Kelly sits down with psychotherapist and Enneagram specialist Katie Gustafson for a conversation that challenges the way we think about personality, identity, and growth.

Instead of asking “who am I, really?”—this episode explores a different question: what story did you learn to tell to stay safe… and are you still living inside it?

They walk through the nine Enneagram types not as fixed identities, but as early survival stories we wrote in childhood—patterns shaped by our environments, needs, and experiences. From the achiever who equates worth with success to the peacemaker who keeps the peace at the cost of their own voice, these stories may feel familiar—but they’re not final.

The conversation moves into what it actually looks like when those patterns stop working, how those moments show up in the body, and why that tension might be less of a breakdown and more of an invitation to change.

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Kelly sits down with psychotherapist and Enneagram specialist Katie Gustafson for a conversation that challenges the way we think about personality, identity, and growth.
Instead of asking &ldquo;who am I, really?&rdquo;&mdash;this episode explores a different question: what story did you learn to tell to stay safe&hellip; and are you still living inside it?
They walk through the nine Enneagram types not as fixed identities, but as early survival stories we wrote in childhood&mdash;patterns shaped by our environments, needs, and experiences. From the achiever who equates worth with success to the peacemaker who keeps the peace at the cost of their own voice, these stories may feel familiar&mdash;but they&rsquo;re not final.
The conversation moves into what it actually looks like when those patterns stop working, how those moments show up in the body, and why that tension might be less of a breakdown and more of an invitation to change.
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HOST: Kelly Henderson // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/">@velvetsedge</a> // velvetsedge.com

The Velvet's Edge Podcast is an invitation to explore the beautiful, messy truth that real growth is an inside job. Hosted by Kelly Henderson—a celebrity stylist and men's groomer who has learned firsthand that "looking good" on the outside only gets you so far—this podcast is a space for the conversations you don't always hear out loud.

Life has a way of knocking us flat, and Kelly believes there is purpose in that pain. She uses her own journey of plot twists to show that true beauty is found by going inward. On some days, you'll hear deep dives with therapists, healers, and other people who have turned their pain into something beautiful. On other days, Kelly and Chip Dorsch laugh their way through the weird, messy "WTF is this life?" moments, because growth is easier when you and your bestie can laugh through it together.

This podcast is for you if you've ever felt empty despite doing everything you were "supposed to" do. It's for you if you're stuck in a toxic relationship cycle and don't know how to get out. It's for you if you're in the middle of a total life plot twist and have no idea where to start. You aren't broken beyond repair. You are simply a human on a soul's journey, and even though we each have our own path, it's a lot easier when we have a little help from our friends.

The Velvet's Edge Podcast&nbsp;is an invitation to explore the beautiful, messy truth that real growth is an inside job. Hosted by&nbsp;Kelly Henderson&mdash;a celebrity stylist and men's groomer who has learned firsthand that "looking good" on the outside only gets you so far&mdash;this podcast is a space for the conversations you don't always hear out loud.
Life has a way of knocking us flat, and Kelly believes there is purpose in that pain. She uses her own journey of plot twists to show that true beauty is found by going inward. On some days, you'll hear deep dives with therapists, healers, and other people who have turned their pain into something beautiful. On other days, Kelly and Chip Dorsch&nbsp;laugh their way through the weird, messy "WTF is this life?" moments, because growth is easier when you and your bestie can laugh through it together.
This podcast is for you if you've ever felt empty despite doing everything you were "supposed to" do. It's for you if you're stuck in a toxic relationship cycle and don't know how to get out. It's for you if you're in the middle of a total life plot twist and have no idea where to start. You aren't broken beyond repair. You are simply a human on a soul's journey, and even though we each have our own path, it's a lot easier when we have a little help from our friends.

Velvet's Edge with Kelly Henderson

Are You Living Your Enneagram… or Rewriting It? The Story That Kept You Safe with Katie Gustafson (The Velvet)

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