Sadly, episode 200 is our last instalment (for now) of LIFE. But it's not all doom and gloom (of course), l'II be recording three LIFE-like episodes each week (8-12 minutes) and sharing them alongside my normal (interview-based) episodes of The You Project. To get the full story, take a listen to this episode. Thanks for your support, I love your collective guts’s, now f**k off and be amazing (lol). Love and Unicorns, Harps. xx

We're all works in progress. All trying to figure shit out. All trying to do our best. Imagine if we could get better with age. The good news is, we can.

Life’s not fair and that’s just fine. Normal, even. Expecting life to ‘be fair’ is a recipe for disappointment.

I wasn't born with great potential. Not gifted physically, athletically, intellectually, creatively or academically. If I was ever to succeed, I would need to figure out how to optimise what I had to work with, and overcome my innate mediocrity.

Being obsessed with comfort, convenience and instant gratification is (ironically) a recipe for discomfort, inconvenience and failure (sooner or later).

In this episode, I talk about impact our thinking can have on our physiology.

You can probably guess what this episode is about.

We're all weirdos. And totally normal. Just depends on what room we're in.

One day soon. Some people have been waiting for the magical 'right time' for decades, all the while knowing it's not really a 'timing' issue.

So many grown-ups behaving like children, seeking attention, approval and accolades from other insecure grown-ups doing a version of the same.

In truth, he didn't have a plan; just an idea of how things would 'turn out' in his life.

We all have lightbulb moments. Prompts. Insights. Awakenings. The import thing is what we do with them.

Progressive overload is a concept that works not only in the gym, but also in life.

Some people are allergic to being wrong. It’s a psychological, emotional and social condition that can be exhausting and annoying for anyone in their orbit.

This is a chat about trying to understanding the reality of others, in order to foster meaningful and powerful conversations, connections and outcomes.

This episode is me thinking out loud about the propensity many of us have (me included) to sabotage our own health with poor choices, behaviours and habits (around food).

Some people love the idea of success but not the real-world reality of the work required to create it. They want the destination without the journey. The reward without the effort.

This episode is me thinking out loud about what I learned being in the middle of 50,000 hours of coaching conversing, negotiating, listening, motivating and problem solving.

Yesterday I had a profound moment in the car and recorded this import episode into my phone (hands free). The audio quality is rubbish but I think the core message is good. Enjoy

I’m often asked about my training protocol, here it is.

As a rule, it’s not lack of intelligence, talent, genetic potential, time or resources.

The lessons, insights, revelations and gifts that came with my teenage journey through obesity and out the other side.

What's your life telling you? What are your results saying? What's working and what's not? Are you a conscious driver (of your life) or are you an unconscious passenger? For most of my adult years, my life has been an ongoing experiment.

Comfort is nice. Fun. Desirable. And as marketers know, much easier to sell than discomfort. But what’s the cost of living a life in pursuit of comfort?

Your attention is a valuable commodity.  It's not an infinite resource and it's the thing all businesses, brands, marketers, influencers and scammers are vying for. If it has your attention, it has you.

For better or worse, people are always influencing, impacting and intersecting with our lives.

If it's toxic, it's not a friendship; it's an unhealthy relationship you should extricate yourself from.

Hi Team. I’ve decided to spend a week (7 episodes) unpacking some of my whiteboard posts from IG. Each day I’ll read two or three whiteboards and then share my thoughts. Enjoy. 

Hi Team. I’ve decided to spend a week (7 episodes) unpacking some of my whiteboard posts from IG. Each day I’ll read two or three whiteboards and then share my thoughts. Enjoy. 

Hi Team. I’ve decided to spend a week (7 episodes) unpacking some of my whiteboard posts from IG. Each day I’ll read two or three whiteboards and then share my thoughts. Enjoy. 

Hi Team. I’ve decided to spend a week (7 episodes) unpacking some of my whiteboard posts from IG. Each day I’ll read two or three whiteboards and then share my thoughts. Enjoy. 

Hi Team. I’ve decided to spend a week (7 episodes) unpacking some of my whiteboard posts from IG. Each day I’ll read two or three whiteboards and then share my thoughts. Enjoy. 

Hi Team. I’ve decided to spend a week (7 episodes) unpacking some of my whiteboard posts from IG. Each day I’ll read two or three whiteboards and then share my thoughts. Enjoy.

Hi Team. I’ve decided to spend a week (7 episodes) unpacking some of my whiteboard posts from IG. Each day I’ll read two or three whiteboards and then share my thoughts. Enjoy.

There's a big emotional and psychological gap between (1) worrying about (stressing, panicking, overthinking) whether or not people like you and (2) being curious about how others experience you in social and professional contexts.

I've spent much of my life getting better at things I once sucked at. I did this in order to explore my potential, optimise my health, build a business, be a good student, create a life that aligned with my goals, values and purpose and in general terms, succeed.

If you're like me, you're a handful. In fact, you are the biggest project you'll ever have. Yes, there'll be a constant stream of peaks and troughs, breakdowns and breakthroughs, laughter and tears but in the middle of it all is you. The author of your own story. So, rather than 'managing life’, maybe your ever-present challenge is to manage 'you' (mind, body, emotions, choices, relationships, energy, money, resources, opportunities) in the middle of that life?

If you've been 'almost’ getting in shape for too long, listen to this.

This is a question people rarely ask themselves, when it comes to their big ‘life-shaping’ beliefs. It’s too scary. And uncomfortable. Especially when they have a long history with that belief.  Especially when their identity is intertwined with that belief. When you believe you’re absolutely right about something, then you also believe that everyone in the world who doesn’t agree with you, is automatically wrong.

Is there really a best diet? Or exercise program? Lifestyle? Job? Relationship model? For who? The masses? Or for you? Your challenge is not to find 'the' best approach, strategy or program, but rather, yours’.

Sometimes the things we need to do, are not the things we want to do. And sometimes, discomfort, uncertainty, inconvenience and pressure are exactly what we need to develop strength, competence, adaptability, skill and resilience.

Are you derailing yourself? Shooting yourself in the metaphoric foot? Getting in your own way by doing dumb shit that doesn't align with your values, goals or purpose? Make poor choices? Wasting precious time, talent and energy? Obsessing about things you can't change? Over-thinking the bejeebus out of everything? Fucking up your body with toxic crap? If this sounds like you, tune in. 

Being reliable is an interpersonal super power. If you are reliable, people are more likely trust you, value you, have confidence in you and say good things about you. In many ways, reliability is the glue that keeps relationships (of all kinds), strong.

'Self-help' has become a mis-used (but widely accepted) term for programs, products; services, workshops, books and even podcasts, selling (literally or metaphorically) ideas, concepts, techniques and tools but the 'actual helping of the self' (maybe we should call it 'self-helping') lives in the application, the action, the work, the effort, the sweat and the courage; the doing not just the knowing. Process not product.

This is a chat about trying to understand our own mind and the way we create our own subjective reality via our thoughts, stories and beliefs.

This is a chat about trying to understand our own mind and the way we create our own subjective reality via our thoughts, stories and beliefs.

What are the potential benefits of doing something that's 'Un-you'? Something away from your safety net, security blanket and typical operating system? This is a chat about that.

Your energy is not an infinite resource. It is precious. Don't waste it on bullshit.

There's been a lot of failure on my way to success. There still is. F*ck up. Get up. Repeat.

So many people give up. So many people bullsh*t themselves about how hard they’re working. Lots of excuses, f*ck all commitment, discipline or effort. Don’t be one of them.