Woman Evolve with Sarah Jakes RobertsLast week’s convo between SJR and Laura Lentz was way too layered for just one episode—so here W.E. are, back with round two! First, SJR answers an advice question aimed at women veterans, followed by a discussion on friendship betrayal. Then, Laura dishes out the details of her family life, new church community, and the dreams she’s working toward. Press play, sis, if you’re ready to recognize that forgiveness is an opportunity to honor your resiliency!
I am one of the people who are of the belief system that you can say anything you want to someone if you figure out how to say it. Jesus paid the price so that I didn't have to get on the crawl and live up to something that I couldn't be.
Being able to stay and wait on the board has been my biggest strength, And that's not good for people that when you are in a.
Tough, broken place, remind yourself that you will see the goodness of the board. Whatever that situation is.
All right. So I'm gonna be honest with you.
I am on vacation in real life, but I'm recording this early, which means I still don't know who your president is.
I don't know.
I mean I know, but I can't me and you can't unpack who your president is. So I don't even know what to tell you. We may not even have one. The way this country is set up, who knows what's happening. But one thing I know for sure is I'm somewhere on vacation. Okay where I am. I am the president, rest is the president, sleep is the president. Me taking naps as the president. My man, my man, my man is the president. And that's ten years of what it blissed. So I don't know what to tell you about that. So I can't even tell you what's happening in the world, but I can say that I love you and that I just pray God's best over this nation and.
Over the world because we're going to need it.
And also, Jesus, if you want to come get us, we wouldn't mind it. We have messed quite a few things up, will beyond. We will humble ourselves and say we don't know what we're doing out here. If you want to come pick us up, come pick us up. Okay. So yeah, that's it. I can't even tell you how I'm doing because I'm in the future, like I'm not you know what I mean, Like this podcast is coming to you from a place I haven't even been yet, so I don't even know. I hope I'm doing well. I hope i'm tan and melanated. I hope that I am well rested and just basking in the presence of the Lord.
So let me mind your business. Here we go, let's go.
Hi.
My name is not to I'm originally from Houston, Texas, but now I live in South Carolina. Do to the military.
I recently retired.
This transition. Nobody talks about women in the military and trying to get the position back in the home. So this is my business. I'm trying to evolve from a soldier to a wife to a stay at home mom, and it's not easy. So if you have any advice or anything like that, I'm in my word. I'm just not wanting anybody. I'm in my word. I'm catching up on every episode, every podcast because y'all want to let me mind y'all business. Because all the tickets were sold out when I tried to come, so I'm standing by. I'm on the waitlist the new tickets. But until then, Sara, Uh, help us veterans transition and involve until like natural women.
I know, with God all things upon possible.
But I can tell you this stuff is not easy, and a lot of times we're misunderstood, and a lot of times there's not a lot of places of comfort for Christian veterans. It's all about the men.
And this is not the third But to have.
A space or to get some advice or anything like that, that's what's going on in my business. Transferring from active duty to return and it's been going on for a while, but just trying to find that place, trying to find my new tribe, trying to find my new identity, trying to find uh, not overcome state compensate from being deployed so much. It's just so much that's never talked about. It's never talked about. And we out here, we out here trying so on behalf of every veteran military woman that's retiring. That's not our business. You know, we serve the country, but now we're trying to evolve and serve our families. And it's instruction today. So I just want to let you know I appreciate what you do and everything that you're sharing. It gives me some kind of insight or a chance to to, you know, learn what y'all did experience, And I really appreciate that so so much. So thank you, Thank you to your family for sharing you with us. But we need a veteran regulf because this is it. It ain't for the weak. I've read this. You're having an amazing day.
Be blessed and thank you.
Thank you, thank you for the vision and following God on this. So many lives are changed because of you and your team and your family.
Thank you again, be blessed.
First of all, I want to thank you for your service. I know that oftentimes when we think about those who are serving in the armed forces or the military, that we think of men. But I am fully aware that there are so many women who are on those frontlines, who are suited up and who are serving their country, oftentimes at the expense of not being present in the lives of their family and their children. And so I want to thank you for the ultimate sacrifice for our freedom and protection. I'm really grateful. I can imagine that that is quite quite the transition to go from whoever you must become in order to be in the military to whom you need to be in your home, and I can imagine that with that transition, I think even when we have conversations about PTSD and transitioning from military into home life, it really centers around men. But to your point, there's not a lot of conversations about women. I cannot tell you that I can give you personal advice, obviously I haven't been there, but I can share with you what I'm just learning about wearing many hats and really having to transition from a hat that can be high demand, very cognitive, very intellectual, or physical into something that requires a little bit more vulnerability softness. And I say femininity loosely recognizing that that term has different meanings and different connotations for different people, but a more nurturing role. And what I will say to you is it's part of the reason why I broke the book Power Moves, is that what makes us powerful in one context doesn't that same set of characteristics doesn't make us powerful in a different context. So we have to discover what does power look like for me now as a mother. Maybe in the military it had X, Y and Z components, but now that I am a wife and a mother, I need to figure out what power looks like for me within what's within reach for me as well, because I don't want to live up to someone else's definition of power. And so I would advise you to take a minute and to really determine am I trying to live up to someone else's expectations of what it means to.
Be a mother and a wife?
Does that definition resonate with what is within my capacity? What is within my skill set and availability? Like can I even live up to that? Or am I trying to stretch myself, perhaps even break myself to be someone else's definition of a good mother. I am reading a lot about responsive parenting and just being responsive in relationships in general. And I would then challenge you to ask yourself the question what would make a good wife for my husband? What makes me a good wife for my partner? What makes me a good mother for this child? What makes me a good mother for the other child? What are their needs? Recognizing that the people who are in my life that God has assigned them to me and assigned me to them, which means that God knows exactly what I'm working with and what I'm not working with. God knows what I can offer and what I can't offer. God knows what they can pull out of me that I didn't even know what was in me. And so sometimes we have asked our children, like you know, what children's did?
I say?
Children's ghetto?
Well, sometimes I have asked our children, you know, like what's one thing that mommy can do better? And you know, sometimes like just give me candy all the time, or sometimes when you're working, I feel like I'm annoying you, and it helps me to understand, like, Okay, I need to ask Ella this the other day and I'm like, okay, wouldn't help if I told you, like, hey, I'm studying for a test right now, I need a minute, or do you just want me to stop everything? So I want to make sure that she has realistic expectations too, and she's like, no, it will help me if you would just tell me to wait a minute, and that way I wouldn't feel annoyed. I don't want you to try and show up in your life as what you think other people need when you can find out from them directly what it is that they need from you, because you may be stressing yourself trying to make sure that you make an homemade bread and being a nar Smith junior over there, when all you're children want is for you to take them outside and play, and that could be something that is within your ability to do and to be able to share with them, like, hey, mommy's trying to figure out how to be a mommy again.
Mommy was gone and now.
I get to be here with you all the time, and I'm really excited about that. So I may need your help trying to figure out what you need to have Those types of conversations with your husband. I think instead of judging and assessing your performance in the wife category, to make space for you to be a person who is also a wife, to allow him to understand that I am transitioning. This has been a little bit challenging for me, and I would appreciate your patience, your sensitivity, your communication as I figure out what I'm able to do.
I am one of the.
People who are of the belief system that you can say anything you want to someone if you figure out how to say it. Creating a space where honesty and transparency is the baseline and norm for all that you do is the gateway for power. And if you're going to be powerful as a wife, as a mother, as a sister, as a friend, you have to be willing to first be authentic, and from that place of authenticity to really say, all right, God, I don't have it. I can't be who I saw my mother be. I can't be who I see the person on television or on social media being.
But I can be me. God. I need your.
Wisdom, your strength, your insight into how you can get the glory out of every single role that I'm showing up in without me also becoming a sacrificial lamb that you died so that I didn't have to do, you know what I mean, Like Jesus paid the price so that I didn't have to get on the cross and live up to something that I couldn't be. And instead he gives me wisdom. He gives me insight into how where I am can be used for who he wants me to become, and how he can take where I am and use it for his glory. And so I think there's an opportunity to surrender, to say, this is.
Where I am, this is what I have.
God, show me how to work it, show me how to use it, so that I can create an environment where my children see me, see you working through me, and can also see me as a person. So I know that that may not I will also say there's probably some type of connect groups, some type of ministry, some type of community that can be built around this growing number of women who are transitioning from military into home life. Because if no one's talking about it, that means that there's a stage and a platform for someone else to do what no one else is doing. So maybe this is your call, and that's something that you should marinate on because it sounds like there's a need for it, and I'm sending you God's best wishes and just love as you discover how to take this pain point and transform it into a purpose that can bless other women evolved. There were so many layers to my conversation with Laura that I felt like this episode really needed to be probably just many sessions long. We obviously talked about the betrayal that she experienced within the context of her marriage, but then she experienced church hurt. She was also experiencing some betrayal within friendships, and then just based off of the way that you know, this cookie crumbled, there were a lot of people who felt hurt by you know, what happened between her and her husband, and I wanted to ask her how she was dealing with those many layers of betrayal, and before we happened to this second part of this conversation, I want to talk a little bit about betrayal and friendships. I do believe that friendships are more romanticized than actual romantic relationships, that when we have a friend, we kind of anticipate that they're going to be like the siblings we never had and that we're going to be able to whether whatever storms come our way. And then life happens and we see a side of a person that we never thought that we would see. We never knew that that side of them existed, and we are charged with trying to make it work letting it fall apart. Either way, that feeling of betrayal has to be acknowledged and addressed for us to experience healing. And so while we talk about the different layers of healing that one must go through when they experience anything as catastrophic as infidelity, especially one that was as public, I think that the layers of how expansive this hurt was, it's something that I really wanted us to take some time to dive into. I have experienced betrayals and friendship, and oh, I think it's important to acknowledge that betrayals in friendship it's not necessarily you know, the big ones like oh my friend slept with my friend, my husband, or my boyfriend. That sometimes betrayal is just that you weren't there. When I think about Peter in the Bible denying Jesus, and Peter thinks himself, I would never do that, and then doing that that denial was hard for him to comprehend, but his absence was it was felt by Jesus him denying him. He knew that that was something that was going to occur and that he was going to have to face a hard season on his own. But that denial was not necessarily the betrayal of that Judas performed, But it was a betrayal of the bond that I think Peter thought that he would have. And so I want to say that if you have found yourself maybe not showing up for a friend in the way that the bond would have dictated, not showing up for someone who's going through a hard time. Maybe you didn't feel like you had the words. Maybe you felt like you couldn't show up, or you couldn't change anything, so you stayed away because you're a fixer and if you can't fix, you go away, or because it was just messy and you didn't want to get your hands dirty, and you feel convicted about that, you feel like you wish you would have done things differently. I just want you to know that it's not too late to acknowledge that hurt, to acknowledge this reality that you wish you would have done better, and hope that if there is an opportunity in the future that you will do better. But betrayaling friendships are real, and yet there is healing on the other side of them. I am navigating a healing and a friendship, and it.
Is required.
Just thorough communication, over communication, and in that over communication, I think we're experiencing healing and growth, and so I.
Was the same for you if you're going through that.
But I also just want you to hear more from my conversation with Laura Lynz.
If you didn't hear it.
Last week, put a pause on this and go back so that you can be all caught up, because you don't want to miss anything that was shared throughout this conversation. I am wondering, what did you have to surrender in order to forgive? Oh, I'm gonna ask you, I might ask you. I'm gonna break it up. What did you have to surrender in order to forgive him? And then I want to know, like what you had to surrender in order to forgive the people in church who hurt you?
M okay, I think I had to surrender just my pride. It was pride and like because I hadn't. The thing is, I had no idea that this was in my marriage, and so you're in church and you're like leading, and you just you feel like, yeah, we've got a great marriage, our kids are great, you know, all of these things, and then your world comes crashing down. And so there was that, but then the anger that I would feel towards him, and that that.
Hate that would come up in me. I hated that feeling.
I'm not that type of person, and so I really had to work cut it, and I would tell him when I had those days where I was like, Hey, I'm really mad at you today, or I'm really angry at you today, and I just need my space. I don't want to look at you to that kind of thing, you know. But we were very honest in those moments, and I think for me that helped me get through because I was very much like that Christian that would just push everything down and move on and forgive and keep going. And I had to really learn to let my feelings out and I'd never done that before, and so that was very It was firstly very hard, but also very freeing, and being able to say things to him in a safe space was very freeing, and so there was that, and in terms of the people that took me a lot longer.
It gave me a lot longer, I think for the people that.
Had left, because it is it's hard to understand, especially when you know, for Carl and I where those people that will be with you no matter what, Like we're just those friends, you know. And so when our friends kind of like up and left, and I understand.
Now why and I get it.
I get it because well, firstly, they're confused, they don't know what's going on.
They don't know if they can trust what he said or who he is because of everything.
It's betrayal, right, betrayed everyone in terms of that side, And so I understand that. But I had to really go deeper to have that empathy for other people of like, okay, I just had I really had.
To dig deep. I had to dig deep for that.
Because I just felt like there's other people out there that have gone through similar things and they were there for them, and they still have them in their church, they still have them singing or preaching or coming to be that special guest, you know, Like, so it's not like it was just because of the infidelity. You know, it's like what can I bring to you? Like what could Caul do for them anymore?
Not much?
And that was hard for me.
To really see that side of people of like, oh, right now that we have nothing, that's we're kind of like.
Pushed off to the side. Now I get it. That was that was a tough thing for me because we're just not that type of friend.
But also I've had to and Kyl's much better. He would have a much better response than I do. He is like he because of his therapy and all the rehab stuff and all the stuff he's done to work through his you know, his steps that he's done.
And all that stuff.
Like he he knows that he's the one that has caused these problems and these hurts, So he gets it. When you're when you're the one that isn't the one that's caused the pain, but your friends still leave, that's really tough. And I think I just I pray that for my friends they never have to my old friends. I pray that they never have to feel what I've felt and what I went through, because you just need one, one or two people. It's not like I was asking anyone. Wow, I'm emotional thanks for making me cry.
I'm Alprah and just call me.
You are exactly, but you don't.
You don't wish it on anyone. And then I I think.
When you when you don't have that support from people that I wasn't like asking you to come and like be my be my friend and be Kyle's friend. It was just like you can't even send a text, like you can't even say hey, thinking of you. There was probably about three people that did that from our old from our old huge.
Life, you know, so that was really tough. I'm still working through that.
That's fine, that's fine, take your time. Do you feel like because I I don't think. I don't know that we had met before everything happened. I don't even know if I was following you before everything happened. Yeah, but I tried to eat like I really I didn't know you well enough to be like, girl, how you doing? But could you since like a little more leaning in from like people on the outskirts who were like, because I try, I really what My heart really went out to you and you you weren't blatantly talking about it publicly, and I didn't know you personally, but I would just like be commenting her stuff or liking stuff because I just I hate this idea of your loved your you know, people have this sense of connection to you than something happened well, And I think that's you're talking about mot that's my own trauma. I got pregnant all of a sudden, like you're a pariah. No one wants to be around you. So while I know that like no one could make up for those close friends that you maybe thought should have could have would have been there in those moments, I just want you to know that in that season of your life, I'm sure that there are more people who are like me, who were like man, I hope she's doing okay, and if liking this post or laughing about this thing or dropping a comment is just a reminder that like we see her as a person and a woman outside of all of this, Like I hope that this ask to that because we do. We need people in moments like that.
Absolutely, I definitely felt it from people like you, you know, that were like you of of us and you knew our story, so it was that was all lifelines for me at that time for sure.
For sure, Yeah, well we you know, I haven't done a lot of work though. You know, in my mind, we could do like one or two things, like we could pray for them and we could ask God to soft in our hearts, or we could put sugar in the gas hang and slash.
Yes, yes, you know what.
I mean, and you just let me know, my God, I love you.
Well, that's something that Kyle would do too, Like he's that type of friend.
You know, I love it.
How do you define forgiveness in your own words?
You know, I think I've talked about this too. We talked about this at some point, but I it took me three years to say I forgive you to came.
So I didn't like I like that.
I like that.
Yeah, I just feel.
Like I feel like sometimes you know, we're told again as Christians you've got to forgive and forget and get on with your life. And I was like, no, I've this was the last thing that I had to protect myself. This was the last piece for me that I really just needed time.
And I think it's okay.
And I think there's so much pressure to you know, be that good Christian like forgive and so for me it was like I had forgiven him, but I just couldn't say it. Yeah, and I couldn't say and when I did say, I completely broke down. But so I think it's okay to take your time and to protect yourself and to feel safe to say you forgive someone. And I didn't necessarily have to say it to his face, but I felt like I did, you know, I had I had to and I don't even think he had realized that I hadn't forgiven him, you know, because we you know, we've done so much work together and all of that, but it was for me. It was just that final like let down of my that guard that I had put up to protect myself and.
I had to take that time.
To say I forgive you. And I think that's okay, and I think God knew my heart and I'm not you know. I just feel like sometimes people need some time to say I forgive you, or like let's move on from this. But yeah, I sometimes you just feel that pressured it straight away, just to know that that's healthy.
You said something that I think we don't talk enough about when having conversations about forgiveness, which is that unforgiveness feels like protection. It's not necessarily that we don't think the person deserves it or that we are incapable of it. But sometimes there are moments where forgiving you feels like being vulnerable again. I can, yeah, I can totally relate to this unforgiveness. You can call it bitterness, whatever you want to call it. It feels like as long as I live with the reminder of what happened, I can keep it from happening again. I can make sure that I see you through this lens so that I know what's possible from you. And so unforgiveness is doing me a favor by staying present in my heart, because to forgive is to open myself up to perhaps the possibility of it happening again. But like, why is that na true? Would tell me about the work you did that made that natrue?
I think I, I mean I had done. I have done so much work, and I think that I just needed I just needed time, And I think something like this, When you're so betrayed, it takes time, and it takes time and a lot of work and a lot of mindfulness to get to that space of being able to like fully be able to forgive someone. I don't know if that answers your question.
No, I think it does. I think that.
I just think there's something to be said about unforgiveness not being real protection and in orders it keep it from happening again. And forgiveness itself isn't necessarily guaranteeing that something won't happen again. It's recognizing that it happened, that I'm okay. And if it happened and I'm okay, then I can survive whatever is next on this crazy wild life called this crazy wild ride called life like I don't want to face it again, but there may be something else that happens. It's completely different from this. I think forgiveness is an opportunity to honor your resiliency.
Yeah, absolutely, I do totally agree with that.
Yeah, okay, So how's family, how's life? What's your dreams? What excites you now?
We are so good. We are in Tulsa. We live in Tulsa, which of all places I just never thought we would be, but we are here. We go to Transformation Church with pastum like Todd, and he was someone that kept reaching out to carl In you know, during these years. And it was actually Natalie as well, his wife, who really kept pushing on on Mike to reach out to Carl and keep like keep making sure he was okay, and keep making sure we were okay. And so we came to visit one weekend and I just was because at the time we're in Florida, which was fine, but it just didn't feel like home.
But it was just a great hiding place for the moment that we're in. So when we came to Transformation, we just came to like visit for a weekend and I just sobbed.
My son was with us, who was he would have been thirteen at the time, fourteen, yeah, thirteen, and he was like, I could come to this church because everything would remind us of that of Hillsong, the church where we'd been at, and so being at a multi cultural Black church is just so beautiful for us and such a different pace, and like.
We just fell in love with it.
And Mike is just such a special leader and such a great friend. And we were flying out back to Florida and I just said to come with my I think we need to move. I think we need to be with Mike. And so he had the conversation with Mike and he was like open arms, you know, like comby, and he said to us.
Something really beautiful that I think just.
I needed to hear at the time, which was, I want to stand next to you, Carl. I want to get blood on my shirt basically for you, like I want to show the world that you can stand next to someone and see a restoration happen and see a family heill and.
For me that minute everything.
Yeah, and to see the way that I mean, you would get this, but just how you were brought in as family and you are protected as family.
Is just.
So remarkable and so special and I hadn't felt that in a long time.
So yeah, we love it. We love it here.
It's definitely a different pace, but we love it here. My girls are in college. They're in California. They are living the absolute dream.
They go to this beautiful.
Like liberal arts Christian college out there and they just they love it. Carl's actually with them right now. Actually he went out there yesterday to be with them for a couple of days.
But yeah, they're just wonderful. The kids are great.
Him and the kids have such a great relationship because they think he's been so honest and open yea, and them seeing this side of their dad that like they hadn't seen so.
They're all really close and we're great.
The dreams in my heart would be I think just being able to I talk to my life coach, my coach the other week about it.
I was like, what am I doing with my life?
Like I just feel like, ah, so she was just helping me, you know, frame a few things. And I just I feel such a burden for women who have been in my position or who are in my position, who.
Have lost their voice.
And that is kind of my dream right now, is to help women find their voice for themselves and be in a place of strength, even in a marriage or in as a single person or whatever it is, but just to be able to have a voice and find it and use it, because I think for so.
Long for me, I had lost it. I'd lost that voice.
And going through this process, I really realized what was in me and what what I was capable of and the strength that I did have. And I always felt like I was like, I'm ausy. I'm like, yeah, you can just do anything you want, like you're you know, we're strong as a people. But I think life had just like taken it out of me. And so on this side I just really feel and the amount of people that reach out to me, I just feel such a heart for that, like just being able to help other people in a similar situation.
So, yeah, do you feel like you're at a stage this is my last question. Now leave you alone, I think you for let me mind your business. Do you feel like you're at a stage where you're not necessarily grateful it happened, but you have found the blessings that may have not been uncovered unless it happened.
I can say that I'm grateful.
Oh, just so crazy to think that I would ever say, because back you know, when I was in such pain and such brokenness.
I was like, this is like f life, you know. I was just like done, Like I hate everyone, I hate everything.
But on this side, seeing the blessing and what life is and.
What my marriage is now like because.
We're so connected and we've done so much work to be so connected, I just never thought this would be possible. And so I am absolutely grateful for where I am. I'm grateful that we are, you know, in the space that we're in at the church, that we're in with the people that we do life with, Like it's very different and I never thought that I would be able to say that, But I love it.
I love this side, Yeah, I really do.
And that's my I think that's my excitement for people who do. If you do end up going through something like this, it's either going to be like you get stronger together and your marriage is going to be you know everything you thought it could be, or you're by yourself and you're strong and you're doing everything you thought you could do and you were greater for it. So I just think sometimes, you know, life throws us some really hard stuff and you've got two choices, and you know, there was a scripture that was given to me right at the very beginning, and it was in some twenty seven you know, where it talks about I will I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the Living and that and then it says, and just wait on the Lord.
Basically, it was like you just wait.
And that has been what has held me in this space, has been like, I will see the goodness.
I know, I will.
It's just going to take some time, and I will wait and I will see it. And in that time, I've been honest, I've been open, I've been broken I've been all these things, but being able to stay and wait on the Lord has been my biggest strength. And that's my hope for people that when you are in a tough, broken place, that you can just remind remind yourself that you will see the goodness of the Lord, whatever that situation is.
You know what's funny, I love that I feel like one of the things that I have that like just it's scary. As God allows my life to continue to impact other people, it is scary. And I try to be as authentic and honest and as possible and obviously you know it's holy and righteous in pursuit of the Lord as possible too. But I still think it's scary to feel vulnerable to people and vulnerable to their you know, whatever could possibly get you canceled from things from day to day. But I will say that whenever I've had moments where it was like whether it was a lie that was circulating and going viral or just like some TikTok something that was happening where I'm like, oh my gosh, what if this is like the beginning of a snowball effect the people are going to just like you know, like starting out someone from college is talking about how you used to smoke weed with them, and then you know what I mean, Like, what if all of these things and I think I told them about that. I think I already said that, Like what else do I need to you know? I started thinking to myself, like, if either one or two things are going to happen, God's going to protect you, and these weapons are formed and they aren't going to prosper, or these weapons that prosper our weapons that God is using to deconstruct an image of philosophy, a belief that you have subscribed to, Like if this can tear your ministry down, if this can tear down what God has done in your life, then God has allowed it. And you have to trust that you are not just your ministry, You are not just who people have gravitated towards. That you are a child of God first, and so I feel like I want to thank you, and you can just give my regards to your husband as well, but I just want to thank you for being a model of what happens when you allow your life to be torn down, like literally like just kind of lay down and let it crumble and then only revealed with God's hand and with patience and with humility and transparency. I pray, I pray that I don't go through what you went through. I pray you, Jesus, if there is some version of some thing that happens in my life that reminds me of what it is like to have been in your shoes, or that allows me to pull from this conversation. I pray that I don't just pull from what you modeled, but that I'll pull from the joy that's on the other side of the crumbling, because I just I have a lot of honor for someone who just allows what happens to happen so that God can be God and then you can be restored. And I pray that that is the legacy of your ministry that outlives any narratives, any story that has been told, because I think that that what you all have modeled is the one thing that we all need to lean into is just letting God tear down what his name wasn't on so that we can rebuild with what He has given us and what's left.
So thank you.
I hope that came out the way I meant it in my heart.
It did. Thank you so much. I love you, I love you.
Yeah, that's it.
This has been another episode of the Woman Evolved podcast, and I hope that as you were listening.
That you felt hope.
Maybe it's not in a relationship, maybe it's for a friendship. If you have experienced any number of heartbreaks that you felt like you couldn't recover from, I hope that Laura's story lays a foundation for you to start leaning into what healing can look like for you, and to not put any limits on what that healing could look like.
I bet you there is.
A chance that I think she actually said that, where if you would have told her in advance, that she would have never in a thousand years, thought that she would stay, that they would work it out. She thought that she would be one who would make a different choice. But when you're in the moment and you're open to however God wants things to play out, I think that it allows you access to restoration that you couldn't have imagined either. A lot of times we say we would never go through something because we don't trust that we could be restored from it, and yet their life is serving as an example that unbelievable restoration can happen even after an unbelievable heartbreak, And so I'm grateful for her generosity and sharing her story and trusting me. And I pray that I was able to honor that vulnerability and to be delicate with it, because I can only imagine because I have been in a similar situation where you're sharing some of the hard truths about your life, but prayerfully God's getting the glory out of it. And so I just thank you Laura for taking the time to talk to me, and I'm grateful for the way that you open up your scars so that we could be healed. Thank you very very much, God, I thank you Lord. We're talking about the way that we have been betrayed, and how many times have we betrayed you, betrayed your word, betrayed your call, betrayed what we knew to be your truth for our life and choosing our own. And so God, re re, we ask that you would allow us to really lean into what restoration looks like in our relationship with you. We thank you God for grace. We thank you God for mercy, We thank you for your forgiveness. We thank you for giving us another chance that the mere fact that we're listening right now, that we hear your voice, that we have heard this podcast as a sign that you're willing to extend your arms towards us again, and we say yes, yes to your will and yes to your ways. Help us to forgive ourselves for the ways that we have betrayed who we thought we would be, the way that we have betrayed our own morality and our own integrity and allowed our brokenness or temptation to rule over us. We renounce covenants that we have made with brokenness. We renounce covenants that we have made with insecurity, covenants that we have made with us, covenants that we've made with temptation. We renounce it in the name of Jesus, and we call ourselves to a higher standard. Holy Spirit, meet us in the area of our deficiency and now brokenness, and give us strength and courage to lean into healing. Thank you guy for what we get to do through this podcast. May we never forget the privilege it is to be in community with one another, to have tough conversations, and to see your presence and your glory shining.
Through it all. And Jesus name my prayer, Amen Evolved
