In the first-ever live, in-person episode of Awakened Love, Angel Drake sits down with her dear friend Yossef Sagi — mystic, teacher, coach and founder of The Mystery Temple — for a conversation that starts with floggers at airport security and goes all the way down.

Together they explore the nervous-system chemistry of BDSM and why safety without intensity is dull, but intensity without safety is torture. They unpack the romantasy phenomenon and what the villain who claims her — versus the prince who owns her — reveals about female desire. And they go deep into the healing of men: the rise of the tantric f*ckboy, why women's discernment is part of the work, and the constant, living balance between sovereignty and surrender in long-term love.

Yossef returns soon to share his 25 years inside a spiritual organisation — and his adventures in the world of conscious play parties. Subscribe so you don't miss it.

Connect with Yossef: yossefsagi.com | Instagram @yossefsagi

Connect with Angel: Instagram @angelikaalana | Join Soul Notes, Angel's weekly letter on love, desire and the inner life: https://mailchi.mp/29a530c61e75/weekly-soul-notes-from-angel

In the first-ever live, in-person episode of Awakened Love, Angel Drake sits down with her dear friend Yossef Sagi &mdash; mystic, teacher, coach and founder of The Mystery Temple &mdash; for a conversation that starts with floggers at airport security and goes all the way down.
Together they explore the nervous-system chemistry of BDSM and why safety without intensity is dull, but intensity without safety is torture. They unpack the romantasy phenomenon and what the villain who claims her &mdash; versus the prince who owns her &mdash; reveals about female desire. And they go deep into the healing of men: the rise of the tantric f*ckboy, why women's discernment is part of the work, and the constant, living balance between sovereignty and surrender in long-term love.
Yossef returns soon to share his 25 years inside a spiritual organisation &mdash; and his adventures in the world of conscious play parties. Subscribe so you don't miss it.
Connect with Yossef: yossefsagi.com | Instagram @yossefsagi
Connect with Angel: Instagram @angelikaalana | Join Soul Notes, Angel's weekly letter on love, desire and the inner life: https://mailchi.mp/29a530c61e75/weekly-soul-notes-from-angel

A podcast on sex, love & awakening to evoke the wild, wise, woke one within you. Let's go deep!

A podcast on sex, love &amp; awakening to evoke the wild, wise, woke one within you. Let's go deep!

Awakened Love

Why Women Want the Villain — Kink, Claiming & Safe Danger with Yossef Sagi

Most people think boundaries are about control but real boundaries create freedom.

 

In this episode of Awakened Love, we explore what boundaries truly are (and what they’re not). You’ll learn the difference between boundaries, limits, needs, and preferences, and how to protect your truth without shutting down connection.

 

I’ll also walk you through the Four Rs of Repair: a simple framework for what to do when a boundary has been crossed, so you can rebuild trust without blame, control, or withdrawal.

 

Whether you’re navigating conflict with a partner, friend, or family member, this conversation will help you find the space between rigidity and surrender, where intimacy can actually grow.

 

00:00 — Boundaries Aren’t Rules, They’re Clarity

00:11 — Boundaries Aren’t Rules, They’re Clarity
Why boundaries are about knowing yourself — not controlling others.

01:32 — Boundary vs. Limit: What Most People Get Wrong
How to recognise the difference and why rigidity often masks fear.

04:28 — Compromise Without Self-Abandonment
Learning the art of flex space — protecting your truth and connection.

07:12 — Needs vs. Preferences: The Real Source of Relationship Tension
How confusing the two leads to conflict — and what true needs actually are.

10:45 — Intimacy Begins Where Defensiveness Ends
Dropping deeper than “being right” to find the truth underneath.

13:14 — Boundaries, Limits, Needs, and Preferences: A Simple Framework
A clear map to navigate safety, self-expression, and relational harmony.

14:02 — The Four Rs of Repair: Rebuilding Trust After a Boundary Breach
Recognise, Reveal, Reinstate, Rebuild — how to heal after conflict.

17:48 — Repair Without Control or Withdrawal
How to invite collaboration instead of blame, silence, or ultimatums.

18:24 — Why Boundary Work Is the Gateway to True Intimacy
The heart of awakened love — where self-responsibility meets freedom.

 

 

Work With Me:

Boundary work is at the heart of my coaching. Whether it’s private couples work or my women’s coaching containers. It’s what allows intimacy to be both deep and free.

 

✨ Learn more or apply here: https://www.angelikaalana.com/new-clients

 

If this episode moved you, please like, share, and subscribe. Your shares help this community of awakened love continue to grow organically, one honest conversation at a time.

 

Follow me on Instagram: 

https://www.instagram.com/angelikaalana/

https://www.instagram.com/awakenedlove/

 

My Website:

https://www.angeldrake.com/

Most people think boundaries are about control but real boundaries create freedom.
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In this episode of Awakened Love, we explore what boundaries truly are (and what they&rsquo;re not). You&rsquo;ll learn the difference between boundaries, limits, needs, and preferences, and how to protect your truth without shutting down connection.
&nbsp;
I&rsquo;ll also walk you through the Four Rs of Repair: a simple framework for what to do when a boundary has been crossed, so you can rebuild trust without blame, control, or withdrawal.
&nbsp;
Whether you&rsquo;re navigating conflict with a partner, friend, or family member, this conversation will help you find the space between rigidity and surrender, where intimacy can actually grow.
&nbsp;
00:00 &mdash; Boundaries Aren&rsquo;t Rules, They&rsquo;re Clarity
00:11 &mdash; Boundaries Aren&rsquo;t Rules, They&rsquo;re Clarity Why boundaries are about knowing yourself &mdash; not controlling others.
01:32 &mdash; Boundary vs. Limit: What Most People Get Wrong How to recognise the difference and why rigidity often masks fear.
04:28 &mdash; Compromise Without Self-Abandonment Learning the art of flex space &mdash; protecting your truth and connection.
07:12 &mdash; Needs vs. Preferences: The Real Source of Relationship Tension How confusing the two leads to conflict &mdash; and what true needs actually are.
10:45 &mdash; Intimacy Begins Where Defensiveness Ends Dropping deeper than &ldquo;being right&rdquo; to find the truth underneath.
13:14 &mdash; Boundaries, Limits, Needs, and Preferences: A Simple Framework A clear map to navigate safety, self-expression, and relational harmony.
14:02 &mdash; The Four Rs of Repair: Rebuilding Trust After a Boundary Breach Recognise, Reveal, Reinstate, Rebuild &mdash; how to heal after conflict.
17:48 &mdash; Repair Without Control or Withdrawal How to invite collaboration instead of blame, silence, or ultimatums.
18:24 &mdash; Why Boundary Work Is the Gateway to True Intimacy The heart of awakened love &mdash; where self-responsibility meets freedom.
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&nbsp;
Work With Me:
Boundary work is at the heart of my coaching. Whether it&rsquo;s private couples work or my women&rsquo;s coaching containers. It&rsquo;s what allows intimacy to be both deep and free.
&nbsp;
✨ Learn more or apply here: https://www.angelikaalana.com/new-clients
&nbsp;
If this episode moved you, please like, share, and subscribe. Your shares help this community of awakened love continue to grow organically, one honest conversation at a time.
&nbsp;
Follow me on Instagram:&nbsp;
https://www.instagram.com/angelikaalana/
https://www.instagram.com/awakenedlove/
&nbsp;
My Website:
https://www.angeldrake.com/

What to Do When a Boundary Is Crossed (Without Controlling or Withdrawing)

Those small, unspoken hurts don’t just fade, they calcify into resentment and erode the intimacy we long for.
In this episode, Angel explores why forgiveness alone isn’t enough to restore love, the hidden desire that lives beneath resentment, and a practice to help you reconnect from the inside out.

You’ll learn:
• Why “micro-resentments” matter more than big betrayals
• The emotional bank account of love
• How to speak truth without blame
• Why desire is the missing key to repair
• A practical way to clear resentment and re-open the heart

✨ To explore this work in your own relationship, learn more about Angel’s private coaching at https://www.angeldrake.com/newclient 

00:17 — The Hidden Cost of Resentment
Why small, unspoken hurts harden the heart and quietly erode connection.

01:30 — Micro-Resentments and Emotional Withdrawals
How everyday disappointments build up into a narrative of disconnection.

03:40 — Love Isn’t Infinite in Practice
Why relationships require conscious tending, not just unconditional love.

04:30 — The Emotional Bank Account
Understanding how resentment overdraws your relational reserves.

05:30 — The Antidote: Truth Without Blame
How to speak honestly in the moment before resentment piles up.

07:40 — “How Expensive Is It to Tell You the Truth?”
The Om Rupani principle and why psychological safety matters for love.

09:20 — Speaking What’s Really Happening Inside
A real-life example (the dishwasher) and how to express the impact clearly.

12:10 — Receiving Feedback Without Defensiveness
How to digest your partner’s truth without collapsing into shame.

14:00 — Playing the Deeper Game
Turning everyday tension into deeper intimacy and shared understanding.

16:00 — Desire Beneath Resentment
Discovering that resentment often masks a longing to be closer.

17:50 — Forgiveness Isn’t Enough
Why mental forgiveness doesn’t work without the felt shift in the body.

19:00 — Repair Through Desire and Vulnerability
Connecting with what you truly wanted instead of staying in the story.

20:30 — Creating a Culture of Repair
Transforming small moments into a practice of reconnection and awakening.

22:00 — The Practice: Name It as You Feel It
A simple framework to share your inner experience and invite deeper dialogue.

23:30 — Closing Reflection
Love as a path of awakening — and the invitation to play the deeper game.

24:10 — Outro & Coaching Invitation
Angel shares how to explore this work through her private couples coaching.

Those small, unspoken hurts don&rsquo;t just fade, they calcify into resentment and erode the intimacy we long for. In this episode, Angel explores why forgiveness alone isn&rsquo;t enough to restore love, the hidden desire that lives beneath resentment, and a practice to help you reconnect from the inside out.
You&rsquo;ll learn: &bull; Why &ldquo;micro-resentments&rdquo; matter more than big betrayals &bull; The emotional bank account of love &bull; How to speak truth without blame &bull; Why desire is the missing key to repair &bull; A practical way to clear resentment and re-open the heart
✨ To explore this work in your own relationship, learn more about Angel&rsquo;s private coaching at <a href="https://www.angeldrake.com/newclient">https://www.angeldrake.com/newclient</a>&nbsp;
00:17 &mdash; The Hidden Cost of Resentment Why small, unspoken hurts harden the heart and quietly erode connection.
01:30 &mdash; Micro-Resentments and Emotional Withdrawals How everyday disappointments build up into a narrative of disconnection.
03:40 &mdash; Love Isn&rsquo;t Infinite in Practice Why relationships require conscious tending, not just unconditional love.
04:30 &mdash; The Emotional Bank Account Understanding how resentment overdraws your relational reserves.
05:30 &mdash; The Antidote: Truth Without Blame How to speak honestly in the moment before resentment piles up.
07:40 &mdash; &ldquo;How Expensive Is It to Tell You the Truth?&rdquo; The Om Rupani principle and why psychological safety matters for love.
09:20 &mdash; Speaking What&rsquo;s Really Happening Inside A real-life example (the dishwasher) and how to express the impact clearly.
12:10 &mdash; Receiving Feedback Without Defensiveness How to digest your partner&rsquo;s truth without collapsing into shame.
14:00 &mdash; Playing the Deeper Game Turning everyday tension into deeper intimacy and shared understanding.
16:00 &mdash; Desire Beneath Resentment Discovering that resentment often masks a longing to be closer.
17:50 &mdash; Forgiveness Isn&rsquo;t Enough Why mental forgiveness doesn&rsquo;t work without the felt shift in the body.
19:00 &mdash; Repair Through Desire and Vulnerability Connecting with what you truly wanted instead of staying in the story.
20:30 &mdash; Creating a Culture of Repair Transforming small moments into a practice of reconnection and awakening.
22:00 &mdash; The Practice: Name It as You Feel It A simple framework to share your inner experience and invite deeper dialogue.
23:30 &mdash; Closing Reflection Love as a path of awakening &mdash; and the invitation to play the deeper game.
24:10 &mdash; Outro &amp; Coaching Invitation Angel shares how to explore this work through her private couples coaching.

Why Forgiveness Alone Can’t Heal the Heart - How to Clear Resentment

An unfiltered account of my natural homebirth and the initiation that taught me what it means to truly surrender. A story of trust, embodiment, and the mystical power of birth as a psychedelic, sacred rite.

💫 In this episode:
• Conscious preparation for a natural homebirth
• The moment of complete surrender
• Birth as a mystical, embodied rite

Subscribe for stories on spirituality, embodiment, and love as a path to awakening.

⏰ Chapters

00:00 — A Birth Story I Didn’t Plan to Tell
An unexpected free hour turns into sharing the most intimate story of my life.

01:47 — The Night My Waters Broke (Hollywood-Style)
What really happened when labour began — dramatic, messy, and completely unfiltered.

04:05 — Preparing the Birth Cave
Creating sacred space: lavender oil, sheepskin rug, and the first gentle waves of labour.

08:25 — When Labour Became Psychedelic
Moving through visions, trauma release, and deep healing in the in-between.

13:58 — Fear, Shame, and the Medicine of Focus
Meeting old memories and learning radical self-love mid-contraction.

18:45 — Zen on the Toilet: Finding My Power
Why my birth became a meditation, not a performance — and how focus became my survival.

23:55 — The Pushing Portal
From exhaustion to divine humour: when my higher self reminded me the body knows.

29:40 — Take Me to Your River
The moment music, surrender, and love carried me into motherhood.

34:55 — Aloha, River
The first breath, the meaning of his name, and the sacred silence that welcomed him home.

39:15 — Reflections on Birth and Becoming
What I learned about surrender, motherhood, and the rite of initiation that birth truly is.

♡ Connect with me: 🌿 Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/angelikaalana/ https://www.instagram.com/awakenedlove/ 🌐 Website → www.angeldrake.com

An unfiltered account of my natural homebirth and the initiation that taught me what it means to truly surrender. A story of trust, embodiment, and the mystical power of birth as a psychedelic, sacred rite.
💫 In this episode: &bull; Conscious preparation for a natural homebirth &bull; The moment of complete surrender &bull; Birth as a mystical, embodied rite
Subscribe for stories on spirituality, embodiment, and love as a path to awakening.
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⏰ Chapters
00:00 &mdash; A Birth Story I Didn&rsquo;t Plan to Tell An unexpected free hour turns into sharing the most intimate story of my life.
01:47 &mdash; The Night My Waters Broke (Hollywood-Style) What really happened when labour began &mdash; dramatic, messy, and completely unfiltered.
04:05 &mdash; Preparing the Birth Cave Creating sacred space: lavender oil, sheepskin rug, and the first gentle waves of labour.
08:25 &mdash; When Labour Became Psychedelic Moving through visions, trauma release, and deep healing in the in-between.
13:58 &mdash; Fear, Shame, and the Medicine of Focus Meeting old memories and learning radical self-love mid-contraction.
18:45 &mdash; Zen on the Toilet: Finding My Power Why my birth became a meditation, not a performance &mdash; and how focus became my survival.
23:55 &mdash; The Pushing Portal From exhaustion to divine humour: when my higher self reminded me the body knows.
29:40 &mdash; Take Me to Your River The moment music, surrender, and love carried me into motherhood.
34:55 &mdash; Aloha, River The first breath, the meaning of his name, and the sacred silence that welcomed him home.
39:15 &mdash; Reflections on Birth and Becoming What I learned about surrender, motherhood, and the rite of initiation that birth truly is.
♡ Connect with me: 🌿 Instagram &rarr; https://www.instagram.com/angelikaalana/ https://www.instagram.com/awakenedlove/ 🌐 Website &rarr; www.angeldrake.com

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