Summary:

In this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn, with guests Pastor Des Wadsworth, and Lenny Nasca, LCSW discuss the pressing mental health crisis facing churches today. They explore the challenges pastors face in providing support to those in need, the importance of lay counseling programs, and how to effectively recruit and retain volunteers for these initiatives. The discussion emphasizes the need for compassionate care and the structured approach necessary to navigate the complexities of counseling within a church setting.

Resources and Links Mentioned:

www.thechurchcares.com

When Hurting People Come To Church

 

Summary:
In this conversation, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn, with guests Pastor Des Wadsworth, and Lenny Nasca, LCSW discuss the pressing mental health crisis facing churches today. They explore the challenges pastors face in providing support to those in need, the importance of lay counseling programs, and how to effectively recruit and retain volunteers for these initiatives. The discussion emphasizes the need for compassionate care and the structured approach necessary to navigate the complexities of counseling within a church setting.
Resources and Links Mentioned:
<a href="http://www.thechurchcares.com">www.thechurchcares.com</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/When-Hurting-People-Come-Church/dp/B0DYYQ36XP/?tag=shaunticom-20">When Hurting People Come To Church</a>
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Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

I Wish You Could Hear This

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You&rsquo;re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They&rsquo;re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

Episode 22: The Key to Helping the Hurting is NOT What Church Leaders Think, with Des Wadsworth and Leonard Nasca, LCSW 

Summary: 

Parents naturally want to protect their kids from disappointment and failure—but sometimes our help can actually get in the way of their growth. In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff talk about the growing trend of “snowplow parenting,” where parents try to clear every obstacle out of their child’s path. Through stories, research insights, and practical wisdom, they explore how well-meaning parents can unintentionally prevent their kids from learning resilience and responsibility. You’ll hear why allowing natural consequences can actually be a gift—and how to support your kids without removing every challenge in front of them. 

For Parents Only

https://shaunti.com/2024/05/how-to-stop-being-a-snowplow-parent-part-1/

https://shaunti.com/2024/05/how-to-stop-being-a-snowplow-parent-part-2/

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/16/style/snowplow-parenting-scandal.html

Summary:&nbsp;
Parents naturally want to protect their kids from disappointment and failure&mdash;but sometimes our help can&nbsp;actually get&nbsp;in the way of their growth. In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff talk about the growing trend of&nbsp;&ldquo;snowplow parenting,&rdquo;&nbsp;where parents try to clear every obstacle out of their child&rsquo;s path. Through stories, research insights, and practical wisdom, they explore how well-meaning parents can unintentionally prevent their kids from learning resilience and responsibility.&nbsp;You&rsquo;ll hear why allowing natural consequences can actually be a gift&mdash;and how to support your kids without removing every challenge in front of them.&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Parents-Only-Getting-Inside-Head/dp/1590529324/?tag=shaunticom-20">For Parents Only</a>
<a href="https://shaunti.com/2024/05/how-to-stop-being-a-snowplow-parent-part-1/">https://shaunti.com/2024/05/how-to-stop-being-a-snowplow-parent-part-1/</a>
<a href="https://shaunti.com/2024/05/how-to-stop-being-a-snowplow-parent-part-2/">https://shaunti.com/2024/05/how-to-stop-being-a-snowplow-parent-part-2/</a>
<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/16/style/snowplow-parenting-scandal.html">https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/16/style/snowplow-parenting-scandal.html</a>

Are You Snowplow Parenting? When Helping Your Kids Too Much Hurts Them - Episode 37

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/996185f2-f175-4399-8df2-b40f01888693/transcript

Summary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn unpack one of the most overlooked sources of conflict in marriage: the very different ways men and women process thoughts and emotions. Drawing on two decades of research, they explore why many women experience ongoing “open windows,” lingering worries or mental tabs that are hard to close and why many men may not even realize those windows are still open. 

With practical insight and empathy for both sides, Shaunti and Jeff explain the brain-based and physiological differences that shape how we handle stress and disagreement. Most importantly, they offer simple, powerful ways spouses can respond in moments of tension, turning misunderstanding into connection. If you’ve ever felt like you and your spouse were missing each other emotionally, this conversation will give you fresh clarity and practical tools to build deeper understanding. 

Resources: Gur, R. C., & Gur, R. E. (2017). Complementarity of sex differences in brain and behavior: From laterality to multimodal neuroimaging. Journal of Neuroscience Research, 95(1), 189–199. https://doi.org/10.1002/jnr.2383 

FOR MEN ONLY 

FOR WOMEN ONLY  

 

Summary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff&nbsp;Feldhahn&nbsp;unpack one of the most overlooked sources of conflict in marriage: the&nbsp;very different&nbsp;ways men and women process thoughts and emotions. Drawing on two decades of research, they explore why many women experience ongoing &ldquo;open windows,&rdquo; lingering worries or mental tabs that are hard to close and why many men may not even realize those windows are still open.&nbsp;
With practical insight and empathy for both sides, Shaunti and Jeff explain the brain-based and physiological differences that shape how we handle stress and disagreement. Most importantly, they offer simple, powerful ways spouses can respond in moments of tension, turning misunderstanding into connection. If you&rsquo;ve ever felt like you and your spouse were missing each other emotionally, this conversation will give you fresh clarity and practical tools to build deeper understanding.&nbsp;
Resources:&nbsp;Gur, R. C., &amp; Gur, R. E. (2017). Complementarity of sex differences in brain and behavior: From laterality to multimodal neuroimaging.&nbsp;Journal of Neuroscience Research, 95(1), 189&ndash;199.&nbsp;<a href="https://doi.org/10.1002/jnr.2383">https://doi.org/10.1002/jnr.2383</a>&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Men-Only-Revised-Updated-Straightforward/dp/1601424450/?tag=shaunticom-20">FOR MEN ONLY&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Women-Only-Revised-Updated-About/dp/1601424442/?tag=shaunticom-20">FOR WOMEN ONLY</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;
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Navigating the Open Windows of Communication - Episode 36

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/f0ab1379-9cba-43e4-a8fc-b4010144e058/transcript

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What are young couples really wondering about as they step into engagement and marriage?

In this special and deeply personal episode, Shaunti and Jeff sit down with their daughter Morgen and her fiancé Ben—just weeks before their wedding—to talk candidly about readiness, trust, faith, conflict, finances, sex, and what it really means to commit for life.

Drawing from both lived experience and decades of research, this conversation blends heart, humor, and practical wisdom for engaged couples—and for parents walking alongside them.

Resources:

The Secrets of Sex and Marriage

The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages

 

Summary:&nbsp;
What are young couples really wondering about as they step into engagement and marriage?
In this special and deeply personal episode, Shaunti and Jeff sit down with their daughter Morgen and her fianc&eacute; Ben&mdash;just weeks before their wedding&mdash;to talk candidly about readiness, trust, faith, conflict, finances, sex, and what it really means to commit for life.
Drawing from both lived experience and decades of research, this conversation blends heart, humor, and practical wisdom for engaged couples&mdash;and for parents walking alongside them.
Resources:
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Secrets-Sex-Marriage-Surprises-Difference/dp/0764239554/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Secrets of Sex and Marriage</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Surprising-Secrets-Highly-Happy-Marriages/dp/1601421214/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages</a>
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Being Engaged! A Personal Chat with Our Daughter and Future Son-In-Law

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/08d63092-f5e5-4868-93e1-b3f301068507/transcript

Episode 22: The Key to Helping the Hurting is NOT What Church Leaders Think, with Des Wadsworth and Leonard Nasca, LCSW

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