A Love Language™ MinuteOne of the strongest languages of apology is making restitution. If you're really sorry, make it a priory to speak your spouse's love language at all times. Dr. Gary Chapman recommends that you read his book When I'm Sorry Isn't Enough.
Doctor Gary Chapman with a Love language minute.
When Doctor Jennifer Thomas and I wrote the book When Sorry Isn't Enough, we discovered that one of the strong languages of apology is making restitution. What can I do to make this up to you? If you don't offer to make restitution, your apology may seem lame. What they want to know is, are you really sorry? And do you still love me? We also discover that often, what they want you to do in order to make things right is to speak their love language. One wife said, I just want you to hold me. I feel so distant from you. Her love language was physical touch and she wanted to feel that he still loved her. When you make an apology, don't forget to ask the question. What can I do to make this up to you? Then honor their request. It makes forgiveness much easier.
Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of The Five Love Languages. For more, visit five Love Languages. Com.
