Beth is working more. Peter jams with another Dad. Bryn’s tantrums get physical. We discuss the story of 13-year-old frozen embryo and play a game of “You Knows What He Said?”
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Hello, and welcome to We Know His Parenting. I'm Peter Mcnerneyeth. We are real life parents, UM and married couple, and this podcast is you know, we're just we're just comparing notes in the week, trying to figure it out. Beth, how are you? I'm okay, as you're aware. I've had a busy couple of weeks, but that means I've been away from my children a lot, which means all kinds of kind of evens out. It's not as exhausting as UM. I don't feel bad for you at all. Oh No, I'm so busy doing a thing I love away from my kids all week. I feel very disoriented towards this podcast right now, because this is like two weeks of me being gone for most bed times and I I don't remember where we left off or what's happened, or who our kids are, or who I am, or what's going on or yeah, I think do I have a husband? Last night, I know, I checked checked my phone, I was I was at work late and I texted you and I was like, who's getting our kids tonight? Because I knew you teach on Thursday and I knew I knew someone was probably getting your kids, and there was my mom. You had no idea that she was even kind of new, but I didn't. You have things to focus on, the exciting things. But it's nice to, um, not worry about your kids. I've been worrying about our kids. Boy had a late audition. I had to bring him into the city. I had to find a babysitter. Yeah, and that one pretty well. It went well. There's only been some There's only been two of the most ferocious, terrifying tantrums that I've ever seen in my entire life. Other than that is been great. I'll say, um, We've probably talked about this before, but for people not who don't live in New York, um, taking your kids into the city when you're not when you don't live in the city is a nightmare. It's one of the most exhausting, scary, annoying things to think about doing. Well, it's I'm I'm oving like there's it's so much easier than it used to be now that like I took I took the car and I found a place to park and Britain walked the rest of it. I carried Maven. Before it was like that was not an option. You had to strap him into the thing and know where you're going. Blah blah blah. And it was raining, but this was no problem. I mean, you're just strong enough to do that, though I think that would terrify me to have two kids on the streets of New York enough, I'm saying very strong. I don't feel physically strong enough to carry Maven and then hold Brin's hand for like multiple blocks and not and not be totally Trentaly had to walk half a block. I didn't know, but it was great. That's still I mean, like if one thing goes wrong and two kids are trying to sprint in different directions, but in the middle of the city, they're so like excited and overwhelmed, they're not going anywhere anyway. What didn't go great was Bran through a couple of tantrums. And the first tantrum I forget what day this was, but you were gone working all day and I bring him home. He is this terrible habit. He comes in and he's like, opens the fridge and I'm like, I'm making dinner, a Bran, no stop grabbing cheese and stuff. And then he freaks out blah blah, I don't even know what it was, but it was a tantrum that led to complete and total rage in this three year old where he's looking at me, he just literally going it feels like something hormonal is happening. I definitely think there's a hunger element or and tired and I'm telling him no and he can't handle it and he started hitting me. I feel like other parents have figured out a stronger snack game than we have, like a well yet. So yesterday, uh my mom was here and we were picking up those kids together, and so I was like, oh, I'm gonna show my mom what a good dad I am. So I prepared a bowl of fruit for them. So then I went to pick up. When they came in, they saw this bowl of fruit, and I was like, I have time to make dinner. Now, They're not gonna harass me. And they just ate the fruit in five seconds and then we're like, we want cheese, we want milk, tears, teers, tears. Yeah, the healthy snack you give them is just fuel for them to be more piste off about the lack of dinner. Anyway, this tantrum builds and it rages, and he starts destroying things. I try to leave him alone. I'm like and I try to be calm. Mostly I have a pretty good tactic where I just like I asked him, I was like, do you feel angry? And that usually calms him down and he's like yes, and then we can talk. But this was he was hitting me and I was like, I can't let you hit me. So I'm sort of like blocking his hands and I'm just trying to get away from him. And then I get away and then he'll just like tip over the trash can. So I had to grab him and I was like, you need a loan time, and I put him in his room and I closed the door, and then he starts destroying things in the room and I go in and I'm like, you need to stop. And this is like forty five minutes. And then I put him on his bed and he starts swinging at me, and I just pick up a pillow and I just start blocking his hits. And this is enraging him so much worse, to the point where I am now so emotional and angry and I want to, you know, fight back, but obviously I'm not going to. He's three. But I started dodging these punches with a pillow a little too aggressively, where like it knocks him down. You've made it into a game, but you knock him over. He's on his mattress, so he swings with his whole body and I put the pillow up to hit it, and he hits it and he falls down and he goes stop it, Daddy, and then throwing a tantrum, and they're like stopping as if you came home at this time, and I go, you need to handle this. And I went into our room and I later in the bed and I burst into tears. I have to say it was on my end a little refreshing to see you have such a breakdown because it feels like I'm the one always dealing with those mega tantrums. Um. Well, you're welcome now you know how I feel. The more you know. Um, I think one of the funniest things you told me this week when you told dad on a play date another dad about one of Brin's epic tantrums. Then he said, what do you say. I don't know what to tell you. Well, he was he was so nice about it, but I was telling him this story and he got real quiet and still, and then I started to get nervous because he wasn't say anything, so I kept rambling on about it to try to make it seem like it wasn't as big a deal. But the more I talked about it, the more it sounded like a big deal, and so he stayed quiet, and then I finally just had to stop talking, and he said, I don't know what to tell you, and I was like, I think it's I wasn't sympathy. It's hard to get a handle on. But it's so funny that he didn't at any point try to like offer up any of his own experiences with his kid or indicate that his kid has tantra. So he did, he did early early on, But you made it sound like he was just like, huh, that's weird. I mean a little bit. He was very supportive. I think I think the problem was he cared too much and I was just telling him something I thought was a funny story, and he had the audacity to sympathize. Can we talk about your dad play date? Oh? Sure? So um as you and I know you're very shy about meeting other dads and what are you talking about? Despite your performer enthusiasm. You're very shy around real people in the real world. I just don't want anyone to look at me. And so you don't have really a lot of dad friends, except for like your friend who you knew before he became a dad and you. I went on the first play date to this house with you, and I think it was a nice buffer for you. And then you had a play date where you and the dad ended up jamming out on guitars together. Yeah, we went full dad. I will say this was a joyous afternoon. I went there, He's like, hey, I don't know how it started. He's like, check out my old guitar. He's like, you play and I was like, he starts playing, and I'm so uncomfortable at first, because as a comedian, I realized how entrenched in my earnestness, earnestness, earnestness should be mocked in the comedy world, and so and and that's sort of every everything. Oh my god, what am I even talking about? So many things? When you're a comedian, I'm just asking to be made fun of. And I consider myself a very open and like positive person, but there's a certain level of earnestness that I'm just not used to being around. And one of those things is like, hey, you play guitar, Like, let's play guitar, you know, and like unless you're amazing and guitar and that like guy in the corner playing guitar. My impulse is to make fun of this long story short. You and this dad jammed out while your son's danced next to you for what sounds like a long time. And I will admit it was incredibly fun and joyous and earnest and I'm not that great at playing guitar and didn't matter because we have to make up funny songs. You are good at playing guitar. I don't know why you think that this This is an ongoing conversation we have had, which is my wife my wife. I didn't even mean to my wife, Um is so much more impressed with the fact that I can play guitar adequately than any of the comedy that I do. It's the only thing you downplay. Oh so you're just attracted to my humility. No, I just think, um, it's a skill that I don't have playing instruments, or it's not something that comes to me easily. Like I could work at it and then maybe be able to play a couple of chords. But you could pick up a brand new instrument and then in the course of an afternoon, you like know the basics of that instrument, which I think is far beyond my skill set. I I'm going to take this compliment that I'm getting right now and just end the segment abruptly. This next segment is called did You Knows? This is a segment where Peter learns a fact about parenting and shares it with us. Okay, so this is a crazy birth story that I read is from the BBC, and I'm gonna I'm gonna paraphrase here. But so essentially, this woman, um, I went to a doctor of uh, they're having trouble conceiving, and so they had intro fertilization from the husband and wife. This doctor created twelve embryos that are essentially we're all the same like twins, but twelve. And then they found the healthiest ones and they implanted three of them. Um, and as the bregnancy went on, she lost one of them and ended up having twins. Uh this is and then they froze the However, many remaining embryos, and then this like corrupt fertilization doctor left the country and these eggs like went missing. Uh blah blah blah. Years and years went later, they got them back that that's not even an important part of the story. And they thought out some of these uh eggs, and they implanted a few of them, and she had like a horrible reaction to them, and like when into shock and almost died. And so then they were like, well, this is not safe. Let's let's put this off. So years and years go by. It's thirteen years later, and they decided they wanted to try to try it again. And they have like four embryos left, so they thaw thought them out, and one of them is like perfect, and so they they go with that one, and she gets pregnant and she gives birth thirteen years later to technically the third triplet. So this baby has two identical triplets. Um, well, I don't know if they're identical two of the other triplets who were born thirteen years before. That's crazy. Yeah, I didn't know that's how fertilized embryos. I thought they were fertilizing like multiple eggs or something. How did they you know what. As I'm saying this, I don't know. That's a great question. But this is what the article said, is that this was an identical twin to the first two kids. You don't know. You're looking it up now, you're going on the internet. You don't know. Long embryo baby born, healthy baby girl has been born in the US after spending the last thirteen years and frozen suspension as an embryo. Uh. This is thought to be the longest embryo blah blah blah blah blah. Has two teenage siblings who were conceived through in vitrare fertilization at the same time, and she is frozen, which technically makes her a triplet. Technically makes her a triplet. Okay, it's still very interesting. Okay, but they don't share DNA like that. I don't think so. But I mean, the amazing thing is an embryo being frozen for thirteen years. It's funny because we were talking about this at work, which is that, you know, there's all this pressure on women my age to start freezing their eggs if they haven't hooked a man, and um, it's not necessarily there's not enough info out there to know if freezing your eggs is going to be successful at this point, or like if the eggs are gonna last. There's just like, um, so it's interesting to hear that that experience. What would you do if we had triplets? I mean, like now that Brennan Maven, we accidentally get pregnant again and you find out you're having triplets, It's hard to imagine not losing my mind. Um, all parents of twins triplets, bless you. I don't, I will say and not. I'm sure this is going to be maybe controversial for some of our listeners, but I would genuinely consider abortion. Oh boy, We're going there, depending on the time, depending on like the timing of us finding this out, and how bad I wanted this pregnancy to begin with. That triplets is insane. My mom is a twin and she has two older siblings besides her twin brother. So I think when they were born, my grandmother had four kids under five or six under five. Yeah, I just I know you can survive twins and triplets. I just I don't want to be the one to prove it. Hey, how would you like to prove something incredible? You know, it's funny is when I was pregnant with maybe and I had a um a paranoid fear that I was pregnant with twins, and I also I think what happened was like cracked an egg and it was a double yolked egg, and I'd never had that in my whole life, and I was like, this is a sign it's gonna be twins. And I was like, we're screwed. And so I went to the midwife saying like that I was worried it was twins, and they were doing the sonogram and she was like, it's really not like like twins, I'm not only seeing one baby, and like, but she said it to me in a way where she thought I was going to be disappointed, Like she was like, I'm sorry, I'm just really I think there's only one in there. And I was like, no, that's great. I was bringing it up because I'm scared to death, like not, I very just thinkly remember being younger and cracking open an egg and there was two yolks and being so upset by him because it was just the clearest like, oh, by the way, you're eating chicken embryos, like this is a living thing. And that whole thought. I it's something I ignored my whole life, and that was just too real. You ever cracked open a bloody egg? I did, and that was when I was like nine months pregnant with Brin and it was terrifying. I was like, this is a sign everything's gonna go bad. I'm going to go into labor. It's the end. Like your egg future telling track record is crap. Well, the timing of those eggs was horrible, and I will say, in retrospect, I think that the first one was a sign that labor was imminent, and the second one with the two with the double yolks, was just a sign of pregnancy or like fertility, you can make an argument about any egg. I have never in my life had either of those situations happened when I was not pregnant. That's proof. Now it's time for you know what he said? This is where one of us gives the other one a series of Britan quotes, only one of which is a real quote. And I don't have one this week. I've been even though I've been around our kids more, I have not been ready. Because that was a great attention, Okay, which give me the options. Which of these things did Brian say to me? The first one is you fucked up? This possible, second one is you're bugging me out. The third one is, I guess the first one seems more likely. The first third one is you suck. You fucked up, you're bugging me out, you suck. Mm hmm. Pause. Our daughter is crying. We're recording at night. Be right back, okay, okay, okay, now we need to talk about which just happened. So we were interrupted by our normally do this in the morning. We're recording at night. So I go in to the room. It's very hot today, and so I go in there. The light is on. That's why Maven was crying. Brian. Very recently he stopped using his pacifire because it broke, and so he has taken her pacifier. He's in his bed with a fully loaded up nighttime pull up diaper, He's got the pacifier. The air is off, he turned off the air conditioning. It's a million degrees and Maven's crying. What is going on in here? Like I go and I I changed his diaper, I give it back the pacifier, and then I go and I get him a wet washcloth and he puts on his head and this is revelatory for him. He loves this thing. But it's a bit sad in there. And I explained to him that the air actually is the thing that makes it not hot, and he understood. Anyway, you fucked up, you bugging out, you suck. Those are my options. You sucked up, you're bugging me out, you suck. Okay. Unfortunately, well I'm gonna eliminate you. Bugging out is not something either one of us have ever said. Ever. I'm fairly sure, nor really is you suck. That's not something we would say. You sucked up is definitely something we would say. And therefore that is my guest. It was your question because he actually said two of these things, which is, he said you fucked up, and he said you're bugging me out. And I think he heard you're bugging me out on the story Pirates podcast in a song. But the funny story behind the first one is, um, he was watching YouTube in my bedroom before bed and I wanted my turn favorite thing. He wanted to turn it off. I turned off the TV and quietly under his breath, he goes, you fucked up. It was really really threatening. I I don't know where he heard this. I am going to guess from his friend at school. There's a there's a kid at school that teaches him things. I'm not gonna say the name anyway, I know who you are, but um, I thought it was kind of funny. And then later the same night he said, wait, wait, how did you react? Did you acknowledge this? What happened was, I said, what did you say? And he put his hand on his mouth and he was like nothing. I didn't say anything. So he knows it's bad, which further leads me to believe he heard it at school, because I feel like there was an incident behind this. He knows, Yeah, he knows it's bad. I heard him swear once and I we've talked about it on this podcast already. Apparently it did not have that much of effect because he said it again. But I like that he was scared about it and wouldn't repeat it. There's a proper amount of shame. Yeah, you know what, swear all you want, but be scared to swear in front of your parents. But then later that night he said, you're bugging me out, and I thought it was hysterical. You're bugging me out. Yeah, because no, whoever says that that's not on the Story Parts podcast, I think it is. No. I'm pretty confident the person that records it would know more than the person who doesn't listen. I don't think you remember every casual aside on the podcast to be surprised how obsessed I am with myself? Well, I don't think it was you saying that. Oh, then it's likely I don't listen to other people's minds. This next segment is called would you Know? This is where we posit a hypothetical parenting situation to one another and how we would handle it. Beth, I got another good one from our friends on the internet. This one comes to us from Harry. Harry wants to know. I'm gonna give this to you, Beth. Harry wants to know. Would you knows what to do? Bonus points Harry for using the proper formatting of the question. Would you knows what to do? If your infant was taller than you and could thus access areas of your home forbidden uh, forbidden to you, forbidden to you above the refrigerator, top of the Christmas tree, et cetera. Why are those things forbidden to me, Harry proof read or I should learn to read? This is didn't we have another one where you're your kid has like superpowers? This is similar. Now your kid is enormous, like you said, now your kids enormous, Like it's the same kid that had heat vision. I'm sick of this kid. Um okay, so the um tall kids. Okay, I'm assuming this kid still has the same brain function of a child. And yeah, they're just huge. They're just enormous. So what I would say is I would continue the child proof blocks we currently have on our cabinets, but I would extend them to all the cabinets. What is the what is the most dangerous thing that they could get to now that they that they can't get to now that they could when they're a giant infant. I mean, well, right now, they're kind of Brent's kind of already learned to get on the counter, which means he's within reach of a lot of knives. Oh yeah, he went into the kitchen tonight and came back with a slice of pizza and it that was in a place I did not think. You. Yeah, he's figuring it out. Um, there's okay. The cabinets up high actually are like not that bad. It's like the mixer. And this is not a problem. Harry is taller, is he stronger than us? I this question should be less about the cabinets and should be more about how this kid's not going to kill you. Yeah, that's true. You know what, he can take this, He can take the star off the top of the Christmas tree. All he wants is he gonna strangle me to death? Yeah, suffocate you. I already have enough trouble with both of our kids elbowing me in the boob every single day. I got kicked in the crotch so comically hard tonight and I literally brand was sitting on the counter and so he didn't mean to, but he just kicked me exactly crotch level. And I actually when you kicked me in the nuts. And he's never heard that term before. And I've never screamed that a lot before my whole life, and I was embarrassed to repeat it just now. He's definitely pocketed that one. He's like he could feel that it was funny but also a serious thing that happened. You know the problem with him is that he's really really should this be a segment Beth does problem with him. He's just really smart about language, and he remembers people's names very well upon hearing them once, and like if he hears a new phrase that has a certain ring to it that he doesn't recognize, you can see him doing the math in his head, like I'm gonna remember this one. Well. He's exactly that age where if he chooses to be interested in something, he absorbs all of it. My dad bought them this book. It's called Hello Hello. It's full of animals, obscure animals from the world. He knows every single name because we read it every night. That's the rainbow gamma, and that's the sun to pangolin, and that's the rhinoceros hornbill uh, And because he's just chosen to be interested in it, and I think phrasing. He's very interested in just how people say things and how people gesticulate. Well, what's funny about that is that book he has memorized the way that you have read it to him, and neither of us really knows how to pronounce those animals. But I tried to read it to him tonight and he kept correcting me on the pronunciation. Oh, I'm sure you did it all wrong. I was like, you don't even know, Yes, we do. We've read this book every night. We then look it up on Google on my phone and we look at real pictures of them. We've we've did you play YouTube videos that on the pronunciation of their names. I don't care what the truth is. We have our own reality that we've built and we are. I'm fine with that. I just think if I'm going to be corrected, I should get the opt out of reading those books. You can handle that time. I didn't tell you that. First of all, I almost always do. And you don't have to read that book. It's really good though. A sound up pangling. It's an armored beast, a rainbow gamma, long beaked a chidna. Now it's time for listeners want and knows. This is where we dive into some listener mail and UH talk about it, answer some questions or react. Now. We got a lot of feedback from our Past Lives episode. A lot of people had opinions and in all directions and Ah, there were two emails that that jumped out as just the epitome of you and me and Uh, I wanted to briefly you could see right away to one of these listeners. Um, I'll claim as one of my own, and which one is is more a beef this first one. And I can't read this whole thing because it is so long, and I love every piece of it. But this is from Katie, and I'm gonna skip around a little bit. But Katie writes on Peter's call for backup, which I did, I said, back me up first. On the idea that it's possible that Bryn has a past life because anything is possible possible. Logically, for every unknown but possible scenario, there is an equal and opposite unknown but possible. These two statements are equally valid. It is possible that Britain had a past life. It is possible that Bryn did not have a past life, which means that possible has no bearing on what is real. Just because something is not impossible does not mean that it is probable. Therefore, Peter's conclusion, concession that it is possible Britain had a past life, is just as important to point to the argument as the idea that we are all in the matrix or Elvis is still alive. Moving on, why your best thoughts on past life so unreasonable, and her conclusion that people have past lives demonstrably false. The I could go on and on and and I just think it's weird. This person says that it is possible, but then says that it's demonstrable false. It's like, not, well, I'll go on. The way a logical argument works, which is something you love, is a person presents a number of premises which, if all true, results in a conclusion that must also be true. But if any premise in the argument is invalid, the conclusion is also invalid. A logical fallacy is the use of invalid or otherwise faulty reasoning in the construction of an argument. Best argument commits many fallacies, the most important of which I have highlighted here below. And there are several sections that this person sounds very fun to be around. Anecdotal fallacy when a proponent uses a person experience as evidence instead of reliable and falsifiable data. Now listen, I'm not reading this whole thing because we literally don't have enough time, but I'm also cutting out the part that makes it clear that it's very tongue in cheek and just a logical argument that this person enjoys writing out and boy I had a nice exchange back and forth because I this is also very much how I think. I just don't understand why these science nazis like act as though science hasn't discovered things over time, Like we haven't always known things as we now know them. Sure, so to say that like certain things are impossible because we haven't we don't currently have evidence for them is so bizarre to be well, I think it's not saying that it's saying that this thing must be true because of anecdotal evidence. I didn't say it must be true. I feel like this whole argument is being twisted on me. I was just saying I don't like to be attacked for believing it's possible. I'm not the one who is a d percent shore of my opinion. Well, I will say the back and forth that I had with Katie, who was lovely went on to talk about how how to not be jerks about it. But anyway, the point is not to to tell you you're wrong. I just want to give you a taste of some of the feedback we've got. Now. I want to don't I'm being accused of logical fallacy I think is well. I mean, anyway, here's the different email we got from Valentina. I'll read the entire email, this one dear Peter and Beth. Correct me if I'm wrong, But Beth seems like an old soul, and Peter seems like a new one. How do you reconcile this as partners and his parents, well, Valentina as an old soul. It requires a lot of patients entering thing with these new souls. Um, boy, it's I believe it's hard. It's some of some of the emails we get. It's always hard to read tone online. And I'm pretty sure that these are all very positive. But it's yeah, this one reads very positive and earnest to me. But I'm curious, is that how earnest it is and whether it knows, whether this person knows how well. I don't want to say something condescent. Yeah, I don't want to be well, of course, it's so, it's a it's so belittling to be called a new soul, because one, it's ridiculous that because there's no such thing as a soul according to me. And I know you don't agree. In a lot of people don't agree but it's just like, Oh, you don't believe in this, so you must be a naive. Here's an example of why I actually fully I this, and I think we've talked about this maybe on the podcast before, is that you're an experiential learner and I'm more of a planner. And I, for if I was to make a recipe install a hook on the wall, something I would maybe have done some research or have read up on it. You just dive headfirst into things, just busting down walls, making a mess, and I like to fix my mistakes. You like to live and learn, and I would prefer to create less chaos in my wake. And I think that is an old soul new soul thing. So the logical argument is that you've led more lives than I have, and that's why, you know, I do believe that we've all led multiple lives. And I think that we have certain skills that it does not logically makes sense to me that we've picked them up in one lifetime. For example, I think you know, growing up, I was really good at drawing. You are really good at music. I think that when something comes naturally to you, like to you like that. I think that you've picked it up in a past life. Well, I respect that point of view, and I do not agree in it is that anyway whatsoever? Well, you'll see on the other side, Okay, oh boy, let's not ah, this is just us dancing around death. Uh and um, I made my peace with death by never talking about it, and then here we are. This My point of view allows me to not fear death, and I like that. This is what actually think the point of all this is and where I have learned to respect our differences, is that everybody's dealing with the fact that we're going to die and we don't know what's going to happen. That's terrifying and it's paralyzing two feel so helpless. Everybody needs to find a way to deal with this thing. And my way is making a decision that, oh, you know what, there's not you die, You're done. That's that, there's nothing I'm gonna do about it. Now, let's change the topic. And it actually does make me happy and comfortable that I don't need to deal with that anymore. You this dealing with the way that you deal with it makes you really happy and comfortable and and and it makes you feel and I know. I just don't like if I was just living for this one life, Like I just feel like I would live so selfishly and like, I mean, there's a there's a virtue to being in the moment. But I think I like having a long view of things. I like feeling like I was put here for a reason and that it's like a drop in the bucket of history that like is hopefully serving some higher purpose going forward, and not just like me as a person trying to get as much joy out of this life before I die. It's so funny because I'm like I ultimately I think it's all totally meaningless. But that doesn't that doesn't mean that doesn't equal like, well, I can do whatever I want, because if I did that, my life would be miserable because people would hate me. And so being a good person is the best way for me to leave a live a happy life a while I'm here. And you know what, ultimately we don't know. Let's be cool anyway, this is a podcast about parenting. Yeah, but I I just want to say thank you to everyone to reach out. Other people wrote in a lot of controversy some something else not so nice. Um Tom said Beth is dumb and I'm sexist, and that's a perfectly valid point of view too, is it anyway, same person said both of those things. Yeah. Well, somebody wrote in and this is one where I can't tell how serious they were being with the subject line was you're both dumb or something like that. And because I said, Dad's backed me up. Um, she said that's the sex point of view, that only dads can be logical and only moms can be flighty. I'll accept that criticism, but I was trying to make fun of myself for being a stereotypical type of dad who needs to explain everything. Uh, but fair enough and uh and she thinks you're stupid just for now. There were reasons, but people will say anything when they're safely behind their computers. If you're listening and you're a nice person, please rate and review our podcast. It's true. Oh yeah, well, let's not get into that. But you have somebody reviewed our podcast after only hearing the ad and did not like that. You belittled me in the ad and said she doesn't this is this was great. I need to share this and we shouldn't get into trolling or whatever. But this person gave us one star because the woman belittles the man in the trailer. And you also have another series that portrays portrays men as dumb, fumbling and incompetence. Another series I think you're talking about Reductress, But but listen said portrays men is dumb, fumbling, and incompetence. If you're gonna call somebody incompetent, use the right word. I mean, I'm already getting like the normal hate by virtue of you being on this podcast and not being singularly female. So oh yeah, I'm got a little taste of your feminist hate man, and I feel good about it. Boy, we shouldn't focus on it because so many of you have said such a wonderfully positive things, and we love all. Most of you are great. This is just a fun fraction of the I even think that person who called you dumb was being a little funny because she did say Aside from that, I really I've really been enjoying the show. I shouldn't have said she's not fun. She's probably very fun. Yeah, you're all great. You listen at all. You can say whatever you want to us. We're putting ourselves out there, we're asking for it. Really oh boy. We love you all and this has been listeners one of those all right, this has been another episode of We Know His Parenting. If you want to send us any questions or if you have any would you knows scenarios, you can send those to us That We Knows Pod at gmail dot com or find us on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, We Knows Pod. Bethan I mean you want plug you can find me on Twitter at beth new You can find me on Twitter, Nick nn m I c any end. Check out the Story Parts podcast, check out The Reductor's Minute, and we'll see you next time. Yeah bye,