On this episode guest host Bob Conlin presents another of his relationship episodes, this time about his favourite quote about love and barriers to love which is very popular and often misrepresented because of the last piece being left off.

KEY TAKEAWAYS
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” This is the part that is often left out and without it it misses out on a huge, essential part of Rumi’s teaching: “and embrace them.”
The quote is by Rumi, a 13th century Persian poet, Islamic scholar, Sufi mystic and a brilliant force on the planet. He has many quotes about many things, but his quotes around love and relationships I find so impactful.
I can look and see through my whole life, even as a young child, where I was when I began to start to build the barriers myself against love. Usually, those barriers were created as a result of feeling the need to protect myself, to build a wall around me, to decrease the amount of vulnerability I was going to offer to anyone and ultimately if it’s not love it’s fear. I was creating these barriers based on fear which for me was “what am I not going to get?” or “what are you going to take away from me?” When are you going to stop loving me?” or “when are you going to leave me?” 
The notion of embracing these barriers that we have for love is going to require some work on your part to work through some of your fear, your shadow elements, some of the resistance you notice might come up. It goes against a lot of our conditioning, from this sphere- based space, to embrace these challenges within ourselves.

BEST MOMENTS

‘The impact this quote has had on my life has been astounding, mind-blowing. When I first read it it was one of those times where you sink into your whole body and you feel the energy shift down, knocking you off your seat moment.’

‘Where am I not letting love in because of these barriers? I needed to take down these barriers in order to let love in.’

‘Where am I building barriers against myself to love myself? Am I treating my mind, body and soul in a loving way?’

‘Why do I have these barriers? How are these barriers actually serving me? How are these barriers limiting my capacity to be with love? How are these barriers actually keeping me away from the thing(s) I’m yearning for everywhere in my life: A deeper sense of sharing and receiving love and also giving it?’

VALUABLE RESOURCES
Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272
Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272
Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679
Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679
Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)
World Game-Changers Group

ABOUT THE GUEST

Bob is a Life, Love and Leadership champion, author, coach, trainer, husband, father, and a professional certified coach with the International Coach Federation.

His philosophy is that we are in relationship to everything and the top three opportunities for growth exist in self, loving others, and career. As a relationship coach, he’s doing the work that he was meant to do, in order to fulfil his life purpose.

As the author of the forthcoming book ‘Why Your Relationships Suck: How to Create Strong Relationships with Courage and Heart’ – and as a devoted student of the relationship development he preaches – Bob enjoys a rewarding and fuller life being a husband, coach, leader, musician, and traveller. He and his family were featured in Episode 3 of CBS’s “The Greatest #AtHome Videos” in August 2020.

Website: www.conlincoaching.com

ABOUT THE HOST

Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.

From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.

Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:

Contributing Significantly To World Peace…

He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.  

This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring.  He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.

Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.

CONTACT METHODS

Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155

E-mail: Paul@Paul-Lowe.com

Web: https://www.Paul-Lowe.com

Web: https://www.worldgamechangers.org/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-d-lowe-7a78332a/

On this episode guest host Bob Conlin presents another of his relationship episodes, this time about his favourite quote about love and barriers to love which is very popular and often misrepresented because of the last piece being left off.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">&ldquo;Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.&rdquo; This is the part that is often left out and without it it misses out on a huge, essential part of Rumi&rsquo;s teaching: &ldquo;and embrace them.&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">The quote is by Rumi, a 13th century Persian poet, Islamic scholar, Sufi mystic and a brilliant force on the planet. He has many quotes about many things, but his quotes around love and relationships I find so impactful.</li>
<li aria-level="1">I can look and see through my whole life, even as a young child, where I was when I began to start to build the barriers myself against love. Usually, those barriers were created as a result of feeling the need to protect myself, to build a wall around me, to decrease the amount of vulnerability I was going to offer to anyone and ultimately if it&rsquo;s not love it&rsquo;s fear. I was creating these barriers based on fear which for me was &ldquo;what am I not going to get?&rdquo; or &ldquo;what are you going to take away from me?&rdquo; When are you going to stop loving me?&rdquo; or &ldquo;when are you going to leave me?&rdquo;&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">The notion of embracing these barriers that we have for love is going to require some work on your part to work through some of your fear, your shadow elements, some of the resistance you notice might come up. It goes against a lot of our conditioning, from this sphere- based space, to embrace these challenges within ourselves.</li>
</ul>
BEST MOMENTS
&lsquo;The impact this quote has had on my life has been astounding, mind-blowing. When I first read it it was one of those times where you sink into your whole body and you feel the energy shift down, knocking you off your seat moment.&rsquo;
&lsquo;Where am I not letting love in because of these barriers? I needed to take down these barriers in order to let love in.&rsquo;
&lsquo;Where am I building barriers against myself to love myself? Am I treating my mind, body and soul in a loving way?&rsquo;
&lsquo;Why do I have these barriers? How are these barriers actually serving me? How are these barriers limiting my capacity to be with love? How are these barriers actually keeping me away from the thing(s) I&rsquo;m yearning for everywhere in my life: A deeper sense of sharing and receiving love and also giving it?&rsquo;
VALUABLE RESOURCES
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Paul&rsquo;s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK):&nbsp;<a href="https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272">https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272</a></li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Paul&rsquo;s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA):&nbsp;<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272">https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272</a></li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK):&nbsp;<a href="https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679">https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679</a></li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA):&nbsp;<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679">https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/343409936534175/">World Game-Changers Group</a></li>
</ul>
ABOUT THE GUEST
Bob is a Life, Love and Leadership champion, author, coach, trainer, husband, father, and a professional certified coach with the International Coach Federation.
His philosophy is that we are in relationship to everything and the top three opportunities for growth exist in self, loving others, and career. As a relationship coach, he&rsquo;s doing the work that he was meant to do, in order to fulfil his life purpose.
As the author of the forthcoming book &lsquo;Why Your Relationships Suck: How to Create Strong Relationships with Courage and Heart&rsquo; &ndash; and as a devoted student of the relationship development he preaches &ndash; Bob enjoys a rewarding and fuller life being a husband, coach, leader, musician, and traveller. He and his family were featured in Episode 3 of CBS&rsquo;s &ldquo;The Greatest #AtHome Videos&rdquo; in August 2020.
Website: <a href="http://www.conlincoaching.com">www.conlincoaching.com</a>
ABOUT THE HOST
Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.
From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.
Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul&rsquo;s purpose is deeply transformational:
Contributing Significantly To World Peace&hellip;
He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.&nbsp;&nbsp;
This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring.&nbsp; He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children &ndash; mainly from challenging backgrounds &ndash; within the UK &amp; worldwide.
Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in &ndash; including being a best-selling co-author &ndash; Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development &amp; fund-raising.
CONTACT METHODS
Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155
E-mail: <a href="mailto:Paul@Paul-Lowe.com">Paul@Paul-Lowe.com</a>
Web: <a href="https://www.paul-lowe.com">https://www.Paul-Lowe.com</a>
Web: <a href="https://www.worldgamechangers.org/">https://www.worldgamechangers.org/</a>
Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/">https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/</a>
LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-d-lowe-7a78332a/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-d-lowe-7a78332a/</a>

One thing that’s never been attached to Paul is the label ‘normal’ – something he is totally aware of.  He definitely subscribes to being one of those mentioned the iconic ‘Think Different’ Apple commercial narrated by Steve Jobs in 1977:

“Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes... the ones who see things differently -- they're not fond of rules.  You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can't do is ignore them because they change things... they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do!”

His World Game-Changers podcast embraces a mutually-respectful conversational style, with guests that are deemed ‘Unsung Heroes’ – selfless, dedicated people that contribute to the betterment of the world, in whatever way they can…


“Remember: The World’s Changing…

How Will YOU Respond?”

 

 

One thing that&rsquo;s never been attached to Paul is the label &lsquo;normal&rsquo; &ndash; something he is totally aware of. &nbsp;He definitely subscribes to being one of those mentioned the iconic &lsquo;Think Different&rsquo; Apple commercial narrated by Steve Jobs in 1977:
&ldquo;Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes... the ones who see things differently -- they're not fond of rules. &nbsp;You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can't do is ignore them because they change things... they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do!&rdquo;
His World Game-Changers podcast embraces a mutually-respectful conversational style, with guests that are deemed &lsquo;Unsung Heroes&rsquo; &ndash; selfless, dedicated people that contribute to the betterment of the world, in whatever way they can&hellip;
 &ldquo;Remember: The World&rsquo;s Changing&hellip;
How Will YOU Respond?&rdquo;
&nbsp;
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World Game-Changers

On this episode guest host Bob Conlin presents another of his relationship episodes, this time about his favourite quote about love and barriers to love which is very popular and often misrepresented because of the last piece being left off.

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