Dr. Frank Spinelli spent more than 20 years as a practicing physician, helping others while privately battling alcohol addiction and carrying the weight of unresolved childhood trauma. After being forced to revisit his own experience of childhood sexual abuse during the Boy Scouts of America bankruptcy case, he began to understand shame in a completely different way, ultimately developing a new framework for healing that became the foundation of his book, The Shame Compass.

In this episode, Kelly and Dr. Spinelli explore why shame isn't something to eliminate, but something to understand. They discuss the difference between shame and guilt, how trauma shapes the way we see ourselves, practical tools for working through emotional triggers, and why self-acceptance starts with curiosity instead of judgment.

Preorder Dr. Spinelli's book The Shame Compass or his website here. (FrankSpinelli.com)

Dr. Spinelli's Instagram: @fspineellimd

 

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Dr. Frank Spinelli spent more than 20 years as a practicing physician, helping others while privately battling alcohol addiction and carrying the weight of unresolved childhood trauma. After being forced to revisit his own experience of childhood sexual abuse during the Boy Scouts of America bankruptcy case, he began to understand shame in a completely different way, ultimately developing a new framework for healing that became the foundation of his book,&nbsp;The Shame Compass.
In this episode, Kelly and Dr. Spinelli explore why shame isn't something to eliminate, but something to understand. They discuss the difference between shame and guilt, how trauma shapes the way we see ourselves, practical tools for working through emotional triggers, and why self-acceptance starts with curiosity instead of judgment.
Preorder Dr. Spinelli's book <a href="https://www.frankspinelli.com">The Shame Compass</a> or his website here. (<a href="https://www.frankspinelli.com">FrankSpinelli.com</a>)
Dr. Spinelli's Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fspinellimd/">@fspineellimd</a>
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Life has a way of knocking us flat, and Kelly believes there is purpose in that pain. She uses her own journey of plot twists to show that true beauty is found by going inward. On some days, you'll hear deep dives with therapists, healers, and other people who have turned their pain into something beautiful. On other days, Kelly and Chip Dorsch laugh their way through the weird, messy "WTF is this life?" moments, because growth is easier when you and your bestie can laugh through it together.

This podcast is for you if you've ever felt empty despite doing everything you were "supposed to" do. It's for you if you're stuck in a toxic relationship cycle and don't know how to get out. It's for you if you're in the middle of a total life plot twist and have no idea where to start. You aren't broken beyond repair. You are simply a human on a soul's journey, and even though we each have our own path, it's a lot easier when we have a little help from our friends.

The Velvet's Edge Podcast&nbsp;is an invitation to explore the beautiful, messy truth that real growth is an inside job. Hosted by&nbsp;Kelly Henderson&mdash;a celebrity stylist and men's groomer who has learned firsthand that "looking good" on the outside only gets you so far&mdash;this podcast is a space for the conversations you don't always hear out loud.
Life has a way of knocking us flat, and Kelly believes there is purpose in that pain. She uses her own journey of plot twists to show that true beauty is found by going inward. On some days, you'll hear deep dives with therapists, healers, and other people who have turned their pain into something beautiful. On other days, Kelly and Chip Dorsch&nbsp;laugh their way through the weird, messy "WTF is this life?" moments, because growth is easier when you and your bestie can laugh through it together.
This podcast is for you if you've ever felt empty despite doing everything you were "supposed to" do. It's for you if you're stuck in a toxic relationship cycle and don't know how to get out. It's for you if you're in the middle of a total life plot twist and have no idea where to start. You aren't broken beyond repair. You are simply a human on a soul's journey, and even though we each have our own path, it's a lot easier when we have a little help from our friends.

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Why Shame Isn't the Enemy: Dr. Frank Spinelli on Trauma, Healing & Self-Acceptance (The Velvet)

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