Why does saying no feel so hard?

In this episode of Transcending Trauma, Moniquea Spiteri explores the people pleaser pattern through the lens of trauma healing, nervous system regulation, attachment, parts work, and somatic awareness.

Many people experience people pleasing as kindness, over giving, or simply being the one who keeps everything together. But beneath the behaviour is often a deeply intelligent survival adaptation rooted in the fawn response, fear of disconnection, and the belief that love must be earned through usefulness.

This episode explores how people pleasing slowly becomes identity, how guilt and resentment keep the cycle repeating, and why boundaries are not the opposite of love, but the pathway back to authentic connection.

Through three guided somatic practices, you’ll learn how to recognise the over giving cycle in real time, stay present through the guilt wave without rescuing, and begin reclaiming boundaries without losing your warmth, heart, or capacity for love.

In this episode we explore

• people pleasing and the loss of self • guilt, resentment, and fear of being selfish • the younger protective part and the good child pattern • over functioning, role identity, and self abandonment • how to stay warm, open, and clear in boundaries • rebuilding self loyalty and authentic connection

A powerful episode for anyone ready to stop abandoning themselves in the name of connection and begin reconnecting with their truth, capacity, and sense of self.

Why does saying no feel so hard?
In this episode of Transcending Trauma, Moniquea Spiteri explores the people pleaser pattern through the lens of trauma healing, nervous system regulation, attachment, parts work, and somatic awareness.
Many people experience people pleasing as kindness, over giving, or simply being the one who keeps everything together. But beneath the behaviour is often a deeply intelligent survival adaptation rooted in the fawn response, fear of disconnection, and the belief that love must be earned through usefulness.
This episode explores how people pleasing slowly becomes identity, how guilt and resentment keep the cycle repeating, and why boundaries are not the opposite of love, but the pathway back to authentic connection.
Through three guided somatic practices, you&rsquo;ll learn how to recognise the over giving cycle in real time, stay present through the guilt wave without rescuing, and begin reclaiming boundaries without losing your warmth, heart, or capacity for love.
In this episode we explore
&bull; people pleasing and the loss of self &bull; guilt, resentment, and fear of being selfish &bull; the younger protective part and the good child pattern &bull; over functioning, role identity, and self abandonment &bull; how to stay warm, open, and clear in boundaries &bull; rebuilding self loyalty and authentic connection
A powerful episode for anyone ready to stop abandoning themselves in the name of connection and begin reconnecting with their truth, capacity, and sense of self.

"Where healing meets humanity."

Welcome to Transcending Trauma, a space where science, story, and soul converge. Hosted by Somatic Psychotherapist and change-maker Moniquea Spiteri, this podcast explores the human journey through trauma, transformation, and embodied awakening. 

Each episode invites you into meaningful conversations with leading experts, healers, and visionaries who are redefining what it means to heal,  from the nervous system up. With warmth, depth, and authenticity, Moniquea guides listeners through the complexities of trauma recovery, the wisdom of the body, and the pathways to reclaiming vitality, connection, and purpose. 

Whether you’re a practitioner, a healing soul, or someone reclaiming your vitality after adversity, Transcending Trauma ® offers grounded insights, somatic practices, and heartfelt stories that remind us: Transformation is not just possible,  it’s how we transcend the patterns of survival, awaken the wisdom of the body, and remember the truth of who we are. 

New Season Theme:The Return - stories of resilience, reinvention, and radical embodiment. To connect with Moniquea, visit her Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/somaticsynergy and connect with Moniquea via her other platforms via Link Tree https://linktr.ee/Moniquea_Spiteri

To connect with Moniquea, visit her Facebook page here https://www.facebook.com/somaticsynergy

Many thanks to The Kondoors for the use of their amazing single, Mr Rain, for our show's theme song in Season 1. To find out more about The Kondoors visit - https://www.thekondoors.com/ or to purchase Mr Rain click this link - https://orcd.co/byqrerj

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"Where healing meets humanity." Welcome to Transcending Trauma, a space where science, story, and soul converge. Hosted by Somatic Psychotherapist and change-maker Moniquea Spiteri, this podcast explores the human journey through trauma, transformation, and embodied awakening. Each episode invites you into meaningful conversations with leading experts, healers, and visionaries who are redefining what it means to heal,&nbsp; from the nervous system up. With warmth, depth, and authenticity, Moniquea guides listeners through the complexities of trauma recovery, the wisdom of the body, and the pathways to reclaiming vitality, connection, and purpose. Whether you&rsquo;re a practitioner, a healing soul, or someone reclaiming your vitality after adversity, Transcending Trauma &reg; offers grounded insights, somatic practices, and heartfelt stories that remind us: Transformation is not just possible,&nbsp; it&rsquo;s how we transcend the patterns of survival, awaken the wisdom of the body, and remember the truth of who we are. New Season Theme:The Return - stories of resilience, reinvention, and radical embodiment. To connect with Moniquea, visit her Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/somaticsynergy and connect with Moniquea via her other platforms via Link Tree <a href="https://linktr.ee/Moniquea_Spiteri">https://linktr.ee/Moniquea_Spiteri</a>
To connect with Moniquea, visit her Facebook page here <a href="https://www.facebook.com/somaticsynergy">https://www.facebook.com/somaticsynergy</a>
Many thanks to The Kondoors for the use of their amazing single, Mr Rain, for our show's theme song in Season 1. To find out more about The Kondoors visit - https://www.thekondoors.com/ or to purchase Mr Rain click this link - https://orcd.co/byqrerj
#TranscendingTrauma #Trauma #MoniqueaSpiteri #TheKondoors

 Transcending Trauma ® with Moniquea Spiteri

"Where healing meets humanity."

Welcome to Transcending Trauma — a space where science, story, and soul converge.

Hosted by Somatic Psychotherapist and change-maker Moniquea Spiteri, this podcast explores the human journey through trauma, transformation, and embodied awakening. Each episode invites you into meaningful conversations with leading experts, healers, and visionaries who are redefining what it means to heal — from the nervous system up.

With warmth, depth, and authenticity, Moniquea guides listeners through the complexities of trauma recovery, the wisdom of the body, and the pathways to reclaiming vitality, connection, and purpose.

Whether you’re a practitioner, a healing soul, or someone reclaiming your vitality after adversity, Transcending Trauma ® offers grounded insights, somatic practices, and heartfelt stories that remind us:

Transformation is not just possible — it’s how we transcend the patterns of survival, awaken the wisdom of the body, and remember the truth of who we are.

New Season Theme:The Return — stories of resilience, reinvention, and radical embodiment.

To connect with Moniquea, visit her Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/somaticsynergy and connect with Moniquea via her other platforms via Link Tree https://linktr.ee/Moniquea_Spiteri

#TranscendingTrauma #Trauma #MoniqueaSpiteri 

"Where healing meets humanity."
Welcome to Transcending Trauma &mdash; a space where science, story, and soul converge.
Hosted by Somatic Psychotherapist and change-maker Moniquea Spiteri, this podcast explores the human journey through trauma, transformation, and embodied awakening. Each episode invites you into meaningful conversations with leading experts, healers, and visionaries who are redefining what it means to heal &mdash; from the nervous system up.
With warmth, depth, and authenticity, Moniquea guides listeners through the complexities of trauma recovery, the wisdom of the body, and the pathways to reclaiming vitality, connection, and purpose.
Whether you&rsquo;re a practitioner, a healing soul, or someone reclaiming your vitality after adversity, Transcending Trauma &reg; offers grounded insights, somatic practices, and heartfelt stories that remind us:
Transformation is not just possible &mdash; it&rsquo;s how we transcend the patterns of survival, awaken the wisdom of the body, and remember the truth of who we are.
New Season Theme: The Return &mdash; stories of resilience, reinvention, and radical embodiment.
To connect with Moniquea, visit her Facebook page -&nbsp;<a href="https://www.facebook.com/somaticsynergy">https://www.facebook.com/somaticsynergy </a>and connect with Moniquea via her other platforms via Link Tree <a href="https://linktr.ee/Moniquea_Spiteri">https://linktr.ee/Moniquea_Spiteri</a>
#TranscendingTrauma #Trauma #MoniqueaSpiteri&nbsp;