On this episode guest host Bob Conlin presents another of his relationship episodes, this time he has a guest, Rubria Mendoza, for the first of a two-part episode on cultural relationships. For example, what are some of the challenges and benefits of being in a relationship with someone from a different culture.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• I was born in Mexico but moved to the US when I married an American. It’s been a great journey, but those first years were tough. It’s really important to keep honest with ourselves and not force the other person to embrace our culture and traditions, but to make them part of it.
• In my family, we have specific traditions. We’re a big family and we love gathering, we love to hug people, to be close to them, sleep next to them, touch a lot while we are talking, etc. A lot of my husband’s family don’t like big reunions or any of these things. I started to restrict myself and change to fit them, but it created a big issue because I was not happy. Eventually, we both said what we were and weren’t comfortable doing and we both said we’d do certain things but not others – it doesn’t mean I don’t like your friends or love you family, but I’ll keep my distance or I’ll join in, but we shouldn’t force each other.
• My culture has a tendency to please people, for example giving the choice of pizza and pasta for dinner and I want pasta but he says pizza and I have pizza even though I don’t want it. Communication is so important, my husband used to communicate in a short way which made me feel like he was upset, but it was just the way he communicates where I like to know why it’s a ‘yes’ or a ‘no’ and go into detail.

BEST MOMENTS

‘When you start a relationship with someone that comes from a completely different background and culture, the key for me is not to lose your own identity to please the other person.’

‘Every marriage has ups and downs, and I learned this the hard way! But I’m glad I did that because now, I’m hoping our kids see that there’s a different way to do it and it will bring joy and benefits to their lives and futures in terms of relationships.’

‘Communication is a challenge for any relationship, but inter-culturally it’s a little bit more.’

‘It’s been a great opportunity for me to learn what I’m capable of doing in terms of learning how to live with someone and say things in a different way that mean the same.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

• Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679
• Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)
• World Game-Changers Group

ABOUT THE GUESTS

Bob is a Life, Love and Leadership champion, author, coach, trainer, husband, father, and a professional certified coach with the International Coach Federation.

His philosophy is that we are in relationship to everything and the top three opportunities for growth exist in self, loving others, and career. As a relationship coach, he’s doing the work that he was meant to do, in order to fulfil his life purpose.

As the author of the forthcoming book ‘Why Your Relationships Suck: How to Create Strong Relationships with Courage and Heart’ – and as a devoted student of the relationship development he preaches – Bob enjoys a rewarding and fuller life being a husband, coach, leader, musician, and traveller. He and his family were featured in Episode 3 of CBS’s “The Greatest #AtHome Videos” in August 2020.

Website: www.conlincoaching.com

Rubria is based in St. Louis, MO, where she lives with her family. She has over 20 years of experience in a variety of areas such as accounting, organizing events and expos, and process management. The variety of industries she has been involved in, has given her the opportunity to learn that one of the most valuable resources we all have is each other.

She believes in the power of teamwork and that in order to accomplish that, people have to form partnerships with the ones we interact in our day-to-day activities. To build strong circles, that then become strong communities. She likes to put that idea into action whenever she has the opportunity to contribute, helping friends, family, co-workers to expand their potential, and achieve common and personal goals.

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rubria.mendoza 

ABOUT THE HOST

Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.

From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.

Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:

Contributing Significantly To World Peace…

He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.  

This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring.  He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.

Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.

CONTACT METHODS

Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155

E-mail: Paul@Paul-Lowe.com

Web: https://www.Paul-Lowe.com

Web: https://www.worldgamechangers.org/

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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-d-lowe-7a78332a/