What does kindness look like? The young man who says “yes, ma’am” and “no, sir.” The neighbor who holds the door. The casserole delivered after a funeral. Or maybe the thing you did not say about Aunt Gladys’s tater salad. Kindness seems to ooze from old shows like The Andy Griffith Show, and who would not want to live in that world?

But there is a shadow side. “Bless your heart” can carry a world of bitterness. Polite words and warm smiles can be sharpened until they land like punches. What we often call kindness is little more than a veneer of pleasantness.

Paul’s words in Ephesians 4:32 reach deeper than that. The verses just before them speak of bitterness, anger, slander, and malice. Malice wants harm for another person. Kindness moves in the opposite direction. It seeks the good of someone else, even when that person has not been good to us.

That means biblical kindness is not smiling while secretly resenting. It is not avoiding every hard conversation or pretending that sin and harm do not matter. It is not about keeping everyone comfortable. Sometimes seeking another person’s good requires an honest word. Sometimes it means forgiving and absorbing the cost of the harm done to us.

We live in an unkind world, and simple pleasantness will stand out in it. But pleasantness is not the standard. The standard is Christ. While we were still sinners, He died for us. While we were in rebellion, He gave everything so that we could have life. He lived and died fighting for our greatest good.

That is what kindness looks like, and it is what He is shaping in us.

Ponder Tonight

Kindness and pleasantness are not the same thing. Pleasantness can coexist with resentment, while kindness actively wants what is good for another person.

Malice and kindness are opposites. Asking God to reveal any bitterness hiding beneath a polite surface is a courageous and clarifying prayer.

Real kindness may be costly. It may require a difficult conversation, or it may require forgiving and absorbing harm. Wisdom to know the difference is something we can ask God for.

Christ’s kindness toward us, offered while we were still sinners, is both the pattern and the power for how we treat others.

Tonight’s Scripture

“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” — Ephesians 4:32, ESV

Your Evening Prayer

Father,

Thank You for Your kindness to us. It is more than a polite smile or a distant concern. You sought our good even when we were in rebellion against You. You sent Your Son so that we could have life, at great sacrifice.

Forgive us for settling for the appearance of kindness. It is easy to be pleasant while bitterness grows underneath. Make us more like Christ. Help us seek the good of others, even when they have not been good to us.

Grant us wisdom to know when kindness means a difficult conversation. Let the kindness You have shown us in Christ reshape the way we treat others.

Amen.

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What does kindness look like? The young man who says &ldquo;yes, ma&rsquo;am&rdquo; and &ldquo;no, sir.&rdquo; The neighbor who holds the door. The casserole delivered after a funeral. Or maybe the thing you did not say about Aunt Gladys&rsquo;s tater salad. Kindness seems to ooze from old shows like The Andy Griffith Show, and who would not want to live in that world?
But there is a shadow side. &ldquo;Bless your heart&rdquo; can carry a world of bitterness. Polite words and warm smiles can be sharpened until they land like punches. What we often call kindness is little more than a veneer of pleasantness.
Paul&rsquo;s words in Ephesians 4:32 reach deeper than that. The verses just before them speak of bitterness, anger, slander, and malice. Malice wants harm for another person. Kindness moves in the opposite direction. It seeks the good of someone else, even when that person has not been good to us.
That means biblical kindness is not smiling while secretly resenting. It is not avoiding every hard conversation or pretending that sin and harm do not matter. It is not about keeping everyone comfortable. Sometimes seeking another person&rsquo;s good requires an honest word. Sometimes it means forgiving and absorbing the cost of the harm done to us.
We live in an unkind world, and simple pleasantness will stand out in it. But pleasantness is not the standard. The standard is Christ. While we were still sinners, He died for us. While we were in rebellion, He gave everything so that we could have life. He lived and died fighting for our greatest good.
That is what kindness looks like, and it is what He is shaping in us.
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Ponder Tonight
Kindness and pleasantness are not the same thing. Pleasantness can coexist with resentment, while kindness actively wants what is good for another person.
Malice and kindness are opposites. Asking God to reveal any bitterness hiding beneath a polite surface is a courageous and clarifying prayer.
Real kindness may be costly. It may require a difficult conversation, or it may require forgiving and absorbing harm. Wisdom to know the difference is something we can ask God for.
Christ&rsquo;s kindness toward us, offered while we were still sinners, is both the pattern and the power for how we treat others.
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Tonight&rsquo;s Scripture
&ldquo;Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.&rdquo; &mdash; Ephesians 4:32, ESV
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Your Evening Prayer
Father,
Thank You for Your kindness to us. It is more than a polite smile or a distant concern. You sought our good even when we were in rebellion against You. You sent Your Son so that we could have life, at great sacrifice.
Forgive us for settling for the appearance of kindness. It is easy to be pleasant while bitterness grows underneath. Make us more like Christ. Help us seek the good of others, even when they have not been good to us.
Grant us wisdom to know when kindness means a difficult conversation. Let the kindness You have shown us in Christ reshape the way we treat others.
Amen.
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Join us this Fall for Season One of "Signs of Life," an original podcast from UM News. The journey begins in Atlanta, hearing how a book from an icon of the Civil Rights movement is bringing relationship and understanding to two congregations seeking to bridge divides. Then to Belfast, learning about the Northern Ireland Peace Process and the Methodist connection that was&mdash;and is&mdash;an essential part of healing and peacemaking. Finally, at the Global Young Peoples Convocation in Dublin, explore the world of translation and interpretation through diversity, language and culture.
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Choosing Kindness in an Unkind World

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