I first learned of Luma Muffler's work when I saw her TED talk a number of years ago, and I was absolutely inspired by her and her story. The TED talk was called don't feel sorry for refugees, believe in them, and that's exactly what her message was. It was one of empowerment. Luma has gone on to coach a soccer team just for refugees called of Course, the Fujis, and she started the first accredited school just for refugees. The schools are spreading across the United States and she's giving refugees new hope to rebuild their communities. This is a bit of optimism. Luma, thanks so much for taking the time. I first learned about you and your work from your TED Talk like so many, and I was brought to tears and inspired by your work. You know, I'm a sucker for people who devote their lives to the service of others. You could have just focused on yourself. You made a life for yourself here, you figured things out for yourself here. What made you turn around and want to give back to the kids? I mean, I think it was timing, Like I had been focusing on myself. I had you know, right after college, you know, tried to figure out what I wanted to do. I'd been waiting tables, clerked at a law firm, opened up my own cafe, as like I'm going to live the American dream. And it wasn't working out, Like it just wasn't. And I think a lot had to do was because it wasn't what I wanted to do, and accidentally made a wrong turn. Saw some kids playing soccer in a parking lot and it reminded me of home, Like I grew up in Jordan, and you know, the minute you can start walking, you learn how to play soccer. And it's what I needed that day. I saw these kids outside wanted to play. I grabbed my soccer ball and jumped in. And I know for a lot of people as like kind of creepy. You're like, what is an adult person like jumping into a kid's game? But you know, all over the world, that's how you make friends and how you build communities around you know, that beautiful game. The boys I first met were from Afghanistan, Sudan, and Liberia. They were shocked when I could pronounce their names correctly. You know, They're like, where are you from? And you know, it's like, no, I was born Jordan, I'm Muslim, Like that's why I can say you're no La properly, and started making excuses to leave work early so I could play with them, and then got to know more about their lives. You know, It's like I started a soccer team. I'd been coaching club soccer for a while and after practicing of the kids would be like, coach, can you help us with our homework? Initially I was dismissive, like, go get your parents or your sister to help you, not realizing that their parents were illiterate, not only in English but in their own languages. And they kind of just exposed me to to everything that was wrong, you know, especially in the education system. Like I was helping a kid with his homework and they'd have grade level work even though they'd only been in school six months, like total in their life, and so they're expected to do fractions and multiplications when they didn't even know the number order. I had some kids that were at Romeo and Juliet and couldn't read a picture book. And what was even more shocking was that they all got a's and b's, and I was like, how are you getting a's and b's if you can't read or write? And it shook me. So how are they getting a's and b's if they couldn't read and write? They didn't cause trouble in class. Teachers have too many kids. How do you teach a kid at the kindergarten level with a kid at the eighth grade level. Some teachers don't expect much from our community. The point is they weren't getting an education. And these are kids who had come to the United States under various stresses, at various ages. Some of them may have had some education back home, but probably because they left war, touring countries or other stresses. Education was the last thing on the priority list. Survival isume was number one? Yeah, survival You know, first it's fleeing your country or getting to safety, and then once you get safety, it's eating, right, Like, you're not thinking about school, You're thinking about how can my family eat? So you played talk with these kids. You start the is it a team or a league? So I start a team. The fujis right, fujis yeah? A take on refugees, yes, like let's reclaim the word and you start with one team. Siblings want to join and end up being three teams and then four teams, and then after school tutoring, so it was like a backward design and then summer programming and then realizing that this was a band aid, like, yeah, we felt good when we went out played games, but the reality did not change. Our kids still lived in poverty. That cycle was not going to be broken. The majority of their day they spent in an environment where they were not set up for success. And regardless of how good of an after school program or soccer team you're in, that can only do so much. And so I was like, if this was my kid, what would I do. I'd send them to school that could meet their needs. There wasn't a school. I couldn't afford private school. It was actually cheaper to start a school then send a kid to private school. So where is your school? So we have a school in right outside of Atlanta, and our second schools in Columbus, Ohio. And how do kids get in? You apply? I had this issue when we were going through accreditation and you know, they're like, what's your application process? I was like, well, we take them out on the field and we have a tryout, and they're like, you can't have an athletic tryout, Like that's illegal. You can't do that for a middle in high school, it's like it's not an athletic tryout, Like we have the kids come out, we run them for like the first two days of tryouts. It's three back to back days. First two days is all conditioning, and we're looking for the kid who's going to continue, is going to push themselves, who's going to show up on time on the third day we scrimmage. We're looking for the kid who helps others. Soccer is a team sport and a lot of this has to do with the work that we're going to ask them to do is hard and want them to show up and regardless of what they're facing they can get through it. We're not looking for the most athletic kid. We're looking for the kid that is hungry, that wants out, that wants something different. Then it's like whomever survives right and then now it's gone. Now it's like, okay, if you sprive tryouts, you're getting in. Then we do an academic test and we take the lowest performing kid because they're the ones that need it. So it's kind of like the flip of what a typical school looks for. So how many kids do you have in each school? We have almost two hundred in Georgia and about eighty in Columbus. Amazing. And how long have the school's been going Columbus for three years, Atlanta for fourteen. You've built a remarkable culture in these schools because you're looking for grit, you're looking for accountability, you're looking for team work. It reminds me a little bit of a story I heard about the Navy Seals, and I've shared this story before. A former Navy Seali asked what kind of person makes it into the Seals, and he said, I can't tell you who makes it in, but I can tell you who doesn't make it in. He says, the star college athlete who's never really been tested to the core of his being. None of those guys make it in. He said. The preening leader who likes to delegate everything. None of those guys make it in. He says. The ones who show with bulging muscles and tattoos to prove how tough they are. None of those guys make it in. He says. Some of the guys who make it into the Seals are skinny and scrowny, and you'll see them shivering out of fear. But what they all have in common is when they're emotionally exhausted, when they're physically exhausted, when they have nothing left to give, they are able to dig down deep inside themselves some way, somehow to find the energy to help the guy next to them. Those are the guys you want on your team, right, And so what I think is magical is you're creating a school how the world should operate. It's not just about personal ambition, but it's how do we get through this? Not a how I get through this? It's how do we get a's not a how do I get an a? Have you ever watched The Great British Banking Show? Yeah? I love that show. Why do you love it? I love it because it's what competition should look like like. They're all competing. It is a competition, there is a winner, and yet they root for each other, they help each other. Some of them are unabashed about their ambition. I would like to win, they say, and yet still you see them help each other. And that's kind of how it should be, which is the ability to help each other succeed in the same competition doesn't preclude us from advancing and winning ourselves, And so why not help You can still do well if you help others. And we've d just died so far away from that, you know, Yeah, I find it ironic. You know, this country is basically a country of immigrants. You know, almost everyone here except for Native Americans, came here looking for opportunity or running away from something awful. That we seem to have moved away from that immigrant mentality, that we're all in this together. That it takes a group of us a community to look out for each other and try and build each other up and grow as individuals and as a group. And it's kind of ironic that it's taking a group of refugees to remind us of where we came from and show us how we should be living. Yeah, I mean it's ironic in so many ways, right, but it's I think what we shows, like the best of America and the best of the East. You know, how do those two come together? Like individualistic and community practices. Like it's just like you said, if you help someone else doesn't mean you're going to get less right or you're not going to benefit right, but I just feel like recently it's like, well, if someone gets something then I'm not getting. Is like, nope, We've got enough for everyone. And you're always going to be learning, you know, just like you always learn from losing and competing against teams who are better than you. It doesn't mean you haven't won. It means there's more things to work on and other ways to look at it, right Like it's life is a kind of competition where multiple people can win simultaneously. Just because you in doesn't mean somebody has to lose. So now I'm really interested in the graduates you're producing. What did your school prepare them for it? Did some of them go to college? I'm so curious the kinds of lives that they're living. Some of them went to college, some of them have finished college, some of them went to community college. Some of them went right to work. When we ask is, hey, what is it that you want to do? After you push a little bit, we'll usually get the tip glance. So I want to be a doctor, lawyer, engineer. And you just keep asking what is it that you want? And they'll say, well, I just want to take care of my mom. It's like, all right, that's one we can take care of. Right, So let's find things that you are good at, things that you love doing. And so that's why we don't have one portrait of a graduate, right, Can you tell me a story of a specific student whose experience perfectly capture what you're trying to do. I think there's two. So the first one is one of my Somali players. Graduated high school, ended up doing an aviation mechanics program in Middle Georgia. He loved working with his hands, he loved fixing things. He didn't want to send a classroom all day, so that was like a perfect match for him. He has two brothers who were deaf and felt he needed to take care of everyone. And after he finished this program, he started being a valet at one of Atlanta restaurants to support his family. His dad had been diagnosed with cancer. He needed to earn money to pay the bills and support and make sure his younger siblings were in school. And then had a breakdown and wanted to figure out how to practice what he had studied and figured out a way to pay for his tests that he had to take, and he ended up getting a job with American Airlines loved what he did, started earning money, moving his way up. But the one moment that stands out to me is he sent me a picture one day and it was a house that looked very familiar, and I was like, are you in my old neighborhood. It was a picture of a house down the street from where I used to live. And he's like yeah, I said, why you send me a picture of this house, not my house, and he's like no, I just bought it for my mom. Wow. And he was like so happy and so proud, And that was what he wanted to do. He wanted to take care of his mom. He never gave up, and he always saw light, like there's always hope. And I think it's very easy with our kids to pigeonhole it and say it's so bad, it's so terrible. Look at what I've been through. Look at what my family's been through. You know, they left Somalia, they came here. His dad gets cancer and passes. It's like one thing after the other, and it's like, Nope, we can do it. We're so lucky. And it's his persistence and his optimism. He wants to take care of others. It's family like, that's what you do. You take care of each other. One of the things that I'm learning from you is that service, service mindedness can, indeed and is taught. It's not because of their experience, but they're in an environment in which teamwork and service is the standard, and so it's in them. How do we scale what you're teaching your kids so that more than just Fujis can learn this magical lesson, but rather that we can bring these lessons to all schools in America. I mean, I think it's like a change of mindsets because I'd initially I'd say, okay, we should introduce team sports. Every kid should play it all the time, right, But with the wrong coach, it's going to be a win at all costs. Right. Not every kid plays, not everyone learns, not everyone supports each other. When we get report cards at school, we read them in front of each other the entire school. So you get up and you read your report card, and it's not to be like, oh this one has an F, I have an A. It's like one of my teammates is struggling. What do I need to do to help them? And so you see, if a student gets an F, their neighbor is now making sure they wake up and go to school on time. If they're acting out in class, the entire class stop. You've got to behave because you've got to pass. We're all responsible for that. F we focus so much on well, we're celebrating all the a's, we have honor role and all that, but it's like, why aren't we paying attention to those that need our help, and why aren't we equipping other kids who are doing well that they have a responsibility to help not to be like, well, I have an A. That's great because now we're not going to be competing for college rank like valedictorian all that. So every kid is responsible to read their report cude out to the entire school. And I know what so many people are thinking as they hear that, which is how so humiliating for the ones who don't do well. I would never want my kid to do that, because I wouldn't want them to be humiliated. I want to know the speech you give each time before the report cards are read out. Our teams only as strong as our weakest player, and our schools are only as strong as our weakest students. And if anyone in our community needs help, we help them. And if anyone is struggling, it is everyone's responsibility in this room, because we all want to say, hey, I was responsible in helping that kid get that A, right, but you're also responsible for that kid getting that F. And that's every single person in that room, from the coaches, to the teachers, to their classmates to their friends in every grade. And they get up and they read it and you feel like you've got I mean, it's a community, but this entire team behind you. Because sometimes kids get f's or when we fail, you know, we like lock the doors. We're so we don't want to talk about it, you know, unless we can like some tech person where that's celebrated. You failed, But now here's your redemption story, right, But why aren't we teaching that at a young age. Well, here's your f here's how you can get out of it. It's not the end of the world. And so when our kids experienced any type of failure, they know what they need to do to get out of it. We have one kid, like he had been in the country less than four weeks and he got up to read his report card and all f's, but he came up to read it. He couldn't read. The paper was flipped upside down. He had it facing never been in a school before, and you know, no one said anything. And then six weeks later he's getting up to read and there's a one F, a couple of c's one B and the entire school started clapping. And every kid in that room had seen him learn to read because of the effort everybody put behind that, and that was progress, right, and then it continued to be that. And I think when you know that you are part of a community, than you are held more accountable, how do we do that in work? Because what you're talking about is honesty, what you're talking about is candor. What you're talking about is I see myself as part of a community, as part of a team, as part of a company. I cannot be expected to succeed by myself. And as you said, by putting so much celebration on only on those who succeed, it creates a pressure to either lie, hide and fake, or use any means to get that high grade for fear of slipping or fear of looking down, which could lead to some sort of rather unethical ways of getting those a's. Yeah, kids, who are constantly, constantly cheered and succeeded because there are straight A students all the time and people say to them, oh, I knew you do well. You're so smart. I knew you do well. You're so smart. But later in life a significant number of them actually don't overachieve because they're afraid of falling off the pedestal. Average students who are rewarded for their growth. You know, good job, you really move that c to a be well done. I knew you had it in you, they do much better in life because for them there's no pedestal to fall off. How do we create incentive programs at work that part of your incentive is helping someone, not just achieving yourself. Like one group, you know, hits their numbers, we give them a huge bonus. Another group misses their numbers, we give them nothing. How do we ensure that the successful group is helping the less successful group? Well, because you're part of a bigger team, right, Like you can pit them against each other for something that's like a little healthy, But then what are we learning from each other? And how are we making sure we have a well rounded team that everybody, everybody has a role to play. I think you're highlighting something which is life is not an individual sport. Life is a team sport when we look at data of individual athletes versus team athletes. For example, Michael Phelps becomes the most medled Olympian in history, which was his dream, after which depression. Andre Agassi becomes the most celebrated tennis player in history, after which depression. Because they've surrounded themselves with people only to help them with their ambition, and they find that if they achieve it, then very few actually do achieve it. It doesn't make them feel better because now they have no friends and they've got no support structure, and it's very lonely. Team athletes don't have that no, And I would even argue that soccer, like it's the only sport where the coach is not in control. You have taught your players, you've trusted them. You're maybe like giving like some inspiration and like keeping temperaments down, but like I can't call a time out. I have to trust that I've taught them and they're going to get creative and do what they want. And that's what's beautiful about it is they have to rely on each other, so Soccer is unique here. It's not about all team sports. I mean, although all team sports may teach them something, you believe, soccer stands head and shoulders above the rest. But because as you said, it inherent is team alliance. You need all eleven players to do well. One player can't carry a team, you know, something like well MESSI can't, you can't, Lebron can Tom Brady can. We've seen that happen. But in soccer, your whole team, your whole team, so you've got to take care of each other. But I do think all team sports contribute. Yeah, the refugee crisis around the world is gaining more and more press because it's more and more dire people leaving totalitarian regimes and war torn places or places that offer them no opportunity to provide for their families and they go off looking for better lives. I'm just curious what your commentary is, what your point of view is given the state of the world right now, because I assume you are seeing more people applying to your schools right yeah, and we're seeing school districts reach out to us. So that's what we're mapping out, is how do we support school districts. Instead of just opening more schools, how can we have them implement our model in their communities and learn to understand the different demographics who are coming in. I think it's a good thing that people are focused on it right now. You know, Afghanistan has bought it back front and center. I hope it's not well here it is for the next few months and then we move on. Some days I'm optimistic. Some days I'm just depressed that the world we're leaving our children is going to be worse than the one we were in. And that's just like a number of refugees. It has not gone down, It hasn't even plateaued. It just keeps going up. And we don't change what we're doing. We don't change how we stop wars, how we stabilize regions. We just continue repeating history. I mean, that's why we're in the position we're in. Like I was trying to explain to my daughter what happened in Afghanistan, you know, and I was like, we're trying to help we heat's grandmother get out, and and she's like, what happened? I said, well, we gave it to the Taliban, And she looked at me. She's like the Taliban, the ones who shot Malala, And I was like yeah, and she just couldn't understand it. And it's like, it's that simple. We know that we don't agree with brutality and murder and genocide, and why aren't we putting a stop to it? Why aren't we stabilizing countries so people never have to leave? It shouldn't be like can we take more in? It's like, no, nobody wants to leave their home that is non experienced. I want anyone to ever have to do. And so what can we do as a society to make places more peaceful? This discussion is fraught with irony. As you said, the way you help refugees is by creating a place where they never have to make the decision to leave. There should be no refugees. It should be a rare thing, not such an epidemic thing. And I've always like, well, World War two that was going to be the where everybody right? And then I was like, which war is going to be? Like We've had enough, this can't continue. I don't know what needs to happen for people to be like this is not acceptable. Do you have a mentor is there someone in particular who inspires you or you look to. We have like my grandmother's voice in my head all the time. She's passed, but like everything that she has done, the way she looked at life and people, and that's always there. Where was she from Syria? So she left with her kids when the First Civil War started back in the sixties. She took care of everyone, her family and her community if anyone came to her door. Air hospitality is known to be generous, but she actually lived it, never turned anyone away, and was always pushing. Like anytime I patted myself on the back, she's like, well, what's next? What are you going to do next? I'm like really like and I think I have that, Like when we get together as our schools, like what did we do well? Everybody? So I was all right, so what can we do better? And they're like, come on, we'll give you five minutes. Right, we're going to celebrate it. We can't get too comfortable, we can't get too complacent. What can we do better? And pushing people to try things differently and what new ways can we reach kids and bring the material to life. Yeah, you are magic. I have to tell you. I love what you are doing, and I do believe that your model serves more than refugees. I believe it serves as a model for how we need to teach all children and what it means to be a better human being. We're team animals. We're built for team much more than we are built for individual. You know, we're not that strong and not that smart by ourselves, but as groups were remarkable. But as you said, the team is only as strong as the weakest player, and so how do we build up our week players. You've given me so many ideas about some of the things that we all can do at work or with our families, you know, to share group accountability. It's it's really magical what you're doing, and I want you to be wildly successful because I think your model is really important. Thank you, and I hope it spreads. I hope you help a lot of kids. Thank you. If you're interested in learning more about or supporting Luma and her work, please visit or consider donating at Fujisfamily dot org. That's f U G E E Sfamily dot org. If you enjoyed this podcast would like to hear more, please subscribe wherever you like to listen to podcasts until then, take care of yourself, take care of each other.

I first learned of Luma Muffler's work when I saw her TED talk a number of years ago, and I was absolutely inspired by her and her story. The TED talk was called don't feel sorry for refugees, believe in them, and that's exactly what her message was. It was one of empowerment. Luma has gone on to coach a soccer team just for refugees called of Course, the Fujis, and she started the first accredited school just for refugees. The schools are spreading across the United States and she's giving refugees new hope to rebuild their communities. This is a bit of optimism. Luma, thanks so much for taking the time. I first learned about you and your work from your TED Talk like so many, and I was brought to tears and inspired by your work. You know, I'm a sucker for people who devote their lives to the service of others. You could have just focused on yourself. You made a life for yourself here, you figured things out for yourself here. What made you turn around and want to give back to the kids? I mean, I think it was timing, Like I had been focusing on myself. I had you know, right after college, you know, tried to figure out what I wanted to do. I'd been waiting tables, clerked at a law firm, opened up my own cafe, as like I'm going to live the American dream. And it wasn't working out, Like it just wasn't. And I think a lot had to do was because it wasn't what I wanted to do, and accidentally made a wrong turn. Saw some kids playing soccer in a parking lot and it reminded me of home, Like I grew up in Jordan, and you know, the minute you can start walking, you learn how to play soccer. And it's what I needed that day. I saw these kids outside wanted to play. I grabbed my soccer ball and jumped in. And I know for a lot of people as like kind of creepy. You're like, what is an adult person like jumping into a kid's game? But you know, all over the world, that's how you make friends and how you build communities around you know, that beautiful game. The boys I first met were from Afghanistan, Sudan, and Liberia. They were shocked when I could pronounce their names correctly. You know, They're like, where are you from? And you know, it's like, no, I was born Jordan, I'm Muslim, Like that's why I can say you're no La properly, and started making excuses to leave work early so I could play with them, and then got to know more about their lives. You know, It's like I started a soccer team. I'd been coaching club soccer for a while and after practicing of the kids would be like, coach, can you help us with our homework? Initially I was dismissive, like, go get your parents or your sister to help you, not realizing that their parents were illiterate, not only in English but in their own languages. And they kind of just exposed me to to everything that was wrong, you know, especially in the education system. Like I was helping a kid with his homework and they'd have grade level work even though they'd only been in school six months, like total in their life, and so they're expected to do fractions and multiplications when they didn't even know the number order. I had some kids that were at Romeo and Juliet and couldn't read a picture book. And what was even more shocking was that they all got a's and b's, and I was like, how are you getting a's and b's if you can't read or write? And it shook me. So how are they getting a's and b's if they couldn't read and write? They didn't cause trouble in class. Teachers have too many kids. How do you teach a kid at the kindergarten level with a kid at the eighth grade level. Some teachers don't expect much from our community. The point is they weren't getting an education. And these are kids who had come to the United States under various stresses, at various ages. Some of them may have had some education back home, but probably because they left war, touring countries or other stresses. Education was the last thing on the priority list. Survival isume was number one? Yeah, survival You know, first it's fleeing your country or getting to safety, and then once you get safety, it's eating, right, Like, you're not thinking about school, You're thinking about how can my family eat? So you played talk with these kids. You start the is it a team or a league? So I start a team. The fujis right, fujis yeah? A take on refugees, yes, like let's reclaim the word and you start with one team. Siblings want to join and end up being three teams and then four teams, and then after school tutoring, so it was like a backward design and then summer programming and then realizing that this was a band aid, like, yeah, we felt good when we went out played games, but the reality did not change. Our kids still lived in poverty. That cycle was not going to be broken. The majority of their day they spent in an environment where they were not set up for success. And regardless of how good of an after school program or soccer team you're in, that can only do so much. And so I was like, if this was my kid, what would I do. I'd send them to school that could meet their needs. There wasn't a school. I couldn't afford private school. It was actually cheaper to start a school then send a kid to private school. So where is your school? So we have a school in right outside of Atlanta, and our second schools in Columbus, Ohio. And how do kids get in? You apply? I had this issue when we were going through accreditation and you know, they're like, what's your application process? I was like, well, we take them out on the field and we have a tryout, and they're like, you can't have an athletic tryout, Like that's illegal. You can't do that for a middle in high school, it's like it's not an athletic tryout, Like we have the kids come out, we run them for like the first two days of tryouts. It's three back to back days. First two days is all conditioning, and we're looking for the kid who's going to continue, is going to push themselves, who's going to show up on time on the third day we scrimmage. We're looking for the kid who helps others. Soccer is a team sport and a lot of this has to do with the work that we're going to ask them to do is hard and want them to show up and regardless of what they're facing they can get through it. We're not looking for the most athletic kid. We're looking for the kid that is hungry, that wants out, that wants something different. Then it's like whomever survives right and then now it's gone. Now it's like, okay, if you sprive tryouts, you're getting in. Then we do an academic test and we take the lowest performing kid because they're the ones that need it. So it's kind of like the flip of what a typical school looks for. So how many kids do you have in each school? We have almost two hundred in Georgia and about eighty in Columbus. Amazing. And how long have the school's been going Columbus for three years, Atlanta for fourteen. You've built a remarkable culture in these schools because you're looking for grit, you're looking for accountability, you're looking for team work. It reminds me a little bit of a story I heard about the Navy Seals, and I've shared this story before. A former Navy Seali asked what kind of person makes it into the Seals, and he said, I can't tell you who makes it in, but I can tell you who doesn't make it in. He says, the star college athlete who's never really been tested to the core of his being. None of those guys make it in. He said. The preening leader who likes to delegate everything. None of those guys make it in. He says. The ones who show with bulging muscles and tattoos to prove how tough they are. None of those guys make it in. He says. Some of the guys who make it into the Seals are skinny and scrowny, and you'll see them shivering out of fear. But what they all have in common is when they're emotionally exhausted, when they're physically exhausted, when they have nothing left to give, they are able to dig down deep inside themselves some way, somehow to find the energy to help the guy next to them. Those are the guys you want on your team, right, And so what I think is magical is you're creating a school how the world should operate. It's not just about personal ambition, but it's how do we get through this? Not a how I get through this? It's how do we get a's not a how do I get an a? Have you ever watched The Great British Banking Show? Yeah? I love that show. Why do you love it? I love it because it's what competition should look like like. They're all competing. It is a competition, there is a winner, and yet they root for each other, they help each other. Some of them are unabashed about their ambition. I would like to win, they say, and yet still you see them help each other. And that's kind of how it should be, which is the ability to help each other succeed in the same competition doesn't preclude us from advancing and winning ourselves, And so why not help You can still do well if you help others. And we've d just died so far away from that, you know, Yeah, I find it ironic. You know, this country is basically a country of immigrants. You know, almost everyone here except for Native Americans, came here looking for opportunity or running away from something awful. That we seem to have moved away from that immigrant mentality, that we're all in this together. That it takes a group of us a community to look out for each other and try and build each other up and grow as individuals and as a group. And it's kind of ironic that it's taking a group of refugees to remind us of where we came from and show us how we should be living. Yeah, I mean it's ironic in so many ways, right, but it's I think what we shows, like the best of America and the best of the East. You know, how do those two come together? Like individualistic and community practices. Like it's just like you said, if you help someone else doesn't mean you're going to get less right or you're not going to benefit right, but I just feel like recently it's like, well, if someone gets something then I'm not getting. Is like, nope, We've got enough for everyone. And you're always going to be learning, you know, just like you always learn from losing and competing against teams who are better than you. It doesn't mean you haven't won. It means there's more things to work on and other ways to look at it, right Like it's life is a kind of competition where multiple people can win simultaneously. Just because you in doesn't mean somebody has to lose. So now I'm really interested in the graduates you're producing. What did your school prepare them for it? Did some of them go to college? I'm so curious the kinds of lives that they're living. Some of them went to college, some of them have finished college, some of them went to community college. Some of them went right to work. When we ask is, hey, what is it that you want to do? After you push a little bit, we'll usually get the tip glance. So I want to be a doctor, lawyer, engineer. And you just keep asking what is it that you want? And they'll say, well, I just want to take care of my mom. It's like, all right, that's one we can take care of. Right, So let's find things that you are good at, things that you love doing. And so that's why we don't have one portrait of a graduate, right, Can you tell me a story of a specific student whose experience perfectly capture what you're trying to do. I think there's two. So the first one is one of my Somali players. Graduated high school, ended up doing an aviation mechanics program in Middle Georgia. He loved working with his hands, he loved fixing things. He didn't want to send a classroom all day, so that was like a perfect match for him. He has two brothers who were deaf and felt he needed to take care of everyone. And after he finished this program, he started being a valet at one of Atlanta restaurants to support his family. His dad had been diagnosed with cancer. He needed to earn money to pay the bills and support and make sure his younger siblings were in school. And then had a breakdown and wanted to figure out how to practice what he had studied and figured out a way to pay for his tests that he had to take, and he ended up getting a job with American Airlines loved what he did, started earning money, moving his way up. But the one moment that stands out to me is he sent me a picture one day and it was a house that looked very familiar, and I was like, are you in my old neighborhood. It was a picture of a house down the street from where I used to live. And he's like yeah, I said, why you send me a picture of this house, not my house, and he's like no, I just bought it for my mom. Wow. And he was like so happy and so proud, And that was what he wanted to do. He wanted to take care of his mom. He never gave up, and he always saw light, like there's always hope. And I think it's very easy with our kids to pigeonhole it and say it's so bad, it's so terrible. Look at what I've been through. Look at what my family's been through. You know, they left Somalia, they came here. His dad gets cancer and passes. It's like one thing after the other, and it's like, Nope, we can do it. We're so lucky. And it's his persistence and his optimism. He wants to take care of others. It's family like, that's what you do. You take care of each other. One of the things that I'm learning from you is that service, service mindedness can, indeed and is taught. It's not because of their experience, but they're in an environment in which teamwork and service is the standard, and so it's in them. How do we scale what you're teaching your kids so that more than just Fujis can learn this magical lesson, but rather that we can bring these lessons to all schools in America. I mean, I think it's like a change of mindsets because I'd initially I'd say, okay, we should introduce team sports. Every kid should play it all the time, right, But with the wrong coach, it's going to be a win at all costs. Right. Not every kid plays, not everyone learns, not everyone supports each other. When we get report cards at school, we read them in front of each other the entire school. So you get up and you read your report card, and it's not to be like, oh this one has an F, I have an A. It's like one of my teammates is struggling. What do I need to do to help them? And so you see, if a student gets an F, their neighbor is now making sure they wake up and go to school on time. If they're acting out in class, the entire class stop. You've got to behave because you've got to pass. We're all responsible for that. F we focus so much on well, we're celebrating all the a's, we have honor role and all that, but it's like, why aren't we paying attention to those that need our help, and why aren't we equipping other kids who are doing well that they have a responsibility to help not to be like, well, I have an A. That's great because now we're not going to be competing for college rank like valedictorian all that. So every kid is responsible to read their report cude out to the entire school. And I know what so many people are thinking as they hear that, which is how so humiliating for the ones who don't do well. I would never want my kid to do that, because I wouldn't want them to be humiliated. I want to know the speech you give each time before the report cards are read out. Our teams only as strong as our weakest player, and our schools are only as strong as our weakest students. And if anyone in our community needs help, we help them. And if anyone is struggling, it is everyone's responsibility in this room, because we all want to say, hey, I was responsible in helping that kid get that A, right, but you're also responsible for that kid getting that F. And that's every single person in that room, from the coaches, to the teachers, to their classmates to their friends in every grade. And they get up and they read it and you feel like you've got I mean, it's a community, but this entire team behind you. Because sometimes kids get f's or when we fail, you know, we like lock the doors. We're so we don't want to talk about it, you know, unless we can like some tech person where that's celebrated. You failed, But now here's your redemption story, right, But why aren't we teaching that at a young age. Well, here's your f here's how you can get out of it. It's not the end of the world. And so when our kids experienced any type of failure, they know what they need to do to get out of it. We have one kid, like he had been in the country less than four weeks and he got up to read his report card and all f's, but he came up to read it. He couldn't read. The paper was flipped upside down. He had it facing never been in a school before, and you know, no one said anything. And then six weeks later he's getting up to read and there's a one F, a couple of c's one B and the entire school started clapping. And every kid in that room had seen him learn to read because of the effort everybody put behind that, and that was progress, right, and then it continued to be that. And I think when you know that you are part of a community, than you are held more accountable, how do we do that in work? Because what you're talking about is honesty, what you're talking about is candor. What you're talking about is I see myself as part of a community, as part of a team, as part of a company. I cannot be expected to succeed by myself. And as you said, by putting so much celebration on only on those who succeed, it creates a pressure to either lie, hide and fake, or use any means to get that high grade for fear of slipping or fear of looking down, which could lead to some sort of rather unethical ways of getting those a's. Yeah, kids, who are constantly, constantly cheered and succeeded because there are straight A students all the time and people say to them, oh, I knew you do well. You're so smart. I knew you do well. You're so smart. But later in life a significant number of them actually don't overachieve because they're afraid of falling off the pedestal. Average students who are rewarded for their growth. You know, good job, you really move that c to a be well done. I knew you had it in you, they do much better in life because for them there's no pedestal to fall off. How do we create incentive programs at work that part of your incentive is helping someone, not just achieving yourself. Like one group, you know, hits their numbers, we give them a huge bonus. Another group misses their numbers, we give them nothing. How do we ensure that the successful group is helping the less successful group? Well, because you're part of a bigger team, right, Like you can pit them against each other for something that's like a little healthy, But then what are we learning from each other? And how are we making sure we have a well rounded team that everybody, everybody has a role to play. I think you're highlighting something which is life is not an individual sport. Life is a team sport when we look at data of individual athletes versus team athletes. For example, Michael Phelps becomes the most medled Olympian in history, which was his dream, after which depression. Andre Agassi becomes the most celebrated tennis player in history, after which depression. Because they've surrounded themselves with people only to help them with their ambition, and they find that if they achieve it, then very few actually do achieve it. It doesn't make them feel better because now they have no friends and they've got no support structure, and it's very lonely. Team athletes don't have that no, And I would even argue that soccer, like it's the only sport where the coach is not in control. You have taught your players, you've trusted them. You're maybe like giving like some inspiration and like keeping temperaments down, but like I can't call a time out. I have to trust that I've taught them and they're going to get creative and do what they want. And that's what's beautiful about it is they have to rely on each other, so Soccer is unique here. It's not about all team sports. I mean, although all team sports may teach them something, you believe, soccer stands head and shoulders above the rest. But because as you said, it inherent is team alliance. You need all eleven players to do well. One player can't carry a team, you know, something like well MESSI can't, you can't, Lebron can Tom Brady can. We've seen that happen. But in soccer, your whole team, your whole team, so you've got to take care of each other. But I do think all team sports contribute. Yeah, the refugee crisis around the world is gaining more and more press because it's more and more dire people leaving totalitarian regimes and war torn places or places that offer them no opportunity to provide for their families and they go off looking for better lives. I'm just curious what your commentary is, what your point of view is given the state of the world right now, because I assume you are seeing more people applying to your schools right yeah, and we're seeing school districts reach out to us. So that's what we're mapping out, is how do we support school districts. Instead of just opening more schools, how can we have them implement our model in their communities and learn to understand the different demographics who are coming in. I think it's a good thing that people are focused on it right now. You know, Afghanistan has bought it back front and center. I hope it's not well here it is for the next few months and then we move on. Some days I'm optimistic. Some days I'm just depressed that the world we're leaving our children is going to be worse than the one we were in. And that's just like a number of refugees. It has not gone down, It hasn't even plateaued. It just keeps going up. And we don't change what we're doing. We don't change how we stop wars, how we stabilize regions. We just continue repeating history. I mean, that's why we're in the position we're in. Like I was trying to explain to my daughter what happened in Afghanistan, you know, and I was like, we're trying to help we heat's grandmother get out, and and she's like, what happened? I said, well, we gave it to the Taliban, And she looked at me. She's like the Taliban, the ones who shot Malala, And I was like yeah, and she just couldn't understand it. And it's like, it's that simple. We know that we don't agree with brutality and murder and genocide, and why aren't we putting a stop to it? Why aren't we stabilizing countries so people never have to leave? It shouldn't be like can we take more in? It's like, no, nobody wants to leave their home that is non experienced. I want anyone to ever have to do. And so what can we do as a society to make places more peaceful? This discussion is fraught with irony. As you said, the way you help refugees is by creating a place where they never have to make the decision to leave. There should be no refugees. It should be a rare thing, not such an epidemic thing. And I've always like, well, World War two that was going to be the where everybody right? And then I was like, which war is going to be? Like We've had enough, this can't continue. I don't know what needs to happen for people to be like this is not acceptable. Do you have a mentor is there someone in particular who inspires you or you look to. We have like my grandmother's voice in my head all the time. She's passed, but like everything that she has done, the way she looked at life and people, and that's always there. Where was she from Syria? So she left with her kids when the First Civil War started back in the sixties. She took care of everyone, her family and her community if anyone came to her door. Air hospitality is known to be generous, but she actually lived it, never turned anyone away, and was always pushing. Like anytime I patted myself on the back, she's like, well, what's next? What are you going to do next? I'm like really like and I think I have that, Like when we get together as our schools, like what did we do well? Everybody? So I was all right, so what can we do better? And they're like, come on, we'll give you five minutes. Right, we're going to celebrate it. We can't get too comfortable, we can't get too complacent. What can we do better? And pushing people to try things differently and what new ways can we reach kids and bring the material to life. Yeah, you are magic. I have to tell you. I love what you are doing, and I do believe that your model serves more than refugees. I believe it serves as a model for how we need to teach all children and what it means to be a better human being. We're team animals. We're built for team much more than we are built for individual. You know, we're not that strong and not that smart by ourselves, but as groups were remarkable. But as you said, the team is only as strong as the weakest player, and so how do we build up our week players. You've given me so many ideas about some of the things that we all can do at work or with our families, you know, to share group accountability. It's it's really magical what you're doing, and I want you to be wildly successful because I think your model is really important. Thank you, and I hope it spreads. I hope you help a lot of kids. Thank you. If you're interested in learning more about or supporting Luma and her work, please visit or consider donating at Fujisfamily dot org. That's f U G E E Sfamily dot org. If you enjoyed this podcast would like to hear more, please subscribe wherever you like to listen to podcasts until then, take care of yourself, take care of each other.