It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!
For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.

On the show: 
An honest conversation around the choice to have children 
Laurs Law - Getting to the bottom of the fight between Britt and Mitch
Unbelievable coincidences 
How to build resilience in kids
Bec Judd and her 8 year olds apple watch

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
On the show: 
<ul>
<li>An honest conversation around the choice to have children </li>
<li>Laurs Law - Getting to the bottom of the fight between Britt and Mitch</li>
<li>Unbelievable coincidences </li>
<li>How to build resilience in kids</li>
<li>Bec Judd and her 8 year olds apple watch</li>
</ul>
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Find us on<a href="https://www.instagram.com/lifeuncutpodcast/?hl=en"> Instagram</a>
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Talking all things love, life, lust, and a bunch of other stuff. Nothing is off limits in this podcast that navigates relationships and dating in the modern day. Brought to you by two bachelor finalists Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne.

Life Uncut

The Best Of The Pick Up - To have children, or not...

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Hey Lifers

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions!

There is a lot of weird news in the world today... mostly the guy who chose to put 15 hard boiled eggs in his backside. Britt's partner Ben has had a hair makeover.
Did you 'plan' your hair look for your wedding in terms of colour/length etc? Did you opt for something that was your 'look' rather than going for a short term hair change?

Vibes for the week:

Keeshia: Sweet Bobby on Netflix
Britt: Instax camera
Laura: Fallen Angel Podcast

Then we jump into your questions!

DID WE DO THE RIGHT THING BY THE DRUNK HEN?
We just wrapped up a hen's night where the hen KO'd herself pretty early, before the festivities were finished - the MOH got her home safely (talking 7.30) and the rest of the party headed home. We'd already organised some entertainment, so instead of going out to where it'd been organised for, we made the call to stay in the hotel room and keep an eye on the hen, and enjoyed the entertainment (just the two of us). The groom found out and blew up - said we put the hen in danger, that it was unforgivable, and he doesn't want anything to do with either of us. Major drama! My question - Did we do the wrong thing? Is his blow up and subsequent major drama valid? Or were we fine to have a little fun while we still took care of our friend? It's created so much drama a week out from the wedding, is all the hatred warranted, or is he just being a complete dick?

I DON'T LIKE THEM CALLING HER GRANDMA
I have a new baby who is now 3 months old, and when I was pregnant my dad’s partner asked to be called Grandma which at the time I felt a bit put on the spot and was like ‘sure’. After thinking about it and chatting with my partner I am not sure how comfortable I am with her being “Grandma”. For context she has been with my dad since I was 18 which I think is relevant because I have never lived with her and she has had no hand in raising me and to be honest we have never had a great relationship. I feel like my mum and my partner's mum have done the hard yards to earn that title which she has not. I also don’t want to confuse my child for example if she is asking on Mother’s Day why “Grandma” doesn’t get a card or present and having to explain she is not actually her Grandma. So basically throughout the end of my pregnancy and having a new baby I never ended up having the convo and tbh I am a bit conflict avoidant. Over the weekend her and my dad met my partner’s parents who are visiting from Spain and she introduced herself as Grandma. So my question is… is it too late for me to have that conversation? I really don’t want her to be called Grandma or anything like that but have I let it go too long? Or how would you go about having the convo? Should I speak with my dad as he knows her better than me and would know the best way to address it? 

CAN I TELL HIM TO NOT GO?
My partner of 3 years has been invited on a family overseas holiday by his ex-wife and their 2 young kids. The ex-wife is paying for his expenses as one of the kids really wants Dad to be there. The ex wife’s new partner is also joining them. This has left me feeling really uncomfortable and ultimately left out. Is it fair to ask my partner to not go because of how I feel or should I tell him he should go despite it making me feel uncomfortable and anxious.

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Hey Lifers
Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions!
There is a lot of weird news in the world today... mostly the guy who chose to put 15 hard boiled eggs in his backside. Britt's partner Ben has had a hair makeover. Did you 'plan' your hair look for your wedding in terms of colour/length etc? Did you opt for something that was your 'look' rather than going for a short term hair change?
Vibes for the week:
Keeshia: <a href="https://www.netflix.com/title/81591286">Sweet Bobby on Netflix</a> Britt: <a href="https://www.theiconic.com.au/instax-mini-12-2276808.html?utm_source=google&amp;utm_medium=au_sem_nonbrand&amp;utm_content=New%20Home%20Brands%20(Catch%20All)&amp;utm_campaign=AU_RC_Home_PG_Brand&amp;utm_term=PRODUCT_GROUP&amp;gad_source=1&amp;gclid=Cj0KCQjwmt24BhDPARIsAJFYKk3BNEr3z6hjSQcnatmZGhs5c8bVMpUdUwKT5gwEs44WX-wGGryI8QMaAlGYEALw_wcB&amp;gclsrc=aw.ds">Instax camera</a> Laura: <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/6FJG6RyOtCxuldmJevkRro">Fallen Angel Podcast</a>
Then we jump into your questions!
DID WE DO THE RIGHT THING BY THE DRUNK HEN? We just wrapped up a hen's night where the hen KO'd herself pretty early, before the festivities were finished - the MOH got her home safely (talking 7.30) and the rest of the party headed home. We'd already organised some entertainment, so instead of going out to where it'd been organised for, we made the call to stay in the hotel room and keep an eye on the hen, and enjoyed the entertainment (just the two of us). The groom found out and blew up - said we put the hen in danger, that it was unforgivable, and he doesn't want anything to do with either of us. Major drama! My question - Did we do the wrong thing? Is his blow up and subsequent major drama valid? Or were we fine to have a little fun while we still took care of our friend? It's created so much drama a week out from the wedding, is all the hatred warranted, or is he just being a complete dick?
I DON'T LIKE THEM CALLING HER GRANDMA I have a new baby who is now 3 months old, and when I was pregnant my dad’s partner asked to be called Grandma which at the time I felt a bit put on the spot and was like ‘sure’. After thinking about it and chatting with my partner I am not sure how comfortable I am with her being “Grandma”. For context she has been with my dad since I was 18 which I think is relevant because I have never lived with her and she has had no hand in raising me and to be honest we have never had a great relationship. I feel like my mum and my partner's mum have done the hard yards to earn that title which she has not. I also don’t want to confuse my child for example if she is asking on Mother’s Day why “Grandma” doesn’t get a card or present and having to explain she is not actually her Grandma. So basically throughout the end of my pregnancy and having a new baby I never ended up having the convo and tbh I am a bit conflict avoidant. Over the weekend her and my dad met my partner’s parents who are visiting from Spain and she introduced herself as Grandma. So my question is… is it too late for me to have that conversation? I really don’t want her to be called Grandma or anything like that but have I let it go too long? Or how would you go about having the convo? Should I speak with my dad as he knows her better than me and would know the best way to address it? 
CAN I TELL HIM TO NOT GO? My partner of 3 years has been invited on a family overseas holiday by his ex-wife and their 2 young kids. The ex-wife is paying for his expenses as one of the kids really wants Dad to be there. The ex wife’s new partner is also joining them. This has left me feeling really uncomfortable and ultimately left out. Is it fair to ask my partner to not go because of how I feel or should I tell him he should go despite it making me feel uncomfortable and anxious.
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Ask Uncut - A Drunk Hen, Who Is Your Grandma and Holidaying with Exes

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Terri is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert. She is the author of ‘Boundary Boss’ and ‘Too Much’. This is the third time Terri has joined us on the podcast! The first time was to speak about cheating, the second was to speak about boundaries and today Terri is joining us to unpack codependence! But, not the standard idea of what codependency is.

Today we speak about what Terri refers to as ‘high functioning codependence’ and how we are able to recognise when we are doing ‘too much’ for other people, and need to prioritise ourselves more. Spoiler, none of us identified as being codependent… until we learnt what high functioning codependency looked like and the alarm bells RANG!

We speak about:


High functioning codependency isn’t what we typically think of a a ‘codependent person’


They’re highly capable, the person everyone depends on, the problem solver, the ‘fixer’


Resentment inventories! We all need to identify where we are ‘over giving’ and ‘over functioning’


Being hyper independent, “I got it” and not wanting to ask for help or owing other people anything 


How it all contributes to burnout and cognitive overload

Do you identify with any of these labels? They might be new to you!
-approval seeking, 
-auto fixing/auto accommodator
-self sacrificing
-hyper helping

You can listen to Terri’s previous episodes with us here: People Pleasers Anonymous - Better Boundaries

and Once A Cheater, Are They Always A Cheater?

You can find everything from Terri:

Website

Book website

Instagram

Podcast

You can watch us on Youtube

Find us on Instagram

Join us on tiktok

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Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Terri is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert. She is the author of ‘Boundary Boss’ and ‘Too Much’. This is the third time Terri has joined us on the podcast! The first time was to speak about cheating, the second was to speak about boundaries and today Terri is joining us to unpack codependence! But, not the standard idea of what codependency is.
Today we speak about what Terri refers to as ‘high functioning codependence’ and how we are able to recognise when we are doing ‘too much’ for other people, and need to prioritise ourselves more. Spoiler, none of us identified as being codependent… until we learnt what high functioning codependency looked like and the alarm bells RANG!
We speak about:
<ul>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
High functioning codependency isn’t what we typically think of a a ‘codependent person’
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
They’re highly capable, the person everyone depends on, the problem solver, the ‘fixer’
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
Resentment inventories! We all need to identify where we are ‘over giving’ and ‘over functioning’
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
Being hyper independent, “I got it” and not wanting to ask for help or owing other people anything 
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
How it all contributes to burnout and cognitive overload Do you identify with any of these labels? They might be new to you! -approval seeking, -auto fixing/auto accommodator -self sacrificing -hyper helping
</li>
</ul>
You can listen to Terri’s previous episodes with us here: <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/life-uncut/id1472126503?i=1000643549107">People Pleasers Anonymous - Better Boundaries</a>
and <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/life-uncut/id1472126503?i=1000590088268">Once A Cheater, Are They Always A Cheater?</a>
You can find everything from Terri:
<a href="terricole.com">Website </a>
<a href="hfcbook.com">Book website</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/terricole/">Instagram</a>
<a href="https://terricole.com/itunes">Podcast</a>
You can watch us on<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@lifeuncutpodcast/featured"> Youtube</a>
Find us on<a href="https://www.instagram.com/lifeuncutpodcast/?hl=en"> Instagram</a>
Join us on<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeuncutpodcast?lang=en"> tiktok</a>
Or join the<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/549565895610504"> Facebook Discussion Group</a>
Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Are You the 'Fixer'? Unpacking High-Functioning Codependency with Terri Cole

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Hey Lifers!

Laura has had a weekend away with the friends that she hunted down on Linked in (it's hard to make friends as adults right??). Something that happened on the weekend raised the question for her of when to intervene to protect your kids from something vs when to let them work it out for themselves and build resilience. We're curious to know what you would have done in this situation.

Is a more inclusive rebrand enough to save Victoria's Secret? Last week we saw the first Victoria's Secret runway show since 2019. They've tried to be more inclusive with different body shapes and sizes. We speak about the past controversies that Victoria's Secret has been involved in and how the messaging of the company was so problematic.

Should companies with a history of exclusion or problematic practices be given the opportunity to evolve and change, or is it too late for brands like Victoria’s Secret?

Plus we speak about the friends of Dave Grohl's wife Jordyn Blum threatening to end their friendship if she goes back to him after he has fathered a kid outside of their marriage.

Have you ever had to cut off a friend because you were so sick of seeing them go back to a problematic partner?

Have you ever felt really exhausted from being the emotional support to a friend, kind of playing therapist, when they seemed to never take advice on board?

You can watch us on Youtube

Find us on Instagram

Join us on tiktok

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Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers!
Laura has had a weekend away with the friends that she hunted down on Linked in (it's hard to make friends as adults right??). Something that happened on the weekend raised the question for her of when to intervene to protect your kids from something vs when to let them work it out for themselves and build resilience. We're curious to know what you would have done in this situation. Is a more inclusive rebrand enough to save Victoria's Secret? Last week we saw the first Victoria's Secret runway show since 2019. They've tried to be more inclusive with different body shapes and sizes. We speak about the past controversies that Victoria's Secret has been involved in and how the messaging of the company was so problematic.
Should companies with a history of exclusion or problematic practices be given the opportunity to evolve and change, or is it too late for brands like Victoria’s Secret?
Plus we speak about the friends of Dave Grohl's wife Jordyn Blum threatening to end their friendship if she goes back to him after he has fathered a kid outside of their marriage.
Have you ever had to cut off a friend because you were so sick of seeing them go back to a problematic partner?
Have you ever felt really exhausted from being the emotional support to a friend, kind of playing therapist, when they seemed to never take advice on board?
You can watch us on<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@lifeuncutpodcast/featured"> Youtube</a>
Find us on<a href="https://www.instagram.com/lifeuncutpodcast/?hl=en"> Instagram</a>
Join us on<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeuncutpodcast?lang=en"> tiktok</a>
Or join the<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/549565895610504"> Facebook Discussion Group</a>
Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

The Victoria's Secret Rebrand & Can You Ditch A Friend Who Keeps Going Back to Their Toxic Ex?

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