Learned the Hard Way with Kier Gaines
Learned the Hard Way with Kier Gaines
Playlist by Learned the Hard Way with Kier GainesNo fluff. No judgment. Just real talk. Licensed therapist Kier Gaines brings over a decade of insight to break down what it really means to be a man today the pressure, the innovation, the grief, the …Follow the podcast:
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EP 29: Are You Parenting Your Kids or Your Childhood? ft Dr. Becky Kennedy
What if the hardest part of parenting isn't raising your kids, but confronting the parts of yourself you haven't healed? Parenting doesn't come with a manual, and even when you think you've figured it out, your kids have a way of reminding you just how much you still have to learn. This week on L…
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EP 28: Surviving to Thriving ft. Charlamagne Tha God
For Black men, being strong can sometimes mean becoming the person who carries everything. You’re expected to have the answers, keep it moving, provide for everybody, make people laugh, and figure things out without letting anyone see you struggle. But what happens when the “go-to guy” needs somewh…
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EP 27: You’re Allowed to Outgrow Yourself
What happens when the person you’ve always been isn’t the person you can keep being? For a lot of men, identity can become deeply connected to what we provide, produce, protect, and endure. We learn early that being useful means being valuable, and that pushing through pain, exhaustion, disappoint…
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EP 26: The Hard Part Is Admitting It’s Not Working.
What do you do when you’re doing everything you’re supposed to do and it still isn’t working? Therapy. Medication. Meditation. Journaling. Working out. Building community. Asking for help. Sometimes we’re told that if we just do the “right” things long enough, eventually we’ll feel better. But wha…
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EP 25: What If Success Isn’t the Finish Line? ft. Will Packer
What happens when you finally get the thing you’ve been working for and realize the hard part isn’t over? For a lot of men, success can feel like a finish line. We imagine that once we get the opportunity, the money, the title, or the recognition, the uncertainty will disappear. But what if succes…
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EP 24: Are You Asking Your Partner to Be Your Peace?
Are you expecting your partner to be responsible for your peace? We hear “I just want someone who brings me peace” all the time. But what does that actually mean? Does it mean never arguing? Never being challenged? Never having to deal with difficult emotions? Or does it mean feeling safe enough t…
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EP 23: Your Job Is Not Your Identity ft. Jason Rosario
What happens when the thing you’ve always used to measure your value starts disappearing? For a lot of men, work has never just been work. It’s how we provide. How we prove ourselves. How we measure success. And sometimes, whether we admit it or not, it becomes a big part of how we decide whether …
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EP 22: Who Told You You’re Behind?
It’s hard to appreciate your own life when you’re constantly measuring it against somebody else’s. Their career is moving faster. They bought the house. They got married. Their business is growing. Their family looks perfect. And thanks to social media, somebody else’s wins are always close enough…
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EP 21: I Love My Kids… But I Don’t Love Being a Parent
You can love your kids with everything in you and still not love being a parent all the time. The pickups. The drop-offs. The schedules. The sleepless nights. The endless questions. The responsibility of being needed every single day. Parenthood can be one of the most meaningful parts of your life…
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EP 20: Why Men Are Afraid to Say “I Don’t Know” ft. Dr. Dakotah Tyler
What if the smartest thing you could say is, “I don’t know”? In this episode of Learned the Hard Way, Kier Gaines sits down with astrophysicist and former Division I football player Dr. Dakotah Tyler (Dr. Star Kid)for a conversation about curiosity, masculinity, identity, and what happens when the…
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