Childless not by choice carries a grief many women silently numb with alcohol. In this episode of Love Life Sober, Maureen Benkovich shares how infertility, miscarriage, and a failed adoption fueled years of binge drinking—and how surrendering to God led to lasting freedom.

Christy sits down with Maureen Benkovich, Alcohol Freedom Coach, author, speaker, and host of the Sober Fit Life podcast, for a powerful conversation about infertility grief, childlessness not by choice, and the hidden pain only God could heal.

A former fitness professional who outwardly embodied discipline and success, Maureen shares how miscarriage, infertility, and a failed adoption quietly shaped her identity and fueled years of binge drinking, depression, and the exhausting detox-to-retox cycle. She opens up about the “untangible” grief of not becoming a mother, the party-girl persona she used to survive, and the moment she stopped asking God for moderation and instead surrendered completely.

This episode is for the woman who feels stuck, unseen, and tired of numbing her sorrow with wine. There is a way out—and it begins with laying it down.

If You’ve Ever Thought…


“Why would God let this happen to me?”


“I don’t know who I am if I’m not a mom.”


“Alcohol is the only thing that helps me get through the sadness.”

This episode is for you.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode


How infertility grief and a failed adoption quietly escalated Maureen’s drinking over time


Why alcohol can trap you in rumination, depression, and emotional stuckness


The detox-to-retox cycle and how it keeps you feeling “fine”… until you’re not


What it looks like to rebuild identity when motherhood doesn’t happen


Why moderation wasn’t the answer—and what finally changed everything


How faith, community, and renewing your mind create new pathways forward


Practical encouragement for women who are childless not by choice and feeling alone

💌 Links & Resources

Maureen’s website:
soberfitchick.com

🌟 Join the Love Life Sober Community
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community

🌿 Join the Lent 40-Day Alcohol Fast
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast

📖 Order Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book

Learn more about the Tyndale Life Recovery Bible:
https://hubs.la/Q041HjWm0

Connect on Instagram: @lovelifesoberwithchristy
Subscribe on YouTube — Come hang with us! 

Disclaimer

The creators, hosts, and producers of the Love Life Sober podcast are not healthcare practitioners and do not provide medical, psychological, or professional advice. Content is not intended to substitute professional care. Views expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect those of the Love Life Sober team. Content Note: This episode includes discussion of suicide. Listener discretion is advised.

Childless not by choice carries a grief many women silently numb with alcohol. In this episode of Love Life Sober, Maureen Benkovich shares how infertility, miscarriage, and a failed adoption fueled years of binge drinking&mdash;and how surrendering to God led to lasting freedom.
Christy sits down with&nbsp;Maureen Benkovich, Alcohol Freedom Coach, author, speaker, and host of the Sober Fit Life podcast, for a powerful conversation about infertility grief, childlessness not by choice, and the hidden pain only God could heal.
A former fitness professional who outwardly embodied discipline and success, Maureen shares how miscarriage, infertility, and a failed adoption quietly shaped her identity and fueled years of binge drinking, depression, and the exhausting detox-to-retox cycle. She opens up about the &ldquo;untangible&rdquo; grief of not becoming a mother, the party-girl persona she used to survive, and the moment she stopped asking God for moderation and instead surrendered completely.
This episode is for the woman who feels stuck, unseen, and tired of numbing her sorrow with wine. There is a way out&mdash;and it begins with laying it down.
If You&rsquo;ve Ever Thought&hellip;
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<li data-start="1799" data-end="1841">
&ldquo;Why would God let this happen to me?&rdquo;
</li>
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&ldquo;I don&rsquo;t know who I am if I&rsquo;m not a mom.&rdquo;
</li>
<li data-start="1888" data-end="1956">
&ldquo;Alcohol is the only thing that helps me get through the sadness.&rdquo;
</li>
</ul>
This episode is for you.
What You&rsquo;ll Learn in This Episode
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<li data-start="2030" data-end="2124">
How infertility grief and a failed adoption quietly escalated Maureen&rsquo;s drinking over time
</li>
<li data-start="2125" data-end="2204">
Why alcohol can trap you in rumination, depression, and emotional stuckness
</li>
<li data-start="2205" data-end="2287">
The detox-to-retox cycle and how it keeps you feeling &ldquo;fine&rdquo;&hellip; until you&rsquo;re not
</li>
<li data-start="2288" data-end="2361">
What it looks like to rebuild identity when motherhood doesn&rsquo;t happen
</li>
<li data-start="2362" data-end="2434">
Why moderation wasn&rsquo;t the answer&mdash;and what finally changed everything
</li>
<li data-start="2435" data-end="2511">
How faith, community, and renewing your mind create new pathways forward
</li>
<li data-start="2512" data-end="2599">
Practical encouragement for women who are childless not by choice and feeling alone
</li>
</ul>
<hr data-start="2601" data-end="2604">
💌 Links &amp; Resources
Maureen&rsquo;s website: <a href="https://www.soberfitchick.com/">soberfitchick.com</a>
🌟 Join the Love Life Sober Community <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community" data-start="2713" data-end="2750">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community</a>
🌿 Join the Lent 40-Day Alcohol Fast <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast" data-start="2793" data-end="2829">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast</a>
📖 Order Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book" data-start="2950" data-end="2982">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book</a>
Learn more about the Tyndale Life Recovery Bible: <a href="https://hubs.la/Q041HjWm0" data-start="3038" data-end="3063">https://hubs.la/Q041HjWm0</a>
Connect on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/lovelifesoberwithchristy/?hl=en">@lovelifesoberwithchristy</a> <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@LoveLifeSober">Subscribe on YouTube</a> &mdash; Come hang with us!&nbsp;
<hr data-start="3173" data-end="3176">
Disclaimer
The creators, hosts, and producers of the Love Life Sober podcast are not healthcare practitioners and do not provide medical, psychological, or professional advice. Content is not intended to substitute professional care. Views expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect those of the Love Life Sober team. Content Note: This episode includes discussion of suicide. Listener discretion is advised.

Childless Not By Choice: The Hidden Grief Alcohol Couldn’t Heal | Maureen Benkovich

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/610be6d5-d81e-4452-9a9b-b3f9016044bc/transcript

In this special episode of Love Life Sober, Christy is joined by the incredible women who help lead the Love Life Sober community—our Fast Captains and coaches. These are the women cheering you on, praying for you by name, and walking alongside you as you take courageous steps toward alcohol-free freedom.

As we prepare for the upcoming Lent 40-Day Alcohol Fast, this conversation gives you a behind-the-scenes look at the heart of the community and the women who make it such a safe, faith-filled place to land. You’ll hear their stories, their why, and the powerful ways they’ve seen God move when women choose to lay alcohol down and draw closer to Him.

If you’ve ever wondered what makes this Christian alcohol-free community different—or you’ve been hovering over the “join” button feeling equal parts curious and terrified—this episode is your invitation.

If You’ve Ever Thought…

“I don’t know if I’m ready for something like this.”
“What if I fail again?”
“Do I really belong in a community like that?”

Babe, this episode is for you.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode

• Why a Christ-centered community creates lasting freedom
• What makes the Love Life Sober fasts different from other alcohol-free spaces
• Why fear is often the very thing keeping you from the freedom you want
• The truth about “starting again” and why nothing is ever wasted in God’s hands
• The beauty and power of joining a fast during the Lent season
• Why taking a break from alcohol is less about restriction and more about discovering who God created you to be

Links & Resources

🌿 Join the Lent 40-Day Alcohol Fast
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast

📖 Order Christy’s book, Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book

📖 Learn more about the Tyndale Life Recovery Bible
https://hubs.la/Q041HjWm0

Connect on Instagram: @lovelifesoberwithchristy

Subscribe on YouTube — Come hang with us!

Disclaimer

The creators, hosts, and producers of the Love Life Sober podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological, or professional advice nor intend for the podcast or any Love Life Sober communication to substitute for such. Views and opinions expressed in any referenced or linked resources do not necessarily reflect those of the Love Life Sober team or guests.

In this special episode of Love Life Sober, Christy is joined by the incredible women who help lead the Love Life Sober community&mdash;our Fast Captains and coaches. These are the women cheering you on, praying for you by name, and walking alongside you as you take courageous steps toward alcohol-free freedom.
As we prepare for the upcoming Lent 40-Day Alcohol Fast, this conversation gives you a behind-the-scenes look at the heart of the community and the women who make it such a safe, faith-filled place to land. You&rsquo;ll hear their stories, their why, and the powerful ways they&rsquo;ve seen God move when women choose to lay alcohol down and draw closer to Him.
If you&rsquo;ve ever wondered what makes this Christian alcohol-free community different&mdash;or you&rsquo;ve been hovering over the &ldquo;join&rdquo; button feeling equal parts curious and terrified&mdash;this episode is your invitation.
<hr data-start="1175" data-end="1178">
If You&rsquo;ve Ever Thought&hellip;
&ldquo;I don&rsquo;t know if I&rsquo;m ready for something like this.&rdquo; &ldquo;What if I fail again?&rdquo; &ldquo;Do I really belong in a community like that?&rdquo;
Babe, this episode is for you.
<hr data-start="1369" data-end="1372">
What You&rsquo;ll Learn In This Episode
&bull; Why a Christ-centered community creates lasting freedom &bull; What makes the Love Life Sober fasts different from other alcohol-free spaces &bull; Why fear is often the very thing keeping you from the freedom you want &bull; The truth about &ldquo;starting again&rdquo; and why nothing is ever wasted in God&rsquo;s hands &bull; The beauty and power of joining a fast during the Lent season &bull; Why taking a break from alcohol is less about restriction and more about discovering who God created you to be
<hr data-start="1896" data-end="1899">
Links &amp; Resources
🌿 Join the Lent 40-Day Alcohol Fast <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast" data-start="1965" data-end="2001">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast</a>
📖 Order Christy&rsquo;s book, Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book" data-start="2138" data-end="2170">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book</a>
📖 Learn more about the Tyndale Life Recovery Bible <a href="https://hubs.la/Q041HjWm0" data-start="2228" data-end="2253">https://hubs.la/Q041HjWm0</a>
Connect on Instagram:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/lovelifesoberwithchristy/?hl=en">@lovelifesoberwithchristy</a>
Subscribe on&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@LoveLifeSober">YouTube </a>&mdash; Come hang with us!
<hr data-start="2359" data-end="2362">
Disclaimer
The creators, hosts, and producers of the Love Life Sober podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological, or professional advice nor intend for the podcast or any Love Life Sober communication to substitute for such. Views and opinions expressed in any referenced or linked resources do not necessarily reflect those of the Love Life Sober team or guests.

Lent 40-Day Alcohol Fast: Why Community Changes Everything | Meet the Fast Captains

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/89229a34-678c-4bea-9e36-b3f30029159c/transcript

Feeling spiritually behind, overwhelmed, or exhausted in your faith journey? In this episode of Love Life Sober, Christy Osborne is joined by her friend, author, coach, and faith leader Em Tyler to explore why “beginning again” isn’t failure — it’s the rhythm of real discipleship.

If you’re feeling behind (in your Bible reading, your habits, your healing, your sobriety journey, your life)… Em gives you permission to breathe. Together, they talk about why beginning again isn’t embarrassing, why feeling “behind” doesn’t disqualify you, and how God meets us with grace, not urgency. :There’s no rush.

Em Tyler, a twice-certified coach, international speaker, author, podcaster, and all-round faith cheerleader. She is the Founder of the Established Conference and encourages over 7,000 believers each week through her Substack, Grow + Go Believers — a space for faith and growth without burnout or striving. 

If You’ve Ever Thought…

“I’m trying, but I can’t keep up.”
“I love Jesus, but I feel overwhelmed.”

Babe, this one is for you. 🩷

📘 What You’ll Learn In This Episode


Why “beginning again” is not embarrassing — it’s biblical discipleship


The difference between rushing through Scripture and actually meeting with Jesus


The Holy Spirit’s gentle invitation to slow down and savor


Why you’re not “behind” when your rhythm shifts — and how God still meets you there


How to protect your peace in busy seasons by returning to Jesus again and again

Connect With Em Tyler:

Em Tyler’s Grow + Go Cohorts (waitlist + info): http://emtyler.com/cohorts

31 Days of Beginning Again: https://amzn.to/49XNcDu

Em’s Substack: Grow + Go Believers: emtyler.substack.com

Connect with Em on Instagram:@hellomtyler

Learn more about the Tyndale Life Recovery Bible by visiting: https://hubs.la/Q041HjWm0

Love Life Sober Resources:

🌟 Join the Love Life Sober Community
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community

🌿 Join the Lent 40-Day Alcohol Fast
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast

📖 Order Christy’s book, Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book

Connect on Instagram: @lovelifesoberwithchristy

Subscribe on YouTube — Come hang with us!

Disclaimer
The creators, hosts, and producers of the Love Life Sober podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological, or professional advice nor intend for the podcast or any Love Life Sober communication to substitute for such. Views and opinions expressed in any referenced or linked resources do not necessarily reflect those of the Love Life Sober team or guests.

Feeling spiritually behind, overwhelmed, or exhausted in your faith journey? In this episode of Love Life Sober, Christy Osborne is joined by her friend, author, coach, and faith leader&nbsp;Em Tyler to explore why &ldquo;beginning again&rdquo; isn&rsquo;t failure &mdash; it&rsquo;s the rhythm of real discipleship.
If you&rsquo;re feeling behind (in your Bible reading, your habits, your healing, your sobriety journey, your life)&hellip; Em gives you permission to breathe.&nbsp;Together, they talk about why beginning again isn&rsquo;t embarrassing, why feeling &ldquo;behind&rdquo; doesn&rsquo;t disqualify you, and how God meets us with grace, not urgency. :There&rsquo;s no rush.
Em Tyler, a twice-certified coach, international speaker, author, podcaster, and all-round faith cheerleader. She is the Founder of the Established Conference and encourages over 7,000 believers each week through her Substack, Grow + Go Believers &mdash; a space for faith and growth without burnout or striving.&nbsp;
If You&rsquo;ve Ever Thought&hellip;
&ldquo;I&rsquo;m trying, but I can&rsquo;t keep up.&rdquo; &ldquo;I love Jesus, but I feel overwhelmed.&rdquo;
Babe, this one is for you. 🩷
<hr data-start="1396" data-end="1399">
📘 What You&rsquo;ll Learn In This Episode
<ul data-start="1443" data-end="1837">
<li data-start="1443" data-end="1517">
Why &ldquo;beginning again&rdquo; is not embarrassing &mdash; it&rsquo;s biblical discipleship
</li>
<li data-start="1518" data-end="1602">
The difference between rushing through Scripture and actually meeting with Jesus
</li>
<li data-start="1603" data-end="1665">
The Holy Spirit&rsquo;s gentle invitation to slow down and savor
</li>
<li data-start="1666" data-end="1753">
Why you&rsquo;re not &ldquo;behind&rdquo; when your rhythm shifts &mdash; and how God still meets you there
</li>
<li data-start="1754" data-end="1837">
How to protect your peace in busy seasons by returning to Jesus again and again
</li>
</ul>
Connect With Em Tyler:
Em Tyler&rsquo;s Grow + Go Cohorts (waitlist + info):<a href="http://emtyler.com/cohorts"> http://emtyler.com/cohorts</a>
31 Days of Beginning Again:&nbsp;<a href="https://amzn.to/49XNcDu">https://amzn.to/49XNcDu</a>
Em&rsquo;s Substack: Grow + Go Believers:<a href="http://emtyler.substack.com"> emtyler.substack.com</a>
Connect with Em on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/helloemtyler/?hl=en">@hellomtyler</a>
Learn more about the Tyndale Life Recovery Bible by visiting: <a href="https://hubs.la/Q041HjWm0">https://hubs.la/Q041HjWm0</a>
Love Life Sober Resources:
🌟 Join the Love Life Sober Community <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community</a>
🌿 Join the Lent 40-Day Alcohol Fast <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast</a>
📖 Order Christy&rsquo;s book, Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book</a>
Connect on Instagram:&nbsp;<a href="http://instagram.com/lovelifesoberwithchristy">@lovelifesoberwithchristy</a>
Subscribe on <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@LoveLifeSober">YouTube </a>&mdash; Come hang with us!
Disclaimer The creators, hosts, and producers of the Love Life Sober podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological, or professional advice nor intend for the podcast or any Love Life Sober communication to substitute for such. Views and opinions expressed in any referenced or linked resources do not necessarily reflect those of the Love Life Sober team or guests.

Beginning again can feel like failure — especially when you’re tired, overwhelmed, or feel behind in your faith. In this episode of Love Life Sober, Christy Osborne is joined by author, coach, and faith leader Em Tyler for a hope-filled conversation about discipleship, rest, and returning to Jesus without shame or urgency.

Trusting God’s Timing: There’s No Rush | Em Tyler 

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/6811a4b5-d319-4d21-b36b-b3eb0112c865/transcript

Shame can quietly attach itself to your identity and keep you hiding from freedom, connection, and God. In this episode of Love Life Sober, Christy Osborne is joined by licensed psychotherapist Dr. Zoe Shaw, who unpacks complex shame, explains how it forms, and why it doesn’t simply disappear with understanding or good intentions.

Christy and Dr. Zoe explore the difference between guilt, simple shame, and complex shame, why many women internalize blame—even for things that happened to them—and how shame often shows up in faith and church spaces. They also discuss why shaming behavior never leads to heart change and what Scripture shows us instead.

If you’ve ever felt broken, disqualified, or afraid to be fully known, this conversation offers a compassionate, faith-centered path toward truth, healing, and freedom—without shame.

 IF YOU’VE EVER THOUGHT…
“I’m not just struggling… I’m broken.”
“If people really knew me, they wouldn’t love me.”
“My story disqualifies me from being close to God.”

Babe, this episode is for you 

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE
The difference between guilt and shame—and why guilt can be healthy but shame never is
What simple shame looks like and why it often dissolves with compassion and “me too” community
What complex shame is and why it doesn’t disappear even when others understand your story
Why many women blame themselves for things that happened to them—and how that keeps shame tangled
How shame shows up in church spaces and why shaming behavior never leads to heart change
What Scripture reveals about how Jesus brings healing without shame
A gentle, practical first step for the woman who longs for freedom but feels afraid to be vulnerable

LINKS & RESOURCES

Dr. Zoe’s Book
Stronger in the Difficult Places: Heal Your Relationship with Yourself by Untangling Complex Shame

Follow Dr. Zoe on Instagram
@drzoeshaw

Join the Love Life Sober Community

Join the Lent 40-Day Alcohol Fast

Order Christy’s Book
Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind

Connect with Christy on Instagram
@lovelifesoberwithchristy

⚠️ DISCLAIMER

The creators, hosts, and producers of the Love Life Sober podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological, or professional advice nor intend for the podcast or any Love Life Sober communication to substitute for such. Views and opinions expressed in any referenced or linked resources do not necessarily reflect those of the Love Life Sober team or guests.

Shame can quietly attach itself to your identity and keep you hiding from freedom, connection, and God. In this episode of Love Life Sober, Christy Osborne is joined by licensed psychotherapist Dr. Zoe Shaw, who unpacks complex shame, explains how it forms, and why it doesn&rsquo;t simply disappear with understanding or good intentions.
Christy and Dr. Zoe explore the difference between guilt, simple shame, and complex shame, why many women internalize blame&mdash;even for things that happened to them&mdash;and how shame often shows up in faith and church spaces. They also discuss why shaming behavior never leads to heart change and what Scripture shows us instead.
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt broken, disqualified, or afraid to be fully known, this conversation offers a compassionate, faith-centered path toward truth, healing, and freedom&mdash;without shame.
&nbsp;IF YOU&rsquo;VE EVER THOUGHT&hellip;
<ul>
<li>&ldquo;I&rsquo;m not just struggling&hellip; I&rsquo;m broken.&rdquo;</li>
<li data-start="1409" data-end="1461">&ldquo;If people really knew me, they wouldn&rsquo;t love me.&rdquo;</li>
<li data-start="1464" data-end="1517">&ldquo;My story disqualifies me from being close to God.&rdquo;</li>
</ul>
Babe, this episode is for you&nbsp;
WHAT YOU&rsquo;LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE
<ul>
<li>The difference between guilt and shame&mdash;and why guilt can be healthy but shame never is</li>
<li data-start="1701" data-end="1801">What&nbsp;simple shame looks like and why it often dissolves with compassion and &ldquo;me too&rdquo; community</li>
<li data-start="1804" data-end="1899">What&nbsp;complex shame is and why it doesn&rsquo;t disappear even when others understand your story</li>
<li data-start="1902" data-end="2003">Why many women blame themselves for things that happened&nbsp;to them&mdash;and how that keeps shame tangled</li>
<li data-start="2006" data-end="2096">How shame shows up in church spaces and why shaming behavior never leads to heart change</li>
<li data-start="2006" data-end="2096">What Scripture reveals about how&nbsp;Jesus brings healing without shame</li>
<li>A gentle, practical first step for the woman who longs for freedom but feels afraid to be vulnerable</li>
</ul>
LINKS &amp; RESOURCES
Dr. Zoe&rsquo;s Book <a href="https://amzn.to/3Nm413n">Stronger in the Difficult Places: Heal Your Relationship with Yourself by Untangling Complex Shame</a>
Follow Dr. Zoe on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drzoeshaw/?hl=en">@drzoeshaw</a>
<a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community">Join the Love Life Sober Community</a>
<a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast">Join the Lent 40-Day Alcohol Fast</a>
Order Christy&rsquo;s Book <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book">Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind</a>
Connect with Christy on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/lovelifesoberwithchristy/?hl=en">@lovelifesoberwithchristy</a>
⚠️ DISCLAIMER
The creators, hosts, and producers of the Love Life Sober podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological, or professional advice nor intend for the podcast or any Love Life Sober communication to substitute for such. Views and opinions expressed in any referenced or linked resources do not necessarily reflect those of the Love Life Sober team or guests.

Untangling Complex Shame | Dr. Zoe Shaw

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/31894038-c67c-47de-b662-b3e00155792d/transcript

Why is alcohol so normalized in church spaces? In this episode of Love Life Sober, Lauren Windle shares her alcohol-free journey, faith-based sobriety, and why alcohol can become a stumbling block to real connection, healing, and belonging in Christian communities.

Christy Osborne is joined by Lauren Windle, writer, speaker, and long-time alcohol-free woman who loves Jesus deeply, for a vulnerable and soul-stirring conversation about faith, sobriety, and belonging.

Lauren shares her honest alcohol-free testimony—from social anxiety and drinking from her early teens, to hiding in plain sight as the “fun party girl,” to finally laying it all down and finding freedom through sobriety, faith, and community. Together, they explore why alcohol often feels like the solution for anxiety and connection, how it slowly shrinks our world instead of expanding it, and what it looks like to sit with pain without numbing.

They also courageously asks why alcohol is being served in church spaces, how sobriety environments often feel more like church than church itself, and how God meets us powerfully in discomfort, honesty, and renewal of the mind.

If You’ve Ever Thought… 
“I drink to feel less anxious and more myself.”
“I’m scared of who I’ll be without alcohol.”
“I want real connection, not small talk.”

Babe, this episode will meet you right where you are

What You’ll Learn in This Episode
How social anxiety and the desire to belong fueled Lauren’s drinking from a young age
Why alcohol felt essential to her identity—and how that belief slowly unraveled
Why learning to sit with pain is one of the greatest gifts of sobriety
How cravings and “escape thoughts” still show up years later—and how to respond
Why alcohol in church can be a stumbling block and distraction from Jesus
How neuroscience, Scripture, and renewing the mind beautifully overlap
Why deep, honest relationships form faster in sobriety spaces

Links & Resources

Connect with Lauren:
Website: https://laurenwindle.com
Instagram: @laurenwindle_

Join the Love Life Sober Community
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community

Join the Lent 40-Day Fast
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast

Order Christy’s book, Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book

Connect with Christy on Instagram: @lovelifesoberwithchristy


Disclaimer
The creators, hosts, and producers of the Love Life Sober podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological, or professional advice nor intend for the podcast or any Love Life Sober communication to substitute for such. Views and opinions expressed in any referenced or linked resources do not necessarily reflect those of the Love Life Sober team or guests.

Why is alcohol so normalized in church spaces? In this episode of Love Life Sober, Lauren Windle shares her alcohol-free journey, faith-based sobriety, and why alcohol can become a stumbling block to real connection, healing, and belonging in Christian communities.
Christy Osborne is joined by Lauren Windle, writer, speaker, and long-time alcohol-free woman who loves Jesus deeply, for a vulnerable and soul-stirring conversation about faith, sobriety, and belonging.
Lauren shares her honest alcohol-free testimony&mdash;from social anxiety and drinking from her early teens, to hiding in plain sight as the &ldquo;fun party girl,&rdquo; to finally laying it all down and finding freedom through sobriety, faith, and community. Together, they explore why alcohol often feels like the solution for anxiety and connection, how it slowly shrinks our world instead of expanding it, and what it looks like to sit with pain without numbing.
They also courageously asks why alcohol is being served in church spaces, how sobriety environments often feel more like church than church itself, and how God meets us powerfully in discomfort, honesty, and renewal of the mind.
If You&rsquo;ve Ever Thought&hellip;&nbsp;
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">&ldquo;I drink to feel less anxious and more myself.&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">&ldquo;I&rsquo;m scared of who I&rsquo;ll be without alcohol.&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">&ldquo;I want real connection, not small talk.&rdquo;</li>
</ul>
Babe, this episode will meet you right where you are
What You&rsquo;ll Learn in This Episode
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">How social anxiety and the desire to belong fueled Lauren&rsquo;s drinking from a young age</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why alcohol felt essential to her identity&mdash;and how that belief slowly unraveled</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why learning to sit with pain is one of the greatest gifts of sobriety</li>
<li aria-level="1">How cravings and &ldquo;escape thoughts&rdquo; still show up years later&mdash;and how to respond</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why alcohol in church can be a stumbling block and distraction from Jesus</li>
<li aria-level="1">How neuroscience, Scripture, and renewing the mind beautifully overlap</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why deep, honest relationships form faster in sobriety spaces</li>
</ul>
Links &amp; Resources
Connect with Lauren: Website: <a href="https://laurenwindle.com/">https://laurenwindle.com </a>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/laurenwindle_/?hl=en">@laurenwindle_</a>
Join the Love Life Sober Community <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community</a>
Join the Lent 40-Day Fast <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast</a>
Order Christy&rsquo;s book,&nbsp;Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book</a>
Connect with Christy on Instagram:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/lovelifesoberwithchristy/?hl=en">@lovelifesoberwithchristy</a>
 Disclaimer The creators, hosts, and producers of the Love Life Sober podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological, or professional advice nor intend for the podcast or any Love Life Sober communication to substitute for such. Views and opinions expressed in any referenced or linked resources do not necessarily reflect those of the Love Life Sober team or guests.

Why Are We Serving Alcohol at Church? | Lauren Windle 

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Surrender in Christian recovery isn’t passive—it’s active obedience. In this faith-filled episode of Love Life Sober, Sherry Beth Hoppen shares how true freedom from alcohol comes when surrender meets action, faith, and daily obedience to God.

Host Christy Osborne welcomes Sherry Hoppen, founder of She Surrenders and Executive Director of Selah House Recovery, for a deeply honest conversation about surrender, faith, and lasting freedom from alcohol.

Sherry shares her personal journey with alcohol addiction, the God-led calling that birthed Selah House, and the beauty—and weight—of building a Christ-centered recovery space for women seeking healing, safety, and spiritual renewal. Together, they explore why surrender is not passive, how conditional surrender keeps women stuck, and why real transformation in Christian sobriety requires both faith and action.

If You’ve Ever Thought
“I’ve said I surrender, but nothing seems to change.”
“I want freedom, but I don’t know how to let go.”
“I need support that understands both addiction and faith.”

Babe, this episode is for you.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode
What surrender truly means in Christian recovery—and why it’s more than words
Why conditional surrender prevents healing and keeps women stuck
How obedience plays a critical role in sobriety and spiritual growth
The role of the Holy Spirit in filling the space alcohol once occupied
Why faith-based recovery requires action, not just intention
How daily surrender leads to long-term transformation and freedom
How Christ-centered recovery spaces support women holistically

💌 Links & Resources

📖 Sherry’s memoir: Sober Cycle: Peddling Through Recovery One Day at A Time

https://amzn.to/49nJSCn

🌟 Join the Love Life Sober Community
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community

🌿 Join the next 40-Day Alcohol Fast
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast

📖 Order Christy’s book, Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind
https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book

📲 Connect on Instagram: @lovelifesoberwithchristy

Disclaimer
The creators, hosts, and producers of the Love Life Sober podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological, or professional advice nor intend for the podcast or any Love Life Sober communication to substitute for such. Views and opinions expressed in any referenced or linked resources do not necessarily reflect those of the Love Life Sober team or guests.

Surrender in Christian recovery isn&rsquo;t passive&mdash;it&rsquo;s active obedience. In this faith-filled episode of Love Life Sober, Sherry Beth Hoppen shares how true freedom from alcohol comes when surrender meets action, faith, and daily obedience to God.
Host Christy Osborne welcomes Sherry Hoppen, founder of <a href="https://www.shesurrenders.com/">She Surrenders</a> and Executive Director of <a href="https://www.selahhouserecovery.org/">Selah House Recovery</a>, for a deeply honest conversation about surrender, faith, and lasting freedom from alcohol.
Sherry shares her personal journey with alcohol addiction, the God-led calling that birthed Selah House, and the beauty&mdash;and weight&mdash;of building a Christ-centered recovery space for women seeking healing, safety, and spiritual renewal. Together, they explore why surrender is not passive, how conditional surrender keeps women stuck, and why real transformation in Christian sobriety requires both faith and action.
If You&rsquo;ve Ever Thought
<ul>
<li>&ldquo;I&rsquo;ve said I surrender, but nothing seems to change.&rdquo;</li>
<li>&ldquo;I want freedom, but I don&rsquo;t know how to let go.&rdquo;</li>
<li>&ldquo;I need support that understands both addiction and faith.&rdquo;</li>
</ul>
Babe, this episode is for you.
What You&rsquo;ll Learn in This Episode
<ul>
<li>What surrender truly means in Christian recovery&mdash;and why it&rsquo;s more than words</li>
<li>Why conditional surrender prevents healing and keeps women stuck</li>
<li>How obedience plays a critical role in sobriety and spiritual growth</li>
<li>The role of the Holy Spirit in filling the space alcohol once occupied</li>
<li>Why faith-based recovery requires action, not just intention</li>
<li>How daily surrender leads to long-term transformation and freedom</li>
<li>How Christ-centered recovery spaces support women holistically</li>
</ul>
<hr>
💌 Links &amp; Resources
📖 Sherry&rsquo;s memoir: Sober Cycle: Peddling Through Recovery One Day at A Time
<a href="https://amzn.to/49nJSCn">https://amzn.to/49nJSCn</a>
🌟 Join the Love Life Sober Community <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community</a>
🌿 Join the next 40-Day Alcohol Fast <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast</a>
📖 Order Christy&rsquo;s book, Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book</a>
📲 Connect on Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/lovelifesoberwithchristy">@lovelifesoberwithchristy</a>
Disclaimer The creators, hosts, and producers of the Love Life Sober podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological, or professional advice nor intend for the podcast or any Love Life Sober communication to substitute for such. Views and opinions expressed in any referenced or linked resources do not necessarily reflect those of the Love Life Sober team or guests.

Christian Sobriety: Why Surrender Isn’t Passive | Sherry Hoppen

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Should Christians drink alcohol? In this episode of Love Life Sober, author Ericka Andersen explores faith-based sobriety, the gray-area drinking struggle, and what freedom from alcohol can look like for Christian women who love Jesus but feel stuck.

Christy Osborne is joined by Ericka Andersen, author of Freely Sober, for an honest, hope-filled conversation about freedom from alcohol for Christian women seeking support that is both practical and rooted in Christ.

Together, they discuss the “gray area” a space many women live in, the long internal struggle that often comes before real change, and why a slow or nonlinear timeline does not mean failure. Ericka brings compassion, biblical context, and practical wisdom to the question many Christian women quietly ask: Should Christians even drink alcohol?

This conversation offers clarity, permission, and hope for women who aren’t “rock bottom,” but know alcohol is taking up more space than they want it to.

If You’ve Ever Thought…
“I love Jesus, but I keep going back to wine.”
“I’m not falling apart… but I’m stuck.”
“I wish there was something for women like me.”

Babe, this episode is for you!

What You’ll Learn in This Episode
What it looks like when alcohol becomes not an addiction, but a distraction
Why the journey toward freedom can take years—and how that time isn’t wasted in God’s hands
How to hold the process lighter after a “failed” Dry January and keep moving forward
Why cravings feel like they’ll last forever—and simple tools to ride them out
Why “buzzed” matters more than we want to admit, especially around our kids
The big question: should Christians even drink alcohol, and what Scripture actually shows
Why modern alcohol is not the same as biblical wine—and why context matters

Links & Resources

Order Ericka’s book, Freely Sober: 

https://amzn.to/49l5mQm

Join the Lent 40-Day Alcohol Fast

https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast

Join the Love Life Sober Community

https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community

Order Christy’s book, Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind

Connect on Instagram:@lovelifesoberwithchristy

You can find more resources at Lovelifesober.com

Disclaimer:
The creators, hosts, and producers of the Love Life Sober podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological, or professional advice nor intend for the podcast or any Love Life Sober communication to substitute for such. Views and opinions expressed in any referenced or linked resources do not necessarily reflect those of the Love Life Sober team or guests.

Love Life Sober is part of the Lifeaudio Podcast Network: A Christian network where every podcast is rooted in biblical truth, offering guidance, encouragement and inspiration for everyday life. You can find more faith centered podcasts at Lifeaudio.com | Faith On Demand

Should Christians drink alcohol? In this episode of Love Life Sober, author Ericka Andersen explores faith-based sobriety, the gray-area drinking struggle, and what freedom from alcohol can look like for Christian women who love Jesus but feel stuck.
Christy Osborne is joined by Ericka Andersen, author of Freely Sober, for an honest, hope-filled conversation about freedom from alcohol for Christian women seeking support that is both practical and rooted in Christ.
Together, they discuss the &ldquo;gray area&rdquo; a space many women live in, the long internal struggle that often comes before real change, and why a slow or nonlinear timeline does not mean failure. Ericka brings compassion, biblical context, and practical wisdom to the question many Christian women quietly ask: Should Christians even drink alcohol?
This conversation offers clarity, permission, and hope for women who aren&rsquo;t &ldquo;rock bottom,&rdquo; but know alcohol is taking up more space than they want it to.
If You&rsquo;ve Ever Thought&hellip;
<ul>
<li>&ldquo;I love Jesus, but I keep going back to wine.&rdquo;</li>
<li>&ldquo;I&rsquo;m not falling apart&hellip; but I&rsquo;m stuck.&rdquo;</li>
<li>&ldquo;I wish there was something for women like me.&rdquo;</li>
</ul>
Babe, this episode is for you!
What You&rsquo;ll Learn in This Episode
<ul>
<li>What it looks like when alcohol becomes not an addiction, but a distraction</li>
<li>Why the journey toward freedom can take years&mdash;and how that time isn&rsquo;t wasted in God&rsquo;s hands</li>
<li>How to hold the process lighter after a &ldquo;failed&rdquo; Dry January and keep moving forward</li>
<li>Why cravings feel like they&rsquo;ll last forever&mdash;and simple tools to ride them out</li>
<li>Why &ldquo;buzzed&rdquo; matters more than we want to admit, especially around our kids</li>
<li>The big question: should Christians even drink alcohol, and what Scripture actually shows</li>
<li>Why modern alcohol is not the same as biblical wine&mdash;and why context matters</li>
</ul>
<hr>
Links &amp; Resources
Order Ericka&rsquo;s book, <a href="https://amzn.to/49l5mQm">Freely Sober:&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://amzn.to/49l5mQm">https://amzn.to/49l5mQm</a>
Join the Lent 40-Day Alcohol Fast
<a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/the-fast</a>
Join the Love Life Sober Community
<a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community">https://lovelifesober.co.uk/community</a>
Order Christy&rsquo;s book, <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book">Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind</a>
Connect on Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/lovelifesoberwithchristy">@lovelifesoberwithchristy</a>
You can find more resources at <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/">Lovelifesober.com</a>
Disclaimer: The creators, hosts, and producers of the Love Life Sober podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological, or professional advice nor intend for the podcast or any Love Life Sober communication to substitute for such. Views and opinions expressed in any referenced or linked resources do not necessarily reflect those of the Love Life Sober team or guests.
Love Life Sober is part of the Lifeaudio Podcast Network: A Christian network where every podcast is rooted in biblical truth, offering guidance, encouragement and inspiration for everyday life. You can find more faith centered podcasts at <a href="https://www.lifeaudio.com/">Lifeaudio.com | Faith On Demand</a>

Should Christians Even Drink Alcohol? |  Ericka Andersen

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Love Life Sober is a Christian podcast for women questioning their relationship with alcohol and sensing God might have more for them beyond the wine glass.

Have you felt that nudge from God to put down the wine glass, but the thought of relaxing, having fun, or even coping with life feels impossible without it? Are you waking up each morning vowing not to drink tonight, only to find that by five p.m., all bets are off?

Hosted by Christian sobriety coach and author Christy Osborne, author of Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind, this podcast blends Scripture, neuroscience, and practical coaching to help you understand what’s happening in your brain, your nervous system, and your heart, and how lasting freedom from alcohol is actually possible.

You’ll hear expert conversations and powerful testimonies for women exploring Christian sobriety, faith-based recovery, mindful drinking, and alcohol-free living. Each episode gently invites you to step away from wine and toward deeper connection with God, without shame, pressure, or the need to decide forever.

At the heart of Love Life Sober is a simple truth. Love, joy, peace, and connection were never meant to be found in a wine bottle. They are found in Jesus.

Love Life Sober is a Christian podcast for women questioning their relationship with alcohol and sensing God might have more for them beyond the wine glass.
Have you felt that nudge from God to put down the wine glass, but the thought of relaxing, having fun, or even coping with life feels impossible without it? Are you waking up each morning vowing not to drink tonight, only to find that by five p.m., all bets are off?
Hosted by Christian sobriety coach and author Christy Osborne, author of <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book">Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind</a>, this podcast blends Scripture, neuroscience, and practical coaching to help you understand what&rsquo;s happening in your brain, your nervous system, and your heart, and how lasting freedom from alcohol is actually possible.
You&rsquo;ll hear expert conversations and powerful testimonies for women exploring Christian sobriety, faith-based recovery, mindful drinking, and alcohol-free living. Each episode gently invites you to step away from wine and toward deeper connection with God, without shame, pressure, or the need to decide forever.
At the heart of Love Life Sober is a simple truth. Love, joy, peace, and connection were never meant to be found in a wine bottle. They are found in Jesus.

Official Trailer: Love Life Sober

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Love Life Sober is a Christian podcast for women questioning their relationship with alcohol and sensing God might have more for them beyond the wine glass.

Have you felt that nudge from God to put down the wine glass, but the thought of relaxing, having fun, or even coping with life feels impossible without it? Are you waking up each morning vowing not to drink tonight, only to find that by five p.m., all bets are off?

Love Life Sober is for sober and sober-curious women who love Jesus, or who are longing to reconnect with Him, and who know deep down that alcohol is no longer serving them.

Hosted by Christian sobriety coach and author Christy Osborne, author of Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind, this podcast blends Scripture, neuroscience, and practical coaching to help you understand what’s happening in your brain, your nervous system, and your heart, and how lasting freedom from alcohol is actually possible.

You’ll hear expert conversations and powerful testimonies for women exploring Christian sobriety, faith-based recovery, mindful drinking, and alcohol-free living. Each episode gently invites you to step away from wine and toward deeper connection with God, without shame, pressure, or the need to decide forever.

At the heart of Love Life Sober is a simple truth. Love, joy, peace, and connection were never meant to be found in a wine bottle. They are found in Jesus.

This is a grace-filled, shame-free space for women seeking freedom from alcohol through faith, neuroscience, and compassionate coaching. You don’t have to hit rock bottom. You don’t have to white-knuckle your way through sobriety. And you don’t have to do this alone.

If you’re ready to loosen alcohol’s grip and live the life God is inviting you into, you’re in the right place.
Welcome to Love Life Sober. Want more? Visit lovelifesober.com. 

Love Life Sober is a Christian podcast for women questioning their relationship with alcohol and sensing God might have more for them beyond the wine glass.
Have you felt that nudge from God to put down the wine glass, but the thought of relaxing, having fun, or even coping with life feels impossible without it? Are you waking up each morning vowing not to drink tonight, only to find that by five p.m., all bets are off?
Love Life Sober is for sober and sober-curious women who love Jesus, or who are longing to reconnect with Him, and who know deep down that alcohol is no longer serving them.
Hosted by Christian sobriety coach and author Christy Osborne, author of <a href="https://lovelifesober.co.uk/book">Love Life Sober: A 40 Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind</a>, this podcast blends Scripture, neuroscience, and practical coaching to help you understand what&rsquo;s happening in your brain, your nervous system, and your heart, and how lasting freedom from alcohol is actually possible.
You&rsquo;ll hear expert conversations and powerful testimonies for women exploring Christian sobriety, faith-based recovery, mindful drinking, and alcohol-free living. Each episode gently invites you to step away from wine and toward deeper connection with God, without shame, pressure, or the need to decide forever.
At the heart of Love Life Sober is a simple truth. Love, joy, peace, and connection were never meant to be found in a wine bottle. They are found in Jesus.
This is a grace-filled, shame-free space for women seeking freedom from alcohol through faith, neuroscience, and compassionate coaching. You don&rsquo;t have to hit rock bottom. You don&rsquo;t have to white-knuckle your way through sobriety. And you don&rsquo;t have to do this alone.
If you&rsquo;re ready to loosen alcohol&rsquo;s grip and live the life God is inviting you into, you&rsquo;re in the right place. Welcome to Love Life Sober. Want more? Visit <a href="https://lovelifesober.com/">lovelifesober.com</a>.&nbsp;

Love Life Sober is a Christian podcast for women questioning their relationship with alcohol and sensing God might have more for them beyond the wine glass.  Have you felt that nudge from God to put down the wine glass, but the thought of relaxing, having fun, or even coping with life feels impossible without it? Are you waking up each morning vowing not to drink tonight, only to find that by five p.m., all bets are off?  Love Life Sober is for sober and sober-curious women who love Jesus, or who are longing to reconnect with Him, and who know deep down that alcohol is no longer serving them.

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