A Love Language Minute

A wife may be able to say 'I've forgiven him, but I'm deeply pained when I remember what he did"? Encourage her to read Hebrew 10:17 and see how God chooses to respond when we confess and repent.

Military spouse's struggle with worry when their spouse is being deployed. How can they find peace? The answer is in the Biblical concept of praying for everything and thus not worrying.

Why is it so hard for us to forgive? Because we're made in God's image and have a deep concern for justice. How do we experience God's forgiveness? By confessing our sin. So when others sin against us, we too can forgive they way God forgives us.

How can a military couple love each other while deployed? Learn each other's love language and be creative in how you express your love to them while they're deployed.

When preparing for deployment, the couple must acknowledge that there will certainly be challenges and that they need to find new ways to relate to each other. Be sure you know your spouse's love language and speak it often with them.

How can you help military families in your church? Start a small group that serves as a place for military couples to talk. Include former military members who can empathize and share how they've learned to cope.

There are two responses to sin: we can confess our wrongdoing and seek forgiveness, or we can continue in our sin. For those who continue to sin, God will bring discipline the the Christian who continues to sin.

There are many military couples, and the challenges they face are immense. If you know of a couple in the military, make it point to invest in their live and encourage them.

Failing to live up to the Biblical ideal of a spouse isn't unusual. This doesn't mean your marriage is destined to fail; but is does require confession, repentance and forgiveness.

How do you speak your spouse's love language when they're deployed? All of the 5 love languages can be spoken, even at a distance. Thankfully, Dr. Gary Chapman wrote a book called, The Five Love Languages - Military Edition. You'll find a wealth of suggestions inside.

What can we teach our children about how to choose a good spouse? Take the time to read Dr. Gary Chapman's book, Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married, and then share with your children what you've learned.

One of the barriers to good communication is uncontrolled anger. Lashing out at your spouse amounts to declaring war. The good news is we can control our anger instead of being controlled by anger.

Married to a spouse in the military presents many challenges. It's essential that they discover what makes their spouse feel loved.

Do you ever wonder what we did before computers and cell phones? We interacted with each other - playing, talking to each other, eating meals together and talking about what was going on in our lives.

You're new to the 5 Love Languages. What's your next step in learning them and applying them? First of all, discover your own, then discover your spouses love language. You can do that by reading Dr. Gary Chapman's book, The Five Love Languages.

There will always be challenges for those who are in an interracial marriage. Actually, it's a cultural difference, not an interracial difference. Get to know their culture and learn to accept the differences.

Each of the Five Love Languages flows from God's love for us. God speaks all five love languages - including yours - so you can know how much He loves you!

In the military, much of the life of the person in the military is controlled by the military. They're usually those who are goal oriented and disciplined. But what if the spouse is more laid back? That couple is going to feel the normal frustration of those two personalities.

Why is sexual intimacy so elusive? It's most likely because we have separated it from intellectual, emotional, social and spiritual intimacy.

How can you know if you're ready to remarry after a divorce? Jumping immediately into another relationship is not recommended. Realize that remarriage is complicated, especially when there's children involved.

Some couples struggle with an impasse in their preferred worship styles. There are many ways to find an agreeable compromise such as alternating between different services.

For many Christian wives, they want to have a deeper level of intimacy with their husbands. Building spiritual intimacy involves sharing spiritual times together - church worship, devotional time and prayer.

If you're ever going to be truly intimate with your spouse, you must chose to reveal to them something of what is going on inside of you.

Social intimacy has to do with spending time together with your spouse. When you do things together, it enhances your sense of intimacy.

What is the definition of an ideal marriage? An ideal marriage is one in which a couple is committed to encouraging their spouse to be all that God created them to be.

How can we develop good communication skills in our marriage? It might be reading a book by Dr. Gary Chapman called, Now You're Speaking My Language. Read the book together with your spouse and talk about how it applies to your relationship.

What does emotional intimacy mean? It's the sharing of emotions in an accepting atmosphere.

Often times, we find ourselves wanting to change our spouse. Maybe changing our spouse starts with changing ourselves.

Intimacy isn't just about sex. It's also emotional and relational. Without emotional closeness, sex may be meaningless. Intimacy occurs when couples share their lives deeply with one another.

It's crushing for parents to hear that their child is gay. Men and Women are made for each other - it is God's design. Anything other than that is outside that design. Make sure your child knows that you love them no matter what.

Is it possible for you and your spouse to score equally on the Five Love Languages quiz? Yes, and there's no problem with that. It just means that you will each have several different ways of expressing love to each other!

Divorce can feel like a living hell. The emotional scars that come from divorced can never be removed. Your children will be scarred as well. It's no wonder why they feel so insecure. So make every effort to seek reconciliation rather than divorce.

The fruit of being controlled by the Holy Spirit will be demonstrated by living out the fruit of the Spirit found in Galatians 5:22-23. This is not the result of you trying hard. This is the result of you being in a right relationship with God.

Research shows that people who get divorced and remarry are very likely to get divorced again. Instead of divorcing your spouse, make every effort to seek reconciliation.

How can you get your wife to love you? Learn your wife's love language and speak it to her on a regular basis. She'll feel loved and is more likely to express her love for you in your love language.

Your fiancé just came out of a messy divorce. Is it wise to marry him so soon after his divorce? Research shows that getting remarried shortly after a divorce will often lead to another divorce. Slow things down and give him time to work through all the things he's been through before moving forward.

Authentic relationships require honesty. Express the hurt you're feelings toward your spouse. If they hear and respond to what you say, your marriage can be restored. Listening leads to understanding.

How do you go about confessing your failures? Begin by confessing your sin to God, then confess your sin to your spouse. If you believe God has forgiven you, ask your spouse to forgive you as well.

What do you do when you suspect your spouse of being unfaithful? Address your suspicions to your spouse. Express the difficulty you're having in trusting him, but determine to not be controlled by your anger.

Your love language is gift-giving, but your husband has a hard time speaking it. A husband should consider buying his wife something that she would like rather than something he would like.

As couples grow older, it's not unusual for them to withhold intimacy from each other. This is unhealthy. If you can determine why your spouse avoids intimacy, it's important to get to the root of the problem.

Physical touch is one of the fundamental languages of love. If your child's love language is physical touch, it's exceedingly important that you speak it regularly. Your child's misbehavior often comes from an empty love tank.

How do you deal with imperfections in marriage? No one's perfect. Start by addressing your own imperfections.

During the preadolescence stage, daughters have a particular need for expressions of love from their fathers. But fathers often often withdraw from hugging, feeling it's inappropriate at this stage. If a father withdraws, there's a strong likelihood that your daughter will seek love from someone else - often times in an  inappropriate way.

When you're engaged to someone from a totally different culture, what areas should you address before getting married. Don't go into a marriage blindly. Spend a great deal of time immersed in each other's culture.

Is it important for you and your fiancé to have a common idea of who God before getting married? What you believe about God affects everything else in life. Sharing your beliefs about who God is will build a solid foundation for your marriage.

Here's a question for you - do you hug your Child? Your hug might be the difference between emotional security or insecurity. Physical touch is one of your child's most important love languages.

There is something about the way we're made that cries out for intimacy. God has designed marriage to be the most intimate of all human relationships.

Research shows that babies who are held, hugged and kissed develop a healthier emotional life then those that are left for long periods of time without being touched by their parents.

It's difficult to express love to your spouse through physical touch when you do so much traveling. Let them know you're thinking about them and thinking about how you want to express your love to them even when apart.