DEAR JUDGE JAY,

MY GIRLFRIEND SAYS SHE DOESN'T CARE HOW EXPENSIVE HER ENGAGEMENT RING IS AND THAT IT'S THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS. THE PROBLEM IS, I DON'T KNOW IF SHE REALLY MEANS IT. DO I TRUST HER AND BUY A RING I CAN COMFORTABLY AFFORD, OR DO I FOLLOW THE OLD RULE OF SPENDING THREE MONTHS' WAGES? IS "I DON'T CARE" ACTUALLY "I DON'T CARE"... OR AM I WALKING INTO TROUBLE? DAVE, SARINA (MY GIRLFRIEND LIVES IN MELBOURNE, SO SHE WONT HEAR THIS)