Ethan and Mel's relationship could be described as an on-again off-again situationship. Now, they are trying to decide if they should be on-again. But first, they have to understand how they got here to begin with. In this session, Sarah helps them to understand how their very different backgrounds and family systems have created two very different ideas about boundaries, trust and forgiveness. 

Can Ethan and Mel move on from their rocky beginnings and create the healthy relationship that they want? 

Listen to Part 2 of Ethan & Mel's sessions here. 

Resources (Australia-only)
1800RESPECT: The national domestic, family, and sexual violence counselling, information, and support service.
Beyond Blue: For support with anxiety, depression, and suicide prevention.
Lifeline Australia: For 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services.
Motivated Minds: Learn more about host Sarah Bays’ practice.
Relationships Australia: A leading provider of relationship support services for individuals, families, and communities.

 

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Host: Sarah Bays
Executive Producer: Naima Brown
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Production support: Leah Porges and Coco Lavigne
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Ethan and Mel's relationship could be described as an on-again off-again situationship. Now, they are trying to decide if they should be on-again. But first, they have to understand how they got here to begin with. In this session, Sarah helps them to understand how their very different backgrounds and family systems have created two very different ideas about boundaries, trust and forgiveness.&nbsp;
Can Ethan and Mel move on from their rocky beginnings and create the healthy relationship that they want?&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/this-is-why-we-fight/ethan-and-mel-part-two/">Listen to Part 2 of Ethan &amp; Mel's sessions here.&nbsp;</a>
Resources (Australia-only)
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.google.com/search?q=1800+respect&amp;rlz=1C5CHFA_enAU733AU733&amp;oq=1800+respect&amp;gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIMCAEQABgKGLEDGIAEMgcIAhAAGIAEMgcIAxAAGIAEMgcIBBAAGIAEMgcIBRAAGIAEMgcIBhAAGIAEMgcIBxAAGIAEMgcICBAAGIAEMgcICRAAGIAE0gEIMjQ5MGowajeoAgCwAgA&amp;sourceid=chrome&amp;ie=UTF-8#:~:text=family%20and%20domestic%C2%A0...-,Home%20%7C%201800RESPECT,https%3A//1800respect.org.au,-1800RESPECT%20is%20the">1800RESPECT:</a> The national domestic, family, and sexual violence counselling, information, and support service.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.beyondblue.org.au/">Beyond Blue</a>: For support with anxiety, depression, and suicide prevention.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.lifeline.org.au/">Lifeline Australia</a>: For 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://motivatedminds.com.au/">Motivated Minds:</a> Learn more about host Sarah Bays&rsquo; practice.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.relationships.org.au/">Relationships Australia: </a>A leading provider of relationship support services for individuals, families, and communities.</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
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<li aria-level="1">Host: <a href="https://motivatedminds.com.au/">Sarah Bays</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Executive Producer: <a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/author/naima-brown/">Naima Brown</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Studio Engineer: Lu Hill</li>
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This isn't a show about therapy. It is therapy. Each episode, you're invited to be a fly on the wall for a raw, unscripted, and intimate session with a real couple. These are the conversations that usually happen behind closed doors - the painful truths, the confusing patterns, and the hard-earned breakthroughs that define a relationship. This is the sound of two people fighting for a future together.

This isn't a show&nbsp;about&nbsp;therapy. It&nbsp;is&nbsp;therapy. Each episode, you're invited to be a fly on the wall for a raw, unscripted, and intimate session with a real couple. These are the conversations that usually happen behind closed doors - the painful truths, the confusing patterns, and the hard-earned breakthroughs that define a relationship. This is the sound of two people fighting for a future together.

This Is Why We Fight

Ethan & Mel [Part 1 of 2]: Crossed Boundaries, A Break-Up & A Situationship

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This mum & daughter have been asked to reflect on the default behaviours that keep them stuck in the unhelpful dynamic they’re in when conflict arises, and what to seek more positive and helpful behaviours that foster connection and communication.

This session explore how trauma, mental health challenges and other diagnoses can impact even our closest relationships, and what real repair looks like. 

Listen to Part 1 of Leisel & Ellie's sessions here. 

Resources (Australia-only)
1800RESPECT: The national domestic, family, and sexual violence counselling, information, and support service.
Beyond Blue: For support with anxiety, depression, and suicide prevention.
Lifeline Australia: For 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services.
Motivated Minds: Learn more about host Sarah Bays’ practice.
Relationships Australia: A leading provider of relationship support services for individuals, families, and communities.

The End Bits
Want To Be On This Is Why We Fight? Apply here. 
Host: Sarah Bays
Executive Producer: Naima Brown
Studio Engineer: Lu Hill
Audio production: Thom Lion and Jacob Round

This mum &amp; daughter have been asked to reflect on the default behaviours that keep them stuck in the unhelpful dynamic they&rsquo;re in when conflict arises, and what to seek more positive and helpful behaviours that foster connection and communication.
This session explore how trauma, mental health challenges and other diagnoses can impact even our closest relationships, and what real repair looks like.&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/this-is-why-we-fight/leisel-and-ellie-part-one/">Listen to Part 1 of Leisel &amp; Ellie's sessions here</a>.&nbsp;
Resources (Australia-only)
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.google.com/search?q=1800+respect&amp;rlz=1C5CHFA_enAU733AU733&amp;oq=1800+respect&amp;gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIMCAEQABgKGLEDGIAEMgcIAhAAGIAEMgcIAxAAGIAEMgcIBBAAGIAEMgcIBRAAGIAEMgcIBhAAGIAEMgcIBxAAGIAEMgcICBAAGIAEMgcICRAAGIAE0gEIMjQ5MGowajeoAgCwAgA&amp;sourceid=chrome&amp;ie=UTF-8#:~:text=family%20and%20domestic%C2%A0...-,Home%20%7C%201800RESPECT,https%3A//1800respect.org.au,-1800RESPECT%20is%20the">1800RESPECT:</a> The national domestic, family, and sexual violence counselling, information, and support service.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.beyondblue.org.au/">Beyond Blue</a>: For support with anxiety, depression, and suicide prevention.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.lifeline.org.au/">Lifeline Australia</a>: For 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://motivatedminds.com.au/">Motivated Minds:</a> Learn more about host Sarah Bays&rsquo; practice.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.relationships.org.au/">Relationships Australia: </a>A leading provider of relationship support services for individuals, families, and communities.</li>
</ul>
The End Bits
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Want To Be On This Is Why We Fight? Apply <a href="https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScTKf_CLpsgfpToo8r3aJRQhSe9c2h7oCZUAPSZb9MtSKJInQ/viewform?usp=sharing&amp;ouid=104328501715380098426">here.</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Host: <a href="https://motivatedminds.com.au/">Sarah Bays</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Executive Producer: <a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/author/naima-brown/">Naima Brown</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Studio Engineer: Lu Hill</li>
<li aria-level="1">Audio production: Thom Lion and Jacob Round</li>
</ul>

Leisel & Ellie [Part 2 of 2]: Can They Repair After Estrangement?

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Leisel & Ellie used to be quite close, the kind of mother and daughter that shared clothes and loved spending time together. But, after a series of traumatic events, they went through a long period of estrangement and miscommunication that left them both heartbroken. They’re hoping that therapy can help them rebuild and repair their relationship.

Listen to Part 2 of Leisel & Ellie's sessions here. 

Resources (Australia-only)
1800RESPECT: The national domestic, family, and sexual violence counselling, information, and support service.
Beyond Blue: For support with anxiety, depression, and suicide prevention.
Lifeline Australia: For 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services.
Motivated Minds: Learn more about host Sarah Bays’ practice.
Relationships Australia: A leading provider of relationship support services for individuals, families, and communities.

The End Bits
Want To Be On This Is Why We Fight? Apply here. 
Host: Sarah Bays
Executive Producer: Naima Brown
Studio Engineer: Lu Hill
Audio production: Thom Lion and Jacob Round

 

Leisel &amp; Ellie used to be quite close, the kind of mother and daughter that shared clothes and loved spending time together. But, after a series of traumatic events, they went through&nbsp;a long period of estrangement and miscommunication that left them both heartbroken. They&rsquo;re hoping that therapy can help them rebuild and repair their relationship.
<a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/this-is-why-we-fight/leisel-and-ellie-part-two/">Listen to Part 2 of Leisel &amp; Ellie's sessions here</a>.&nbsp;
Resources (Australia-only)
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.google.com/search?q=1800+respect&amp;rlz=1C5CHFA_enAU733AU733&amp;oq=1800+respect&amp;gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIMCAEQABgKGLEDGIAEMgcIAhAAGIAEMgcIAxAAGIAEMgcIBBAAGIAEMgcIBRAAGIAEMgcIBhAAGIAEMgcIBxAAGIAEMgcICBAAGIAEMgcICRAAGIAE0gEIMjQ5MGowajeoAgCwAgA&amp;sourceid=chrome&amp;ie=UTF-8#:~:text=family%20and%20domestic%C2%A0...-,Home%20%7C%201800RESPECT,https%3A//1800respect.org.au,-1800RESPECT%20is%20the">1800RESPECT:</a> The national domestic, family, and sexual violence counselling, information, and support service.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.beyondblue.org.au/">Beyond Blue</a>: For support with anxiety, depression, and suicide prevention.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.lifeline.org.au/">Lifeline Australia</a>: For 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://motivatedminds.com.au/">Motivated Minds:</a> Learn more about host Sarah Bays&rsquo; practice.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.relationships.org.au/">Relationships Australia: </a>A leading provider of relationship support services for individuals, families, and communities.</li>
</ul>
The End Bits
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Want To Be On This Is Why We Fight? Apply <a href="https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScTKf_CLpsgfpToo8r3aJRQhSe9c2h7oCZUAPSZb9MtSKJInQ/viewform?usp=sharing&amp;ouid=104328501715380098426">here.</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Host: <a href="https://motivatedminds.com.au/">Sarah Bays</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Executive Producer: <a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/author/naima-brown/">Naima Brown</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Studio Engineer: Lu Hill</li>
<li aria-level="1">Audio production: Thom Lion and Jacob Round</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;

Leisel & Ellie [Part 1 of 2]: Big Blow Ups & Silent Treatments  - A Mum & Daughter Trying To Reconnect

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Beth & Wayne have been asked to examine how co-dependancy, emotional frustration and a low-tolerance for conflict actually create more miscommunication in their marriage, often including Beth stepping in to "over function" while Wayne keeps his feelings to himself. Can they break these cycles and find their equilibrium again? 

Listen to Part 1 of Beth & Wayne's sessions here. 

Resources (Australia-only)
1800RESPECT: The national domestic, family, and sexual violence counselling, information, and support service.
Beyond Blue: For support with anxiety, depression, and suicide prevention.
Lifeline Australia: For 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services.
Motivated Minds: Learn more about host Sarah Bays’ practice.
Relationships Australia: A leading provider of relationship support services for individuals, families, and communities.

The End Bits
Want To Be On This Is Why We Fight? Apply here. 
Host: Sarah Bays
Executive Producer: Naima Brown
Studio Engineer: Lu Hill
Audio production: Thom Lion and Jacob Round
Production support: Leah Porges and Coco Lavigne
Follow This Is Why We Fight on Instagram for sneak peeks and more relationship therapy content

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Beth &amp; Wayne have been asked to examine how co-dependancy, emotional frustration and a low-tolerance for conflict actually create more miscommunication in their marriage, often including Beth stepping in to "over function" while Wayne keeps his feelings to himself. Can they break these cycles and find their equilibrium again?&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/this-is-why-we-fight/beth-and-wayne-part-one/">Listen to Part 1 of Beth &amp; Wayne's sessions here</a>.&nbsp;
Resources (Australia-only)
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.google.com/search?q=1800+respect&amp;rlz=1C5CHFA_enAU733AU733&amp;oq=1800+respect&amp;gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIMCAEQABgKGLEDGIAEMgcIAhAAGIAEMgcIAxAAGIAEMgcIBBAAGIAEMgcIBRAAGIAEMgcIBhAAGIAEMgcIBxAAGIAEMgcICBAAGIAEMgcICRAAGIAE0gEIMjQ5MGowajeoAgCwAgA&amp;sourceid=chrome&amp;ie=UTF-8#:~:text=family%20and%20domestic%C2%A0...-,Home%20%7C%201800RESPECT,https%3A//1800respect.org.au,-1800RESPECT%20is%20the">1800RESPECT:</a> The national domestic, family, and sexual violence counselling, information, and support service.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.beyondblue.org.au/">Beyond Blue</a>: For support with anxiety, depression, and suicide prevention.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.lifeline.org.au/">Lifeline Australia</a>: For 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://motivatedminds.com.au/">Motivated Minds:</a> Learn more about host Sarah Bays&rsquo; practice.</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.relationships.org.au/">Relationships Australia: </a>A leading provider of relationship support services for individuals, families, and communities.</li>
</ul>
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<li aria-level="1">Host: <a href="https://motivatedminds.com.au/">Sarah Bays</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Executive Producer: <a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/author/naima-brown/">Naima Brown</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Studio Engineer: Lu Hill</li>
<li aria-level="1">Audio production: Thom Lion and Jacob Round</li>
<li aria-level="1">Production support: Leah Porges and Coco Lavigne</li>
<li aria-level="1">Follow <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thisiswhywefightpod/">This Is Why We Fight</a> on Instagram for sneak peeks and more relationship therapy content</li>
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Beth & Wayne [Part 2 of 2]: Can They Find A New Way Forward?

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Ethan & Mel [Part 1 of 2]: Crossed Boundaries, A Break-Up & A Situationship

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