DEAR JUDGE JAY, I NEED YOUR HELP.

I'M THE MUM OF A BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER WHO IS AUTISTIC AND NON-VERBAL. SHE COMMUNICATES IN HER OWN WAY, AND AT HOME THAT OFTEN MEANS A LOT OF STIMMING, LOUD VOCALISATIONS AND EXCITED YELLS. IT'S JUST PART OF WHO SHE IS.

RECENTLY, I RECEIVED AN ANONYMOUS COMPLAINT FROM ONE OF MY NEIGHBOURS ABOUT THE NOISE. I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHICH NEIGHBOUR IT WAS, AND NOW I FEEL ANXIOUS EVERY TIME MY DAUGHTER GETS LOUD. HOME IS MEANT TO BE THE ONE PLACE WHERE SHE CAN BE HERSELF.

I'D LOVE TO HEAR FROM OTHER PARENTS OF CHILDREN WITH AUTISM. HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN THIS SITUATION? HOW DID YOU HANDLE IT? DID YOU SPEAK TO YOUR NEIGHBOURS, OR JUST LET IT BE? AND FOR EVERYONE ELSE... WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU LIVED NEXT DOOR? SHOULD I BE TRYING TO DO MORE, OR SHOULD NEIGHBOURS BE A LITTLE MORE UNDERSTANDING? 

MUM IN SARINA