Summary: This conversation explores the profound journey of Dan Defenbaugh, a former law enforcement officer who faced trauma and addiction, leading him ultimately to try to take his own life. Through his story, we learn about the struggles first responders face with mental health, the impact on their families, and the hope found in recovery and ministry. Dan's transformation from despair to purpose serves as a beacon of hope for others in similar situations. In this conversation, Dan recounts a pivotal moment where he sensed God leading him to establish a support organization for first responders struggling with mental health issues. 

Resources & Links Mentioned:    

10-42project.org

 Shared Voices podcast (available on most streaming platforms) 

Shaunti.com

Summary: This conversation explores the profound journey of Dan Defenbaugh, a former law enforcement officer who faced trauma and addiction, leading him ultimately to try to take his own life. Through his story, we learn about the struggles first responders face with mental health, the impact on their families, and the hope found in recovery and ministry. Dan's transformation from despair to purpose serves as a beacon of hope for others in similar situations. In this conversation, Dan recounts a pivotal moment where he sensed God leading him to establish a support organization for first responders struggling with mental health issues.  Resources & Links Mentioned:     <a href="https://www.10-42project.org/">10-42project.org</a>  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL3NOEyRmfDH19UR109K8EGfOrEsSuSPDu"> Shared Voices</a> podcast (available on most streaming platforms)  <a href="https://shaunti.com/">Shaunti.com</a>

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

I Wish You Could Hear This

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You&rsquo;re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They&rsquo;re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

Summary: This conversation explores the profound journey of Dan Defenbaugh, a former law enforcement officer who faced trauma and addiction, leading him ultimately to try to take his own life. Through his story, we learn about the struggles first...

From Wrecked to Restored: Lessons from a First Responder with Dan Defenbaugh-Season 1 Episode 6

Summary:

In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn share their personal journey with MediShare, a healthcare sharing ministry, as they navigate rising medical costs and their own health challenges. They welcome Dr. Ian Day, Chief Medical Officer at MediShare, to unpack how the program works, its biblical roots, and the powerful sense of community that distinguishes it from traditional insurance. Together, they explore how MediShare integrates emotional and spiritual support into healthcare, emphasizing the role of prayer and the holistic vision of biblical wellness—caring for body, mind, and soul.

Links and Resources:

 About CCM | Christian Care Ministry

Medishare.com/serve

Or text “serve” to 70246

Summary:
In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn share their personal journey with MediShare, a healthcare sharing ministry, as they navigate rising medical costs and their own health challenges. They welcome Dr. Ian Day, Chief Medical Officer at MediShare, to unpack how the program works, its biblical roots, and the powerful sense of community that distinguishes it from traditional insurance. Together, they explore how MediShare integrates emotional and spiritual support into healthcare, emphasizing the role of prayer and the holistic vision of biblical wellness&mdash;caring for body, mind, and soul.
Links and Resources:
<a href="https://mychristiancare.org/our-ministry/">&nbsp;About CCM | Christian Care Ministry</a>
Medishare.com/serve
Or text &ldquo;serve&rdquo; to 70246

Episode 30: The Power of Community in Healthcare, with Dr. Ian Day 

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/de6fb035-4789-442c-9a70-b3b40116b60e/transcript

Summary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn explore the power of intentionality in building strong relationships, especially in marriage and parenting. Instead of aiming for perfection, they encourage listeners to simply focus on doing “the next right thing.” Drawing on research insights, they unpack how small, everyday wins create real momentum, fueling both hope and motivation. The conversation also touches on the crucial role of community, encouragement, and practical steps that foster deeper connection and long-term growth. 

Links and Resources: HBR article https://hbr.org/2011/05/the-power-of-small-wins

The Good News About Marriage 

The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages  

jointhekindnesschallenge.com

Summary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn explore the power of intentionality in building strong relationships, especially in marriage and parenting. Instead of aiming for perfection, they encourage listeners to simply focus on doing &ldquo;the next right thing.&rdquo; Drawing on research insights, they unpack how small, everyday wins create real momentum, fueling both hope and motivation. The conversation also touches on the crucial role of community, encouragement, and practical steps that foster deeper connection and long-term growth.&nbsp;
Links and Resources:&nbsp;HBR article <a href="https://hbr.org/2011/05/the-power-of-small-wins">https://hbr.org/2011/05/the-power-of-small-wins</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Good-News-About-Marriage-Discouraging/dp/1601425627/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Good News About Marriage&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Surprising-Secrets-Highly-Happy-Marriages/dp/1601421214/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages</a> &nbsp;
<a href="http://jointhekindnesschallenge.com/">jointhekindnesschallenge.com</a>

Episode 29: Small Wins: The Key to Relationship Success 

Summary:

In this inspiring and down-to-earth episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo, hosts of the One Extraordinary Marriage podcast, for a candid conversation about reigniting intimacy and connection in marriage. The DiLorenzos open up about their personal journey through seasons of challenge and renewal, including how the bold decision to start a 60-Day Sex Challenge reshaped their relationship.

Together, they unpack the vital role of intentionality, transparency, and vulnerability in marital intimacy, while offering practical steps any couple can take to grow closer. Drawing from their "Six Pillars of Intimacy"—emotional, physical, financial, spiritual, recreational, and sexual—they reveal how addressing each area can transform not just a couple’s sex life, but their whole marriage.

The episode also explores how everyday distractions, especially technology, can erode connection—and what it looks like to reclaim time and attention for each other. Whether you’re newly married or decades in, this conversation is full of actionable wisdom for building a more extraordinary marriage.

 

Links and Resources:

oneextraordinarymarriage.com

6pillarsofintimacy.com

intimacymastery.com

Vulnerability Blog Series Part 1

Vulnerability Blog Series Part 2

Vulnerability Blog Series Part 3

Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages Book on Amazon

Summary:
In this inspiring and down-to-earth episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo, hosts of the One Extraordinary Marriage podcast, for a candid conversation about reigniting intimacy and connection in marriage. The DiLorenzos open up about their personal journey through seasons of challenge and renewal, including how the bold decision to start a 60-Day Sex Challenge reshaped their relationship.
Together, they unpack the vital role of intentionality, transparency, and vulnerability in marital intimacy, while offering practical steps any couple can take to grow closer. Drawing from their "Six Pillars of Intimacy"&mdash;emotional, physical, financial, spiritual, recreational, and sexual&mdash;they reveal how addressing each area can transform not just a couple&rsquo;s sex life, but their whole marriage.
The episode also explores how everyday distractions, especially technology, can erode connection&mdash;and what it looks like to reclaim time and attention for each other. Whether you&rsquo;re newly married or decades in, this conversation is full of actionable wisdom for building a more extraordinary marriage.
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Links and Resources:
<a href="http://oneextraordinarymarriage.com">oneextraordinarymarriage.com</a>
<a href="http://6pillarsofintimacy.com">6pillarsofintimacy.com</a>
<a href="http://intimacymastery.com">intimacymastery.com</a>
<a href="https://shaunti.com/2025/10/why-vulnerability-is-the-best-risk-you-can-take-part-1/">Vulnerability Blog Series Part 1</a>
<a href="https://shaunti.com/2025/10/how-to-be-more-vulnerable-in-marriage-part-2/">Vulnerability Blog Series Part 2</a>
<a href="https://shaunti.com/2025/10/3-more-ways-to-invite-vulnerability-in-your-marriage-part-3/">Vulnerability Blog Series Part 3</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Surprising-Secrets-Highly-Happy-Marriages/dp/1601421214/?tag=shaunticom-20">Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages Book on Amazon</a>

From Wrecked to Restored: Lessons from a First Responder with Dan Defenbaugh-Season 1 Episode 6

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