Summary: In this podcast episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn explore the complexities of communication and conflict in relationships, particularly focusing on the differences between men and women. They discuss a viral clip from a previous podcast that sparked significant conversation about how men process emotions and the importance of reassurance in relationships. The episode emphasizes the need for understanding and grace between partners, as well as the role of introspection and emotional processing in navigating conflicts.  

Links and Resources: Ryan Miller Reel on Instagram       Ryan Miller Podcast

 

Summary:&nbsp;In this podcast episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn explore the complexities of communication and conflict in relationships, particularly focusing on the differences between men and women. They discuss a viral clip from a previous podcast that sparked significant conversation about how men process emotions and the importance of reassurance in relationships. The episode emphasizes the need for understanding and grace between partners, as well as the role of introspection and emotional processing in navigating conflicts. &nbsp;
Links and Resources:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/reel/DJpRuxYy4NG/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link">Ryan Miller Reel on Instagram&nbsp; </a>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;<a href="https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-ccbfk-18aa17b">Ryan Miller Podcast</a>
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Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

I Wish You Could Hear This

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You&rsquo;re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They&rsquo;re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

Episode 25: Blue Shirt Guy

We all want a happy, healthy marriage. But sometimes it's easier to see what our spouse needs to change than to recognize what we might need to work on ourselves. And when we're feeling hurt or frustrated, believing the best of our spouse isn't always our first instinct!

In Part 2 of this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff continue exploring the six practical steps they've discovered through their research on highly happy marriages. They discuss why it's so important to recognize our spouse's good intentions (even when their actions don't quite hit the mark!), how our own insecurities can affect the way we treat each other, and why taking responsibility for our own actions can make such a difference.

They also share some personal stories from their own marriage, fascinating insights about forgiveness, and what they've learned through their research on the power of kindness—including why we may not be nearly as kind as we think we are.

The encouraging news? A better marriage doesn't require a perfect spouse—or a perfect you. Sometimes it starts with a willingness to look at things differently, extend a little more grace, and choose kindness even when it's difficult.

Resources
For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn
The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages by Shaunti Feldhahn
The 30-Day Kindness Challenge — Learn more

Invite Shaunti to Speak

Would you like to explore having Shaunti speak at your next event? Whether you're planning a marriage event, women's gathering, retreat, or conference, we'd love to connect! Email speaking@shaunti.com or visit shaunti.com/speaking to learn more.

We all want a happy, healthy marriage. But sometimes it's easier to see what our spouse needs to change than to recognize what we might need to work on ourselves. And when we're feeling hurt or frustrated, believing the best of our spouse isn't always our first instinct!
In Part 2 of this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff continue exploring the six practical steps they've discovered through their research on highly happy marriages. They discuss why it's so important to recognize our spouse's good intentions (even when their actions don't quite hit the mark!), how our own insecurities can affect the way we treat each other, and why taking responsibility for our own actions can make such a difference.
They also share some personal stories from their own marriage, fascinating insights about forgiveness, and what they've learned through their research on the power of kindness&mdash;including why we may not be nearly as kind as we think we are.
The encouraging news? A better marriage doesn't require a perfect spouse&mdash;or a perfect you. Sometimes it starts with a willingness to look at things differently, extend a little more grace, and choose kindness even when it's difficult.
Resources
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn</li>
<li aria-level="1">The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages by Shaunti Feldhahn</li>
<li aria-level="1">The 30-Day Kindness Challenge &mdash;<a href="https://jointhekindnesschallenge.com/"> Learn more</a></li>
</ul>
Invite Shaunti to Speak
Would you like to explore having Shaunti speak at your next event? Whether you're planning a marriage event, women's gathering, retreat, or conference, we'd love to connect! Email speaking@shaunti.com or visit shaunti.com/speaking to learn more.

6 Steps to Better Your Marriage (Part 2) - Episode 53

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/55327551-d84e-42fd-b8f6-b4f80162fc6b/transcript

Summary

Most of us can probably think of something we'd like to change in our marriage. Maybe we keep having the same argument, feel disconnected after years of focusing on work or the kids, or simply wish we had more fun together. But what if making our marriages better doesn't have to be as complicated as we sometimes think?

In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff share the first three of six practical steps they've discovered through their research on highly happy marriages. They explore why we need to learn from couples who are doing marriage well, how small habits practiced consistently can make a surprisingly big difference, and why giving ourselves and our spouses grace is so important as we learn and grow.

Along the way, they share fascinating findings about the power of verbal affirmation, why celebrating small wins matters, and how a simple shift in the way we view our marriage can change the way we approach challenges.

The encouraging news? You don't have to overhaul your entire marriage overnight. Sometimes the biggest changes begin with one small thing you choose to do differently today—and then keep doing tomorrow.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: Small Changes That Can Improve Your Marriage
01:30 Step 1: Learn From Marriage Role Models
04:44 What Shaunti and Jeff Discovered Studying Happy Couples
06:55 The Surprising Power of Saying "Thank You"
09:24 Why We Need Real-Life Marriage Mentors
13:16 Step 2: Practice Small Habits Consistently
15:06 Why Little Things Matter More Than Grand Gestures
16:57 How Consistency Creates Lasting Change
19:22 The Power of Small Wins
21:52 Noticing and Affirming Your Spouse's Efforts
23:47 Step 3: Give Yourself and Your Spouse Grace
27:28 How Small Habits Can Change the Way You See Yourself
29:33 Shifting From an "Eject Button" to a Lifelong Mindset
32:36 Why Happy Couples Learn to Let Things Go
33:31 The Biggest Takeaway: Start With One Small Thing

Resources

The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages by Shaunti Feldhahn

For Women Onlyby Shaunti Feldhahn

For Men Onlyby Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn

Invite Shaunti to Speak

Would you like to explore having Shaunti speak at your next event? Whether you're planning a marriage event, women's gathering, retreat, or conference, we'd love to connect! Email speaking@shaunti.com or visit shaunti.com/speaking to learn more.

Summary
Most of us can probably think of something we'd like to change in our marriage. Maybe we keep having the same argument, feel disconnected after years of focusing on work or the kids, or simply wish we had more fun together. But what if making our marriages better doesn't have to be as complicated as we sometimes think?
In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff share the first three of six practical steps they've discovered through their research on highly happy marriages. They explore why we need to learn from couples who are doing marriage well, how small habits practiced consistently can make a surprisingly big difference, and why giving ourselves and our spouses grace is so important as we learn and grow.
Along the way, they share fascinating findings about the power of verbal affirmation, why celebrating small wins matters, and how a simple shift in the way we view our marriage can change the way we approach challenges.
The encouraging news? You don't have to overhaul your entire marriage overnight. Sometimes the biggest changes begin with one small thing you choose to do differently today&mdash;and then keep doing tomorrow.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction: Small Changes That Can Improve Your Marriage 01:30 Step 1: Learn From Marriage Role Models 04:44 What Shaunti and Jeff Discovered Studying Happy Couples 06:55 The Surprising Power of Saying "Thank You" 09:24 Why We Need Real-Life Marriage Mentors 13:16 Step 2: Practice Small Habits Consistently 15:06 Why Little Things Matter More Than Grand Gestures 16:57 How Consistency Creates Lasting Change 19:22 The Power of Small Wins 21:52 Noticing and Affirming Your Spouse's Efforts 23:47 Step 3: Give Yourself and Your Spouse Grace 27:28 How Small Habits Can Change the Way You See Yourself 29:33 Shifting From an "Eject Button" to a Lifelong Mindset 32:36 Why Happy Couples Learn to Let Things Go 33:31 The Biggest Takeaway: Start With One Small Thing
Resources
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Surprising-Secrets-Highly-Happy-Marriages/dp/1601421214/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages</a> by Shaunti Feldhahn
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Women-Only-Revised-Updated-About/dp/1601424442/?tag=shaunticom-20">For Women Only</a> by Shaunti Feldhahn
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Men-Only-Revised-Updated-Straightforward/dp/1601424450/?tag=shaunticom-20">For Men Only</a> by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn
Invite Shaunti to Speak
Would you like to explore having Shaunti speak at your next event? Whether you're planning a marriage event, women's gathering, retreat, or conference, we'd love to connect! Email speaking@shaunti.com or visit shaunti.com/speaking to learn more.

6 Steps to Better Your Marriage (Part 1) - Episode 52

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/f3bfdeb5-785d-486e-8996-b4ea0112a416/transcript

If you’re a Christian parent, you’ve probably heard the discouraging statistic that most kids raised in the church will walk away from their faith after high school. But is that actually true?

 

In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff unpack recent research from Pew Research Center and Barna that paints a much more hopeful picture. They share what the data actually says about young adults and faith, why a faith-filled home makes a meaningful difference, and the surprising trends happening among Gen Z and Millennials.

 

They also talk about what parents can do to help their kids develop a faith of their own—and offer encouragement for parents whose children have already stepped away. Because while parents can model faith, create space for honest questions, and pray, they can’t force a change in someone’s heart. And no matter where your child is today, their story isn’t over.

 

Resources

New Barna Data: Young Adults Lead a Resurgence in Church Attendance, Sep 2, 2025

https://www.barna.com/research/young-adults-lead-resurgence-in-church-attendance/

 

New Research: Belief in Jesus Rises, Fueled by Younger Adult, Apr 7, 2025

https://www.barna.com/research/belief-in-jesus-rises/

 

Pew Research: Why Do Some Americans Leave Their Religion While Others Stay?

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If you&rsquo;re a Christian parent, you&rsquo;ve probably heard the discouraging statistic that most kids raised in the church will walk away from their faith after high school. But is that actually true?
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In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff unpack recent research from Pew Research Center and Barna that paints a much more hopeful picture. They share what the data actually says about young adults and faith, why a faith-filled home makes a meaningful difference, and the surprising trends happening among Gen Z and Millennials.
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They also talk about what parents can do to help their kids develop a faith of their own&mdash;and offer encouragement for parents whose children have already stepped away. Because while parents can model faith, create space for honest questions, and pray, they can&rsquo;t force a change in someone&rsquo;s heart. And no matter where your child is today, their story isn&rsquo;t over.
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Resources
New Barna Data: Young Adults Lead a Resurgence in Church Attendance, Sep 2, 2025
<a href="https://www.barna.com/research/young-adults-lead-resurgence-in-church-attendance/">https://www.barna.com/research/young-adults-lead-resurgence-in-church-attendance/</a>
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New Research: Belief in Jesus Rises, Fueled by Younger Adult, Apr 7, 2025
<a href="https://www.barna.com/research/belief-in-jesus-rises/">https://www.barna.com/research/belief-in-jesus-rises/</a>
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Pew Research: Why Do Some Americans Leave Their Religion While Others Stay?
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Are Christian Kids Really Leaving the Church? The Data May Surprise You - Episode 51

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/35facedf-d031-4e43-9e7e-b4da013eb048/transcript

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