Is it wrong to date someone because of who they could become instead of who they are today?

In this week's Dirty Little Secret, a listener admits that when he was dating, he stopped pursuing women he considered "10s" and instead started looking for what he calls a "fixer-upper." According to him, he met his now-girlfriend and immediately saw potential. While he loved her personality, kindness, and sense of humor, he also believed she needed a confidence boost, healthier habits, and a lifestyle change.

As their relationship grew, he introduced her to fitness, nutrition, and wellness routines that eventually transformed her appearance and confidence. Now, he proudly says the woman he once considered a "6" has become a "9" or even a "10" in his eyes.

The catch?

She has absolutely no idea that he secretly viewed her as a project from the very beginning.

Billy, Candice, and Producer Pooh debate whether this is a success story about helping someone become their best self, or a major red flag from a guy who treated a relationship like a home renovation project.