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Ryan is on the phone today for a first diate follow up. He's getting ghosted by Chelsea. So in a few minutes we're going to call her and see if she tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him another date if he still wants one. But before we do that, Ryan was up, how long has it been since you heard from Chelsea?

Ryan is on the phone today for a first diate follow up. He's getting ghosted by Chelsea. So in a few minutes we're going to call her and see if she tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him another date if he still wants one. But before we do that, Ryan was up, how long has it been since you heard from Chelsea?

Uh, it's been I'd say probably about a week or so.

Uh, it's been I'd say probably about a week or so.

Have you how many times have you tried to reach out to her at that time?

Have you how many times have you tried to reach out to her at that time?

Probably about three or four times.

Probably about three or four times.

Oh?

Oh?

You know, I didn't want to seem like I was a stocking, you know type, So after the last time, I just you know, left it alone and got in contact with you guys, you know, to see if I could try and figure something out, because you know, I don't know what I did wrong. I thought it was a great no first date. I thought we hit it off, and I've just been ghosted ever since.

You know, I didn't want to seem like I was a stocking, you know type, So after the last time, I just you know, left it alone and got in contact with you guys, you know, to see if I could try and figure something out, because you know, I don't know what I did wrong. I thought it was a great no first date. I thought we hit it off, and I've just been ghosted ever since.

Why don't you start by telling us about the date.

Why don't you start by telling us about the date.

Okay, So we went out in our drinks conversation, everything was was pretty good, and this came about after you know, us connecting on Hinge had some friends tell me some good things about him, so I figured I'd try it out. So, you know, we went on our date and then we went to a nearby park after.

Okay, So we went out in our drinks conversation, everything was was pretty good, and this came about after you know, us connecting on Hinge had some friends tell me some good things about him, so I figured I'd try it out. So, you know, we went on our date and then we went to a nearby park after.

That how to go at the park.

That how to go at the park.

The park went good, but I guess there was something that was pretty questionable that happened at dinner. You know, we were hanging out, having a good time, chatting it up, and so she got a phone call and she said she needed to take the call, and she excused herself from the table and went out for this call. And the call was probably about She was gone for about fifteen to twenty minutes.

The park went good, but I guess there was something that was pretty questionable that happened at dinner. You know, we were hanging out, having a good time, chatting it up, and so she got a phone call and she said she needed to take the call, and she excused herself from the table and went out for this call. And the call was probably about She was gone for about fifteen to twenty minutes.

Oh.

Oh.

I thought it was pretty important because she stepped outside of the restaurant. But she walked all the way to the corner or like you know, up the street a little bit, and I could see from the restaurant that she was in a heated exchange, Like her hands were flying, and I could see like the veins popping out of her forehead, and she was like yelling and screaming into the phone. And I was by this time, like, you know, the food came, her food was cold. I didn't want to start eating without her, and so you know, she comes back inside and she's like really cool, calm and collected, and I said, is everything okay? And she said, yeah, I'm just dealing with some family stuff. You know, my sister called me and you know, a little sibling sibling quarrels or whatever. So I just said, okay. I said, well, do you want me to order you something else? You know, I can have them send this back and we can order you a fresh one, so that way it's high and you know, she didn't want to eat at that point. She said, no, I'm fine. We can just wrap up, you know, if you want to eat, and you know, we can go to the park. So yeah, that's kind of how the that portion of the date went. That's the only hiccup that I could think of that happened.

I thought it was pretty important because she stepped outside of the restaurant. But she walked all the way to the corner or like you know, up the street a little bit, and I could see from the restaurant that she was in a heated exchange, Like her hands were flying, and I could see like the veins popping out of her forehead, and she was like yelling and screaming into the phone. And I was by this time, like, you know, the food came, her food was cold. I didn't want to start eating without her, and so you know, she comes back inside and she's like really cool, calm and collected, and I said, is everything okay? And she said, yeah, I'm just dealing with some family stuff. You know, my sister called me and you know, a little sibling sibling quarrels or whatever. So I just said, okay. I said, well, do you want me to order you something else? You know, I can have them send this back and we can order you a fresh one, so that way it's high and you know, she didn't want to eat at that point. She said, no, I'm fine. We can just wrap up, you know, if you want to eat, and you know, we can go to the park. So yeah, that's kind of how the that portion of the date went. That's the only hiccup that I could think of that happened.

That's that pretty big hiccup.

That's that pretty big hiccup.

ILL ask you to the park, which is a good sign because to continue after dinner, like she kept it.

ILL ask you to the park, which is a good sign because to continue after dinner, like she kept it.

Going, Yeah, that's what I don't understand. We went to the park. You know, we had you know, break convo and I even got to you know, pick in on the cheek. At the end of the day, thought was great, And I just don't know what else happened. It's really weird.

Going, Yeah, that's what I don't understand. We went to the park. You know, we had you know, break convo and I even got to you know, pick in on the cheek. At the end of the day, thought was great, And I just don't know what else happened. It's really weird.

All right, Well, we'll see what we can figure out for you.

All right, Well, we'll see what we can figure out for you.

Then we'll play a song come Back, and then call her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you, and then maybe get you another day.

Then we'll play a song come Back, and then call her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you, and then maybe get you another day.

All right, thanks, sounds good. Let's do it.

All right, thanks, sounds good. Let's do it.

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If you're just joining us for today's first Date follow up, Ryan is on the phone.

If you're just joining us for today's first Date follow up, Ryan is on the phone.

He's getting ghosted by Chelsea and doesn't know why.

He's getting ghosted by Chelsea and doesn't know why.

So in just a second, we're gonna call her see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him, and maybe get him another date. But before we do that, Ryan, why don't you catch everybody up on your situation?

So in just a second, we're gonna call her see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him, and maybe get him another date. But before we do that, Ryan, why don't you catch everybody up on your situation?

Yeah, so had to. Really what I thought was a great date with Chelsea. The only hiccup that happened during the date was she had to take a phone call from you know, an important phone call to deal with the situation. Family situation, I guess. But other than that, we hit it off. Great conversation, great energy, great vibes, even got to pick on the cheek at the end of the night. After that, just ghost nothing gone crickets? All right?

Yeah, so had to. Really what I thought was a great date with Chelsea. The only hiccup that happened during the date was she had to take a phone call from you know, an important phone call to deal with the situation. Family situation, I guess. But other than that, we hit it off. Great conversation, great energy, great vibes, even got to pick on the cheek at the end of the night. After that, just ghost nothing gone crickets? All right?

You ready for us to call her?

You ready for us to call her?

I'm ready?

I'm ready?

Okay, here we go.

Okay, here we go.

Hello.

Hello.

Hi, man's to Chelsea. Please. This is che Chelsea.

Hi, man's to Chelsea. Please. This is che Chelsea.

Hi, how are you? My name is Jubel and this is a radio show. It's called The Jubil Show.

Hi, how are you? My name is Jubel and this is a radio show. It's called The Jubil Show.

Hi, Chelsea. I'm Nina also on the show.

Hi, Chelsea. I'm Nina also on the show.

Hi, and I'm Victoria.

Hi, and I'm Victoria.

Hi.

Hi.

Hello.

Hello.

Have you ever listened to the show before?

Have you ever listened to the show before?

Actually? Have?

Actually? Have?

Yeah? Sweet?

Yeah? Sweet?

Cool?

Cool?

Really cool? Do you know why we recall you?

Really cool? Do you know why we recall you?

Oh?

Oh?

Did I win something? I hope I did.

Did I win something? I hope I did.

It's possible. It depends how much you like Ryan. You remember going on a date with Ryan?

It's possible. It depends how much you like Ryan. You remember going on a date with Ryan?

Oh, oh my gosh.

Oh, oh my gosh.

So this is a first date follow up the segment where we if you've been ghosted, you can email us. So we get that person on the phone and ask why you're being ghosted. And Ryan emailed us about you, So can you tell us why you're ghosting him?

So this is a first date follow up the segment where we if you've been ghosted, you can email us. So we get that person on the phone and ask why you're being ghosted. And Ryan emailed us about you, So can you tell us why you're ghosting him?

The reason why I'm ghosting him is because I'm trying to dodge.

The reason why I'm ghosting him is because I'm trying to dodge.

My ex and I honestly didn't want.

My ex and I honestly didn't want.

To scare Ryan away. So my ex texted me while I was from the date with Ryan, and he texted, I need to see you, and then he continued, like I trucked your phone, I'm coming to see you. Oh yeah. And so I went to call him to kind of diffuse the situation because like we've been broken up for about six months, but he's really having a hard time accepting the breakup, and so he drives by my house constantly.

To scare Ryan away. So my ex texted me while I was from the date with Ryan, and he texted, I need to see you, and then he continued, like I trucked your phone, I'm coming to see you. Oh yeah. And so I went to call him to kind of diffuse the situation because like we've been broken up for about six months, but he's really having a hard time accepting the breakup, and so he drives by my house constantly.

He like sends me still flowers to work.

He like sends me still flowers to work.

Oh my gosh, wow.

Oh my gosh, wow.

And so I honestly I took the call and after that I just had a hard time because I just.

And so I honestly I took the call and after that I just had a hard time because I just.

Don't want I really feel like I need to get a handle.

Don't want I really feel like I need to get a handle.

On him before I bring anybody into my life and bring this drama into anybody's life. And I honestly feel bad for Ryan, like I just don't want to bring that to.

On him before I bring anybody into my life and bring this drama into anybody's life. And I honestly feel bad for Ryan, like I just don't want to bring that to.

Him, And so I just haven't really responded.

Him, And so I just haven't really responded.

Much to Ryan. You liked him though, Yeah, I like trying a lot.

Much to Ryan. You liked him though, Yeah, I like trying a lot.

Actually it's actually.

Actually it's actually.

Kind of respectful.

Kind of respectful.

Like, think about how many people have like X drama and they don't even care about the new person they bring into their life, and now this new person is like collateral damage. I think that that's really cool of you, But I also think that's something you could probably tell him.

Like, think about how many people have like X drama and they don't even care about the new person they bring into their life, and now this new person is like collateral damage. I think that that's really cool of you, But I also think that's something you could probably tell him.

I guess I could have told him. I honestly feel like I just it's not fair. It's not fair to bring anybody with My ex is pretty persistent as easy.

I guess I could have told him. I honestly feel like I just it's not fair. It's not fair to bring anybody with My ex is pretty persistent as easy.

Yeah, and I just don't want to put him in any dangerous situation.

Yeah, and I just don't want to put him in any dangerous situation.

Oh wow, you think he's like dangerous.

Oh wow, you think he's like dangerous.

Well, I mean, I don't know about how he.

Well, I mean, I don't know about how he.

Will be confrontational, Okay, if he sees me with another guy.

Will be confrontational, Okay, if he sees me with another guy.

Yeah, and so that hasn't happened yet, so I don't know.

Yeah, and so that hasn't happened yet, so I don't know.

Well, if you think about it this way, though, your ex is still controlling you because you're not dating people you want to date pretty much.

Well, if you think about it this way, though, your ex is still controlling you because you're not dating people you want to date pretty much.

Yeah, that's true. I didn't even think about that.

Yeah, that's true. I didn't even think about that.

In my opinion, that's pretty unacceptable.

In my opinion, that's pretty unacceptable.

But like, how do you handle how do you handle that?

But like, how do you handle how do you handle that?

I don't know. I am really trying hard to just be civilized and talk to him and just try to calm him down and just let him know that I'm not interested anymore.

I don't know. I am really trying hard to just be civilized and talk to him and just try to calm him down and just let him know that I'm not interested anymore.

And it's just been really hard.

And it's just been really hard.

Well, I have a couple ideas for you. I'll get to those at a second.

Well, I have a couple ideas for you. I'll get to those at a second.

First, I'm going to let you know that Ryan is actually on the other line and has been wants to talk to you.

First, I'm going to let you know that Ryan is actually on the other line and has been wants to talk to you.

Yes, Hi, Ryan, Hey, Chelsea, how are you. I'm good to you.

Yes, Hi, Ryan, Hey, Chelsea, how are you. I'm good to you.

I'm so sorry. I honestly did not.

I'm so sorry. I honestly did not.

Mean to go see you.

Mean to go see you.

I just it's just been really stressful.

I just it's just been really stressful.

I mean, I'm so happy to hear your voice. I'm sorry to put you on the radio and put you on a spot like this, but I didn't know what else to do, and I, yeah, closure, I needed to know. I just really thought there's a connection there, and so yeah, I'm happy to hear that. It wasn't me.

I mean, I'm so happy to hear your voice. I'm sorry to put you on the radio and put you on a spot like this, but I didn't know what else to do, and I, yeah, closure, I needed to know. I just really thought there's a connection there, and so yeah, I'm happy to hear that. It wasn't me.

No, you didn't do anything wrong. You were so sweet.

No, you didn't do anything wrong. You were so sweet.

I felt like we really had a connection. And it's been so hard for me. It's been really heavy because I just honestly don't want to put you in any weird situation, you know, I don't think it will be fair.

I felt like we really had a connection. And it's been so hard for me. It's been really heavy because I just honestly don't want to put you in any weird situation, you know, I don't think it will be fair.

There are a.

There are a.

Couple of questions, are you completely are you still attack that's emotionally like, you know? Do you still have feelings for him?

Couple of questions, are you completely are you still attack that's emotionally like, you know? Do you still have feelings for him?

No?

No?

I don't have feelings for him and it's been six months.

I don't have feelings for him and it's been six months.

Yeah, absolutely not, Chelsea.

Yeah, absolutely not, Chelsea.

I have a question for you, why do you still talk to him?

I have a question for you, why do you still talk to him?

I don't know.

I don't know.

I'm just did you feel bad something like that?

I'm just did you feel bad something like that?

I feel bad for him.

I feel bad for him.

I know he's suffering, care about yourself. You're done with a relationship with him. You don't need to talk to him unless you have like a kid or something, you have to talk to him.

I know he's suffering, care about yourself. You're done with a relationship with him. You don't need to talk to him unless you have like a kid or something, you have to talk to him.

You don't need to feel bad for him, feel bad for yourself.

You don't need to feel bad for him, feel bad for yourself.

You're not able to date Ryan, and you want to date Ryan, and you're letting your exra control how that issue goes because you're worried about your ex.

You're not able to date Ryan, and you want to date Ryan, and you're letting your exra control how that issue goes because you're worried about your ex.

Worry about yourself. Get it, girl, Well you should get it girl.

Worry about yourself. Get it, girl, Well you should get it girl.

You should also make sure that your man like has some type of restraining order if he really does keep hopping random places, because that is not okay.

You should also make sure that your man like has some type of restraining order if he really does keep hopping random places, because that is not okay.

Yeah, if it's super bad, you should do that for real.

Yeah, if it's super bad, you should do that for real.

Yeah, I mean I haven't really stopped fully the communication. I could definitely block him. I just fell so bad for him because I thought he's just really suffering, and I just don't. I mean, I hated having to break up the relationship, but I really don't have any feelings for him.

Yeah, I mean I haven't really stopped fully the communication. I could definitely block him. I just fell so bad for him because I thought he's just really suffering, and I just don't. I mean, I hated having to break up the relationship, but I really don't have any feelings for him.

Believe me, it's hard. It's hard to not talk to somebody who's persistent. But you ghosted Ryan, you can ghost again.

Believe me, it's hard. It's hard to not talk to somebody who's persistent. But you ghosted Ryan, you can ghost again.

Like this life coaching right now is just you know accurate, that's true.

Like this life coaching right now is just you know accurate, that's true.

You know I'm sorry, Ryan.

You know I'm sorry, Ryan.

You can tell she's so empathetic too, which is a great quality. Chelsea, But doubles, would you like to go on another date with Ryan?

You can tell she's so empathetic too, which is a great quality. Chelsea, But doubles, would you like to go on another date with Ryan?

We'll pay for it.

We'll pay for it.

I will love to.

I will love to.

I am really like right, what.

I am really like right, what.

Else you got like?

Else you got like?

Ryan? Just get it, girl, That's all I'm scient advice.

Ryan? Just get it, girl, That's all I'm scient advice.

Thank you. I really want to say thank you, guys. I'm so much for getting us back together here so that we can continue on and chose Se. Don't worry. You know, I'm a big boy. I can hold my own, I can hold you down and you know, protect you and myself. So no worries about the crazy X and come get it girl.

Thank you. I really want to say thank you, guys. I'm so much for getting us back together here so that we can continue on and chose Se. Don't worry. You know, I'm a big boy. I can hold my own, I can hold you down and you know, protect you and myself. So no worries about the crazy X and come get it girl.

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