Steve Harvey has advice for...

• Tamara in New Haven: I have been with the same man for almost 10 years and he has a 5 year old son that we just found out about. I encouraged him to do a blood test to find out if it’s really his child. The child’s mother is in the military and she asked if the child can live with us, which means I would be responsible for the child because my boyfriend is a kid himself. Not only do I have to forgive him for cheating, I will have to raise his son. What’s in it for me? Is it time to leave?
• Rhonda in Tyler: My lover and I are having a major dispute over how he should be pleased. He’s married so there’s a limited amount of activities that I can do with him because he made it clear that he’s still sexually active with his wife. Why does he cheat if they’re still having sex?