The soft fade vs honest upfront debate is on!

Happy Thursday lifers and welcome to therapy.

Today's episode kicks off with a rather lengthy dilemma/debate from yours truly.

The overarching question being "is it better to do a soft fade of someone that you're not super into, or to be honest upfront and let them know that you're not interested?

We discuss!

We then jump into your questions:

-My friend is really conservative and I think she is going to take the fun out of my other friend's hens party. Do I discuss it with her?

-I'm a 'yes' person. I know I'm guilty of overbooking things in my schedule but whenever I try to say no, my friends make me feel as though I've upset or disappointed them. How do I say no and take some time for myself without offending anyone?

-I'm newly seeing a guy that I like and can see something progressing with. The problem is that I've hooked up with 2 of his friends. Do I tell him? If I do, WHEN do I tell him?

If you have a question you'd like our unqualified but very enthusiastic advice about, you can slide into our DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast.

Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your friend, tell your dog and share the love because we love love!!

xx 

The soft fade vs honest upfront debate is on!Happy Thursday lifers and welcome to therapy.Today's episode kicks off with a rather lengthy dilemma/debate from yours truly.The overarching question being "is it better to do a soft fade of someone that you're not super into, or to be honest upfront and let them know that you're not interested?We discuss!We then jump into your questions:-My friend is really conservative and I think she is going to take the fun out of my other friend's hens party. Do I discuss it with her?-I'm a 'yes' person. I know I'm guilty of overbooking things in my schedule but whenever I try to say no, my friends make me feel as though I've upset or disappointed them. How do I say no and take some time for myself without offending anyone?-I'm newly seeing a guy that I like and can see something progressing with. The problem is that I've hooked up with 2 of his friends. Do I tell him? If I do, WHEN do I tell him?If you have a question you'd like our unqualified but very enthusiastic advice about, you can slide into our DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast.Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your friend, tell your dog and share the love because we love love!!xx

Talking all things love, life, lust, and a bunch of other stuff. Nothing is off limits in this podcast that navigates relationships and dating in the modern day. Brought to you by two bachelor finalists Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne.

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Hey Lifers!

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep and dark dilemmas!

Britt is particularly chirpy today because her 5 month unintentional celibacy is over! Ben is in town! Laura doesn't have the time for p*rn but she does have the time for an instagram trend that involves you all breathing out all the way and screaming... This isn't our most intellectual episode!


Vibes for the week:
Britt - Apples Never Fall on Binge
Keeshia - "Hale" on Spotify Hale Breathwork.  
Laura - We the wild Neem Oil Spray

Then we get into your questions:
PUTTING A FAKE AGE ON DATING APPS
I matched with a guy on a dating app and we met up for lunch yesterday. I made a comment about how he and I were of a similar age and generation (me being 38 and him 40) to which he said, “Oh, no, I’m actually 45.” This is not the first, second or third time this has happened. I have had this happen innumerable times and there is always the excuse that, “the app wouldn’t let me change it.” To which my thought is, “well if you were honest in the first place, you wouldn’t need to change anything.” 
Questions:
1. Do women put an incorrect age in the dating apps too? My experience is with dating men and I am curious about whether this is something everyone does or not.
2. He was otherwise lovely so is it better to just brush it aside as being a mistake and go on another date? Or do I take this as a sign of being insincere and an amber flag and move on to another match?
HIS EX KEEPS REACHING OUT TO MY PARTNER AND HIS FAMILY
My partner of 2 years (he is wonderful, definitely my penguin, we own a house together, but currently doing long distance due to work) has let me know that his ex (they were together for 8 years and separated amicably) has been in contact with him (sending lots of one way messages asking to catch up which he hasn’t replied to) but she has also been in contact with his family and grandparents and has organised to meet up with them in the next few weeks 😬 and has also asked to see him and his mum. He told me straight away and has said that it’s up to me whether he goes to see her or not. I trust him completely so it’s not like I am concerned anything will happen between them, but the situation has made me feel really uneasy! I know that 8 years is a long time to be in a relationship, and that you can get pretty close with family, but to continue be in contact after 2+ years of being separated and continue to organise catch ups does make me feel unsure about the situation, and also where I stand with his family (we have always gotten along swimmingly). For context I live in a different state to him and his family. What should I do? I feel like I really can’t be the one to say that she shouldn’t be in contact with him/family anymore because I’ll be the “bad guy”, and am I just being insecure about the fact that the ex and my partner's family have a close relationship! 


PARTNER DOESN'T WANT TO WATCH ME GIVE BIRTH
The most recent podcast about pregnancy/ childbirth got my boyfriend and I talking about when we are in the situation. He just told me that he doesn’t know if he will be able to watch! Is that a normal reaction for blokes? I’m so offended he wouldn’t want to watch. I also think that when he is actually in the situation it’ll be different. Thoughts??

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Hey Lifers!
Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep and dark dilemmas!
Britt is particularly chirpy today because her 5 month unintentional celibacy is over! Ben is in town! Laura doesn't have the time for p*rn but she does have the time for an instagram trend that involves you all breathing out all the way and screaming... This isn't our most intellectual episode!
 Vibes for the week: Britt - Apples Never Fall on Binge Keeshia - "Hale" on Spotify <a href="https://open.spotify.com/album/1dWsYwM2PGwYQ1WViEX0JO?si=uUR8hg20QdKKlDl-7z_sYg">Hale Breathwork.  </a> Laura - We the wild <a href="https://wethewild.co/products/protect-spray-with-neem?variant=43526635192483&amp;currency=AUD&amp;utm_medium=product_sync&amp;utm_source=google&amp;utm_content=sag_organic&amp;utm_campaign=sag_organic&amp;utm_source=google&amp;utm_medium=cpc&amp;utm_term=&amp;device=c&amp;campaign_id=17484518114&amp;ad_group_id=&amp;gclid=Cj0KCQjwpNuyBhCuARIsANJqL9M-IqazVF6ONgfxIh7WEkTVCvGvMQrI3twB2S6r51qD6Xw-ZNBpL0QaArSZEALw_wcB&amp;gad_source=1">Neem Oil Spray</a>
Then we get into your questions:
<ul>
<li>PUTTING A FAKE AGE ON DATING APPS I matched with a guy on a dating app and we met up for lunch yesterday. I made a comment about how he and I were of a similar age and generation (me being 38 and him 40) to which he said, “Oh, no, I’m actually 45.” This is not the first, second or third time this has happened. I have had this happen innumerable times and there is always the excuse that, “the app wouldn’t let me change it.” To which my thought is, “well if you were honest in the first place, you wouldn’t need to change anything.” Questions: 1. Do women put an incorrect age in the dating apps too? My experience is with dating men and I am curious about whether this is something everyone does or not. 2. He was otherwise lovely so is it better to just brush it aside as being a mistake and go on another date? Or do I take this as a sign of being insincere and an amber flag and move on to another match?</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>HIS EX KEEPS REACHING OUT TO MY PARTNER AND HIS FAMILY My partner of 2 years (he is wonderful, definitely my penguin, we own a house together, but currently doing long distance due to work) has let me know that his ex (they were together for 8 years and separated amicably) has been in contact with him (sending lots of one way messages asking to catch up which he hasn’t replied to) but she has also been in contact with his family and grandparents and has organised to meet up with them in the next few weeks 😬 and has also asked to see him and his mum. He told me straight away and has said that it’s up to me whether he goes to see her or not. I trust him completely so it’s not like I am concerned anything will happen between them, but the situation has made me feel really uneasy! I know that 8 years is a long time to be in a relationship, and that you can get pretty close with family, but to continue be in contact after 2+ years of being separated and continue to organise catch ups does make me feel unsure about the situation, and also where I stand with his family (we have always gotten along swimmingly). For context I live in a different state to him and his family. What should I do? I feel like I really can’t be the one to say that she shouldn’t be in contact with him/family anymore because I’ll be the “bad guy”, and am I just being insecure about the fact that the ex and my partner's family have a close relationship!  </li>
<li>PARTNER DOESN'T WANT TO WATCH ME GIVE BIRTH The most recent podcast about pregnancy/ childbirth got my boyfriend and I talking about when we are in the situation. He just told me that he doesn’t know if he will be able to watch! Is that a normal reaction for blokes? I’m so offended he wouldn’t want to watch. I also think that when he is actually in the situation it’ll be different. Thoughts??</li>
</ul>
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Ask Uncut - Faking Your Age, A Partner Who Refuses to Watch & An Ex Who Won't Go Away

Joining the podcast today is domestic violence advocate Bianca Unwin. Bianca has degrees in both criminology and psychological sciences and she is joining us today to speak about a loophole known as ‘emergency management days’ that over 7000 prisoners could be using to receive reductions in their prison sentences. Many of these convicted offenders are violent and high risk offenders.



Bianca’s sister Katie was a 29 year old mother of two when her partner Shane Robertson beat her to death while the couple’s child slept in a room next door. Shane was convicted but received a below average sentence of 19 years without parole. However, due to legislation enacted by the Victorian government allowing sentence reductions for prisoners under ‘emergency management days,’ a provision especially impactful during COVID-19, his sentence may be substantially reduced.

Bianca joins the podcast today to speak about the contrast between what we all seem to be screaming from the rooftops in our fight to protect women, and the government’s leniency on reducing the sentence of violent criminals. We also speak about the inadequate rehabilitation of violent perpetrators and how we all need to be showing the government that these reductions in sentences are not what the community wants.

Please take the time to click on this link and sign Bianca’s petition

PLEASE SIGN THE CHANGE.ORG PETITION



Some further resources are available below:

Crimes Amendment (Remissions of Sentences) Bill 2021

Released Prisoners Returning to Prison

CORRECTIONS ACT 1986 - SECT 58E Emergency management days

Victorian prisoners get unfair sentence reductions as a result of COVID-19 restrictions, Opposition says



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Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Joining the podcast today is domestic violence advocate Bianca Unwin. Bianca has degrees in both criminology and psychological sciences and she is joining us today to speak about a loophole known as ‘emergency management days’ that over 7000 prisoners could be using to receive reductions in their prison sentences. Many of these convicted offenders are violent and high risk offenders. 
Bianca’s sister Katie was a 29 year old mother of two when her partner Shane Robertson beat her to death while the couple’s child slept in a room next door. Shane was convicted but received a below average sentence of 19 years without parole. However, due to legislation enacted by the Victorian government allowing sentence reductions for prisoners under ‘emergency management days,’ a provision especially impactful during COVID-19, his sentence may be substantially reduced.
Bianca joins the podcast today to speak about the contrast between what we all seem to be screaming from the rooftops in our fight to protect women, and the government’s leniency on reducing the sentence of violent criminals. We also speak about the inadequate rehabilitation of violent perpetrators and how we all need to be showing the government that these reductions in sentences are not what the community wants.
Please take the time to click on this link and sign Bianca’s petition
<a href="https://www.change.org/p/urge-the-victorian-government-to-revoke-sentence-reductions-for-violent-offenders?utm_medium=custom_url&amp;utm_source=share_petition&amp;recruited_by_id=c2ae88c0-26f5-11e6-a7bd-23be664c362c">PLEASE SIGN THE CHANGE.ORG PETITION</a>
 
Some further resources are available below:
<a href="https://www.aph.gov.au/Parliamentary_Business/Bills_Legislation/bd/bd2122a/22bd029">Crimes Amendment (Remissions of Sentences) Bill 2021</a>
<a href="https://www.sentencingcouncil.vic.gov.au/sentencing-statistics/released-prisoners-returning-to-prison">Released Prisoners Returning to Prison</a>
<a href="https://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/vic/consol_act/ca1986149/s58e.html">CORRECTIONS ACT 1986 - SECT 58E Emergency management days</a>
<a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/2021-01-31/get-out-of-jail-free-cards-for-victorian-prisoners-locked-down-/13106620">Victorian prisoners get unfair sentence reductions as a result of COVID-19 restrictions, Opposition says</a>
 
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We Are Calling For Harsher Punishments for Violent Offenders While Some Victorian Prisoners Are Having Their Sentences Reduced. Uncut with Bianca Unwin

Hey Lifers!
First up, Britt is served a slice of humble pie for some risky fashion choices. Laura has a stye... it's just a sh*tshow today. 
Laura and Matt went back to where they got married & the kids were a bit disappointed in comparison to last time.

Do you feel as though you can maintain relationships with people who have different values to you? We speak about the response from the Kelce brothers to Harrison Butker's controversial speech two weeks ago.
We discuss the ins and outs of whether different religious, political or moral values dictate if you can have relationships with people. 
We speak about the privilege involved with 'whether' you care about certain view points and whether it's the intensity of those values that might be the line in the sand. 

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Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

Hey Lifers! First up, Britt is served a slice of humble pie for some risky fashion choices. Laura has a stye... it's just a sh*tshow today.  Laura and Matt went back to where they got married &amp; the kids were a bit disappointed in comparison to last time. Do you feel as though you can maintain relationships with people who have different values to you? We speak about the response from the Kelce brothers to Harrison Butker's controversial speech two weeks ago. We discuss the ins and outs of whether different religious, political or moral values dictate if you can have relationships with people.  We speak about the privilege involved with 'whether' you care about certain view points and whether it's the intensity of those values that might be the line in the sand. 
You can watch us on<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@lifeuncutpodcast/featured"> Youtube</a>
Find us on<a href="https://www.instagram.com/lifeuncutpodcast/?hl=en"> Instagram</a>
Join us on<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeuncutpodcast?lang=en"> tiktok</a>
Or join the<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/549565895610504"> Facebook Discussion Group</a>
Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx

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