In this insightful episode, Hilary explores the transformative power of understanding and utilising love languages in our relationships. Drawing from Gary Chapman's renowned work on love languages, she shares how this concept has profoundly impacted her connections with others. Hilary breaks down the five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch, providing listeners with a roadmap to deeper, more meaningful interactions.

Through personal anecdotes and reflections, Hilary illustrates the significance of recognising and communicating in the love languages of those around us, whether they be partners, family members, or colleagues. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging our own primary love languages to better communicate our needs and desires. By engaging with others in their preferred love languages, we can fill their "love cup," strengthening bonds and enhancing mutual understanding.

This episode is a practical guide for anyone looking to enrich their relationships. Hilary encourages listeners to take a love languages test to discover their own languages and those of their loved ones, promising that mastering this skill can revolutionize our approach to building and maintaining strong, loving relationships.

https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

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In this insightful episode, Hilary explores the transformative power of understanding and utilising love languages in our relationships. Drawing from Gary Chapman's renowned work on love languages, she shares how this concept has profoundly impacted her connections with others. Hilary breaks down the five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch, providing listeners with a roadmap to deeper, more meaningful interactions.
Through personal anecdotes and reflections, Hilary illustrates the significance of recognising and communicating in the love languages of those around us, whether they be partners, family members, or colleagues. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging our own primary love languages to better communicate our needs and desires. By engaging with others in their preferred love languages, we can fill their "love cup," strengthening bonds and enhancing mutual understanding.
This episode is a practical guide for anyone looking to enrich their relationships. Hilary encourages listeners to take a love languages test to discover their own languages and those of their loved ones, promising that mastering this skill can revolutionize our approach to building and maintaining strong, loving relationships.
<a href="https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language">https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language</a>
<a href="http://www.hilarysaxton.com">www.hilarysaxton.com</a>

Hey, Hilary here and welcome to the Bounce Back Better podcast. Your past doesn't determine your future, no matter what you've experienced. Just know that it's possible to redesign your life from today by simply drawing a line in the sand and making a choice to live your best life.

Hit follow or subscribe and tune in weekly for episodes from me. 

Chat soon,

Hilary x

Hey, Hilary here and welcome to the Bounce Back Better podcast. Your past doesn't determine your future, no matter what you've experienced. Just know that it's possible to redesign your life from today by simply drawing a line in the sand and making a choice to live your best life.
Hit follow or subscribe and tune in weekly for episodes from me. 
Chat soon,
Hilary x

Bounce Back Better By Hilary Saxton

Hilary Saxton, known as the “Bounce-Back-Better Queen,” Her lifelong mantra is “We only have one life, so don’t settle for mediocre,” which has driven her to dizzying heights of success.

Hilary Saxton, known as the “Bounce-Back-Better Queen,” Her lifelong mantra is “We only have one life, so don’t settle for mediocre,” which has driven her to dizzying heights of success.

What Is Your Love Language

The first time Hilary saw Tony, she thought he was homeless. He was alone in the park at dusk, cooking on a barbecue, looking like a man with nowhere to be. He lived in the penthouse at the top of the hill, with a car collection, 2,000 bottles of wine, and thousands of rally maps in alphabetical order.

For 40 years Tony was a rally car navigator, the person who knew exactly where to go at speed, every single time. Then his wife Liz died before they moved into the home they'd worked their whole lives for, and the man who knew every road in the world had nowhere left to go.

This episode is about destination change. The kind that comes from grief, redundancy, retirement, an empty nest, divorce, even success. It's about why having every skill in the world doesn't help if you don't know where you're pointing them. And it's about five honest steps to find your way back when the map you've memorised stops working.

What you'll learn
Why a destination change is more common than you think
How to spot the difference between a motivation problem and a direction problem
The five honest moves to find your way forward when you're lost
Why routine becomes a handrail when nothing else feels stable
The one question nobody thought to ask Tony, and you should ask yourself

Timestamped highlights
[00:00] The man eating alone in the park who turned out to live in the penthouse
[11:00] The five ways most people lose direction without realising it
[21:00] The wrong funeral, and what it taught Hilary about navigating

Bestquote

"He had every skill he needed. Clarity, decision-making, the ability to call a sharp turn at speed. He just never pointed any of that at himself."

Reach out here: https://hilarysaxton.com/

The first time Hilary saw Tony, she thought he was homeless. He was alone in the park at dusk, cooking on a barbecue, looking like a man with nowhere to be. He lived in the penthouse at the top of the hill, with a car collection, 2,000 bottles of wine, and thousands of rally maps in alphabetical order.
For 40 years Tony was a rally car navigator, the person who knew exactly where to go at speed, every single time. Then his wife Liz died before they moved into the home they'd worked their whole lives for, and the man who knew every road in the world had nowhere left to go.
This episode is about destination change. The kind that comes from grief, redundancy, retirement, an empty nest, divorce, even success. It's about why having every skill in the world doesn't help if you don't know where you're pointing them. And it's about five honest steps to find your way back when the map you've memorised stops working.
What you'll learn
<ul>
<li>Why a destination change is more common than you think</li>
<li>How to spot the difference between a motivation problem and a direction problem</li>
<li>The five honest moves to find your way forward when you're lost</li>
<li>Why routine becomes a handrail when nothing else feels stable</li>
<li>The one question nobody thought to ask Tony, and you should ask yourself</li>
</ul>
Timestamped highlights
<ul>
<li>[00:00] The man eating alone in the park who turned out to live in the penthouse</li>
<li>[11:00] The five ways most people lose direction without realising it</li>
<li>[21:00] The wrong funeral, and what it taught Hilary about navigating</li>
</ul>
Bestquote
"He had every skill he needed. Clarity, decision-making, the ability to call a sharp turn at speed. He just never pointed any of that at himself."
Reach out here: https://hilarysaxton.com/

The Man Who Knew Every Road and Had Nowhere to Go

Are you moving but not actually going anywhere? This week on Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton tackles focus fluff: the gap between thinking you're on track and actually making progress toward the thing that matters most to you.

Using a story involving a white suitcase, a Brisbane airport escalator, and a very unhelpful husband, Hilary breaks down what distraction really costs you and what's actually sitting underneath it. Spoiler: it's not a time problem. It's not an information problem. It's fear, dressed up as busyness.

This episode is a straight-talking reminder that getting unstuck doesn't require a new system or a perfect plan. It requires a decision.

What you'll learn:
What focus fluff is and why it's keeping you stuck
Why information overload is not your actual problem
How fear disguises itself as productivity and research
Why following someone else's path won't get you to your destination
How to make the decision that actually moves things forward

Timestamped highlights:
[03:57] The airport escalator story that explains everything
[07:47] Why distraction is just fear in disguise
[00:26] The one question that cuts through focus fluff

Connect with Hilary: https://hilarysaxton.com/

Are you moving but not actually going anywhere? This week on Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton tackles focus fluff: the gap between thinking you're on track and actually making progress toward the thing that matters most to you.
Using a story involving a white suitcase, a Brisbane airport escalator, and a very unhelpful husband, Hilary breaks down what distraction really costs you and what's actually sitting underneath it. Spoiler: it's not a time problem. It's not an information problem. It's fear, dressed up as busyness.
This episode is a straight-talking reminder that getting unstuck doesn't require a new system or a perfect plan. It requires a decision.
What you'll learn:
<ul>
<li>What focus fluff is and why it's keeping you stuck</li>
<li>Why information overload is not your actual problem</li>
<li>How fear disguises itself as productivity and research</li>
<li>Why following someone else's path won't get you to your destination</li>
<li>How to make the decision that actually moves things forward</li>
</ul>
Timestamped highlights:
<ul>
<li>[03:57] The airport escalator story that explains everything</li>
<li>[07:47] Why distraction is just fear in disguise</li>
<li>[00:26] The one question that cuts through focus fluff</li>
</ul>
Connect with Hilary: https://hilarysaxton.com/

Is Focus Fluff Killing Your Progress?

Most people don't recognise victim mindset in themselves because it doesn't look dramatic. It looks like a property developer with a very good reason why now isn't the time. It looks like an exhausted professional who's been describing the same hard situation for months. It looks like someone who has the receipts, the timeline, and the context, and no plan.

In this episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton breaks down what victim mindset actually is, why smart and capable people stay in it, and what it costs the people around you, your kids, your team, your culture. Most importantly, she gives you the one question that shifts everything: not "why me?" but "what is still mine to do?"

What you'll learn:
Why victim mindset looks normal and how to spot it in yourself
The hidden payoff that keeps capable people stuck
How your mindset pattern flows to the people around you
The one question that pulls you out of the story and back into action
How to apply this immediately in property, business, or at home

Timestamped highlights:

01.14 The Dinner Party Revelation

02:53 Understanding Victim Mindset

06:09 The Impact of Victim Mindset on Relationships

08:54 Shifting from Victim to Growth Mindset

11:48 Taking Ownership and Action

15:11 The Power of Asking the Right Questions

www.hilarysaxton.com

 

Most people don't recognise victim mindset in themselves because it doesn't look dramatic. It looks like a property developer with a very good reason why now isn't the time. It looks like an exhausted professional who's been describing the same hard situation for months. It looks like someone who has the receipts, the timeline, and the context, and no plan.
In this episode of Bounce Back Better, Hilary Saxton breaks down what victim mindset actually is, why smart and capable people stay in it, and what it costs the people around you, your kids, your team, your culture. Most importantly, she gives you the one question that shifts everything: not "why me?" but "what is still mine to do?"
What you'll learn:
<ul>
<li>Why victim mindset looks normal and how to spot it in yourself</li>
<li>The hidden payoff that keeps capable people stuck</li>
<li>How your mindset pattern flows to the people around you</li>
<li>The one question that pulls you out of the story and back into action</li>
<li>How to apply this immediately in property, business, or at home</li>
</ul>
Timestamped highlights:
01.14 The Dinner Party Revelation
02:53 Understanding Victim Mindset
06:09 The Impact of Victim Mindset on Relationships
08:54 Shifting from Victim to Growth Mindset
11:48 Taking Ownership and Action
15:11 The Power of Asking the Right Questions
<a href="https://www.hilarysaxton.com">www.hilarysaxton.com</a>
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