😈 The One Thing All Mean Girls Do 😈

Published Nov 10, 2023, 5:15 AM

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Flex has done some critical thinking and she believes she's found the one trait that all mean people have in common. 

(Hint: it's not what you think xx) 

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Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast. You are with Flex and Rooms on CATA. There's a particular type of person that's being unearthed as the real villain. People pleasers have had their moment, people a kind of realizing that maybe you know it's not always for the best. Overbearing parents have had their moment where everyone's like, maybe I didn't need all this extra attention from you. But there's another demographic of person that I feel like people are becoming more aware of. And I don't know what to do with this information, but listen to this video by Unstable Brat for a bit of insight.

Maturing as a woman is realizing the girls who overly compliment you on just like way too nice when you first meet them are actually evil, like actually evil and not genuine at all. Like that is mature as a woman. I will no longer every time a girl comes up to me and she's like, oh my god, it's so high seas, I'm like ahh.

In my heart and head. I've always seen it like a classic mean girl tactic, and that's why I get very paranod and people do this one thing, the thing I'm talking about is over complimenting. I don't like it. I always feel really really uncomfortable when someone's going out of their way to really point out I mean, even said to you when we first art the show, stop talking about how I look, because it doesn't feel genuine when it's like layered, and because we see each other so much, I'm like, I always look this way. I don't want a new compliments freaking me out. But I don't think it's the compliment that's getting me. What I think is the issue is flattery. And it's one thing to be flattered by someone who you know that you haven't have like a mutual connection with, right, and you know it's actly where it's coming from. But sometimes you meet a stranger and you're kind of like, why are you flattering me so hard? Or you know, when someone's selling you something and they're flattering, oh gosh, you're so smart. Oh gosh. Yeah, when I was your age, Oh I wish I had this kind of money or whatever, you're kind of like, oh, I understand the transaction, that's because that's happening here. So flattery is most commonly disdefined. So flattery is most commonly defined as excessive praise that can come across as insinsious, not just praise, not a compliment, excessive. So what happens is and this is from Wikipedia, by the way, they say that people who are naive or needy, or impressionable or egocentric can view flattery as genuine praise. Discerning people understand flattery to be disingenuous, false praise motivated by an agenda. And I don't know if you've had this feeling of like when you and your friends meet somebody in new and one person is off it like I don't really like them, like I don't know what it is, and everyone's like, but that's so nice. They were like complimenting you all the time, and they ask you all these questions like what's to go wrong? Flattery is the word. And so, oddly enough, as I was doing more research into this, because I was like, damn, like, it's weird that sometimes things that seem intuitive either are not and they're just like your own insecurity is being projected back on other people or they are. So when you go onto the Wikipedia page of flattery, the related pages are love bombing, manipulation, and superficial charm. So the point is not to give compliments freely, because I really like giving compliments. I think it's really important to let people know when they're looking good, when they're doing amazing things. It's really important. But also don't be surprised if it doesn't always land because people have really weird relationships to being told that they're good or smart or beautiful. And it's like, would be really uncomfortable to accidentally trigger someone when you were trying to be nice because you can't, you can't like make them feel that you're being sincere afterwards. I've had it before and it heaps awkward, as in you've experienced it, or you've done it, and I've experienced it heaps. That's why I don't like people talking about me. But when I had done it, knowing what I know, I was like, oh, like, why is this not landing? And I think what happens is when you do it to strangers. So I walked past this girl on when I was on a plane and she's wearing the best outfit. The plane is being borded, so I wasn't gonna stop, but I was like, I'm gonna love your outfit, and she was like she kind of grimmaced a little bit, and I was like, oh, I can see why. Like she's sitting down, I'm towering on top of her. I'm walking a pass. I didn't even stop. Like she looked at herself really self consciously, and I was like, okay, okay, hit a Mark noted noted, We'll not be doing that again. You've been listening to the Flex and Frooms Daily podcast.

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