You walk into a school meeting hoping for support—and walk out feeling like the unreasonable parent again.

In this no-fluff episode, Jane is joined by returning guest and neuroaffirming educator Millie Carr to rip the curtain off how Individual Education Plans (IEPs) are actually playing out in real classrooms. From broken communication and missing documentation to defensive staff and performative inclusion policies, this episode is a sharp, validating look at what’s really happening behind the school gate.

If you’ve ever been told, ‘we can’t do that for everyone’, ‘they seem fine’, or your child’s support plan was ignored by day one of term—this one will make you feel less alone, and a hell of a lot more prepared.

💡 What We Cover:

• Why teachers often get defensive in IEP meetings (and how to work around it)
• The myth of “equal treatment” vs the reality of legal equity in education
• What to say when schools refuse an adjustment because ‘it’s not fair to others’
• The emotional toll of feeling dismissed—and how to stay focused in meetings
• What federal laws actually say about reasonable adjustments (and how to quote them)
• The serious issue of IEPs not being shared, read, or honoured—especially at the start of term
• Why parents must document everything—even if nothing changes
• Real consequences (or lack of) for schools that fail to follow inclusion policies
• What to prepare, bring, and track if you ever need to escalate or file a complaint

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Get it here: https://adhdmums.com.au/product/making-school-work-parent-guide/ 

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• SCHOOL SERIES: Your Child Isn’t ‘Acting Out’ — They’re Burning Out | Listen in Spotify | Listen in Apple Podcast

Resources Mentioned:

🔗 To find out more about Millie Carr or purchase her books please click on her website or check out her IG

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Disability & Education Laws Referenced (Qld Human Rights Act, DSE 2005, UN CRPD)

👩‍⚖️ Human Rights Commission: humanrights.gov.au

📚 References & Further Reading

• Disability Standards for Education 2005
  Read via the Department of Education – Australian Government
• Disability Discrimination Act 1992
  View the full legislation on the Federal Register

🎧 Listen Now

If you’ve ever sat through a 15-minute IEP meeting where nothing changed, or wondered how much louder you have to get before someone listens—this episode is your script, your validation, and your reminder:

You’re not too much. The system is too underprepared.

Hit play. Forward it to your child’s support coordinator. Save it for your next meeting.

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Topics Covered  In This Episode:

IEP meetings ADHD Australia, neurodivergent inclusion school, disability standards for education, equitable adjustments vs equal treatment, ADHD fidgets in class, schools ignoring support plans, teacher defensiveness IEP, NCCD and disability evidence, parent advocacy for neurodivergent kids, documenting school issues, escalation in school systems, broken inclusion plans, legal rights ADHD school, how to prepare for an IEP, fidget bans and discrimination, masking in the classroom, disability support Victoria education, Millie Carr ADHD, ADHD Mums podcast