Courtney and Joshua Washington had preferences. Strong ones. And according to those preferences, they should have never ended up together. Courtney had made up her mind that she didn’t want Black children, so dating Black men wasn’t part of her plan. Joshua was equally certain about his own non-negotiable: he didn’t want to date a woman with children. Courtney had four. On paper, they were everything the other person said they didn’t want.

But sometimes God has to deliver you from your preferences before He can introduce you to His provision. In this powerful episode of "Dear Future Wifey", Courtney and Joshua unpack how God challenged their biases, dismantled their checklists, and revealed how preferences can sometimes become barriers to the very love we’ve been praying for. Their story asks a provocative question: "What if the person God has for you doesn’t look anything like the person you’ve been looking for?"

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Courtney and Joshua Washington had preferences. Strong ones. And according to those preferences, they should have never ended up together. Courtney had made up her mind that she didn&rsquo;t want Black children, so dating Black men wasn&rsquo;t part of her plan. Joshua was equally certain about his own non-negotiable: he didn&rsquo;t want to date a woman with children. Courtney had four. On paper, they were everything the other person said they didn&rsquo;t want.
But sometimes God has to deliver you from your preferences before He can introduce you to His provision. In this powerful episode of "Dear Future Wifey", Courtney and Joshua unpack how God challenged their biases, dismantled their checklists, and revealed how preferences can sometimes become barriers to the very love we&rsquo;ve been praying for. Their story asks a provocative question: "What if the person God has for you doesn&rsquo;t look anything like the person you&rsquo;ve been looking for?"
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Journey with me, Laterras R. Whitfield, as I discover, uncover, and recover love. From interviews with singles, married, divorcees, and maybe even those in polyamorous relationships, we promise every episode to be L.I.T. (Living Intentionally Transparent).

Dear Future Wifey

Journey with Laterras R. Whitfield and Ashley R. Whitfield, co-hosts of the Dear Future Wifey Podcast, as they discover, uncover, and recover love—together.

Created as a platform for Laterras’ public healing after divorce, the podcast has evolved into a powerful space where real love stories are told with honesty, wisdom, and depth. Now joined by his wife Ashley, the conversations expand to include both personal reflection and shared perspective on love, marriage, and growth.

Through candid dialogue with relationship experts, celebrities, and everyday people, Laterras and Ashley dive deep into the realities of relationships—exploring love, loss, healing, and what it truly takes to build something lasting.

Whether you’re searching for love, strengthening your marriage, or healing from heartbreak, Dear Future Wifey offers heartfelt insight, practical tools, and transparent conversations to guide the journey.

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Journey with&nbsp;Laterras R. Whitfield and Ashley R. Whitfield, co-hosts of the Dear Future Wifey Podcast, as they discover, uncover, and recover love&mdash;together.
Created as a platform for Laterras&rsquo; public healing after divorce, the podcast has evolved into a powerful space where real love stories are told with honesty, wisdom, and depth. Now joined by his wife Ashley, the conversations expand to include both personal reflection and shared perspective on love, marriage, and growth.
Through candid dialogue with relationship experts, celebrities, and everyday people, Laterras and Ashley dive deep into the realities of relationships&mdash;exploring love, loss, healing, and what it truly takes to build something lasting.
Whether you&rsquo;re searching for love, strengthening your marriage, or healing from heartbreak, Dear Future Wifey offers heartfelt insight, practical tools, and transparent conversations to guide the journey.
Subscribe and join Laterras and Ashley as they continue to live intentionally and transparently.

God Delivered Us From Our Preferences (Guests: Joshua & Courtney Washington)

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Lisa Nichols has inspired millions to believe they are worthy of more, but when love finally showed up for her, receiving it became the real work.

In this powerful episode of Dear Future Wifey, Lisa and Marcellus Hall unpack the eight-year journey that eventually led them to love. Lisa reveals how past heartbreak caused her to prejudge Marcellus for things he had never done, creating scenarios in her mind and nearly self-sabotaging the relationship before giving him the opportunity to show her who he truly was.

Marcellus shares what it took to patiently love a woman who was still learning how to receive the very love she deserved.

This conversation explores healing, vulnerability, self-sabotage, and the difficult truth that sometimes the greatest obstacle to healthy love isn’t finding the right person. It’s believing you’re safe enough to receive them.

 

 

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Lisa Nichols has inspired millions to believe they are worthy of more, but when love finally showed up for her, receiving it became the real work.
In this powerful episode of&nbsp;Dear Future Wifey, Lisa and Marcellus Hall unpack the eight-year journey that eventually led them to love. Lisa reveals how past heartbreak caused her to prejudge Marcellus for things he had never done, creating scenarios in her mind and nearly self-sabotaging the relationship before giving him the opportunity to show her who he truly was.
Marcellus shares what it took to patiently love a woman who was still learning how to receive the very love she deserved.
This conversation explores healing, vulnerability, self-sabotage, and the difficult truth that sometimes the greatest obstacle to healthy love isn&rsquo;t finding the right person. It&rsquo;s believing you&rsquo;re safe enough to receive them.
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The Love I Had To Heal For (Guests: Lisa Nichols & Marcellus Hall)

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Tareasa "Reesa Teesa" Johnson captivated millions with a story that sounded too unbelievable to be true. But behind the viral series was a real woman navigating heartbreak, deception, disappointment, and the painful realization that the person she loved wasn’t who she thought he was. In this powerful episode of Dear Future Wifey, Reesa Teesa sits down with Laterras and Ashley R. Whitfield for a conversation that goes beyond the headlines and viral moments.

She opens up about the emotional aftermath of her marriage, the red flags that became clearer in hindsight, and what the experience revealed about her own desires, vulnerabilities, and relationship patterns. But this conversation isn’t simply about who lied. It’s about what happens after the truth sets you free. Reesa shares how telling her story publicly changed her life, what healing looks like when millions of people know your heartbreak, and how she’s learning to trust herself again while remaining open to the possibility of healthy love.

This is the story beyond the story. It’s a journey from deception to discernment, heartbreak to healing, and becoming wiser without becoming hardened. Because sometimes the greatest lesson from loving the wrong person is finally learning how to recognize and receive the right kind of love.

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Tareasa "Reesa Teesa" Johnson captivated millions with a story that sounded too unbelievable to be true. But behind the viral series was a real woman navigating heartbreak, deception, disappointment, and the painful realization that the person she loved wasn&rsquo;t who she thought he was. In this powerful episode of Dear Future Wifey, Reesa Teesa sits down with Laterras and Ashley R. Whitfield for a conversation that goes beyond the headlines and viral moments.
She opens up about the emotional aftermath of her marriage, the red flags that became clearer in hindsight, and what the experience revealed about her own desires, vulnerabilities, and relationship patterns. But this conversation isn&rsquo;t simply about who lied. It&rsquo;s about what happens after the truth sets you free. Reesa shares how telling her story publicly changed her life, what healing looks like when millions of people know your heartbreak, and how she&rsquo;s learning to trust herself again while remaining open to the possibility of healthy love.
This is the story beyond the story. It&rsquo;s a journey from deception to discernment, heartbreak to healing, and becoming wiser without becoming hardened. Because sometimes the greatest lesson from loving the wrong person is finally learning how to recognize and receive the right kind of love.
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From Betrayal To Becoming (Guests: Tareasa "Reesa Teesa" Johnson)

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Setting the Stage for Dating Discussions

The Challenges of Modern Dating

Leading Men vs. Leading a Wife

Recognizing Trauma vs. Abuse in Relationships

The Journey to Marriage

Dear Future Podcast Introduction

The Importance of God's List

Meeting New People and Building Connections

The Art of Approaching Women

The Importance of Transparency in

Meeting People Through Community Involvement

Starting to Date After a Long Break

Protecting Assets in Dating and Marriage

Protecting Assets in Relationships

Healthy Encouragement in Spiritual Growth

Balancing Directness and Softness in Dating

Overcoming Past Patterns in Dating

Creating a Safe Space in Dating

Navigating Church and Dating as a Christian

Sharing Past Experiences in Dating

Choosing a Partner as a Public Figure

Preparing for Partnership Before Meeting

Advice for Becoming a Godly Husband

Navigating Trauma and Abuse in Relationships

Pursuing Someone Without Love Bombing

Kingdom Royal: A Mission to Help Foster Boys

Closing Remarks and Call to Action

Dating has changed—but has the Church changed with it? In a culture shaped by dating apps, social media, shifting gender expectations, hookup culture, delayed marriage, and an increasing distrust between men and women, Christian singles are navigating a dating landscape unlike any generation before them. "State of Dating" is a candid panel discussion hosted at Christian Cultural Center that brings together diverse voices for an unfiltered conversation about what it means to date, build relationships, and pursue marriage while maintaining Christian values in today's culture.

The panel explores some of the questions many singles are already asking: Why does dating feel so difficult? Are our standards helping us or hurting us? Where are the marriage-minded men and women? Has the Church adequately prepared singles for healthy relationships? And how do faith, attraction, purpose, finances, sex, gender roles, healing, and expectations intersect when choosing a spouse? Rather than offering clichés or telling singles simply to "wait on God," this conversation will address the real tensions facing Christian singles and create space for honest dialogue between men and women. It's time for the Church to talk about dating the way people are actually experiencing it. Welcome to "The State of Dating".

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Dating has changed&mdash;but has the Church changed with it? In a culture shaped by dating apps, social media, shifting gender expectations, hookup culture, delayed marriage, and an increasing distrust between men and women, Christian singles are navigating a dating landscape unlike any generation before them. "State of Dating" is a candid panel discussion hosted at Christian Cultural Center that brings together diverse voices for an unfiltered conversation about what it means to date, build relationships, and pursue marriage while maintaining Christian values in today's culture.
The panel explores some of the questions many singles are already asking: Why does dating feel so difficult? Are our standards helping us or hurting us? Where are the marriage-minded men and women? Has the Church adequately prepared singles for healthy relationships? And how do faith, attraction, purpose, finances, sex, gender roles, healing, and expectations intersect when choosing a spouse? Rather than offering clich&eacute;s or telling singles simply to "wait on God," this conversation will address the real tensions facing Christian singles and create space for honest dialogue between men and women. It's time for the Church to talk about dating the way people are actually experiencing it. Welcome to "The State of Dating".
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The State of Dating (Guests: Pastor Jamaal Bernard, Daryl Richardson Kenyatta Solomon, Jamice Vickers)

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God Delivered Us From Our Preferences (Guests: Joshua & Courtney Washington)

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