What if the engagement problem in your team isn’t really an engagement problem at all?

When people become disengaged, it’s easy to look outward - workload, culture, generational differences, competing priorities or the people themselves. But sometimes the more useful question for a leader is:

How might I be contributing to this?

In this episode of Leading You, I’m joined by executive coach, speaker, facilitator and author Kylie Paatsch to explore why connection sits at the heart of strong leadership, employee engagement and high-performing teams.

Kylie shares a confronting moment from her own leadership career when she discovered members of her team had deliberately gone to lunch without her and spent the time expressing their frustrations about her leadership. Painful as it was, it prompted her to examine her own contribution, seek feedback and change the way she led.

We explore why leaders can mistake proximity for genuine connection. Regular meetings, emails, Teams calls and constant communication can create the impression that relationships are strong, when the real question is whether your people feel understood, valued and able to be honest with you.

Kylie also shares her practical Know, Show, Grow framework from her book The Connection Effect, designed to help leaders better understand their people, demonstrate that understanding through their behaviour and invest in their development.

In this episode, we explore:
Why engagement is an outcome and connection is one of the things that fuels it
How your leadership may be contributing to team disengagement
Why proximity and communication don’t necessarily create connection
How to ask for feedback without becoming defensive
Why protecting one-on-one time matters
Kylie’s Know, Show, Grow framework
Why connection is a leadership skill that can be developed

Timestamps

00:00 Own Your Leadership
00:22 Meet Julie and Kylie
01:54 The Bathroom Moment
07:52 Why Leaders Miss It
10:53 Engagement vs Connection
15:35 The Feedback Conversation
19:48 Protect One-on-Ones
22:09 Know, Show, Grow Model
25:33 Show and Model Care
28:44 Grow Your People
30:24 Wrap Up and Next Steps
31:02 Ratings and Farewell

 

Links:

Learn more about my group coaching program here
Get the Clarity Compass here

 

Connect with Julie:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/
Instagram: @juliehydeleads
Website: https://juliehyde.com.au

 

Connect with Kylie:
Website: https://kyliepaatsch.com.au/
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/kyliepaatsch
Instagram: www.instagram.com/kyliepaatschleadership

What if the engagement problem in your team isn&rsquo;t really an engagement problem at all?
When people become disengaged, it&rsquo;s easy to look outward - workload, culture, generational differences, competing priorities or the people themselves. But sometimes the more useful question for a leader is:
How might I be contributing to this?
In this episode of&nbsp;Leading You, I&rsquo;m joined by executive coach, speaker, facilitator and author&nbsp;Kylie Paatsch&nbsp;to explore why connection sits at the heart of strong leadership, employee engagement and high-performing teams.
Kylie shares a confronting moment from her own leadership career when she discovered members of her team had deliberately gone to lunch without her and spent the time expressing their frustrations about her leadership. Painful as it was, it prompted her to examine her own contribution, seek feedback and change the way she led.
We explore why leaders can mistake&nbsp;proximity for genuine connection. Regular meetings, emails, Teams calls and constant communication can create the impression that relationships are strong, when the real question is whether your people feel understood, valued and able to be honest with you.
Kylie also shares her practical&nbsp;Know, Show, Grow framework&nbsp;from her book&nbsp;The Connection Effect, designed to help leaders better understand their people, demonstrate that understanding through their behaviour and invest in their development.
In this episode, we explore:
<ul>
<li>Why engagement is an outcome and connection is one of the things that fuels it</li>
<li>How your leadership may be contributing to team disengagement</li>
<li>Why proximity and communication don&rsquo;t necessarily create connection</li>
<li>How to ask for feedback without becoming defensive</li>
<li>Why protecting one-on-one time matters</li>
<li>Kylie&rsquo;s Know, Show, Grow framework</li>
<li>Why connection is a leadership skill that can be developed</li>
</ul>
Timestamps
00:00 Own Your Leadership 00:22 Meet Julie and Kylie 01:54 The Bathroom Moment 07:52 Why Leaders Miss It 10:53 Engagement vs Connection 15:35 The Feedback Conversation 19:48 Protect One-on-Ones 22:09 Know, Show, Grow Model 25:33 Show and Model Care 28:44 Grow Your People 30:24 Wrap Up and Next Steps 31:02 Ratings and Farewell
&nbsp;
Links:
Learn more about my&nbsp;group coaching program&nbsp;<a href="https://juliehyde.com.au/leadher-mastermind">here</a> Get the&nbsp;Clarity Compass&nbsp;<a href="https://programs.juliehyde.com.au/programs/claritycompass/">here</a>
&nbsp;
Connect with Julie: LinkedIn:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/</a> Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/juliehydeleads/">&nbsp;@juliehydeleads</a> Website:&nbsp;<a href="https://juliehyde.com.au/">https://juliehyde.com.au</a>
&nbsp;
Connect with Kylie: Website:&nbsp;<a href="https://kyliepaatsch.com.au/">https://kyliepaatsch.com.au/</a> LinkedIn:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/kyliepaatsch/">www.linkedin.com/in/kyliepaatsch</a> Instagram:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/kyliepaatschleadership/">www.instagram.com/kyliepaatschleadership</a>

Want to know the secret to confident and successful leadership?

Every week, Leading You showcases leadership of all kinds and you get the scoop on how to be an effective, modern leader who makes an impact.

There’s one thing we all have in common. We’re all leaders. First and foremost, you’re a leader of you. You don’t need a title to be a leader. Leadership is a mindset which anyone can adopt to create influence. The more leaders the world has, the better it will be.

I'll let you into something I know to be true - You can’t be a leader of others unless you’re a leader of self first. So if you want to have impact that leads to prosperity and happiness, it all starts with you. With your mindset and personal leadership toolbox, which Leading You will help you build up.

Leading you is hosted by Julie Hyde, an entrepreneur, corporate drop out and passionate leader. Julie knows one thing: you can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you respond. It’s why Leading You is important.

Each week, guests share their secret sauce. They reveal their roadmaps to success. How they’ve stayed anchored to who they are, insights into their courage and resilience and how to be emotionally and behaviourally agile. It’s a conversation, not an interrogation, and you’ll hear the human side of household names.

Want to know the secret to confident and successful leadership?
Every week, Leading You showcases leadership of all kinds and you get the scoop on how to be an effective, modern leader who makes an impact.
There’s one thing we all have in common. We’re all leaders. First and foremost, you’re a leader of you. You don’t need a title to be a leader. Leadership is a mindset which anyone can adopt to create influence. The more leaders the world has, the better it will be.
I'll let you into something I know to be true - You can’t be a leader of others unless you’re a leader of self first. So if you want to have impact that leads to prosperity and happiness, it all starts with you. With your mindset and personal leadership toolbox, which Leading You will help you build up.
Leading you is hosted by Julie Hyde, an entrepreneur, corporate drop out and passionate leader. Julie knows one thing: you can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you respond. It’s why Leading You is important.
Each week, guests share their secret sauce. They reveal their roadmaps to success. How they’ve stayed anchored to who they are, insights into their courage and resilience and how to be emotionally and behaviourally agile. It’s a conversation, not an interrogation, and you’ll hear the human side of household names.

A Podcast dedicated to business owners and leaders to inspire you to make it count

Leading You

Want to know the secret to confident and successful leadership?
Every week, Leading You showcases leadership of all kinds and you get the scoop on how to be an effective, modern leader who makes an impact.
There’s one thing we all have in common. We’re all leaders. First and foremost, you’re a leader of you. You don’t need a title to be a leader. Leadership is a mindset which anyone can adopt to create influence. The more leaders the world has, the better it will be.
I'll let you into something I know to be true - You can’t be a leader of others unless you’re a leader of self first. So if you want to have impact that leads to prosperity and happiness, it all starts with you. With your mindset and personal leadership toolbox, which Leading You will help you build up.
Leading you is hosted by Julie Hyde, an entrepreneur, corporate drop out and passionate leader. Julie knows one thing: you can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you respond. It’s why Leading You is important.
Each week, guests share their secret sauce. They reveal their roadmaps to success. How they’ve stayed anchored to who they are, insights into their courage and resilience and how to be emotionally and behaviourally agile. It’s a conversation, not an interrogation, and you’ll hear the human side of household names.

Leading You | Self-Leadership for High Achievers

Is It Them or Is It You? The Leadership Blind Spot Destroying Team Connection with Kylie Paatsch

What is staying quiet costing you?

Self-advocacy is often associated with asking for a pay rise, negotiating a promotion or learning to be more assertive. But it goes much deeper than that.

Self-advocacy is your willingness to participate in the decisions that shape your health, career, relationships, business and future.

In this episode of Leading You, I explore why self-advocacy is an essential, yet often overlooked, leadership skill and why staying silent is rarely neutral.

Every time we choose not to ask the question, seek clarification, challenge an assumption, contribute our perspective or communicate what we really want, we are still making a decision. And sometimes the cost of that decision is far greater than the discomfort of speaking up.

I share how my understanding of self-advocacy changed following my diagnosis with stage three melanoma. I was surrounded by highly experienced specialists who understood cancer, but I came to realise something incredibly important: they knew cancer, but I knew myself. Both forms of knowledge mattered.

That lesson reaches far beyond our health.

How often do we conform because we don't want to create tension? Hope our hard work will eventually be noticed instead of communicating where we want to go? Advocate fiercely for our teams, clients, families and friends while accepting less for ourselves?

And how often do we confuse being kind with being compliant?

Self-advocacy isn't about dominating conversations, demanding your own way or becoming confrontational. Sometimes it starts with something much simpler: a thoughtful question.

In this episode, I explore:
Why silence is a decision, rather than a neutral position
What my cancer experience taught me about questioning, clarification and trusting yourself
Why self-advocacy begins before you ever speak
The career cost of waiting for someone else to notice you
Why your work can demonstrate your capability but can't communicate your ambition
How conformity can stop us contributing perspectives that matter
Why kindness, respect and collaboration don't require constant agreement
Why we often advocate more strongly for others than ourselves
How thoughtful questions can create clarity without creating unnecessary confrontation
A simple place to begin if speaking up doesn't come naturally

Your voice, perspective and needs deserve a place in the decisions that affect your life.

Timestamps

00:00 Welcome to Leading You
00:37 Why Self-Advocacy Matters
01:33 The Melanoma Wake-Up Call
03:48 Self-Advocacy Starts With Believing Your Needs Matter
05:13 Lead.Her Collective Invitation
06:07 Conformity, Silence and Speaking Up
07:05 Stop Waiting to Be Chosen
08:18 Why We Advocate for Others, But Not Ourselves
09:26 Kindness Is Not Compliance
10:20 The Power of Asking Better Questions
11:00 Where Is Staying Quiet Costing You?
12:37 Thanks and Reviews

 

Links:
Learn more about my group coaching program here
Get the Clarity Compass here
Join our Lead.Her Collective Dinner. Find out more and register here


 

Connect with Julie:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/
Instagram:@juliehydeleads
Website: https://juliehyde.com.au

What is staying quiet costing you?
Self-advocacy is often associated with asking for a pay rise, negotiating a promotion or learning to be more assertive. But it goes much deeper than that.
Self-advocacy is your willingness to participate in the decisions that shape your health, career, relationships, business and future.
In this episode of&nbsp;Leading You, I explore why self-advocacy is an essential, yet often overlooked, leadership skill and why staying silent is rarely neutral.
Every time we choose not to ask the question, seek clarification, challenge an assumption, contribute our perspective or communicate what we really want, we are still making a decision. And sometimes the cost of that decision is far greater than the discomfort of speaking up.
I share how my understanding of self-advocacy changed following my diagnosis with stage three melanoma. I was surrounded by highly experienced specialists who understood cancer, but I came to realise something incredibly important:&nbsp;they knew cancer, but I knew myself. Both forms of knowledge mattered.
That lesson reaches far beyond our health.
How often do we conform because we don't want to create tension? Hope our hard work will eventually be noticed instead of communicating where we want to go? Advocate fiercely for our teams, clients, families and friends while accepting less for ourselves?
And how often do we confuse being kind with being compliant?
Self-advocacy isn't about dominating conversations, demanding your own way or becoming confrontational. Sometimes it starts with something much simpler: a thoughtful question.
In this episode, I explore:
<ul>
<li>Why silence is a decision, rather than a neutral position</li>
<li>What my cancer experience taught me about questioning, clarification and trusting yourself</li>
<li>Why self-advocacy begins before you ever speak</li>
<li>The career cost of waiting for someone else to notice you</li>
<li>Why your work can demonstrate your capability but can't communicate your ambition</li>
<li>How conformity can stop us contributing perspectives that matter</li>
<li>Why kindness, respect and collaboration don't require constant agreement</li>
<li>Why we often advocate more strongly for others than ourselves</li>
<li>How thoughtful questions can create clarity without creating unnecessary confrontation</li>
<li>A simple place to begin if speaking up doesn't come naturally</li>
</ul>
Your voice, perspective and needs deserve a place in the decisions that affect your life.
Timestamps
00:00 Welcome to Leading You 00:37 Why Self-Advocacy Matters 01:33 The Melanoma Wake-Up Call 03:48 Self-Advocacy Starts With Believing Your Needs Matter 05:13 Lead.Her Collective Invitation 06:07 Conformity, Silence and Speaking Up 07:05 Stop Waiting to Be Chosen 08:18 Why We Advocate for Others, But Not Ourselves 09:26 Kindness Is Not Compliance 10:20 The Power of Asking Better Questions 11:00 Where Is Staying Quiet Costing You? 12:37 Thanks and Reviews
&nbsp;
Links: Learn more about my group coaching program&nbsp;<a href="https://juliehyde.com.au/leadher-mastermind" data-href="https://juliehyde.com.au/leadher-mastermind">here</a> Get the Clarity Compass&nbsp;<a href="https://programs.juliehyde.com.au/programs/claritycompass/" data-href="https://programs.juliehyde.com.au/programs/claritycompass/">here</a> Join our Lead.Her Collective Dinner. Find out more and register <a href="https://juliehyde.com.au/leadher">here</a> 
&nbsp;
Connect with Julie:
LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/" data-href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/</a> Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/juliehydeleads/" data-href="https://www.instagram.com/juliehydeleads/"> @juliehydeleads</a> Website: <a href="https://juliehyde.com.au">https://juliehyde.com.au</a>

Self-Advocacy: Why Staying Quiet Costs More Than You Think

Trigger warning

This episode includes discussions of vicarious trauma, suicide, child death, sudden death and breast cancer.

 

What happens when you've achieved the career you once dreamed of... but something inside you knows it no longer fits?

In this episode of Leading You, Julie Hyde sits down with former Deputy State Coroner Jacqui Hawkins to explore what it means to walk away from a prestigious career, navigate burnout, and reconnect with yourself after years of putting achievement first.

Jacqui shares her deeply personal journey through vicarious trauma, motherhood, breast cancer and reinvention, along with the practices that helped her quiet the noise and trust her inner wisdom.

In this episode:
What it feels like to succeed in a career that no longer feels aligned.
The hidden impact of vicarious trauma and chronic stress.
The tension between achievement, identity and inner wisdom.
Why changing careers doesn't automatically change old patterns.
How journalling, meditation and breathwork created clarity.
Why noticing life's "glimmers" can help you reconnect with yourself.
Why meaningful change doesn't require you to blow up your life.

 

Timestamps

00:00 Wisdom Within
00:22 Meet Julie and Jacqui
01:50 Chasing the Coroner Dream
03:44 Vicarious Trauma Toll
06:05 Masks and Motherhood
08:33 Lead.Her Collective Invite
09:28 Ego Versus Soul
12:17 Journalling for Clarity
15:10 Breast Cancer Wake-Up
19:18 Finding Glimmers Daily
21:52 Ancient Practices and Coaching
24:47 Get Quiet and Listen
26:48 Closing Thanks and Review

 

Links:

Learn more about my group coaching program here
Get the Clarity Compass here
Join our Lead.Her Collective Dinner. Find out more here

 

Connect with Julie:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/
Instagram:@juliehydeleads
Website: https://juliehyde.com.au

 

Connect with Jacqui:
Website:Lit Within
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/jacqui-hawkins-2215a1295
Instagram:@litwithincoaching
Podcast:That Day podcast

Trigger warning
This episode includes discussions of vicarious trauma, suicide, child death, sudden death and breast cancer.
&nbsp;
What happens when you've achieved the career you once dreamed of... but something inside you knows it no longer fits?
In this episode of&nbsp;Leading You, Julie Hyde sits down with former Deputy State Coroner Jacqui Hawkins to explore what it means to walk away from a prestigious career, navigate burnout, and reconnect with yourself after years of putting achievement first.
Jacqui shares her deeply personal journey through vicarious trauma, motherhood, breast cancer and reinvention, along with the practices that helped her quiet the noise and trust her inner wisdom.
In this episode:
<ul>
<li>What it feels like to succeed in a career that no longer feels aligned.</li>
<li>The hidden impact of vicarious trauma and chronic stress.</li>
<li>The tension between achievement, identity and inner wisdom.</li>
<li>Why changing careers doesn't automatically change old patterns.</li>
<li>How journalling, meditation and breathwork created clarity.</li>
<li>Why noticing life's "glimmers" can help you reconnect with yourself.</li>
<li>Why meaningful change doesn't require you to blow up your life.</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Timestamps
00:00 Wisdom Within 00:22 Meet Julie and Jacqui 01:50 Chasing the Coroner Dream 03:44 Vicarious Trauma Toll 06:05 Masks and Motherhood 08:33 Lead.Her Collective Invite 09:28 Ego Versus Soul 12:17 Journalling for Clarity 15:10 Breast Cancer Wake-Up 19:18 Finding Glimmers Daily 21:52 Ancient Practices and Coaching 24:47 Get Quiet and Listen 26:48 Closing Thanks and Review
&nbsp;
Links:
Learn more about my group coaching program <a href="https://juliehyde.com.au/leadher-mastermind" data-href="https://juliehyde.com.au/leadher-mastermind">here</a> Get the Clarity Compass <a href="https://programs.juliehyde.com.au/programs/claritycompass/" data-href="https://programs.juliehyde.com.au/programs/claritycompass/">here</a> Join our Lead.Her Collective Dinner. Find out more <a href="https://juliehyde.com.au/leadher">here</a>
&nbsp;
Connect with Julie:
LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/" data-href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/</a> Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/juliehydeleads/" data-href="https://www.instagram.com/juliehydeleads/"> @juliehydeleads</a> Website: <a href="https://juliehyde.com.au">https://juliehyde.com.au</a>
&nbsp;
Connect with Jacqui: Website: <a href="https://litwithin.com.au/">Lit Within</a> LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/jacqui-hawkins-2215a1295 Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/litwithincoaching?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&amp;igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==">@litwithincoaching</a> Podcast: <a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2603413">That Day podcast</a>

Burnout, Reinvention & Finding Yourself Again with Jacqui Hawkins

How many warning signs have you ignored because you convinced yourself you could just keep going?

In this solo episode of Leading You, Julie Hyde explores a pattern she sees far too often in high-achieving women and leaders... pushing through exhaustion, ignoring the signals their bodies are sending, and wearing over-functioning as a badge of honour.

Drawing on her own experience with cancer, Julie challenges the belief that resilience means never slowing down and asks one powerful question:

What are you trying to prove... and to who?

In this episode:
Why high performers are particularly vulnerable to burnout.
The difference between resilience and constantly pushing through.
How over-functioning quietly becomes our identity.
The warning signs your body may already be sending.
Why leadership today requires a different way of operating.
The questions every leader should ask before their body forces them to stop.

 

Timestamps

00:00 Welcome to Leading You
00:48 The Push Through Trap
02:34 Burnout Signs and Statistics
07:24 Mental Load and Over-Functioning
09:18 When Your Body Forces You to Stop
10:05 Clarity Compass
11:20 My Wake-Up Call
14:09 Why We Need to Lead Differently
16:58 Questions Worth Asking Yourself
17:31 Final Thoughts

 

Links:

Learn more about my group coaching program here
Get the Clarity Compass here

 

Connect with Julie:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/
Instagram:@juliehydeleads
Website: https://juliehyde.com.au

How many warning signs have you ignored because you convinced yourself you could just keep going?
In this solo episode of&nbsp;Leading You, Julie Hyde explores a pattern she sees far too often in high-achieving women and leaders... pushing through exhaustion, ignoring the signals their bodies are sending, and wearing over-functioning as a badge of honour.
Drawing on her own experience with cancer, Julie challenges the belief that resilience means never slowing down and asks one powerful question:
What are you trying to prove... and to who?
In this episode:
<ul>
<li>Why high performers are particularly vulnerable to burnout.</li>
<li>The difference between resilience and constantly pushing through.</li>
<li>How over-functioning quietly becomes our identity.</li>
<li>The warning signs your body may already be sending.</li>
<li>Why leadership today requires a different way of operating.</li>
<li>The questions every leader should ask before their body forces them to stop.</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Timestamps
00:00 Welcome to&nbsp;Leading You 00:48 The Push Through Trap 02:34 Burnout Signs and Statistics 07:24 Mental Load and Over-Functioning 09:18 When Your Body Forces You to Stop 10:05 Clarity Compass 11:20 My Wake-Up Call 14:09 Why We Need to Lead Differently 16:58 Questions Worth Asking Yourself 17:31 Final Thoughts
&nbsp;
Links:
Learn more about my group coaching program <a href="https://juliehyde.com.au/leadher-mastermind" data-href="https://juliehyde.com.au/leadher-mastermind">here</a> Get the Clarity Compass <a href="https://programs.juliehyde.com.au/programs/claritycompass/" data-href="https://programs.juliehyde.com.au/programs/claritycompass/">here</a>
&nbsp;
Connect with&nbsp;Julie:
LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/" data-href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/</a> Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/juliehydeleads/" data-href="https://www.instagram.com/juliehydeleads/"> @juliehydeleads</a> Website: <a href="https://juliehyde.com.au" data-href="https://juliehyde.com.au">https://juliehyde.com.au</a>

Is It Them or Is It You? The Leadership Blind Spot Destroying Team Connection with Kylie Paatsch

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