Julie and Dennis dissect the question: at what age do you become who you are?  Do you feel like an imposter?  When “finding yourself” ...who you want to be is more significant than who you are.  You are what you do.  Do good people think they are good people?  Parents are great, but to be an adult you need to separate from them... having healthy adults in your life is crucial ... role models and mentors.  Where have all the mentors gone?  The addict isn't who they are until they're sober.  Circumstance can help form you into who you are… based on your reaction to it.  “The one thing you can’t take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance” - Viktor Frankl.  Dennis explains the difference between envy and covet.