Sex educator and bestselling author Emily Nagoski answers questions about sex with the latest science. Along the way, she busts cultural myths and teaches you what's true with the help of groundbreaking research. Come As You Are will guide you towards a life with more confidence, pleasure, and joy.

Coming November 16 from Pushkin Industries and Madison Wells.

Sex educator and bestselling author Emily Nagoski answers questions about sex with the latest science. Along the way, she busts cultural myths and teaches you what's true with the help of groundbreaking research. Come As You Are will guide you towards a life with more confidence, pleasure, and joy.
Coming November 16 from Pushkin Industries and Madison Wells.

Educator and bestselling author Dr. Emily Nagoski answers questions about sex with the latest science. The eight-part series is a modern guide to sexual wellbeing, backed by groundbreaking research about desire, anatomy, orgasm and much more. In conversation with her producer, Mo, Dr. Nagoski debunks cultural myths and flips the script on everything you thought you knew about sex and sexuality. Come As You Are will help you unlock your most pleasurable life, in the bedroom and beyond.

New episodes drop on Wednesdays.

Lead production by Monique LaBorde.

Come As You Are is produced by Pushkin Industries and Madison Wells.

Show art by Sofie Birkin.

To hear episodes a week early and ads free, subscribe to Pushkin+ in Apple Podcasts or at pushkin.fm/plus.

Educator and bestselling author Dr. Emily Nagoski answers questions about sex with the latest science. The eight-part series is a modern guide to sexual wellbeing, backed by groundbreaking research about desire, anatomy, orgasm and much more. In conversation with her producer, Mo, Dr. Nagoski debunks cultural myths and flips the script on everything you thought you knew about sex and sexuality. Come As You Are will help you unlock your most pleasurable life, in the bedroom and beyond.
New episodes drop on Wednesdays.
Lead production by Monique LaBorde.
Come As You Are is produced by Pushkin Industries and Madison Wells.
Show art by Sofie Birkin.
To hear episodes a week early and ads free, subscribe to Pushkin+ in Apple Podcasts or at <a href="http://pushkin.fm/plus.">pushkin.fm/plus.</a>

Come As You Are

Introducing: Come As You Are

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A listener in his eighties wants to know if there’s an expiration date on his sex life, and how to reconnect in the bedroom with his wife. Luckily, Emily is writing a new book about sex in long-term relationships. She delves deep into what the research reveals about couples who sustain a strong sexual connection over many years. Plus, she shares practical, science-backed sex advice on aging and navigating your changing body.



If you have a question for Emily, call the Come As You Are hotline at (646) 397-8557‬ or send a voice memo to emily@pushkin.fm. Tell us your pronouns and pseudonym (pick a name, any name!) Your question might be answered on the show.

Books mentioned by Emily: 

“Magnificent Sex” by Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz

“Black Girls Guide to Surviving Menopause” by Omisade Burney-Scott

“What Fresh Hell Is This?”byHeather Corinna

“Why Good Sex Matters” by Nan Wise

”Couples Sexuality After 60” by Barry and Emily M

A listener in his eighties wants to know if there’s an expiration date on his sex life, and how to reconnect in the bedroom with his wife. Luckily, Emily is writing a new book about sex in long-term relationships. She delves deep into what the research reveals about couples who sustain a strong sexual connection over many years. Plus, she shares practical, science-backed sex advice on aging and navigating your changing body.
 
If you have a question for Emily, call the Come As You Are hotline at (646) 397-8557‬ or send a voice memo to emily@pushkin.fm. Tell us your pronouns and pseudonym (pick a name, any name!) Your question might be answered on the show.
Books mentioned by Emily: 
<a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/magnificent-sex-lessons-from-extraordinary-lovers-a-dana-menard/14324686?ean=9780367181376">“Magnificent Sex” by Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz</a> 
“<a href="https://blackgirlsguidetosurvivingmenopause.com">Black Girls Guide to Surviving Menopause” by Omisade Burney-Scott</a>
“<a href="https://heathercorinna.com/project/what-fresh-hell-is-this-perimenopause-menopause-other-indignities-and-you-a-guide/">What Fresh Hell Is This?” by Heather Corinna</a>
<a href="https://askdoctornan.com/book/">“Why Good Sex Matters” by Nan Wise</a>
<a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/couple-sexuality-after-60-intimate-pleasurable-and-satisfying-emily-mccarthy/16384748">”Couples Sexuality After 60” by Barry and Emily M</a>

The Science of Great Sex in Long-Term Relationships

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This week, Emily answers a question from her producer, Mo, about consent. Mo and her girlfriend are considering a new sexual experience but they’re not both an “enthusiastic yes” on the idea. Mo’s girlfriend joins the conversation, and they delve into the idea of “enthusiastic maybe” in consent and how to handle all the comfortable, joyful, and consensual “maybes” that can come up in sex. A heads up before listening: in this conversation, we touch on difficult topics such as coercion and manipulation in sex. If this episode brings up some feelings for you, check out our resources below.

If you have a question for Emily, call the Come As You Are hotline at (646) 397-8557‬ or send a voice memo to emily@pushkin.fm. Tell us your pronouns and pseudonym (pick a name, any name!) Your question might be answered on the show. 



ADDITIONAL RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 

“ACE: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire Society” by Angela Chen

Emily learned the language of “willing consent” from Suzanne Iasenza

For more on “human givers” and “human winners” read “Burnout” 

Emily’s Tiktok

Emily’s definition of consent: “Everyone is glad to be there and free to leave with no unwanted consequences. Plus, there is no unwanted pain.”



CONSENT AND SURVIVOR RESOURCES: 

RAINN on consent and information for sexual assault survivors

National Sexual Violence Resource Center

Me Too Movement Resource Library

This week, Emily answers a question from her producer, Mo, about consent. Mo and her girlfriend are considering a new sexual experience but they’re not both an “enthusiastic yes” on the idea. Mo’s girlfriend joins the conversation, and they delve into the idea of “enthusiastic maybe” in consent and how to handle all the comfortable, joyful, and consensual “maybes” that can come up in sex. A heads up before listening: in this conversation, we touch on difficult topics such as coercion and manipulation in sex. If this episode brings up some feelings for you, check out our resources below.
If you have a question for Emily, call the Come As You Are hotline at (646) 397-8557‬ or send a voice memo to emily@pushkin.fm. Tell us your pronouns and pseudonym (pick a name, any name!) Your question might be answered on the show. 
 
ADDITIONAL RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 
<a href="https://www.angelachen.org/ace">“ACE: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire Society” by Angela Chen</a> 
Emily learned the language of “willing consent” from <a href="https://www.suzanneiasenza.com/">Suzanne Iasenza</a>
For more on “human givers” and “human winners” read “<a href="https://www.burnoutbook.net">Burnout</a>” 
<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@emilynagoski">Emily’s Tiktok</a> 
Emily’s definition of consent: “Everyone is glad to be there and free to leave with no unwanted consequences. Plus, there is no unwanted pain.”
 
CONSENT AND SURVIVOR RESOURCES: 
RAINN <a href="https://www.rainn.org/articles/what-is-consent">on consent</a> and information for <a href="https://www.rainn.org/national-resources-sexual-assault-survivors-and-their-loved-ones">sexual assault survivors</a> 
<a href="https://www.nsvrc.org/survivors">National Sexual Violence Resource Center</a>
<a href="https://metoomvmt.org/explore-healing/resource-library/">Me Too Movement Resource Library</a>

Consent and "Enthusiastic Maybe"

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We switch things up this week as Mo challenges Emily to watch and rate a sex scene from the popular TV show “Ted Lasso." Emily rarely watches sex scenes since they often create the myths she works so hard to dispel, but she agrees to endure this torture for the good of our sex education. The scene prompts a deep conversation about vulnerability in sex, the absolute prison of masculinity, and what the dual control model can teach us about our porn habits.

If you have a question for Emily, call the Come As You Are hotline at (646) 397-8557‬ or send a voice memo to emily@pushkin.fm. Tell us your pronouns and pseudonym (pick a name, any name!) Your question might be answered on the show.

We switch things up this week as Mo challenges Emily to watch and rate a sex scene from the popular TV show “Ted Lasso." Emily rarely watches sex scenes since they often create the myths she works so hard to dispel, but she agrees to endure this torture for the good of our sex education. The scene prompts a deep conversation about vulnerability in sex, the absolute prison of masculinity, and what the dual control model can teach us about our porn habits.
If you have a question for Emily, call the Come As You Are hotline at (646) 397-8557‬ or send a voice memo to emily@pushkin.fm. Tell us your pronouns and pseudonym (pick a name, any name!) Your question might be answered on the show.

Sex Ed from Pop Culture

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