Learned the Hard Way with Kier Gaines
Learned the Hard Way with Kier Gaines
Playlist by Learned the Hard Way with Kier GainesNo fluff. No judgment. Just real talk. Licensed therapist Kier Gaines brings over a decade of insight to break down what it really means to be a man today the pressure, the innovation, the grief, the …Follow the podcast:
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EP 16: The Performance Tax: The Price Black People Pay to Succeed (Ft. Savon & Antoinette from the Can’t Afford Therapy Podcast)
Some rooms don't just ask you to show up.They ask you to perform. To soften your voice. To shrink your personality. To make yourself "easier" to digest. To become a version of yourself that feels acceptable even if it doesn't feel authentic. For Black professionals, that performance often becomes…
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EP 15: You Can Be a Good Person... and Still Be a Bad Partner
Being a good person doesn't automatically make you a good partner. In this episode of (L)Earned The Hard Way, Kier Gaines unpacks one of the biggest misconceptions about relationships: character and relationship skills are not the same thing. You can be kind, loyal, funny, and deeply loved by the …
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EP 14: Imposter Syndrome Is Lying to You Ft. Jess Hilarious
How do you know the voice in your head is lying to you? In this episode, Kier Gaines sits down with comedian, media personality, Jess Hilarious, for an honest conversation about imposter syndrome, self-doubt, and what it really means to earn your place in the room. What starts as a conversation a…
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EP 13: Are You Leading... or Just Controlling?
Are leaders born... or do they become one decision at a time? In this solo episode of Learned The Hard Way, Kier Gaines challenges one of the most common beliefs about leadership: that it's something you're entitled to instead of something you earn. From relationships and parenthood to business a…
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EP 12: How Much Should You Care? Ft. Crissle West
What happens when being the person everyone depends on becomes the thing that's breaking you? In this episode, Kier Gaines sits down with media personality, cultural critic, and podcast host Crissle for a conversation about empathy, emotional labor, boundaries, and the hidden weight of being the p…
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EP 11: The Truth About Feeling Unheard in Your Relationship
Why do so many relationship problems feel impossible to solve… even when both people care? In this special mailbag episode of Learned The Hard Way, Kier Gaines answers real voice notes from listeners navigating some of the hardest questions relationships can throw at us. From feeling emotionally …
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EP 10: Anger Isn't What You Think It Is
Everybody says anger is a secondary emotion. But… what if its not that simple! In this episode of Learned The Hard Way, Kier takes a deeper look at one of the most misunderstood emotions we experience and challenges the idea that anger is simply covering up something else. Drawing from persona…
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EP 9: The Invisible Load Nobody Talks About ft. Noémie Gaines
How do two people build a healthy relationship… when both of them are carrying invisible weight the other can’t fully see? In this episode of Learned The Hard Way, Kier Gaines sits down with his wife, Noémie Gaines for a honest conversation about marriage, partnership, emotional labor, and the rea…
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EP 8: Are You Living… Or Just Performing Survival? ft Dustin Ross
How do you know when you’re becoming yourself… instead of just surviving? In this episode, Kier Gaines sits down with media personality, comedian, and podcast host Dustin Ross for one of the most layered conversations the show has had yet. What starts as a discussion about career pivots and reinv…
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EP 7: What Depression Looks Like When You’re The “Strong” One
How do you know you’re struggling… when your life still looks “fine” from the outside? In this episode, Kier Gaines opens up about being clinically diagnosed with depression while still showing up every day as a husband, father, therapist, provider, and public figure. After revealing his diagnosis…
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