What if the things you've always called your personality... aren't actually your personality? What if being "independent," "bad at asking for help," a perfectionist, a people pleaser, or someone who always overexplains isn't just who you are—but who you had to become?

In this episode, we're unpacking trauma responses: where they come from, why your brain keeps repeating the same patterns in relationships, friendships, and dating, and how to stop letting old wounds make decisions for your present life. We'll talk about hyper-independence, self-sabotage, perfectionism, validation seeking, emotional regulation, nervous system triggers, and the one question that can instantly tell you whether you're reacting to what's happening... or what happened years ago.

Because healing isn't never getting triggered again. It's realizing who's actually sitting in the driver's seat before you let them take the wheel.




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What if the things you've always called your personality... aren't actually your personality? What if being "independent," "bad at asking for help," a perfectionist, a people pleaser, or someone who always overexplains isn't just who you are—but who you had to become?In this episode, we're unpacking trauma responses: where they come from, why your brain keeps repeating the same patterns in relationships, friendships, and dating, and how to stop letting old wounds make decisions for your present life. We'll talk about hyper-independence, self-sabotage, perfectionism, validation seeking, emotional regulation, nervous system triggers, and the one question that can instantly tell you whether you're reacting to what's happening... or what happened years ago.Because healing isn't never getting triggered again. It's realizing who's actually sitting in the driver's seat before you let them take the wheel. EPISODE SPONSORS:<ul><li>Go to Quince.com/TOOMUCH for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.</li><li>Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at <a href="http://Shopify.com/toomuch" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Shopify.com/toomuch</a></li></ul> For collaborations and opportunities, email: partnerships@toomuchpod.com <a href="https://shop.toomuchpod.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">⁠Shop the merch⁠⁠</a>!! Follow Too Much:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/emmastoomuch/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">⁠⁠IG⁠⁠</a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@emmastoomuch" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠</a> Follow Emma:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/lifeofemmapaige/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">⁠⁠IG⁠⁠</a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeofemmapaige" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠</a> Want to submit a story or ask Emma for advice? Fill out the form below.https://forms.gle/ZQS261jcUxDFYVoD9

Emma's always been told she's, "too much" and now, she's done apologizing for it. From NY to LA and back again, she's lived a thousand lives and if there's anything she's learned, it's to be unapologetically yourself. Every Tuesday, Emma is getting raw and real about everything from f*ckups and breakups, thriving (and surviving) in your 20s and 30s, how to be the best version of yourself and so much more. So grab a drink, because we're going down the rabbit hole...

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Emma's always been told she's, "too much" and now, she's done apologizing for it. From NY to LA and back again, she's lived a thousand lives and if there's anything she's learned, it's to be unapologetically yourself. Every Tuesday, Emma is getting raw and real about everything from f*ckups and breakups, thriving (and surviving) in your 20s and 30s, how to be the best version of yourself and so much more. So grab a drink, because we're going down the rabbit hole...to watch the video episodes, stream on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOvbgfqx5iBjPisN8usmUgwinquiries: partnerships@toomuchpod.comshop the merch: https://shop.toomuchpod.com%20follow on social: https://linktr.ee/emmastoomuch

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Trauma Responses PT. 1: Triggered and Traumatized 

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