Summary: 

In this engaging podcast episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn welcome Jonathan and Wendy Hoover to discuss essential insights into marriage. They explore the Hoovers' personal journey through conflict and resolution, emphasizing the importance of understanding the underlying motivations in disagreements. The conversation also highlights three critical factors to consider before marriage, focusing on faith, character, and the commitment required for a successful partnership.

Links and Resources:

Dr Hoover's Website

Dr Hoover's Podcast

Stress Fracture Book on Amazon

Summary:&nbsp;
In this engaging podcast episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn welcome Jonathan and Wendy Hoover to discuss essential insights into marriage. They explore the Hoovers' personal journey through conflict and resolution, emphasizing the importance of understanding the underlying motivations in disagreements. The conversation also highlights three critical factors to consider before marriage, focusing on faith, character, and the commitment required for a successful partnership.
Links and Resources:
<a href="https://drjonathanhoover.com/">Dr Hoover's Website</a>
<a href="https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLquQNDecCXXMeO7u6D7DQMlUB81R_tvsc&amp;si=4CH1RSNOdqNzRiIt">Dr Hoover's Podcast</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Stress-Fracture-Ultimate-Beating-Burnout/dp/076424342X/?tag=shaunticom-20">Stress Fracture Book on Amazon</a>

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

I Wish You Could Hear This

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You&rsquo;re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They&rsquo;re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

Episode 26: Uncover the 3 Predictors for Marriages that Make It, with Jonathan and Wendy Hoover

Summary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn explore the power of intentionality in building strong relationships, especially in marriage and parenting. Instead of aiming for perfection, they encourage listeners to simply focus on doing “the next right thing.” Drawing on research insights, they unpack how small, everyday wins create real momentum, fueling both hope and motivation. The conversation also touches on the crucial role of community, encouragement, and practical steps that foster deeper connection and long-term growth. 

Links and Resources: HBR article https://hbr.org/2011/05/the-power-of-small-wins

The Good News About Marriage 

The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages  

jointhekindnesschallenge.com

Summary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn explore the power of intentionality in building strong relationships, especially in marriage and parenting. Instead of aiming for perfection, they encourage listeners to simply focus on doing &ldquo;the next right thing.&rdquo; Drawing on research insights, they unpack how small, everyday wins create real momentum, fueling both hope and motivation. The conversation also touches on the crucial role of community, encouragement, and practical steps that foster deeper connection and long-term growth.&nbsp;
Links and Resources:&nbsp;HBR article <a href="https://hbr.org/2011/05/the-power-of-small-wins">https://hbr.org/2011/05/the-power-of-small-wins</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Good-News-About-Marriage-Discouraging/dp/1601425627/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Good News About Marriage&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Surprising-Secrets-Highly-Happy-Marriages/dp/1601421214/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages</a> &nbsp;
<a href="http://jointhekindnesschallenge.com/">jointhekindnesschallenge.com</a>

Episode 29: Small Wins: The Key to Relationship Success 

Summary:

In this inspiring and down-to-earth episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo, hosts of the One Extraordinary Marriage podcast, for a candid conversation about reigniting intimacy and connection in marriage. The DiLorenzos open up about their personal journey through seasons of challenge and renewal, including how the bold decision to start a 60-Day Sex Challenge reshaped their relationship.

Together, they unpack the vital role of intentionality, transparency, and vulnerability in marital intimacy, while offering practical steps any couple can take to grow closer. Drawing from their "Six Pillars of Intimacy"—emotional, physical, financial, spiritual, recreational, and sexual—they reveal how addressing each area can transform not just a couple’s sex life, but their whole marriage.

The episode also explores how everyday distractions, especially technology, can erode connection—and what it looks like to reclaim time and attention for each other. Whether you’re newly married or decades in, this conversation is full of actionable wisdom for building a more extraordinary marriage.

 

Links and Resources:

oneextraordinarymarriage.com

6pillarsofintimacy.com

intimacymastery.com

Vulnerability Blog Series Part 1

Vulnerability Blog Series Part 2

Vulnerability Blog Series Part 3

Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages Book on Amazon

Summary:
In this inspiring and down-to-earth episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo, hosts of the One Extraordinary Marriage podcast, for a candid conversation about reigniting intimacy and connection in marriage. The DiLorenzos open up about their personal journey through seasons of challenge and renewal, including how the bold decision to start a 60-Day Sex Challenge reshaped their relationship.
Together, they unpack the vital role of intentionality, transparency, and vulnerability in marital intimacy, while offering practical steps any couple can take to grow closer. Drawing from their "Six Pillars of Intimacy"&mdash;emotional, physical, financial, spiritual, recreational, and sexual&mdash;they reveal how addressing each area can transform not just a couple&rsquo;s sex life, but their whole marriage.
The episode also explores how everyday distractions, especially technology, can erode connection&mdash;and what it looks like to reclaim time and attention for each other. Whether you&rsquo;re newly married or decades in, this conversation is full of actionable wisdom for building a more extraordinary marriage.
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Links and Resources:
<a href="http://oneextraordinarymarriage.com">oneextraordinarymarriage.com</a>
<a href="http://6pillarsofintimacy.com">6pillarsofintimacy.com</a>
<a href="http://intimacymastery.com">intimacymastery.com</a>
<a href="https://shaunti.com/2025/10/why-vulnerability-is-the-best-risk-you-can-take-part-1/">Vulnerability Blog Series Part 1</a>
<a href="https://shaunti.com/2025/10/how-to-be-more-vulnerable-in-marriage-part-2/">Vulnerability Blog Series Part 2</a>
<a href="https://shaunti.com/2025/10/3-more-ways-to-invite-vulnerability-in-your-marriage-part-3/">Vulnerability Blog Series Part 3</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Surprising-Secrets-Highly-Happy-Marriages/dp/1601421214/?tag=shaunticom-20">Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages Book on Amazon</a>

Episode 28: The Power of Vulnerability in Relationships, with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo 

Summary:

In this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn explore the complexities of anger, challenging the conventional wisdom that venting is a healthy way to manage it. They discuss research findings that suggest venting can actually exacerbate anger and aggression. Instead, they advocate for techniques that help regulate emotions and promote calmness, emphasizing the importance of understanding anger as a signal of emotional pain. The discussion includes practical strategies for managing anger in relationships and highlights the significance of redirecting anger for healthier interactions. 

Links and Resources:

The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages on Amazon

Bushman, B. J. (2002). Does venting anger feed or extinguish the flame? Catharsis, rumination, distraction, anger, and aggressive responding. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 28(6), 724–731. Link to article PDF.

Kjærvik, S. L., & Bushman, B. J. (2024). A meta‑analytic review of anger management activities that increase or decrease arousal: What fuels or douses rage? Clinical Psychology Review, 109, 102414. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2024.102414

Ephesians 4:26 – “In your anger, do not sin.”

Summary:
In this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn explore the complexities of anger, challenging the conventional wisdom that venting is a healthy way to manage it. They discuss research findings that suggest venting can actually exacerbate anger and aggression. Instead, they advocate for techniques that help regulate emotions and promote calmness, emphasizing the importance of understanding anger as a signal of emotional pain. The discussion includes practical strategies for managing anger in relationships and highlights the significance of redirecting anger for healthier interactions.&nbsp;
Links and Resources:
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Surprising-Secrets-Highly-Happy-Marriages/dp/1601421214/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages on Amazon</a>
Bushman, B. J. (2002). Does venting anger feed or extinguish the flame? Catharsis, rumination, distraction, anger, and aggressive responding. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 28(6), 724&ndash;731.<a href="https://faculty.washington.edu/jdb/345/345%20Articles/bushman%282002%29.pdf?utm_source=chatgpt.com"> Link to article PDF.</a>
Kj&aelig;rvik, S. L., &amp; Bushman, B. J. (2024). A meta‑analytic review of anger management activities that increase or decrease arousal: What fuels or douses rage? Clinical Psychology Review, 109, 102414.<a href="https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2024.102414"> https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2024.102414</a>
Ephesians 4:26 &ndash; &ldquo;In your anger, do not sin.&rdquo;

Episode 26: Uncover the 3 Predictors for Marriages that Make It, with Jonathan and Wendy Hoover

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