“If someone has done you wrong, do not repay them with a wrong. Try to do what everyone considers to be good.” — Romans 12:17

What do you do when someone hurts you?

Our first instinct is often to defend ourselves, get even, or make sure the other person understands just how much damage they caused. But what if Jesus invites us into a completely different response?

In this episode of Everyday Joy, Ash is joined by Jacquie for a conversation about Romans 12:17 and what it means to choose peace, kindness, and grace when we’ve been wronged.

Together, they unpack why “not repaying evil with evil” doesn’t mean ignoring hurt, avoiding difficult conversations, or pretending everything is fine. Instead, they explore how honest communication, vulnerability, and confronting issues with love can actually lead to healthier relationships and deeper healing.

Ash and Jackie discuss the difference between seeking revenge and seeking restoration, why we often avoid hard conversations, and how one brave conversation can completely change the direction of a relationship.

They also unpack a powerful example of two Christian artists choosing humility over conflict, showing what can happen when we move away from public reactions and towards honest conversations.

If you’ve ever felt hurt, misunderstood, offended, or tempted to make someone “pay” for what they did, this episode will encourage you to respond differently—not because the hurt doesn’t matter, but because Jesus offers a better way.

Because sometimes the most powerful thing you can do after being hurt… is choose peace.

&ldquo;If someone has done you wrong, do not repay them with a wrong. Try to do what everyone considers to be good.&rdquo; &mdash; Romans 12:17
What do you do when someone hurts you?
Our first instinct is often to defend ourselves, get even, or make sure the other person understands just how much damage they caused. But what if Jesus invites us into a completely different response?
In this episode of Everyday Joy, Ash is joined by Jacquie for a conversation about Romans 12:17 and what it means to choose peace, kindness, and grace when we&rsquo;ve been wronged.
Together, they unpack why &ldquo;not repaying evil with evil&rdquo; doesn&rsquo;t mean ignoring hurt, avoiding difficult conversations, or pretending everything is fine. Instead, they explore how honest communication, vulnerability, and confronting issues with love can actually lead to healthier relationships and deeper healing.
Ash and Jackie discuss the difference between seeking revenge and seeking restoration, why we often avoid hard conversations, and how one brave conversation can completely change the direction of a relationship.
They also unpack a powerful example of two Christian artists choosing humility over conflict, showing what can happen when we move away from public reactions and towards honest conversations.
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt hurt, misunderstood, offended, or tempted to make someone &ldquo;pay&rdquo; for what they did, this episode will encourage you to respond differently&mdash;not because the hurt doesn&rsquo;t matter, but because Jesus offers a better way.
Because sometimes the most powerful thing you can do after being hurt&hellip; is choose peace.

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Before You React, Listen to This | Romans 12:17 with Jacquie Scott 

"Celebrate God all day, every day. I mean, revel in him!" — Philippians 4:4 (MSG)

What happens when we become so focused on what we don't have that we forget what God has already done?

In this episode of Everyday Joy, Ash is joined by Kate for an honest conversation about finding joy when life feels heavy, circumstances aren't changing, and it's easy to get stuck focusing on everything that's going wrong.

Together, they unpack Paul's words in Philippians 4:4 to "revel in" the Lord—and why those words are so powerful when you realise Paul was writing them from prison. Rejoicing doesn't mean pretending life is perfect or ignoring the hard things. It's choosing not to let the hard things become the only thing we see.

Ash opens up about a season where anxiety and heaviness caused her to become increasingly focused on what she didn't have, what wasn't changing, and what she felt God hadn't done yet. She shares how shifting her focus outward—praying for friends, celebrating their stories, and remembering God's faithfulness—began to change her perspective.

They also explore the power of worship and Christian community, and why remembering what God has done before can give us confidence that He is still at work now. Sometimes we need other people to remind us of the stories we've forgotten and help lift our eyes beyond our current circumstances.

This episode is a reminder that joy isn't found in having perfect circumstances. It's found in knowing the One who remains faithful through all of them.

If you're feeling stuck, discouraged, disappointed, or consumed by what hasn't changed yet, this conversation will encourage you to lift your eyes, remember God's faithfulness, and draw from the "wells of salvation" for the joy, hope and strength you already have in Christ.

"Celebrate God all day, every day. I mean, revel in him!" &mdash; Philippians 4:4 (MSG)
What happens when we become so focused on what we don't have that we forget what God has already done?
In this episode of Everyday Joy, Ash is joined by Kate for an honest conversation about finding joy when life feels heavy, circumstances aren't changing, and it's easy to get stuck focusing on everything that's going wrong.
Together, they unpack Paul's words in Philippians 4:4 to "revel in" the Lord&mdash;and why those words are so powerful when you realise Paul was writing them from prison. Rejoicing doesn't mean pretending life is perfect or ignoring the hard things. It's choosing not to let the hard things become the only thing we see.
Ash opens up about a season where anxiety and heaviness caused her to become increasingly focused on what she didn't have, what wasn't changing, and what she felt God hadn't done yet. She shares how shifting her focus outward&mdash;praying for friends, celebrating their stories, and remembering God's faithfulness&mdash;began to change her perspective.
They also explore the power of worship and Christian community, and why remembering what God has done before can give us confidence that He is still at work now. Sometimes we need other people to remind us of the stories we've forgotten and help lift our eyes beyond our current circumstances.
This episode is a reminder that joy isn't found in having perfect circumstances. It's found in knowing the One who remains faithful through all of them.
If you're feeling stuck, discouraged, disappointed, or consumed by what hasn't changed yet, this conversation will encourage you to lift your eyes, remember God's faithfulness, and draw from the "wells of salvation" for the joy, hope and strength you already have in Christ.

Stop Focusing on What You Don't Have | Philippians 4:4

"I'm giving you a new commandment: Love each other in the same way that I have loved you." — John 13:34

What if we're sometimes so focused on being right that we forget what Jesus actually told us to do?

In this episode of Everyday Joy, Ash is joined by singer-songwriter and worship leader Kate for an honest conversation about one of Jesus' most challenging commands: love one another as I have loved you.

Together, they unpack why Christians can sometimes get so caught up in disagreements, denominations, theology and the things that divide us that we lose sight of the thing Jesus placed right in front of us—loving people.

But this conversation goes even deeper. Kate and Ash explore what it actually means to love others when we're running low on patience, grace and kindness. Because the reality is, we can't keep pouring out something we're not receiving ourselves.

Jesus doesn't simply tell us to love more—He invites us to first understand how deeply we are loved by Him. When we become more aware of God's love for us, we have a deeper well to draw from when loving the people around us gets difficult.

This episode is a reminder that following Jesus isn't about being perfect, having all the answers, or winning every theological argument. It's about becoming people who reflect the love we've received.

If you've ever found yourself frustrated by disagreements within the church, struggling to love someone you don't agree with, or simply running out of patience with the people around you, this conversation will encourage you to come back to the starting point: receive God's love, and let it overflow into the way you love others.

"I'm giving you a new commandment: Love each other in the same way that I have loved you." &mdash; John 13:34
What if we're sometimes so focused on being right that we forget what Jesus actually told us to do?
In this episode of Everyday Joy, Ash is joined by singer-songwriter and worship leader Kate for an honest conversation about one of Jesus' most challenging commands: love one another as I have loved you.
Together, they unpack why Christians can sometimes get so caught up in disagreements, denominations, theology and the things that divide us that we lose sight of the thing Jesus placed right in front of us&mdash;loving people.
But this conversation goes even deeper. Kate and Ash explore what it actually means to love others when we're running low on patience, grace and kindness. Because the reality is, we can't keep pouring out something we're not receiving ourselves.
Jesus doesn't simply tell us to love more&mdash;He invites us to first understand how deeply we are loved by Him. When we become more aware of God's love for us, we have a deeper well to draw from when loving the people around us gets difficult.
This episode is a reminder that following Jesus isn't about being perfect, having all the answers, or winning every theological argument. It's about becoming people who reflect the love we've received.
If you've ever found yourself frustrated by disagreements within the church, struggling to love someone you don't agree with, or simply running out of patience with the people around you, this conversation will encourage you to come back to the starting point: receive God's love, and let it overflow into the way you love others.

We're Called to Love—Even When We Don't Agree | John 13:34 with Kate Westwood

"Consider it pure joy whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance." — James 1:2–3

What if the season you're desperately trying to escape is actually producing something in you that comfort never could?

In this episode of Everyday Joy, Ash is joined by Kate for an honest conversation about suffering, discomfort, and finding joy when life isn't going the way we hoped.

Together, they unpack one of the Bible's most challenging instructions: "Consider it pure joy whenever you face trials." Because let's be honest—none of us are naturally excited about hard seasons. We live in a world built around convenience, quick fixes and avoiding discomfort whenever possible. So what does James actually mean when he tells us to consider our trials joy?

Ash and Kate explore how difficult seasons can test our faith, develop perseverance and reveal where we're turning when life gets hard. They talk about the difference between finding joy in suffering and pretending that suffering doesn't hurt, and why Christian joy isn't something we simply manufacture when circumstances are terrible.

They also reflect on what it looks like to keep trusting God when nothing changes, prayers seem unanswered, and you're still facing the same circumstances you were months or even years ago.

This episode is a reminder that God can produce deep faith in seasons we'd never choose for ourselves. Sometimes the joy isn't found in the circumstance changing—it's found in discovering that God is faithful even when it doesn't.

If you're walking through a difficult season, waiting for something to change, or struggling to understand where God is in your suffering, this conversation will encourage you to keep turning to Him, keep trusting Him, and remember that your hard season isn't necessarily a wasted one.

"Consider it pure joy whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance." &mdash; James 1:2&ndash;3
What if the season you're desperately trying to escape is actually producing something in you that comfort never could?
In this episode of Everyday Joy, Ash is joined by Kate for an honest conversation about suffering, discomfort, and finding joy when life isn't going the way we hoped.
Together, they unpack one of the Bible's most challenging instructions: "Consider it pure joy whenever you face trials." Because let's be honest&mdash;none of us are naturally excited about hard seasons. We live in a world built around convenience, quick fixes and avoiding discomfort whenever possible. So what does James actually mean when he tells us to consider our trials joy?
Ash and Kate explore how difficult seasons can test our faith, develop perseverance and reveal where we're turning when life gets hard. They talk about the difference between finding joy in suffering and pretending that suffering doesn't hurt, and why Christian joy isn't something we simply manufacture when circumstances are terrible.
They also reflect on what it looks like to keep trusting God when nothing changes, prayers seem unanswered, and you're still facing the same circumstances you were months or even years ago.
This episode is a reminder that God can produce deep faith in seasons we'd never choose for ourselves. Sometimes the joy isn't found in the circumstance changing&mdash;it's found in discovering that God is faithful even when it doesn't.
If you're walking through a difficult season, waiting for something to change, or struggling to understand where God is in your suffering, this conversation will encourage you to keep turning to Him, keep trusting Him, and remember that your hard season isn't necessarily a wasted one.

Before You React, Listen to This | Romans 12:17 with Jacquie Scott

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