You’ve probably said them—or heard them—in tough times: “Everything happens for a reason,” “Time heals all wounds,” “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” But do these popular sayings actually help us heal… or just shut us down?

In this episode, Kelly and Chip break down some of the most common feel-good phrases we hear in hard moments—and explain why they might be oversimplifying real-life pain, struggle, and growth. From “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” to “if you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life,” they dig into where these ideas fall short and how they can unintentionally cause harm.

But don’t worry—it’s not all doom and dismissiveness. They also offer more grounded, compassionate alternatives that make space for both truth and growth. Because sometimes, the best way to move forward is to stop pretending it’s all fine.

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Email us: theedge@velvetsedge.com

HOSTS:

Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge // velvetsedge.com

Chip Dorsch // @chipdorsch

You&rsquo;ve probably said them&mdash;or heard them&mdash;in tough times: &ldquo;Everything happens for a reason,&rdquo; &ldquo;Time heals all wounds,&rdquo; &ldquo;What doesn&rsquo;t kill you makes you stronger.&rdquo; But do these popular sayings actually help us heal&hellip; or just shut us down?
In this episode, Kelly and Chip break down some of the most common feel-good phrases we hear in hard moments&mdash;and explain why they might be oversimplifying real-life pain, struggle, and growth. From &ldquo;pull yourself up by your bootstraps&rdquo; to &ldquo;if you love what you do, you&rsquo;ll never work a day in your life,&rdquo; they dig into where these ideas fall short and how they can unintentionally cause harm.
But don&rsquo;t worry&mdash;it&rsquo;s not all doom and dismissiveness. They also offer more grounded, compassionate alternatives that make space for both truth and growth. Because sometimes, the best way to move forward is to stop pretending it&rsquo;s all fine.
Watch us on YouTube! (<a href="https://m.youtube.com/velvetsedge">By clicking this</a>)
Email us:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:theedge@velvetsedge.com">theedge@velvetsedge.com</a>
HOSTS:
Kelly Henderson // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/">@velvetsedge</a> // velvetsedge.com
Chip Dorsch // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/chipdorsch/">@chipdorsch</a>

Kelly Henderson began her career in the Nashville country music scene over 15 years ago, orchestrating her impressive ascent from the ground up. Working closely grooming and styling for country music heavy-hitters Dierks Bentley, Jason Aldean, Riley Green and Jordan Davis, as well as media giants CMT, Billboard and more, Henderson has established herself as a go-to resource within the industry.  Henderson began offering an intimate insight into her work via her highly successful lifestyle blog, “Velvet’s Edge,” which began as a place her audience could find tips on fashion, travel, fitness, health and more.  As Henderson evolved, so her content has expanded. “People aren’t one dimensional, even though sometimes we try to live that way,” she says. With an ever-growing demand from her invested online followers, Henderson has now launched an extension of her blog in the form of a podcast of the same name via iHeartMedia. She uses her expertise and speaks from a decade long journey in 12-step recovery, intensive experiential therapy and other holistic modalities combined with her successful career as a tastemaker, artist and stylist to explore the deeper inner working of humans, celebrities and healers alike. The Velvet’s Edge Podcast normalizes hard conversations, “taboo” topics and people’s ever evolving journeys, while promoting healing, inner peace and the road to a happy and fulfilling life experience. The podcast is built on Henderson’s motto, “Everyone has a little Velvet and a little Edge, I’m just here to help people feel comfortable with that and hopefully get on the path to living their best life.” 

New episodes are released every Wednesday and Friday, with Henderson leading the charge on Wednesday's on 'the Velvet' side of things- interviewing experts, celebrities and spiritual leaders in line with each monthly topic. She is joined on Friday's for 'the Edge' by co-host and friend, Chip Dorsch, to explore the lighter side of the things, laugh and connect with listeners! 

Kelly Henderson began her career in the Nashville country music scene over 15 years ago, orchestrating her impressive ascent from the ground up. Working closely grooming and styling for country music heavy-hitters Dierks Bentley, Jason Aldean, Riley Green and Jordan Davis, as well as media giants CMT, Billboard and more, Henderson has established herself as a go-to resource within the industry.  Henderson began offering an intimate insight into her work via her highly successful lifestyle blog, “Velvet’s Edge,” which began as a place her audience could find tips on fashion, travel, fitness, health and more.  As Henderson evolved, so her content has expanded. “People aren’t one dimensional, even though sometimes we try to live that way,” she says. With an ever-growing demand from her invested online followers, Henderson has now launched an extension of her blog in the form of a podcast of the same name via iHeartMedia. She uses her expertise and speaks from a decade long journey in 12-step recovery, intensive experiential therapy and other holistic modalities combined with her successful career as a tastemaker, artist and stylist to explore the deeper inner working of humans, celebrities and healers alike. The Velvet’s Edge Podcast normalizes hard conversations, “taboo” topics and people’s ever evolving journeys, while promoting healing, inner peace and the road to a happy and fulfilling life experience. The podcast is built on Henderson’s motto, “Everyone has a little Velvet and a little Edge, I’m just here to help people feel comfortable with that and hopefully get on the path to living their best life.”  New episodes are released every Wednesday and Friday, with Henderson leading the charge on Wednesday's on 'the Velvet' side of things- interviewing experts, celebrities and spiritual leaders in line with each monthly topic. She is joined on Friday's for 'the Edge' by co-host and friend, Chip Dorsch, to explore the lighter side of the things, laugh and connect with listeners!

Velvet's Edge with Kelly Henderson

The Sayings That Sound Nice… But Kinda Suck (And What to Say Instead) (The Edge)

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