A Love Language Minute

Is it possible for you and your spouse to score equally on the Five Love Languages quiz? Yes, and there's no problem with that. It just means that you will each have several different ways of expressing love to each other!

Divorce can feel like a living hell. The emotional scars that come from divorced can never be removed. Your children will be scarred as well. It's no wonder why they feel so insecure. So make every effort to seek reconciliation rather than divorce.

The fruit of being controlled by the Holy Spirit will be demonstrated by living out the fruit of the Spirit found in Galatians 5:22-23. This is not the result of you trying hard. This is the result of you being in a right relationship with God.

Research shows that people who get divorced and remarry are very likely to get divorced again. Instead of divorcing your spouse, make every effort to seek reconciliation.

How can you get your wife to love you? Learn your wife's love language and speak it to her on a regular basis. She'll feel loved and is more likely to express her love for you in your love language.

Your fiancé just came out of a messy divorce. Is it wise to marry him so soon after his divorce? Research shows that getting remarried shortly after a divorce will often lead to another divorce. Slow things down and give him time to work through all the things he's been through before moving forward.

Authentic relationships require honesty. Express the hurt you're feelings toward your spouse. If they hear and respond to what you say, your marriage can be restored. Listening leads to understanding.

How do you go about confessing your failures? Begin by confessing your sin to God, then confess your sin to your spouse. If you believe God has forgiven you, ask your spouse to forgive you as well.

What do you do when you suspect your spouse of being unfaithful? Address your suspicions to your spouse. Express the difficulty you're having in trusting him, but determine to not be controlled by your anger.

Your love language is gift-giving, but your husband has a hard time speaking it. A husband should consider buying his wife something that she would like rather than something he would like.

As couples grow older, it's not unusual for them to withhold intimacy from each other. This is unhealthy. If you can determine why your spouse avoids intimacy, it's important to get to the root of the problem.

Physical touch is one of the fundamental languages of love. If your child's love language is physical touch, it's exceedingly important that you speak it regularly. Your child's misbehavior often comes from an empty love tank.

How do you deal with imperfections in marriage? No one's perfect. Start by addressing your own imperfections.

During the preadolescence stage, daughters have a particular need for expressions of love from their fathers. But fathers often often withdraw from hugging, feeling it's inappropriate at this stage. If a father withdraws, there's a strong likelihood that your daughter will seek love from someone else - often times in an  inappropriate way.

When you're engaged to someone from a totally different culture, what areas should you address before getting married. Don't go into a marriage blindly. Spend a great deal of time immersed in each other's culture.

Is it important for you and your fiancé to have a common idea of who God before getting married? What you believe about God affects everything else in life. Sharing your beliefs about who God is will build a solid foundation for your marriage.

Here's a question for you - do you hug your Child? Your hug might be the difference between emotional security or insecurity. Physical touch is one of your child's most important love languages.

There is something about the way we're made that cries out for intimacy. God has designed marriage to be the most intimate of all human relationships.

Research shows that babies who are held, hugged and kissed develop a healthier emotional life then those that are left for long periods of time without being touched by their parents.

It's difficult to express love to your spouse through physical touch when you do so much traveling. Let them know you're thinking about them and thinking about how you want to express your love to them even when apart.

Is there only one person for you to marry? You can look at this in two different ways. God gives you choices as who you should marry. If God is actively in your life and you're seeking His guidance, He will guide you to the person you should marry.

When was the last time you touched your child? Some parents only touch their children out of necessity. Many parents are unaware of how much their children need to be touched. For children, touch is one of the most important love languages.

How do you recover after deceiving your spouse? You have to be honest with them if you're going to have a healthy marriage. But first of all, there has to be genuine repentance.

In a difficult marriage, you are responsible for your own attitude. God wants to use your marriage in two ways - He wants to build godly  character in your life, and He wants you to enrich the life of your spouse.

As a parent, how can you discover your teen's love language? First of all, observe their behavior. They'll usually speak to you in their primary love language. How they respond to you and others will give you a clue as to what their love language is.

Your love language is Physical Touch, but your wife won't speak your language. You want her to speak to you in your language, but you don't want her to do it as an obligation.

One of the great hindrances to marital growth is the belief that some situations are hopeless. This kind of thinking leads to depression and divorce. Your marriage can be radically changed by choosing to live by truth. The truth will set you free.

How do you deal with physical and emotional abuse? If your spouse abuses you, they're not likely to change. Insist on getting counseling. If he's not willing to get counseling, it's time to say goodbye.

When in a bad marriage, people often think that there are only two options - resign themselves to a life of misery or get out. In Dr. Gary Chapman's book Desperate Marriages, he talks about how you can be a positive agent for change.

If you tell your boyfriend that you love him, but he won't tell you he loves you, this probably means that he's not really attracted to you or he's not willing to commit to a serious relationship.

How can you get your husband to open up more and talk to you? The best way is to ask him specific questions and don't condemn his answers. Receive his answer and ask followup questions.

It's a common myth today that people cannot change. A spouse's failures can lead to hopelessness. But his myth fails to reckon with the reality of human freedom and the power of God. People can and do change.

If there's a substantial age difference between a young person and an older person, the relationship will probably not work out. The younger person just isn't mature enough to be thinking about marriage. But the maturity of two older people will increase the possibility of a successful relationship.

The commonly held view is that we are victims of our environment. We think that if we grew up in a dysfunctional family, we're destined to failure in relationships. It doesn't have to be that way. While our environment affects us, it doesn't control us.

How do you deal with a husband's abusive anger? This behavior should never be accepted as normal. It's time to apply some tough love and separate until he changes his ways.

What should you do if your spouse no longer shows an interest in you? Dr. Gary Chapman suggests you should love your spouse unconditionally and always speak their primary love language no matter how they are treating you.

Arguments reveal the heart. Arguments often grow out of an emotional need. A wise husband and wife will look for the emotional need behind the argument.

Feeling in love doesn't take work. You're pushed along by emotions. But when you come down off the high, it takes intentional love to grow your marriage, and that takes work.

How should we process conflicts without arguing? The answer is in listening. Most of us are good at making our point without getting the point.

Scripture is very clear. When we get married, we are to leave our parents and cleave to your spouse. But that doesn't mean we should desert our parents.

If your fiancé has an STD, what should you do? Dr. Gary Chapman suggests that you find out the nature of the disease and its treatment. But ultimately it's up to you to decide if it's wise to continue the relationship.

Most couples spend 8 to 10 hours apart each day due to work etc. So how do they stay connected? Dr. Gary suggests that couples should commit themselves to a 20 minute debriefing each day. Share with each other the highlights and low lights of their day.

The vast majority of Christian couples don't have a daily devotional time together; and yet, almost all Christian couples have the sense that they should.

Communication is so important in a marriage. Why, because we're not mind readers. If you never share your thoughts, your spouse will never know what you're thinking.

What if a couple scores equally on each of the 5 Love Languages? It could that they felt truly loved their entire lives.

Some people are afraid of love after a failed marriage. They might equate love with betrayal and pain.

Why do so many couples have difficulty with communication? Before marriage, there is the overpowering feeling of being in love. But later on, negative emotions usually begin to bubble up.

Individual time alone with Lord is vital. But it's equally important that couples spend time with Lord together.

When there's conflict about financial matters in a marriage, it's usually because couples don't feel like partners in this area of marriage.

Being intimate before marriage is wrong. Ultimately, it's the man who should show leadership by setting boundaries. If he doesn't show leadership in this area, it's probably an indication as to his thinking about other Biblical standards.