Summary: 

 In this conversation, Jeff and Shaunti with guest Nate Graybill discuss the pressing mental health crisis and the vital role the church can play in recovery. They explore Nate's personal journey with addiction, the importance of authentic community, and how churches can build effective recovery programs that go beyond traditional counseling. They discuss the transformative power of recovery groups within the church, emphasizing the importance of authenticity, community, and the biblical foundations of healing. They explore how these groups can serve as a starting point for individuals seeking support and spiritual growth, and how they can effectively equip lay leaders to guide others through their struggles.  

Resources and Links Mentioned:

https://www.regenerationrecovery.org/

https://www.watermarkresources.com/

www.thechurchcares.com

When Hurting People Come To Church on Amazon

 

Summary:&nbsp;
&nbsp;In this conversation,&nbsp;Jeff and&nbsp;Shaunti&nbsp;with guest&nbsp;Nate&nbsp;Graybill&nbsp;discuss the pressing mental health crisis and the vital role the church can play in recovery.&nbsp;They explore Nate's personal journey with addiction, the importance of authentic community, and how churches can build effective recovery programs that go beyond traditional counseling.&nbsp;They&nbsp;discuss the transformative power of recovery groups within the church, emphasizing the importance of authenticity, community, and the biblical foundations of healing. They explore how these groups can serve as a starting point for individuals seeking support and spiritual growth, and how they can effectively equip lay leaders to guide others through their struggles.&nbsp;&nbsp;
Resources and Links Mentioned:
<a href="https://www.regenerationrecovery.org/">https://www.regenerationrecovery.org/</a>
<a href="https://www.watermarkresources.com/">https://www.watermarkresources.com/</a>
<a href="http://www.thechurchcares.com">www.thechurchcares.com</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/When-Hurting-People-Come-Church/dp/B0DYYQ36XP/?tag=shaunticom-20">When Hurting People Come To Church on Amazon</a>
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Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

I Wish You Could Hear This

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You&rsquo;re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They&rsquo;re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

Episode 24: How brokenness, addiction, and authenticity launched a thriving recovery ministry, with Nate Graybill

Summary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn explore the power of intentionality in building strong relationships, especially in marriage and parenting. Instead of aiming for perfection, they encourage listeners to simply focus on doing “the next right thing.” Drawing on research insights, they unpack how small, everyday wins create real momentum, fueling both hope and motivation. The conversation also touches on the crucial role of community, encouragement, and practical steps that foster deeper connection and long-term growth. 

Links and Resources: HBR article https://hbr.org/2011/05/the-power-of-small-wins

The Good News About Marriage 

The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages  

jointhekindnesschallenge.com

Summary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn explore the power of intentionality in building strong relationships, especially in marriage and parenting. Instead of aiming for perfection, they encourage listeners to simply focus on doing &ldquo;the next right thing.&rdquo; Drawing on research insights, they unpack how small, everyday wins create real momentum, fueling both hope and motivation. The conversation also touches on the crucial role of community, encouragement, and practical steps that foster deeper connection and long-term growth.&nbsp;
Links and Resources:&nbsp;HBR article <a href="https://hbr.org/2011/05/the-power-of-small-wins">https://hbr.org/2011/05/the-power-of-small-wins</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Good-News-About-Marriage-Discouraging/dp/1601425627/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Good News About Marriage&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Surprising-Secrets-Highly-Happy-Marriages/dp/1601421214/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages</a> &nbsp;
<a href="http://jointhekindnesschallenge.com/">jointhekindnesschallenge.com</a>

Episode 29: Small Wins: The Key to Relationship Success 

Summary:

In this inspiring and down-to-earth episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo, hosts of the One Extraordinary Marriage podcast, for a candid conversation about reigniting intimacy and connection in marriage. The DiLorenzos open up about their personal journey through seasons of challenge and renewal, including how the bold decision to start a 60-Day Sex Challenge reshaped their relationship.

Together, they unpack the vital role of intentionality, transparency, and vulnerability in marital intimacy, while offering practical steps any couple can take to grow closer. Drawing from their "Six Pillars of Intimacy"—emotional, physical, financial, spiritual, recreational, and sexual—they reveal how addressing each area can transform not just a couple’s sex life, but their whole marriage.

The episode also explores how everyday distractions, especially technology, can erode connection—and what it looks like to reclaim time and attention for each other. Whether you’re newly married or decades in, this conversation is full of actionable wisdom for building a more extraordinary marriage.

 

Links and Resources:

oneextraordinarymarriage.com

6pillarsofintimacy.com

intimacymastery.com

Vulnerability Blog Series Part 1

Vulnerability Blog Series Part 2

Vulnerability Blog Series Part 3

Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages Book on Amazon

Summary:
In this inspiring and down-to-earth episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo, hosts of the One Extraordinary Marriage podcast, for a candid conversation about reigniting intimacy and connection in marriage. The DiLorenzos open up about their personal journey through seasons of challenge and renewal, including how the bold decision to start a 60-Day Sex Challenge reshaped their relationship.
Together, they unpack the vital role of intentionality, transparency, and vulnerability in marital intimacy, while offering practical steps any couple can take to grow closer. Drawing from their "Six Pillars of Intimacy"&mdash;emotional, physical, financial, spiritual, recreational, and sexual&mdash;they reveal how addressing each area can transform not just a couple&rsquo;s sex life, but their whole marriage.
The episode also explores how everyday distractions, especially technology, can erode connection&mdash;and what it looks like to reclaim time and attention for each other. Whether you&rsquo;re newly married or decades in, this conversation is full of actionable wisdom for building a more extraordinary marriage.
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Links and Resources:
<a href="http://oneextraordinarymarriage.com">oneextraordinarymarriage.com</a>
<a href="http://6pillarsofintimacy.com">6pillarsofintimacy.com</a>
<a href="http://intimacymastery.com">intimacymastery.com</a>
<a href="https://shaunti.com/2025/10/why-vulnerability-is-the-best-risk-you-can-take-part-1/">Vulnerability Blog Series Part 1</a>
<a href="https://shaunti.com/2025/10/how-to-be-more-vulnerable-in-marriage-part-2/">Vulnerability Blog Series Part 2</a>
<a href="https://shaunti.com/2025/10/3-more-ways-to-invite-vulnerability-in-your-marriage-part-3/">Vulnerability Blog Series Part 3</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Surprising-Secrets-Highly-Happy-Marriages/dp/1601421214/?tag=shaunticom-20">Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages Book on Amazon</a>

Episode 28: The Power of Vulnerability in Relationships, with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo 

Summary:

In this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn explore the complexities of anger, challenging the conventional wisdom that venting is a healthy way to manage it. They discuss research findings that suggest venting can actually exacerbate anger and aggression. Instead, they advocate for techniques that help regulate emotions and promote calmness, emphasizing the importance of understanding anger as a signal of emotional pain. The discussion includes practical strategies for managing anger in relationships and highlights the significance of redirecting anger for healthier interactions. 

Links and Resources:

The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages on Amazon

Bushman, B. J. (2002). Does venting anger feed or extinguish the flame? Catharsis, rumination, distraction, anger, and aggressive responding. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 28(6), 724–731. Link to article PDF.

Kjærvik, S. L., & Bushman, B. J. (2024). A meta‑analytic review of anger management activities that increase or decrease arousal: What fuels or douses rage? Clinical Psychology Review, 109, 102414. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2024.102414

Ephesians 4:26 – “In your anger, do not sin.”

Summary:
In this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn explore the complexities of anger, challenging the conventional wisdom that venting is a healthy way to manage it. They discuss research findings that suggest venting can actually exacerbate anger and aggression. Instead, they advocate for techniques that help regulate emotions and promote calmness, emphasizing the importance of understanding anger as a signal of emotional pain. The discussion includes practical strategies for managing anger in relationships and highlights the significance of redirecting anger for healthier interactions.&nbsp;
Links and Resources:
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Surprising-Secrets-Highly-Happy-Marriages/dp/1601421214/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages on Amazon</a>
Bushman, B. J. (2002). Does venting anger feed or extinguish the flame? Catharsis, rumination, distraction, anger, and aggressive responding. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 28(6), 724&ndash;731.<a href="https://faculty.washington.edu/jdb/345/345%20Articles/bushman%282002%29.pdf?utm_source=chatgpt.com"> Link to article PDF.</a>
Kj&aelig;rvik, S. L., &amp; Bushman, B. J. (2024). A meta‑analytic review of anger management activities that increase or decrease arousal: What fuels or douses rage? Clinical Psychology Review, 109, 102414.<a href="https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2024.102414"> https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2024.102414</a>
Ephesians 4:26 &ndash; &ldquo;In your anger, do not sin.&rdquo;

Episode 24: How brokenness, addiction, and authenticity launched a thriving recovery ministry, with Nate Graybill

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