Lady, when was the last time you took a long hard look in the mirror to examine the negativity you may bring to your relationships? We know that doing so requires hard work and often a level of vulnerability that some of us will readily avoid. In today’s throwback episode, Terri and Dom offer us ways to identify when and why we are the toxic ones in our relationships. They also share some of their toxic ways. Within that sharing, the ladies also provide us with concrete steps to take if we are ready for making a change in our behavior patterns. Be sure to tune in and also scroll below for more information on tips and resources mentioned in this episode.   

Quote of the Day: "Your toxicity in your relationships with other people is actually an extension of the toxicity in your relationship to yourself. What you have is not an issue with how you relate to others, but a fundamental trauma that is preventing you from being at ease within yourself. That is what you must address." - Brianna Wiest  

Takeaways:

Signs it's you:
All of your problems are someone else's fault
You take more than you give
There's so much drama
You have a major superiority complex
You’re a Debbie Downer
You only express love or admiration when you need something.

How to make the change: 
Watch how people interact around you
Monitor your own thoughts and actions
Apologize more and seek understanding
Identify the root of the toxicity and what must be done to heal

Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers 
The Self Compassion Deck  

Relevant Past Episodes:

S5E3: A Fresh Perspective on Receiving Feedback and Managing Defensiveness 
S5E4: How Your Words Are Creating Your Current Reality (Put Some Respect on Your Name) S3E12: Healing Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis

Resources: 
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls 
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC  

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