When you are in pain or crisis, there are three main ways that most people respond. 

Sometimes they pity you. 

Sometimes they judge you. 

Sometimes they try to fix you / your problem. 

And yet none of these responses inspire true connection, healing or growth. 

In today’s episode, I’ll share what does inspire connection, healing and growth — and it mostly requires you to avoid giving and receiving advice. 

Why? 

Because advice in all its forms — fixing, judging and pity — short-circuits what is trying to unfold through your beautiful story. 

Host: Ally Fallon // @allyfallon // allisonfallon.com

When you are in pain or crisis, there are three main ways that most people respond.&nbsp;
Sometimes they pity you.&nbsp;
Sometimes they judge you.&nbsp;
Sometimes they try to fix you / your problem.&nbsp;
And yet none of these responses inspire true connection, healing or growth.&nbsp;
In today&rsquo;s episode, I&rsquo;ll share what does inspire connection, healing and growth &mdash; and it mostly requires you to avoid giving and receiving advice.&nbsp;
Why?&nbsp;
Because advice in all its forms &mdash; fixing, judging and pity &mdash; short-circuits what is trying to unfold through your beautiful story.&nbsp;
Host: Ally Fallon //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/allyfallon/">@allyfallon</a> // <a href="https://allisonfallon.com">allisonfallon.com</a>

We are all creating the stories of our lives each day. Sometimes it’s hard to believe in a happy ending when were in the middle of chaos – or to understand the transformation we are undergoing when we're being tested over and over again – but I believe we are all here to learn, grow, and discover more of who we are in this life and I want to help you do exactly that. Let’s uncover the meaning of our stories together. The stories we tell ourselves about our life matter – and only we have the power to edit, upgrade or re-write them altogether. Only we have the power to become the hero we want to be. Only we can change the narrative of the story we’re telling ourselves. If we’re sick of being the “girl who got dumped” or the “guy who lost his job” or the “villlan,” the “helper”, etc — what choice do we have? We get creative and we write a new story. As a bestselling author, I’ve learned the principals that make stories tick and I've taken many of my life stories and put them to paper. What I have learned is that stories have a lot to teach us about what matters in life; and that one of the most powerful things you can do to heal is to face your story head-on. To co-create the ending. To uncover the thread that holds the whole thing together. To become the hero you would want to see on the screen. I’ve taught many others how to do this and I want to share these insights with you, too. Everyone wants to make meaning of their story (me included) and it’s never too late. You can become a completely new person with a whole new story in just a few short years. So let’s go on this journey together. Come with me as we explore how to become our authentic selves and live our true stories. We’ll explore personal growth, self-help, psychology, spirituality, and so much more. It’s never too late to rewrite your story.

We are all creating the stories of our lives each day. Sometimes it’s hard to believe in a happy ending when were in the middle of chaos – or to understand the transformation we are undergoing when we're being tested over and over again – but I believe we are all here to learn, grow, and discover more of who we are in this life and I want to help you do exactly that. Let’s uncover the meaning of our stories together. The stories we tell ourselves about our life matter – and only we have the power to edit, upgrade or re-write them altogether. Only we have the power to become the hero we want to be. Only we can change the narrative of the story we’re telling ourselves. If we’re sick of being the “girl who got dumped” or the “guy who lost his job” or the “villlan,” the “helper”, etc — what choice do we have? We get creative and we write a new story. As a bestselling author, I’ve learned the principals that make stories tick and I've taken many of my life stories and put them to paper. What I have learned is that stories have a lot to teach us about what matters in life; and that one of the most powerful things you can do to heal is to face your story head-on. To co-create the ending. To uncover the thread that holds the whole thing together. To become the hero you would want to see on the screen. I’ve taught many others how to do this and I want to share these insights with you, too. Everyone wants to make meaning of their story (me included) and it’s never too late. You can become a completely new person with a whole new story in just a few short years. So let’s go on this journey together. Come with me as we explore how to become our authentic selves and live our true stories. We’ll explore personal growth, self-help, psychology, spirituality, and so much more. It’s never too late to rewrite your story.

Write Your Story with Ally Fallon

Stop taking and giving advice—here’s why 

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