A Love Language Minute

There will always be challenges for those who are in an interracial marriage. Actually, it's a cultural difference, not an interracial difference. Get to know their culture and learn to accept the differences.

Each of the Five Love Languages flows from God's love for us. God speaks all five love languages - including yours - so you can know how much He loves you!

In the military, much of the life of the person in the military is controlled by the military. They're usually those who are goal oriented and disciplined. But what if the spouse is more laid back? That couple is going to feel the normal frustration of those two personalities.

Why is sexual intimacy so elusive? It's most likely because we have separated it from intellectual, emotional, social and spiritual intimacy.

How can you know if you're ready to remarry after a divorce? Jumping immediately into another relationship is not recommended. Realize that remarriage is complicated, especially when there's children involved.

Some couples struggle with an impasse in their preferred worship styles. There are many ways to find an agreeable compromise such as alternating between different services.

For many Christian wives, they want to have a deeper level of intimacy with their husbands. Building spiritual intimacy involves sharing spiritual times together - church worship, devotional time and prayer.

If you're ever going to be truly intimate with your spouse, you must chose to reveal to them something of what is going on inside of you.

Social intimacy has to do with spending time together with your spouse. When you do things together, it enhances your sense of intimacy.

What is the definition of an ideal marriage? An ideal marriage is one in which a couple is committed to encouraging their spouse to be all that God created them to be.

How can we develop good communication skills in our marriage? It might be reading a book by Dr. Gary Chapman called, Now You're Speaking My Language. Read the book together with your spouse and talk about how it applies to your relationship.

What does emotional intimacy mean? It's the sharing of emotions in an accepting atmosphere.

Often times, we find ourselves wanting to change our spouse. Maybe changing our spouse starts with changing ourselves.

Intimacy isn't just about sex. It's also emotional and relational. Without emotional closeness, sex may be meaningless. Intimacy occurs when couples share their lives deeply with one another.

It's crushing for parents to hear that their child is gay. Men and Women are made for each other - it is God's design. Anything other than that is outside that design. Make sure your child knows that you love them no matter what.

Is it possible for you and your spouse to score equally on the Five Love Languages quiz? Yes, and there's no problem with that. It just means that you will each have several different ways of expressing love to each other!

Divorce can feel like a living hell. The emotional scars that come from divorced can never be removed. Your children will be scarred as well. It's no wonder why they feel so insecure. So make every effort to seek reconciliation rather than divorce.

The fruit of being controlled by the Holy Spirit will be demonstrated by living out the fruit of the Spirit found in Galatians 5:22-23. This is not the result of you trying hard. This is the result of you being in a right relationship with God.

Research shows that people who get divorced and remarry are very likely to get divorced again. Instead of divorcing your spouse, make every effort to seek reconciliation.

How can you get your wife to love you? Learn your wife's love language and speak it to her on a regular basis. She'll feel loved and is more likely to express her love for you in your love language.

Your fiancé just came out of a messy divorce. Is it wise to marry him so soon after his divorce? Research shows that getting remarried shortly after a divorce will often lead to another divorce. Slow things down and give him time to work through all the things he's been through before moving forward.

Authentic relationships require honesty. Express the hurt you're feelings toward your spouse. If they hear and respond to what you say, your marriage can be restored. Listening leads to understanding.

How do you go about confessing your failures? Begin by confessing your sin to God, then confess your sin to your spouse. If you believe God has forgiven you, ask your spouse to forgive you as well.

What do you do when you suspect your spouse of being unfaithful? Address your suspicions to your spouse. Express the difficulty you're having in trusting him, but determine to not be controlled by your anger.

Your love language is gift-giving, but your husband has a hard time speaking it. A husband should consider buying his wife something that she would like rather than something he would like.

As couples grow older, it's not unusual for them to withhold intimacy from each other. This is unhealthy. If you can determine why your spouse avoids intimacy, it's important to get to the root of the problem.

Physical touch is one of the fundamental languages of love. If your child's love language is physical touch, it's exceedingly important that you speak it regularly. Your child's misbehavior often comes from an empty love tank.

How do you deal with imperfections in marriage? No one's perfect. Start by addressing your own imperfections.

During the preadolescence stage, daughters have a particular need for expressions of love from their fathers. But fathers often often withdraw from hugging, feeling it's inappropriate at this stage. If a father withdraws, there's a strong likelihood that your daughter will seek love from someone else - often times in an  inappropriate way.

When you're engaged to someone from a totally different culture, what areas should you address before getting married. Don't go into a marriage blindly. Spend a great deal of time immersed in each other's culture.

Is it important for you and your fiancé to have a common idea of who God before getting married? What you believe about God affects everything else in life. Sharing your beliefs about who God is will build a solid foundation for your marriage.

Here's a question for you - do you hug your Child? Your hug might be the difference between emotional security or insecurity. Physical touch is one of your child's most important love languages.

There is something about the way we're made that cries out for intimacy. God has designed marriage to be the most intimate of all human relationships.

Research shows that babies who are held, hugged and kissed develop a healthier emotional life then those that are left for long periods of time without being touched by their parents.

It's difficult to express love to your spouse through physical touch when you do so much traveling. Let them know you're thinking about them and thinking about how you want to express your love to them even when apart.

Is there only one person for you to marry? You can look at this in two different ways. God gives you choices as who you should marry. If God is actively in your life and you're seeking His guidance, He will guide you to the person you should marry.

When was the last time you touched your child? Some parents only touch their children out of necessity. Many parents are unaware of how much their children need to be touched. For children, touch is one of the most important love languages.

How do you recover after deceiving your spouse? You have to be honest with them if you're going to have a healthy marriage. But first of all, there has to be genuine repentance.

In a difficult marriage, you are responsible for your own attitude. God wants to use your marriage in two ways - He wants to build godly  character in your life, and He wants you to enrich the life of your spouse.

As a parent, how can you discover your teen's love language? First of all, observe their behavior. They'll usually speak to you in their primary love language. How they respond to you and others will give you a clue as to what their love language is.

Your love language is Physical Touch, but your wife won't speak your language. You want her to speak to you in your language, but you don't want her to do it as an obligation.

One of the great hindrances to marital growth is the belief that some situations are hopeless. This kind of thinking leads to depression and divorce. Your marriage can be radically changed by choosing to live by truth. The truth will set you free.

How do you deal with physical and emotional abuse? If your spouse abuses you, they're not likely to change. Insist on getting counseling. If he's not willing to get counseling, it's time to say goodbye.

When in a bad marriage, people often think that there are only two options - resign themselves to a life of misery or get out. In Dr. Gary Chapman's book Desperate Marriages, he talks about how you can be a positive agent for change.

If you tell your boyfriend that you love him, but he won't tell you he loves you, this probably means that he's not really attracted to you or he's not willing to commit to a serious relationship.

How can you get your husband to open up more and talk to you? The best way is to ask him specific questions and don't condemn his answers. Receive his answer and ask followup questions.

It's a common myth today that people cannot change. A spouse's failures can lead to hopelessness. But his myth fails to reckon with the reality of human freedom and the power of God. People can and do change.

If there's a substantial age difference between a young person and an older person, the relationship will probably not work out. The younger person just isn't mature enough to be thinking about marriage. But the maturity of two older people will increase the possibility of a successful relationship.

The commonly held view is that we are victims of our environment. We think that if we grew up in a dysfunctional family, we're destined to failure in relationships. It doesn't have to be that way. While our environment affects us, it doesn't control us.

How do you deal with a husband's abusive anger? This behavior should never be accepted as normal. It's time to apply some tough love and separate until he changes his ways.