A Love Language Minute

How do you keep your marriage alive now that your children have arrived? Children are a blessing from God, but children can also cause marital neglect. If you see your marriage drifting apart because you're consumed with raising your children, it's time to make a course correction.

How does it make you feel when your husband says younger women are more beautiful than you are? It's tremendously hurtful. Just remember that if you're walking with God, the more beautiful you become from within.

What should you do when you've been dating for a while and no longer feel those "in love" feelings? If you plan to marry, learn to speak each other's love language so you'll be able keep emotional warmth in your marriage.

You must admit that when your children are born, it greatly affects your marital relationship. Raising your children can become all consuming. Your children and your marriage should both be prioritized, but your marriage should be your main priority.

Marriage isn't God's design to make each other miserable. God ordained marriage because two are better than one. When the husband and wife reach out to serve each other, they both become winners.

From a Biblical perspective, the purpose of life is not to accomplish our own objectives but to glorify God. Our busy lives tend to direct our thoughts toward ourselves and our family. But as you serve your family, you are serving God.

It's difficult to stay pure before marriage. When you deeply love each other emotionally, the natural progression becomes physical. The physical aspect of love is not the foundation of a good marriage. Covenant with each other that you will not become physically involved until after marriage.

How can couples learn to communicate better? If both spouses don't talk a lot, they should prepare a list of questions to ask each other. Answering those questions will get the communication ball rolling.

The book of Ecclesiastes says "Two are better than one". The marriage relationship is seen in the Bible as a friendship. Husbands and wives are meant to compliment each other.

What is the attitude we should have toward our wives? We should have the attitude of Christ. Christ modeled how to love and serve others.

At the heart of the Christian marriage is the idea of Unity. God said the two should become one. Marriage is designed to satisfy that deep desire for intimacy.

Should you stay in an abusive marriage for the sake of your children? If the abuse is physical or constant verbal abuse, it's best to separate for the protection of yourself and for the good of your children.

How do you go about helping your fiancé discover their love language? Begin by encouraging them to read Dr. Gary Chapman's book, The Five Love Languages.

In today's culture, it's more important than ever that the Church be the entity to teach us marriage skills.

Reading Dr. Gary Chapman's book "The Five Languages" will invigorate relationships of every kind.

Marriage between a man and a woman is the central building block in every human society. It is also true that a monogamous lifelong marriage is the universal cultural norm.

Living together before marriage is never a good idea. Statistics show that when people choose to live together before marriage, they're marriage is much more likely to fail.

Stress and Anxiety can often be the source of problems with intimacy in a marriage.

Today's culture tries to influence our our teens in so many arenas. But remember, you as their parent will still have the greatest influence on them.

The only way to keep a clear conscience in your marriage is to confess your failings to each other.

The culture that our teens grow up in today is vastly different than the culture we grew up in. Loving your teens effectively will help them resist the negative influences of our culture.

Do the principles of the Five Love Languages apply to older people? Absolutely.  If older couples have learned to speak their spouse's love language, their relationship will be strong and vibrant.

What can you do when you speak your spouse's love language but you don't feel loved in return? If you make simple requests to your spouse, you'll be teaching them your love language.

Parents risk building an adversarial relationship with their teen if they don't allow them to express themselves.

It's difficult to have quality time with your spouse while serving in the military. Speaking the language of quality time while apart is best expressed in a handwritten letter. Physically writing to your spouse is much better than simply e-mailing them.

There is often a great divide between teens and parents. Don't let your differences keep you from loving your teen.

How can you get your husband to talk more? Some people are listeners while others are talkers. If you want to get your husband to respond verbally, ask them specific questions.

You want to help your wife with chores around the house, but your best efforts are never good enough. You're more likely to receive positive feedback if you ask her to describe exactly how she wants the chore to be done.

When your teens grow up and leave the home, they'll remember what you modeled long after they have forgotten your words.

Military couples struggle with many things such as being deployed with little warning. They also have to reconnect upon their spouse's return. Dr. Gary Chapman's book The Five Love Languages - Military edition can prove to be tremendously helpful.

Must you forgive over and over again when someone continues to hurt you? Jesus clearly taught that you must forgive them if they truly repent.

How do you deal with your disrespectful husband? One approach is to argue and fight over it. The other is the Biblical way - to love the unlovable.

A wife may be able to say 'I've forgiven him, but I'm deeply pained when I remember what he did"? Encourage her to read Hebrew 10:17 and see how God chooses to respond when we confess and repent.

Military spouse's struggle with worry when their spouse is being deployed. How can they find peace? The answer is in the Biblical concept of praying for everything and thus not worrying.

Why is it so hard for us to forgive? Because we're made in God's image and have a deep concern for justice. How do we experience God's forgiveness? By confessing our sin. So when others sin against us, we too can forgive they way God forgives us.

How can a military couple love each other while deployed? Learn each other's love language and be creative in how you express your love to them while they're deployed.

When preparing for deployment, the couple must acknowledge that there will certainly be challenges and that they need to find new ways to relate to each other. Be sure you know your spouse's love language and speak it often with them.

How can you help military families in your church? Start a small group that serves as a place for military couples to talk. Include former military members who can empathize and share how they've learned to cope.

There are two responses to sin: we can confess our wrongdoing and seek forgiveness, or we can continue in our sin. For those who continue to sin, God will bring discipline the the Christian who continues to sin.

There are many military couples, and the challenges they face are immense. If you know of a couple in the military, make it point to invest in their live and encourage them.

Failing to live up to the Biblical ideal of a spouse isn't unusual. This doesn't mean your marriage is destined to fail; but is does require confession, repentance and forgiveness.

How do you speak your spouse's love language when they're deployed? All of the 5 love languages can be spoken, even at a distance. Thankfully, Dr. Gary Chapman wrote a book called, The Five Love Languages - Military Edition. You'll find a wealth of suggestions inside.

What can we teach our children about how to choose a good spouse? Take the time to read Dr. Gary Chapman's book, Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married, and then share with your children what you've learned.

One of the barriers to good communication is uncontrolled anger. Lashing out at your spouse amounts to declaring war. The good news is we can control our anger instead of being controlled by anger.

Married to a spouse in the military presents many challenges. It's essential that they discover what makes their spouse feel loved.

Do you ever wonder what we did before computers and cell phones? We interacted with each other - playing, talking to each other, eating meals together and talking about what was going on in our lives.

You're new to the 5 Love Languages. What's your next step in learning them and applying them? First of all, discover your own, then discover your spouses love language. You can do that by reading Dr. Gary Chapman's book, The Five Love Languages.

There will always be challenges for those who are in an interracial marriage. Actually, it's a cultural difference, not an interracial difference. Get to know their culture and learn to accept the differences.

Each of the Five Love Languages flows from God's love for us. God speaks all five love languages - including yours - so you can know how much He loves you!

In the military, much of the life of the person in the military is controlled by the military. They're usually those who are goal oriented and disciplined. But what if the spouse is more laid back? That couple is going to feel the normal frustration of those two personalities.