apparent by Rebecca Armitage. An "unputtdownable" and engaging novel from an Aussie journalist who knows the royals inside out.
• TV SHOW: From on Stan. A nightmarish mystery series about a town in the US that traps anyone who enters
• BOOK: Broken Country by Clare Leslie Hall. A love story that feels like a thriller, set in a 1950s farming village. Warning: you will cry.

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• Listen to our latest episode: Is WFH Bad For Women?
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• Listen: Harry & Meghan Just Blew Up The Sandringham Summit
• Listen: Your Boss's Unpopular Opinion & It's Taurus Season
• Listen: A Fight About Who’s Allowed To Have A Crush
• Listen: Mia's Uncomfortable Aha Moment About Friendship
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What to read: 

• Nicole Kidman was about to step on stage when she got the news that broke her heart.
• Nicole Kidman has just spoken about her divorce from Keith Urban. One detail stood out.
• 'I stood in my kitchen waiting for my phone to buzz. That's when the grief finally hit me.'
• Clare Stephens gives great book recommendations.

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