Some people have no trouble meeting expectations for others but struggle to follow through on what they want for themselves. If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. We revisit the Four Tendencies to explore the three biggest challenges Obligers face—shame, exploitation, and rebellion—and what actually helps.

Reminder: as an exclusive offer for “Happier” listeners, you can get 2 weeks FREE plus a special discount to the Activations app at activations.com/happier. These guided audios are designed to help you feel motivated, confident, and in charge of your life.

Resources & links related to this episode:
To identify your Tendency, take the free quiz at gretchenrubin.com/quiz.


Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.

 

Some people have no trouble meeting expectations for others but struggle to follow through on what they want for themselves. If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you.&nbsp;We revisit the Four Tendencies to explore the three biggest challenges Obligers face&mdash;shame, exploitation, and rebellion&mdash;and what actually helps.
Reminder: as an exclusive offer for &ldquo;Happier&rdquo; listeners, you can get 2 weeks FREE plus a special discount to the Activations app at <a href="http://activations.com/happier" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=http://activations.com/happier&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1771479312630000&amp;usg=AOvVaw2zhLC5DCUl7Yy9EJKnPA5_">activations.com/happier</a>. These guided audios are designed to help you feel motivated, confident, and in charge of your life.
Resources &amp; links related to this episode:
<ul>
<li>To identify your Tendency, take the free quiz at <a href="http://gretchenrubin.com/quiz">gretchenrubin.com/quiz</a>.</li>
</ul>
 Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.
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Gretchen Rubin is HAPPIER, and she wants you to be happier too. The #1 bestselling author of The Happiness Project and Better Than Before gets more personal than ever as she brings her practical, manageable advice about happiness and good habits to this lively, thought-provoking podcast. Gretchen’s cohost and guinea pig is her younger sister, Elizabeth Craft, a TV writer and producer living in Los Angeles, who (lovingly) refers to Gretchen as her happiness bully. 

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Gretchen Rubin is HAPPIER, and she wants you to be happier too. The #1 bestselling author of The Happiness Project and Better Than Before gets more personal than ever as she brings her practical, manageable advice about happiness and good habits to this lively, thought-provoking podcast. Gretchen&rsquo;s cohost and guinea pig is her younger sister, Elizabeth Craft, a TV writer and producer living in Los Angeles, who (lovingly) refers to Gretchen as her happiness bully.&nbsp;
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How to Build Happier Habits into Your Daily Life

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More Happier: Four Tendencies for Obligers—3 Challenges and How to Handle Them [Revisited]

As part of the Move 26 in ’26 Challenge, we’re sharing a bonus episode designed to pair with your 26 minutes of daily movement.

In this episode, I talk with writer Ben Markovits about his acclaimed new novel, “The Rest of Our Lives” (available at bit.ly/4lbfDTq). The novel follows the journey and reflections of a father who is driving his daughter to college—and then keeps going.

Reminder: as an exclusive offer for “Happier” listeners, you can get 2 weeks FREE plus a special discount to the Activations app at activations.com/happier. These guided audios are designed to help you feel motivated, confident, and in charge of your life.

Resources & links related to this episode:



Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. 

 

As part of the Move 26 in &rsquo;26 Challenge, we&rsquo;re sharing a bonus episode designed to pair with your 26 minutes of daily movement.
In this episode, I talk with writer Ben Markovits about his acclaimed new novel, &ldquo;The Rest of Our Lives&rdquo; (available at <a href="https://bit.ly/4lbfDTq">bit.ly/4lbfDTq</a>). The novel follows the journey and reflections of a father who is driving his daughter to college&mdash;and then keeps going.
Reminder: as an exclusive offer for &ldquo;Happier&rdquo; listeners, you can get 2 weeks FREE plus a special discount to the Activations app at <a href="http://activations.com/happier" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=http://activations.com/happier&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1771479312630000&amp;usg=AOvVaw2zhLC5DCUl7Yy9EJKnPA5_">activations.com/happier</a>. These guided audios are designed to help you feel motivated, confident, and in charge of your life.
Resources &amp; links related to this episode:
<ul>
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</ul>
 Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.&nbsp;
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Move Happier: How Do You Move On After College Drop-Off? with Author Ben Markovits

We discuss the fact that when we extend ourselves—when we put ourselves out into the world—we can expect sometimes to feel awkward, remorseful, or frustrated. We also talk about some funny mix-ups that passed unnoticed for years.

Reminder: as an exclusive offer for “Happier” listeners, you can get 2 weeks FREE plus a special discount to the Activations app at activations.com/happier. These guided audios are designed to help you feel motivated, confident, and in charge of your life.

Resources & links related to this episode:
Find all the tools you need to design your year 


Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. 

We discuss the fact that when we extend ourselves&mdash;when we put ourselves out into the world&mdash;we can expect sometimes to feel awkward, remorseful, or frustrated. We also talk about some funny mix-ups that passed unnoticed for years.
Reminder: as an exclusive offer for &ldquo;Happier&rdquo; listeners, you can get 2 weeks FREE plus a special discount to the Activations app at <a href="http://activations.com/happier" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=http://activations.com/happier&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1771479312630000&amp;usg=AOvVaw2zhLC5DCUl7Yy9EJKnPA5_">activations.com/happier</a>. These guided audios are designed to help you feel motivated, confident, and in charge of your life.
Resources &amp; links related to this episode:
<ul>
<li><a href="http://happiercast.com/designyouryear">Find all the tools you need to design your year&nbsp;</a></li>
</ul>
 Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.&nbsp;

More Happier: Do You Ever Have Post-Party Blues? Plus the Raymond Carver/Chandler Problem

We reflect on No-Spend February—what we didn’t buy, what we did buy, and what we learned. We also share a hack for successfully mixing friendship and business, and talk about how to spot a sneaky social-media practice that can distort our perception of the world.

Reminder: as an exclusive offer for “Happier” listeners, you can get 2 weeks FREE plus a special discount to the Activations app at activations.com/happier. These guided audios are designed to help you feel motivated, confident, and in charge of your life.


Resources & links related to this episode:
Subscribe to Lemonada Premium here
Find my No-Spend Guide here
Check out the new Bingo Book and Don't Break the Chain Habit Tracker 
Elizabeth is reading: Wolf Hall by Hilary Mantel (Amazon, Bookshop) 
Gretchen is reading: Lonesome Dove by Larry McMurtry (Amazon, Bookshop) 


Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com

Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app.

Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. 

We reflect on No-Spend February&mdash;what we didn&rsquo;t buy, what we did buy, and what we learned. We also share a hack for successfully mixing friendship and business, and talk about how to spot a sneaky social-media practice that can distort our perception of the world.
Reminder: as an exclusive offer for &ldquo;Happier&rdquo; listeners, you can get 2 weeks FREE plus a special discount to the Activations app at <a href="http://activations.com/happier" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=http://activations.com/happier&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1771479312630000&amp;usg=AOvVaw2zhLC5DCUl7Yy9EJKnPA5_">activations.com/happier</a>. These guided audios are designed to help you feel motivated, confident, and in charge of your life.
 Resources &amp; links related to this episode:
<ul>
<li><a href="http://lemonadapremium.com/">Subscribe to Lemonada Premium here</a></li>
<li><a href="http://happiercast.com/nospend">Find my No-Spend Guide here</a></li>
<li><a href="http://happiercast.com/shop">Check out the new Bingo Book and Don't Break the Chain Habit Tracker</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li>Elizabeth is reading: Wolf Hall by Hilary Mantel&nbsp;(<a href="https://amzn.to/4rzOoEB">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9781250806710">Bookshop</a>)&nbsp;</li>
<li>Gretchen is reading: Lonesome Dove by Larry McMurtry&nbsp;(<a href="https://amzn.to/4rBqrwG">Amazon</a>, <a href="https://bookshop.org/a/15926/9781439195260">Bookshop</a>)&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
 Get in touch: <a href="mailto:podcast@gretchenrubin.com">podcast@gretchenrubin.com</a>
Visit<a href="https://gretchenrubin.com/">&nbsp;Gretchen's website</a>&nbsp;to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the&nbsp;Happier&nbsp;app.
Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.&nbsp;

More Happier: Four Tendencies for Obligers—3 Challenges and How to Handle Them [Revisited]

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