Summary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn explore the power of intentionality in building strong relationships, especially in marriage and parenting. Instead of aiming for perfection, they encourage listeners to simply focus on doing “the next right thing.” Drawing on research insights, they unpack how small, everyday wins create real momentum, fueling both hope and motivation. The conversation also touches on the crucial role of community, encouragement, and practical steps that foster deeper connection and long-term growth. 

Links and Resources: HBR article https://hbr.org/2011/05/the-power-of-small-wins

The Good News About Marriage 

The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages  

jointhekindnesschallenge.com

Summary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn explore the power of intentionality in building strong relationships, especially in marriage and parenting. Instead of aiming for perfection, they encourage listeners to simply focus on doing &ldquo;the next right thing.&rdquo; Drawing on research insights, they unpack how small, everyday wins create real momentum, fueling both hope and motivation. The conversation also touches on the crucial role of community, encouragement, and practical steps that foster deeper connection and long-term growth.&nbsp;
Links and Resources:&nbsp;HBR article <a href="https://hbr.org/2011/05/the-power-of-small-wins">https://hbr.org/2011/05/the-power-of-small-wins</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Good-News-About-Marriage-Discouraging/dp/1601425627/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Good News About Marriage&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Surprising-Secrets-Highly-Happy-Marriages/dp/1601421214/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages</a> &nbsp;
<a href="http://jointhekindnesschallenge.com/">jointhekindnesschallenge.com</a>

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

I Wish You Could Hear This

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You&rsquo;re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They&rsquo;re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

Episode 29: Small Wins: The Key to Relationship Success 

Summary 

In this second part of our powerful two-part series, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn continue their heartfelt conversation with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, diving even deeper into the healing journey after sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. 

Building on the foundation of honesty and vulnerability discussed in Part 1, this episode unpacks what it takes to truly rebuild trust and intimacy in a relationship that’s been deeply wounded. The Raabsmiths offer practical, grace-filled guidance for couples, emphasizing the importance of structured healing, safe community, and sustained emotional connection. 

You’ll hear how couples can move forward, not just surviving, but genuinely thriving through intentional steps, compassionate support, and the redemptive work of God. This is a vital conversation for anyone longing to understand the path to restoration and hope. 

If you missed Part 1, be sure to go back and start there for the full picture of this profound dialogue. 

Resources: 

https://raabsmithteam.com/free 

Building True Intimacy 

https://www.amazon.com/Building-True-Intimacy-Creating-Connection/dp/B0CHCLTDZJ/?tag=shaunticom-20

Secrets of Sex and Marriage book  

For referral resources: secretsofsexandmarriage.com  

Summary&nbsp;
In this second part of our powerful two-part series, Shaunti and Jeff&nbsp;Feldhahn&nbsp;continue their heartfelt conversation with Matthew and Joanna&nbsp;Raabsmith, diving even deeper into the healing journey after sexual addiction and betrayal trauma.&nbsp;
Building on the foundation of honesty and vulnerability discussed in Part 1, this episode unpacks what it takes to truly rebuild trust and intimacy in a relationship&nbsp;that&rsquo;s&nbsp;been deeply wounded. The&nbsp;Raabsmiths&nbsp;offer practical, grace-filled guidance for couples, emphasizing the importance of structured healing, safe community, and sustained emotional connection.&nbsp;
You&rsquo;ll&nbsp;hear how couples can move forward, not just surviving, but genuinely thriving through intentional steps, compassionate support, and the redemptive work of God. This is a vital conversation for anyone longing to understand the path to restoration and hope.&nbsp;
If you missed Part 1, be sure to go back and start there for the full picture of this profound dialogue.&nbsp;
Resources:&nbsp;
<a href="https://raabsmithteam.com/free">https://raabsmithteam.com/free</a>&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/s?k=building+true+intimacy+dan+drake&amp;crid=42DMYM9AVDF9&amp;sprefix=Building+True%2Caps%2C154&amp;ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-expert-pd-ops-ranker_2_13">Building True Intimacy</a>&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Building-True-Intimacy-Creating-Connection/dp/B0CHCLTDZJ/?tag=shaunticom-20">https://www.amazon.com/Building-True-Intimacy-Creating-Connection/dp/B0CHCLTDZJ/?tag=shaunticom-20</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Secrets-Sex-Marriage-Surprises-Difference/dp/0764239554/?tag=shaunticom-20">Secrets of Sex and Marriage</a>&nbsp;book&nbsp;&nbsp;
For referral resources:&nbsp;<a href="http://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/">secretsofsexandmarriage.com</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;

Episode 34: The Courage to Heal After Betrayal, with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith – Part 2

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/2029f8c0-0023-458d-80a8-b3e70044ee08/transcript

Summary 

This episode is part one of a two-part conversation that we simply couldn’t keep to one week. !t’s that powerful! 

Dr. Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith to tackle one of the most painful but crucial topics in relationships: sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. With deep empathy and rich insight, the Raabsmiths, a couple who are both trained professionals and seasoned by personal experience, share the emotional and relational toll of betrayal and the courageous journey toward healing. 

They explore the critical roles of honesty, vulnerability, and structured support in recovery, highlighting how both partners contribute to rebuilding trust and intimacy. You'll hear practical, research-backed strategies for couples, as well as how the church can be a safe and redemptive place for those walking this road. 

Don’t miss this compelling conversation, and be sure to come back next week for Part 2, where we go even deeper into the healing process and the hopeful road forward. 

Resources: 

https://raabsmithteam.com/free 

Building True Intimacy 

Secrets of Sex and Marriage book  

For referral resources: secretsofsexandmarriage.com  

Summary&nbsp;
This episode is part one of a two-part conversation that we simply&nbsp;couldn&rsquo;t&nbsp;keep to one week.&nbsp;!t&rsquo;s&nbsp;that powerful!&nbsp;
Dr. Shaunti and Jeff&nbsp;Feldhahn&nbsp;sit down with Matthew and Joanna&nbsp;Raabsmith&nbsp;to tackle one of the most painful but crucial topics in relationships: sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. With deep empathy and rich insight, the&nbsp;Raabsmiths, a couple who are both trained professionals and seasoned by personal experience, share the emotional and relational toll of betrayal and the courageous journey toward healing.&nbsp;
They explore the critical roles of honesty, vulnerability, and structured support in recovery, highlighting how both partners contribute to rebuilding trust and intimacy.&nbsp;You'll&nbsp;hear practical, research-backed strategies for couples, as well as how the church can be a safe and redemptive place for those&nbsp;walking&nbsp;this road.&nbsp;
Don&rsquo;t miss this compelling conversation, and be sure to come back next week for Part 2, where we go even deeper into the healing process and the hopeful road forward.&nbsp;
Resources:&nbsp;
<a href="https://raabsmithteam.com/free">https://raabsmithteam.com/free</a>&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/s?k=building+true+intimacy+dan+drake&amp;crid=42DMYM9AVDF9&amp;sprefix=Building+True%2Caps%2C154&amp;ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-expert-pd-ops-ranker_2_13">Building True Intimacy</a>&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Secrets-Sex-Marriage-Surprises-Difference/dp/0764239554/?tag=shaunticom-20">Secrets of Sex and Marriage</a>&nbsp;book&nbsp;&nbsp;
For referral resources:&nbsp;<a href="http://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/">secretsofsexandmarriage.com</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;

Episode 33: The Courage to Heal After Betrayal, with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith – Part 1 

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/71374869-8601-4fac-8c9b-b3de016423bb/transcript

Summary:

In this insightful episode Jeff and Shaunti, along with Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, delve into the deeper layers of love languages, unpacking not only the five primary categories but also the nuanced dialects within each one. With warmth and expertise, they explore how the concept of the “love tank”—our emotional reservoir—impacts relationships and why empathy is the key to truly speaking each other's language. The conversation highlights practical tools like the Five Love Languages Assessment and the “My Heart Chart,” offering listeners accessible ways to foster connection. Through real-life stories and actionable guidance, the Parrotts empower couples to bridge communication gaps and build lasting intimacy—one intentional act of love at a time. 

Links and Resources

https://www.amazon.com/Love-Language-That-Matters-Most/dp/0802438903/?tag=shaunticom-20

For assessments and more details: www.5lovelanguages.com

https://www.myheartchart.com/

LesAndLeslie.com

Social media- IG: @Lesandleslie; X: @LesParrott; Facebook: @Lesandleslieparrott

Summary:
In this insightful episode Jeff and Shaunti, along with Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, delve into the deeper layers of love languages, unpacking not only the five primary categories but also the nuanced dialects within each one. With warmth and expertise, they explore how the concept of the &ldquo;love tank&rdquo;&mdash;our emotional reservoir&mdash;impacts relationships and why empathy is the key to truly speaking each other's language. The conversation highlights practical tools like the Five Love Languages Assessment and the &ldquo;My Heart Chart,&rdquo; offering listeners accessible ways to foster connection. Through real-life stories and actionable guidance, the Parrotts empower couples to bridge communication gaps and build lasting intimacy&mdash;one intentional act of love at a time.&nbsp;
Links and Resources
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Love-Language-That-Matters-Most/dp/0802438903/?tag=shaunticom-20">https://www.amazon.com/Love-Language-That-Matters-Most/dp/0802438903/?tag=shaunticom-20</a>
For assessments and more details: <a href="http://www.5lovelanguages.com/">www.5lovelanguages.com</a>
<a href="https://www.myheartchart.com/">https://www.myheartchart.com/</a>
<a href="http://lesandleslie.com/">LesAndLeslie.com</a>
Social media- IG: @Lesandleslie; X: @LesParrott; Facebook: @Lesandleslieparrott

Episode 32: The Love Language That Matters Most, with Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott 

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/38403e13-fadc-4518-9730-b3d101109ffa/transcript

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