In part two of our Untidy conversation with sex podcaster and educator, Melody Thomas, we tackle more spicy listener questions. Melody is the creator and host of The Good Sex Project, a podcast about good sex, good relationships, and how to have them. Melody also made the hit series BANG! for RNZ, which was awarded both bronze and silver medals at the New York Festival Radio Awards. Melody is a writer and columnist and is currently working on her first book. 

This week we have a listener with a serious case of ‘the ick’, talk practical options for handling mismatched libidos, how to get comfortable with a new partner, satisfaction without climax, being a ‘boss bitch’ that likes to be dominated, feeling ready to love again after divorce, and much more!

The book we recommend in the podcast is:
‘Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski

The podcasts and episodes we recommend are:
The Good Sex Project

The Good Sex Project, Episode 8: Happy Endings
BANG!
BANG! Season 3, Episode 5: Kinky Boots

Check out Melody’s podcast, The Good Sex Project on all listening platforms. Follow her on Instagram at @melodyrules and @goodsexproject.

The Untidy podcast is about honoring the person within the parent. Follow the show and get in touch on Instagram @untidypodcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and @mybigmoments. Visit My Big Moments for kids’ books that make your tricky job of parenting a whole lot easier.

This Untidy episode is co-produced, edited and hosted by the good folks at rova. Untidy is proud to also be supported by My Big Moments – kids’ books backed by research and Kiwi ingenuity to make your tricky job of parenting a whole lot easier.

Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the show, please follow or subscribe, rate and review and tell all your mates! Everything you do helps us to keep bringing you Untidy conversations!

Where to get help if you’ve experienced sexual assault:

If it’s an emergency and you feel that you or someone else is at risk, call 111.

If you’ve ever experienced sexual assault or abuse and need to talk to someone, contact Safe to Talk confidentially, any time 24/7:

• Call 0800 044 334

• Text 4334

• Email support@safetotalk.nz

• For more info or to web chat visit safetotalk.nz

Alternatively, contact your local police station.

If you have been sexually abused, remember it’s not your fault.

In part two of our Untidy conversation with sex podcaster and educator, Melody Thomas, we tackle more spicy listener questions. Melody is the creator and host of The Good Sex Project, a podcast about good sex, good relationships, and how to have them. Melody also made the hit series BANG! for RNZ, which was awarded both bronze and silver medals at the New York Festival Radio Awards. Melody is a writer and columnist and is currently working on her first book. 
This week we have a listener with a serious case of ‘the ick’, talk practical options for handling mismatched libidos, how to get comfortable with a new partner, satisfaction without climax, being a ‘boss bitch’ that likes to be dominated, feeling ready to love again after divorce, and much more!
The book we recommend in the podcast is: ‘Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski
The podcasts and episodes we recommend are: <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/irQcCk8vJmiqPjnEu24jlJ?domain=linktr.ee" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/irQcCk8vJmiqPjnEu24jlJ?domain%3Dlinktr.ee&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3jwhrgQ11A4N8W-P3v18v2">The Good Sex Project</a>
<a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/SCioClxwKnizj8orf9egHj?domain=open.spotify.com" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/SCioClxwKnizj8orf9egHj?domain%3Dopen.spotify.com&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw0B7Dc2uodTM3gM1S20Ulsj">The Good Sex Project, Episode 8: Happy Endings </a><a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/uWF6CmOxLoHR935xfBBkg4?domain=open.spotify.com" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/uWF6CmOxLoHR935xfBBkg4?domain%3Dopen.spotify.com&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3rFxw7cIa_hnqmemA1mUTm">BANG! </a><a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/64W5CnxyMpi6k2GEtZ2eZr?domain=open.spotify.com" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/64W5CnxyMpi6k2GEtZ2eZr?domain%3Dopen.spotify.com&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3gYpO3_Q0FLHrd9yRwMuha">BANG! Season 3, Episode 5: Kinky Boots</a>
Check out Melody’s podcast, <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/irQcCk8vJmiqPjnEu24jlJ?domain=linktr.ee" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/irQcCk8vJmiqPjnEu24jlJ?domain%3Dlinktr.ee&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3jwhrgQ11A4N8W-P3v18v2">The Good Sex Project</a> on all listening platforms. Follow her on Instagram at <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/StwVCoVzNqHKQRXncOpNjk?domain=instagram.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/StwVCoVzNqHKQRXncOpNjk?domain%3Dinstagram.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3QY2OFH2lOV5i5ThRZD0U0">@melodyrules</a> and <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/-Gf7Cp8AO0ix7Wz2i2K8qG?domain=instagram.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/-Gf7Cp8AO0ix7Wz2i2K8qG?domain%3Dinstagram.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3TNGb-Lf0TxY8AiyokrWgs">@goodsexproject</a>.
The Untidy podcast is about honoring the person within the parent. Follow the show and get in touch on Instagram <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/kZyPCq7BPvF7V3OQhqxjBl?domain=instagram.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/kZyPCq7BPvF7V3OQhqxjBl?domain%3Dinstagram.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw2oLUGcI4g-qqdZFqNArr46">@untidypodcast</a>. Find Matilda at <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/7v6UCr8DQwiDWYAqCQrU05?domain=instagram.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/7v6UCr8DQwiDWYAqCQrU05?domain%3Dinstagram.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw03wIrRTazVer2uK2K9v5BJ">@matootles</a> and get your copy of <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/GdIzCvl0XAiyR5W9uwkb8o?domain=whitcoulls.co.nz" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/GdIzCvl0XAiyR5W9uwkb8o?domain%3Dwhitcoulls.co.nz&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw00s34hBnhVM8l_rL63mtYy">The Feel Good Guide</a>. Find Hannah at <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/xxjhCwVLYBHR2mLjfl7UD5?domain=instagram.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/xxjhCwVLYBHR2mLjfl7UD5?domain%3Dinstagram.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw2ae13i2JuluURb4Kl3o7YJ">@hannahedavison</a> and <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/h4vACxnMZDCQzVJlhxy_83?domain=instagram.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/h4vACxnMZDCQzVJlhxy_83?domain%3Dinstagram.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw2UaDjOqws2B24QfgD0tYdo">@mybigmoments</a>. Visit <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/qpARCyoN1EcypwN1ug6-5s?domain=mybigmoments.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/qpARCyoN1EcypwN1ug6-5s?domain%3Dmybigmoments.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3hw7zPc-sM76QQB2dQhx3H">My Big Moments</a> for kids’ books that make your tricky job of parenting a whole lot easier.
This Untidy episode is co-produced, edited and hosted by the good folks at <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/FUeJCzvO2Gim7ZR1sxMFmL?domain=rova.nz" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/FUeJCzvO2Gim7ZR1sxMFmL?domain%3Drova.nz&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw2mEjrDOjK-dBbL1OwQuFyu">rova</a>. Untidy is proud to also be supported by <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/qpARCyoN1EcypwN1ug6-5s?domain=mybigmoments.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/qpARCyoN1EcypwN1ug6-5s?domain%3Dmybigmoments.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3hw7zPc-sM76QQB2dQhx3H">My Big Moments</a> – kids’ books backed by research and Kiwi ingenuity to make your tricky job of parenting a whole lot easier.
Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the show, please follow or subscribe, rate and review and tell all your mates! Everything you do helps us to keep bringing you Untidy conversations!
Where to get help if you’ve experienced sexual assault:
If it’s an emergency and you feel that you or someone else is at risk, call 111.
If you’ve ever experienced sexual assault or abuse and need to talk to someone, contact Safe to Talk confidentially, any time 24/7:
• Call 0800 044 334
• Text 4334
• Email <a href="mailto:support@safetotalk.nz">support@safetotalk.nz</a> 
• For more info or to web chat visit <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/uy94CL7rXoFY7rPWI2z70w?domain=safetotalk.nz" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/uy94CL7rXoFY7rPWI2z70w?domain%3Dsafetotalk.nz&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1689998886321000&amp;usg=AOvVaw1yOMOHlkxu-C9snSbuEQFa">safetotalk.nz</a> 
Alternatively, contact your local police station.
If you have been sexually abused, remember it’s not your fault.

Untidy podcast honours the person within the parent. Hosts, Matilda Green and Hannah Davison dive into the undergrowth of sex and relationships, mental health, healing, body issues, identity questions, and more with a range of guests. Connect, laugh, learn, and keep moving forward.

Follow the show and get in touch on Instagram @untidypodcast. Follow Matilda at @matootles and Hannah’s work at My Big Moments and @mybigmoments.

Untidy podcast honours the person within the parent. Hosts, Matilda Green and <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/Ok7VCk8vJmiYQPVQi2AtaX?domain=instagram.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/Ok7VCk8vJmiYQPVQi2AtaX?domain%3Dinstagram.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1675464441664000&amp;usg=AOvVaw1DKy7jRTDAphDD3dx-D2Gy"> </a>Hannah Davison dive into the undergrowth of sex and relationships, mental health, healing, body issues, identity questions, and more with a range of guests. Connect, laugh, learn, and keep moving forward.
Follow the show and get in touch on Instagram <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/gPe0ClxwKniOZjJZf9F_xq?domain=instagram.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/gPe0ClxwKniOZjJZf9F_xq?domain%3Dinstagram.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1675464441664000&amp;usg=AOvVaw2p1b-PpxuXkqHY51gECyy_">@untidypodcast</a>. Follow Matilda at <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/lY5QCmOxLoH1n9wnfBN7bK?domain=instagram.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/lY5QCmOxLoH1n9wnfBN7bK?domain%3Dinstagram.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1675464441664000&amp;usg=AOvVaw0gyme0c8n03X-ccHQmeYmp">@matootles</a> and Hannah’s work at <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/AzX4CnxyMpilok0oSZYS8y?domain=mybigmoments.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/AzX4CnxyMpilok0oSZYS8y?domain%3Dmybigmoments.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1675464441664000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3Hoedi4I1XnrDPNsZmF-Pk">My Big Moments</a> and <a href="https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/vAFMCoVzNqHlzQNzSOYT4O?domain=instagram.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://protect-au.mimecast.com/s/vAFMCoVzNqHlzQNzSOYT4O?domain%3Dinstagram.com/&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1675464441664000&amp;usg=AOvVaw0YUZ5BLmOIFNiPh5RKpJIy">@mybigmoments</a>.