Does it feel like your life is being interrupted? Financial issues, health concerns, and disagreements with family members can all throw a wrench into our plans. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley talk with Julie Plagens, who describes common interruptions in her life. We address the need for control, people-pleasing, and messages from how a strict faith background fueled anger and unforgiveness. Greg and Erin also talk about benefits of spending time outdoors together, and they answer a listener about chronic blame in marriage. This is a "meat & potatoes" episode we know you'll enjoy.

Marriage Interrupted: How to Deal with Unexpected Conflict as a Couple and Stay in Love
Hope Restored
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Does it feel like your life is being interrupted? Financial issues, health concerns, and disagreements with family members can all throw a wrench into our plans. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley talk with Julie Plagens, who describes common interruptions in her life. We address the need for control, people-pleasing, and messages from how a strict faith background fueled anger and unforgiveness. Greg and Erin also talk about benefits of spending time outdoors together, and they answer a listener about chronic blame in marriage. This is a "meat &amp; potatoes" episode we know you'll enjoy. <a href="https://donate.focusonthefamily.com/don-crazy-little-thing-2026-08-17?refcd=2518503">Marriage Interrupted: How to Deal with Unexpected Conflict as a Couple and Stay in Love</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/mk19kl">Hope Restored</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/pp3epa">Conflict Style Quiz</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/w2vmoa">Enjoying music together can draw you closer as a couple. Check out Focus Live, powered by Godcaster.</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/sektug">Ask Us Your Question via Voicemail or Email</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/9crqk5">Speak With A Counselor</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/4c9660">Shop our podcast store</a>

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear, practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear, practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.

Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family. 

Did you know the Hebrew root word for marriage is the same as mess? Okay, maybe not, but it wasn’t a stretch to believe, right? This is the podcast for Christian married couples who are in the middle of a messy moment. They need to laugh. They need clear practical advice. And they need to hear from someone with an actual degree in this thing. Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley are those people. They have reached millions of couples through their counseling practices, books, events, and work at Focus on the Family.

Adaptability in Marriage

Intro - Reasons for Affair

Recovery Work

Emotional Affairs

Being A Unified "We"

What To Do When An Affair Is Announced

Recap & Resources

Chore War Truce

Q & A and Close

Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley focus on infidelity with Brad and Tami Miller. They discuss how couples drift through busyness, unmet emotional needs, validation-seeking, social media connections, and contrast emotional vs. physical affairs. They also have helpful ideas for couples to avoid the "chore war" and they tackle a listener question about a wife who seems to weaponize the mistakes her husband made in the past. If you know someone who has experienced infidelity, share this link with them!
Anatomy of An Affair
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Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley focus on infidelity with Brad and Tami Miller. They discuss how couples drift through busyness, unmet emotional needs, validation-seeking, social media connections, and contrast emotional vs. physical affairs. They also have helpful ideas for couples to avoid the "chore war" and they tackle a listener question about a wife who seems to weaponize the mistakes her husband made in the past. If you know someone who has experienced infidelity, share this link with them! <a href="https://donate.focusonthefamily.com/don-crazy-little-thing-2026-08-10?refcd=2516006">Anatomy of An Affair</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/qmbfyi">Join Our Facebook Group!</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/b3cac9">Hope Restored</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/xvavwy">Enjoying music together can draw you closer as a couple. Check out Focus Live, powered by Godcaster. It&rsquo;s a great way to get Focus On The Family content and hear contemporary Christian worship music!</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/nm48wz">Ask Us Your Question via Voicemail or Email</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/vop589">Speak With A Counselor</a> <a href="https://store.focusonthefamily.com/podcastmerch?refcd=2527803&amp;utm_source=internet&amp;utm_medium=url&amp;utm_campaign=cltcm&amp;utm_content=cltcm_merch_episodedescription">Shop our podcast store</a>

Affair Prevention & Recovery

Intro

David McIver

What Is Love & Inner Faith Marriage

As You Wait & Resources

Guiness Book Of World Records Marriage

Q & A & Close

You're really going to be blessed by this program, even if you and your spouse share the same faith. Greg and Erin talk with David McIver, author of Looking For The One. David teaches that loving a spiritually different spouse means seeing them through Jesus’ eyes and praying about where the trust was first broken rather than focusing on behavior. Greg and Erin also talk about a couple that have been married for 84 years, and they answer a listener question about inter-faith marriage and children.
Looking For The One: Stories of Seeing The Lost, Lonely, and Broken Through The Eyes of Jesus
Avoiding Marriage Pitfalls
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You're really going to be blessed by this program, even if you and your spouse share the same faith. Greg and Erin talk with David McIver, author of Looking For The One. David teaches that loving a spiritually different spouse means seeing them through Jesus&rsquo; eyes and praying about where the trust was first broken rather than focusing on behavior. Greg and Erin also talk about a couple that have been married for 84 years, and they answer a listener question about inter-faith marriage and children. <a href="https://donate.focusonthefamily.com/don-crazy-little-thing-2026-08-03?refcd=2512601">Looking For The One: Stories of Seeing The Lost, Lonely, and Broken Through The Eyes of Jesus</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/8h0dz8">Avoiding Marriage Pitfalls</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/dclmqb">Find ALL of the Focus On The Family Podcast!</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/m7xcr5">Enjoying music together can draw you closer as a couple. Check out Focus Live, powered by Godcaster. It&rsquo;s a great way to get Focus On The Family content and hear contemporary Christian worship music!</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/kv105b">Ask Us Your Question via Voicemail or Email</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/6rct22">Speak With A Counselor</a> <a href="https://store.focusonthefamily.com/podcastmerch?refcd=2527803&amp;utm_source=internet&amp;utm_medium=url&amp;utm_campaign=cltcm&amp;utm_content=cltcm_merch_episodedescription">Shop our podcast store</a>

Support For An InterFaith Marriage

Introduction

Do You Have To Check In?

What About Financial Secrecy?

Is Location Sharing OK?

I Don't Like My Spouse's Friend

Can I Check Their Social Media?

Workaholic Spouse

Do I Have To Tell Them Everything?

Close

Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley host a rapid-fire episode answering common marriage questions from both a husband and a wife perspective - with timed responses! They discuss whether spouses should check in when apart, address hidden purchases as “financial infidelity,” evaluate location sharing and phone/social media access, and other common questions couples have. Ultimately, this is to help you and your spouse discuss what must be shared to maintain security, especially after betrayal, and how to respond without weaponizing.
The Reactive Cycle Assessment
Hope Restored
Enjoying music together can draw you closer as a couple. Check out Focus Live, powered by Godcaster. It’s a great way to get Focus On The Family content and hear contemporary Christian worship music!
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Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley host a rapid-fire episode answering common marriage questions from both a husband and a wife perspective - with timed responses! They discuss whether spouses should check in when apart, address hidden purchases as &ldquo;financial infidelity,&rdquo; evaluate location sharing and phone/social media access, and other common questions couples have. Ultimately, this is to help you and your spouse discuss what must be shared to maintain security, especially after betrayal, and how to respond without weaponizing. <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/uw37kb">The Reactive Cycle Assessment</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/n9ttcx">Hope Restored</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/8jzs1y">Enjoying music together can draw you closer as a couple. Check out Focus Live, powered by Godcaster. It&rsquo;s a great way to get Focus On The Family content and hear contemporary Christian worship music!</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/478xue">Ask Us Your Question via Voicemail or Email</a> <a href="https://sf.fotf.com/3m64l0">Speak With A Counselor</a> <a href="https://store.focusonthefamily.com/podcastmerch?refcd=2527803&amp;utm_source=internet&amp;utm_medium=url&amp;utm_campaign=cltcm&amp;utm_content=cltcm_merch_episodedescription"></a><a href="https://store.focusonthefamily.com/podcastmerch?refcd=2527803&amp;utm_source=internet&amp;utm_medium=url&amp;utm_campaign=cltcm&amp;utm_content=cltcm_merch_episodedescription"></a><a href="https://store.focusonthefamily.com/podcastmerch?refcd=2527803&amp;utm_source=internet&amp;utm_medium=url&amp;utm_campaign=cltcm&amp;utm_content=cltcm_merch_episodedescription">Shop our podcast store</a>

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