   You were created for love, but may have learned to fear! The neurological love pathway in your brain consciously evaluates toxic thoughts, and as you choose to hand the situation over to God, you do not submit to fear. And love is the stronger of the two pathways! 'Where God's love is, there is no fear, because God's perfect love drives out fear. It is punishment that makes a person fear, so love is not made perfect in the person who fears' (1 John 4:18 NCV). 

   As a redeemed child of God, love is your normal default mode. You're designed for love to dominate. Regardless of the way you have chosen to react in the past, painful, toxic thoughts can be reconstructed, even toxic feelings you've been nursing for so long and are so familiar with that you think they are normal. You can analyse them and rewire them because of your brain's neuroplasticity. 

   The apostle Paul said: 'Do not be conformed to this world [its values and thought patterns], but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.' Will this 'renewing' happen overnight? No. Science shows that you need to practise using something at least seven times before it becomes part of you. As you keep doing this, God's Spirit will work with you, and eventually you'll be able to use this amazing love circuit of the brain to balance your reason and emotions. When you do that, you'll take a giant leap in the direction of bringing all your thoughts, which produce your emotions, under control (see 2 Corinthians 10:5).





— SCRIPTURE —

    'Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.' Romans 12:2 NKJV
— SOULFOOD —

    Jer 45-48, Luke 24:45-53, Ps 50:1-15, Pro 10:8-10
    

You were created for love, but may have learned to fear! The neurological love pathway in your brain consciously evaluates toxic thoughts, and as you choose to hand the situation over to God, you do not submit to fear. And love is the stronger of the two pathways! 'Where God's love is, there is no fear, because God's perfect love drives out fear. It is punishment that makes a person fear, so love is not made perfect in the person who fears' (1 John 4:18 NCV). As a redeemed child of God, love is your normal default mode. You're designed for love to dominate. Regardless of the way you have chosen to react in the past, painful, toxic thoughts can be reconstructed, even toxic feelings you've been nursing for so long and are so familiar with that you think they are normal. You can analyse them and rewire them because of your brain's neuroplasticity. The apostle Paul said: 'Do not be conformed to this world [its values and thought patterns], but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.' Will this 'renewing' happen overnight? No. Science shows that you need to practise using something at least seven times before it becomes part of you. As you keep doing this, God's Spirit will work with you, and eventually you'll be able to use this amazing love circuit of the brain to balance your reason and emotions. When you do that, you'll take a giant leap in the direction of bringing all your thoughts, which produce your emotions, under control (see 2 Corinthians 10:5).
 
 — SCRIPTURE — 
 'Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.' Romans 12:2 NKJV 
 — SOULFOOD — 
 Jer 45-48, Luke 24:45-53, Ps 50:1-15, Pro 10:8-10

The Word For Today is a daily devotional by authors Bob and Debby Gass. Every day, tens of thousands of people across New Zealand are encouraged and uplifted by its relevant insights.

The daily readings resonate with people as they often speak into their current circumstances. Often readers express wonder at how a particular day’s devotion appeared to be ‘written just for me’

The Word For Today is a daily devotional by authors Bob and Debby Gass. Every day, tens of thousands of people across New Zealand are encouraged and uplifted by its relevant insights.
The daily readings resonate with people as they often speak into their current circumstances. Often readers express wonder at how a particular day&rsquo;s devotion appeared to be &lsquo;written just for me&rsquo;

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Renew your mind

   If you're dealing with an insecure partner, make every effort to be accountable. It's important to voluntarily provide adequate details. After all, he or she is looking for assurance. Learn to explain your whereabouts in a casual but thorough manner. Short, one-syllable responses will provide more insecurity and leave the person to imagine various negative scenarios. A jealous person is insecure and thus has doubts about having what it takes to maintain the relationship. 

   Do not make the mistake of thinking or saying, 'You just need to get over your insecurity.' If it were that easy, your partner would have done it by now. Continue to pray for their healing from this debilitating mindset, but do your part not to exacerbate the problem with vague communication. Most of all, encourage your partner to talk about the fears. Listen without being critical or judgmental. Seek first to understand. Make it clear that you love your partner and have pure intentions regarding your relationship. But here is something important to keep in mind: stay balanced in your interaction. You must also make it clear that you will not be forced into an emotional prison by having to account for every moment of the day. This too could exacerbate the jealousy and set up unrealistic expectations. 

   Trust is a two-way street. And one way to build trust is by praying together. In prayer, we become honest and transparent, realising that God already knows every detail about us. When your partner hears you share your heart in prayer, it relieves unfounded fears and creates security within them.





— SCRIPTURE —

    'Jealousy [is] as cruel as the grave.' Song of Songs 8:6 NKJV
— SOULFOOD —

    Acts 3:11-5:42, Matt 2:13-18, Ps 75, Pro 10:22-23
    

If you're dealing with an insecure partner, make every effort to be accountable. It's important to voluntarily provide adequate details. After all, he or she is looking for assurance. Learn to explain your whereabouts in a casual but thorough manner. Short, one-syllable responses will provide more insecurity and leave the person to imagine various negative scenarios. A jealous person is insecure and thus has doubts about having what it takes to maintain the relationship. Do not make the mistake of thinking or saying, 'You just need to get over your insecurity.' If it were that easy, your partner would have done it by now. Continue to pray for their healing from this debilitating mindset, but do your part not to exacerbate the problem with vague communication. Most of all, encourage your partner to talk about the fears. Listen without being critical or judgmental. Seek first to understand. Make it clear that you love your partner and have pure intentions regarding your relationship. But here is something important to keep in mind: stay balanced in your interaction. You must also make it clear that you will not be forced into an emotional prison by having to account for every moment of the day. This too could exacerbate the jealousy and set up unrealistic expectations. Trust is a two-way street. And one way to build trust is by praying together. In prayer, we become honest and transparent, realising that God already knows every detail about us. When your partner hears you share your heart in prayer, it relieves unfounded fears and creates security within them.
 
 — SCRIPTURE — 
 'Jealousy [is] as cruel as the grave.' Song of Songs 8:6 NKJV 
 — SOULFOOD — 
 Acts 3:11-5:42, Matt 2:13-18, Ps 75, Pro 10:22-23

Creating security

   Meditation is the most effective way to assimilate God's word. David describes the 'blessed' man this way: 'His delight is in the law of the Lord, and in his law he meditates day and night' (Psalm 1:2 NKJV). And whatever you meditate on and memorise, the Holy Spirit will help you recall when you need it. 'He will...bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you' (John 14:26 NKJV). 

   As one of the highest-ranking American captives in Vietnam, Jeremiah Denton was subjected to gruelling torture. But he survived, and returned home to become one of Alabama's United States senators. How did he do it? He says that one of his basic survival skills was quoting passages of Scripture he had memorised. Internalised Scriptures were his unseen sword to fend off the cruellest weapons of the enemy. By inwardly focusing on the power of God to sustain and strengthen him, he was able to rise above his circumstances. Scriptures he had memorised and meditated on years ago became his prayers of deliverance. When you meditate upon God and his word, recalling his many promises and acts of faithfulness, your faith grows and your fears dissolve (see Romans 10:17). David understood this well. Many times, in his attempts to escape the wrath of King Saul, he recalled the greatness of God and found himself strengthened: 'I meditate on your precepts and consider your ways' (Psalm 119:15 NIV); 'I will bless the Lord who has given me counsel; my heart also instructs me in the night seasons' (Psalm 16:7 NKJV). 

   Do yourself a big favour: begin to meditate on God's word and memorise it.





— SCRIPTURE —

    'I meditate on your precepts and consider your ways.' Psalm 119:15 NIV
— SOULFOOD —

    Acts 1:1-3:10, Matt 2:1-12, Ps 127, Pro 10:19-21
    

Meditation is the most effective way to assimilate God's word. David describes the 'blessed' man this way: 'His delight is in the law of the Lord, and in his law he meditates day and night' (Psalm 1:2 NKJV). And whatever you meditate on and memorise, the Holy Spirit will help you recall when you need it. 'He will...bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you' (John 14:26 NKJV). As one of the highest-ranking American captives in Vietnam, Jeremiah Denton was subjected to gruelling torture. But he survived, and returned home to become one of Alabama's United States senators. How did he do it? He says that one of his basic survival skills was quoting passages of Scripture he had memorised. Internalised Scriptures were his unseen sword to fend off the cruellest weapons of the enemy. By inwardly focusing on the power of God to sustain and strengthen him, he was able to rise above his circumstances. Scriptures he had memorised and meditated on years ago became his prayers of deliverance. When you meditate upon God and his word, recalling his many promises and acts of faithfulness, your faith grows and your fears dissolve (see Romans 10:17). David understood this well. Many times, in his attempts to escape the wrath of King Saul, he recalled the greatness of God and found himself strengthened: 'I meditate on your precepts and consider your ways' (Psalm 119:15 NIV); 'I will bless the Lord who has given me counsel; my heart also instructs me in the night seasons' (Psalm 16:7 NKJV). Do yourself a big favour: begin to meditate on God's word and memorise it.
 
 — SCRIPTURE — 
 'I meditate on your precepts and consider your ways.' Psalm 119:15 NIV 
 — SOULFOOD — 
 Acts 1:1-3:10, Matt 2:1-12, Ps 127, Pro 10:19-21

Meditate and memorise

   When you study the lives of those who were greatly used by God in the Bible, you see that they were not spared from hurt, disappointment or even betrayal. The truth is, if you live long enough, you'll be wronged by someone. The question is, how will you react? The apostle Paul tells us how we should react: 'Make allowance for each other's faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others' (Colossians 3:13 NLT). 

   The story is told of two friends who were walking through the desert when they got into an argument. One friend slapped the other in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt. But without saying anything, he wrote in the sand, 'Today my best friend slapped me in the face.' They kept walking until they found an oasis. Since they were thirsty, they stopped for water. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire, fell in, and started to drown. His friend then reached out and saved him. That night, the saved man etched this in a stone: 'Today my best friend saved my life.' The friend who had slapped and then saved him asked, 'After I hurt you, you wrote in sand. And now you write on a stone. Why?' He replied: 'When someone hurts us, we should write it in sand, where the winds of forgiveness can blow and erase it. But when someone does something good for us, we should engrave it in stone where it will be long remembered.' 

   Mercy forgets wrongs and remembers rights!





— SCRIPTURE —

    'Make allowance for each other's faults, and forgive.' Colossians 3:13 NLT
— SOULFOOD —

    Joel 1-3, Matt 1:18-25, Ps 43, Pro 10:17-18
    

When you study the lives of those who were greatly used by God in the Bible, you see that they were not spared from hurt, disappointment or even betrayal. The truth is, if you live long enough, you'll be wronged by someone. The question is, how will you react? The apostle Paul tells us how we should react: 'Make allowance for each other's faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others' (Colossians 3:13 NLT). The story is told of two friends who were walking through the desert when they got into an argument. One friend slapped the other in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt. But without saying anything, he wrote in the sand, 'Today my best friend slapped me in the face.' They kept walking until they found an oasis. Since they were thirsty, they stopped for water. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire, fell in, and started to drown. His friend then reached out and saved him. That night, the saved man etched this in a stone: 'Today my best friend saved my life.' The friend who had slapped and then saved him asked, 'After I hurt you, you wrote in sand. And now you write on a stone. Why?' He replied: 'When someone hurts us, we should write it in sand, where the winds of forgiveness can blow and erase it. But when someone does something good for us, we should engrave it in stone where it will be long remembered.' Mercy forgets wrongs and remembers rights!
 
 — SCRIPTURE — 
 'Make allowance for each other's faults, and forgive.' Colossians 3:13 NLT 
 — SOULFOOD — 
 Joel 1-3, Matt 1:18-25, Ps 43, Pro 10:17-18

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