Neil shares an insightful conversation about the importance of defining one's own version of "normal." Through a personal story involving a friend named Nina, who chose to forgo a luxury vacation in favour of activities that truly bring her joy, Neil emphasises the value of making choices that align with individual values rather than societal expectations. He encourages listeners to embrace their unique preferences and to opt out of conventional norms that do not resonate with them. This episode serves as a reminder to prioritise personal happiness and fulfilment, challenging the notion that one must conform to what is deemed "normal" by others. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS


Embrace Your Own Normal: It's important to define what "normal" means for you personally, rather than conforming to societal expectations. Everyone has different values and priorities, and it's okay to prioritise what makes you happy.


Value Your Choices: Making decisions based on what is truly important to you, even if it goes against the grain, is a sign of rational thinking. Choosing to stay home and engage in activities you love is a valid and brave choice.


Reject Societal Pressure: Opting out of societal norms may lead to being labelled as selfish, but it can also earn you respect from those who wish they could do the same. Your happiness should come first, and it's essential to live by your own rules.


Focus on Personal Fulfillment: Fill your life with activities and people that matter to you. Other people's opinions should not dictate your choices; prioritise your own happiness and values.


Encourage Authenticity: Be more like Nina—embrace your unique preferences and choices. By doing so, you not only enhance your own life but also inspire others to pursue their own version of happiness.

BEST MOMENTS

"You chose to do what's most important to you, despite that not being what most people would do." 

"Deciding to stay home in your own idea of heaven is a rational choice." 

"Normal is what most people do most of the time. Normal may be grim, uninspiring and generally a fun-free zone."

"I know your ideal day absolutely doesn't involve flopping around like a wet fish around a pool." 

"Your first duty is to yourself and your values. Everyone else is of secondary importance."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

www.Neilcowmeadow.com

info@neilcowmeadow.com

HOST BIO

Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years’ experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil’s invaluable advice and tips without the buzzwords and BS!

Neil shares an insightful conversation about the importance of defining one's own version of "normal." Through a personal story involving a friend named Nina, who chose to forgo a luxury vacation in favour of activities that truly bring her joy, Neil emphasises the value of making choices that align with individual values rather than societal expectations. He encourages listeners to embrace their unique preferences and to opt out of conventional norms that do not resonate with them. This episode serves as a reminder to prioritise personal happiness and fulfilment, challenging the notion that one must conform to what is deemed "normal" by others. 
KEY TAKEAWAYS
<ol>
<li>
Embrace Your Own Normal: It's important to define what "normal" means for you personally, rather than conforming to societal expectations. Everyone has different values and priorities, and it's okay to prioritise what makes you happy.
</li>
<li>
Value Your Choices: Making decisions based on what is truly important to you, even if it goes against the grain, is a sign of rational thinking. Choosing to stay home and engage in activities you love is a valid and brave choice.
</li>
<li>
Reject Societal Pressure: Opting out of societal norms may lead to being labelled as selfish, but it can also earn you respect from those who wish they could do the same. Your happiness should come first, and it's essential to live by your own rules.
</li>
<li>
Focus on Personal Fulfillment: Fill your life with activities and people that matter to you. Other people's opinions should not dictate your choices; prioritise your own happiness and values.
</li>
<li>
Encourage Authenticity: Be more like Nina—embrace your unique preferences and choices. By doing so, you not only enhance your own life but also inspire others to pursue their own version of happiness.
</li>
</ol>
BEST MOMENTS
"You chose to do what's most important to you, despite that not being what most people would do." 
"Deciding to stay home in your own idea of heaven is a rational choice." 
"Normal is what most people do most of the time. Normal may be grim, uninspiring and generally a fun-free zone."
"I know your ideal day absolutely doesn't involve flopping around like a wet fish around a pool." 
"Your first duty is to yourself and your values. Everyone else is of secondary importance."
VALUABLE RESOURCES
<a href="http://www.neilcowmeadow.com/">www.Neilcowmeadow.com</a>
<a>info@neilcowmeadow.com</a> 
HOST BIO
Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years’ experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil’s invaluable advice and tips without the buzzwords and BS!

The Tutor Podcast the weekly show that’s all about the business of helping people.
If you’re a tutor, a teacher or a coach, join your host Neil Cowmeadow for news, tips and insights to help you Start, Grow and Love your tutoring business. Plain English, no buzzwords and no BS. So, if you want to make more money - and make more of a difference - The Tutor Podcast will be with you, every step of the way.

The Tutor Podcast

Be More Nina

Neil talks about the critical importance of brutal self-honesty in achieving personal and business goals. Building on the previous discussion about goal-setting, Neil emphasises that without an honest assessment of one's actions and results, success is nearly impossible. He shares his own method of tracking daily activities through a simple tick box system, which helps him stay accountable and motivated. Throughout the episode, Neil poses thought-provoking questions to encourage listeners to confront their realities and eliminate self-deception. He advocates for a no-nonsense approach to self-evaluation, urging listeners to embrace the discomfort that comes with honesty in order to foster growth and improvement in their tutoring, teaching, or coaching businesses.

KEY TAKEAWAYS


Brutal Self-Honesty is Essential: To effectively assess and improve your situation, it's crucial to be brutally honest with yourself about your actions and results. This self-assessment is necessary for personal and business growth.


Focus on Process-Based Goals: Instead of solely concentrating on long-term outcomes, prioritise daily process-based goals. These smaller, actionable tasks contribute to achieving larger objectives over time.


Measurement and Accountability: Implement a measurement system to track your progress. Using a simple tick box system can help you hold yourself accountable and provide a sense of achievement when you complete tasks.


Ask Tough Questions: Engage in self-reflection by asking challenging questions that can reveal uncomfortable truths about your behaviour and choices. This can lead to valuable insights and necessary changes.


Embrace Reality: Acknowledge the reality of your situation without delusion. Understanding the truth about your circumstances is vital for making informed decisions and avoiding confusion in the face of failure.

BEST MOMENTS

"If you can't honestly assess a situation, how on earth can you fix it?"

"Brutal self-honesty is just being strong enough to hold yourself to account to yourself."

"Ask yourself what part you played in that downfall."

"Do not sugarcoat failure. Do not lie to yourself and do not make excuses."

"Start ticking your own boxes and notice how life's changing for you."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

www.Neilcowmeadow.com

info@neilcowmeadow.com 

HOST BIO

Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years’ experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil’s invaluable advice and tips without the buzzwords and BS!

Neil talks about the critical importance of brutal self-honesty in achieving personal and business goals. Building on the previous discussion about goal-setting, Neil emphasises that without an honest assessment of one's actions and results, success is nearly impossible. He shares his own method of tracking daily activities through a simple tick box system, which helps him stay accountable and motivated. Throughout the episode, Neil poses thought-provoking questions to encourage listeners to confront their realities and eliminate self-deception. He advocates for a no-nonsense approach to self-evaluation, urging listeners to embrace the discomfort that comes with honesty in order to foster growth and improvement in their tutoring, teaching, or coaching businesses.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
<ol>
<li>
Brutal Self-Honesty is Essential: To effectively assess and improve your situation, it's crucial to be brutally honest with yourself about your actions and results. This self-assessment is necessary for personal and business growth.
</li>
<li>
Focus on Process-Based Goals: Instead of solely concentrating on long-term outcomes, prioritise daily process-based goals. These smaller, actionable tasks contribute to achieving larger objectives over time.
</li>
<li>
Measurement and Accountability: Implement a measurement system to track your progress. Using a simple tick box system can help you hold yourself accountable and provide a sense of achievement when you complete tasks.
</li>
<li>
Ask Tough Questions: Engage in self-reflection by asking challenging questions that can reveal uncomfortable truths about your behaviour and choices. This can lead to valuable insights and necessary changes.
</li>
<li>
Embrace Reality: Acknowledge the reality of your situation without delusion. Understanding the truth about your circumstances is vital for making informed decisions and avoiding confusion in the face of failure.
</li>
</ol>
BEST MOMENTS
"If you can't honestly assess a situation, how on earth can you fix it?"
"Brutal self-honesty is just being strong enough to hold yourself to account to yourself."
"Ask yourself what part you played in that downfall."
"Do not sugarcoat failure. Do not lie to yourself and do not make excuses."
"Start ticking your own boxes and notice how life's changing for you."
VALUABLE RESOURCES
<a href="http://www.neilcowmeadow.com/">www.Neilcowmeadow.com</a>
<a>info@neilcowmeadow.com</a>&nbsp;
HOST BIO
Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years&rsquo; experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil&rsquo;s invaluable advice and tips without the buzzwords and BS!

Brutal Self Honesty

Neil dives into the importance of goal setting as we approach the New Year. He shares his personal approach to setting long-term goals, emphasising the value of thinking big with a 15-year vision while breaking it down into manageable milestones over 10, 5, and 1-year periods. Neil discusses the significance of writing down goals, the compounding nature of success, and the necessity of taking actionable steps to achieve desired outcomes. He encourages listeners to visualise their future, create a compelling vision, and commit to their goals daily, all while maintaining a sense of control over their lives. This episode is packed with practical insights and strategies to help tutors, teachers, and coaches start, grow, and love their businesses in the coming year.

KEY TAKEAWAYS


Set Long-Term Goals: Establish 15-year goals to think big and envision a fulfilling future. This allows for a broader perspective on what can be achieved over time, as success compounds.


Write Down Your Goals: Documenting goals significantly increases the likelihood of achieving them. Writing helps clarify thoughts and reinforces commitment to those goals.


Break Goals into Milestones: Decompose long-term goals into shorter milestones (10-year, 5-year, and 1-year goals) to create a clear pathway and actionable steps towards achieving the ultimate vision.


Daily and Weekly Planning: Implement a structured approach to daily and weekly tasks by setting specific actions that align with monthly and quarterly goals. This helps maintain focus and ensures progress.


Review and Optimise Regularly: Continuously assess progress and refine strategies. Regular reflection on what works and what doesn’t is crucial for ongoing improvement and maintaining a sense of control over one’s life and goals.

BEST MOMENTS

"Not many people set goals. Maybe this is why not many people are successful in their own view."

"Success and failure are both compounding. The results of today will act upon results for tomorrow."

"If you want to use timelining for the future process, go to episode 327. I do timelining in some detail there."

"Happy people tend to have goals for their days, for their months and for their years, rather than just drift along going with the flow."

"Imagine, dream and write. Create your compelling vision for how you want to live, who you want to be and how you want to spend the next 15 years of your life."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

www.Neilcowmeadow.com

info@neilcowmeadow.com

HOST BIO

Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years’ experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil’s invaluable advice and tips without the buzzwords and BS!

Neil dives into the importance of goal setting as we approach the New Year. He shares his personal approach to setting long-term goals, emphasising the value of thinking big with a 15-year vision while breaking it down into manageable milestones over 10, 5, and 1-year periods. Neil discusses the significance of writing down goals, the compounding nature of success, and the necessity of taking actionable steps to achieve desired outcomes. He encourages listeners to visualise their future, create a compelling vision, and commit to their goals daily, all while maintaining a sense of control over their lives. This episode is packed with practical insights and strategies to help tutors, teachers, and coaches start, grow, and love their businesses in the coming year.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
<ol>
<li>
Set Long-Term Goals: Establish 15-year goals to think big and envision a fulfilling future. This allows for a broader perspective on what can be achieved over time, as success compounds.
</li>
<li>
Write Down Your Goals: Documenting goals significantly increases the likelihood of achieving them. Writing helps clarify thoughts and reinforces commitment to those goals.
</li>
<li>
Break Goals into Milestones: Decompose long-term goals into shorter milestones (10-year, 5-year, and 1-year goals) to create a clear pathway and actionable steps towards achieving the ultimate vision.
</li>
<li>
Daily and Weekly Planning: Implement a structured approach to daily and weekly tasks by setting specific actions that align with monthly and quarterly goals. This helps maintain focus and ensures progress.
</li>
<li>
Review and Optimise Regularly: Continuously assess progress and refine strategies. Regular reflection on what works and what doesn’t is crucial for ongoing improvement and maintaining a sense of control over one’s life and goals.
</li>
</ol>
BEST MOMENTS
"Not many people set goals. Maybe this is why not many people are successful in their own view."
"Success and failure are both compounding. The results of today will act upon results for tomorrow."
"If you want to use timelining for the future process, go to episode 327. I do timelining in some detail there."
"Happy people tend to have goals for their days, for their months and for their years, rather than just drift along going with the flow."
"Imagine, dream and write. Create your compelling vision for how you want to live, who you want to be and how you want to spend the next 15 years of your life."
VALUABLE RESOURCES
<a href="http://www.neilcowmeadow.com/">www.Neilcowmeadow.com</a>
<a>info@neilcowmeadow.com</a> 
HOST BIO
Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years’ experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil’s invaluable advice and tips without the buzzwords and BS!

New Year, New You

Neil reflects on the year as it approaches the holiday season, encouraging listeners to take control of their time and plans during this busy period. He emphasises the importance of creating a structured plan for the Christmas holidays rather than drifting aimlessly into the festivities. Neil shares his personal experiences of past holiday seasons filled with stress and lack of direction, contrasting them with his current approach of using a detailed planner to maximise productivity and personal enjoyment. He invites listeners to consider their own plans, urging them to prioritise their happiness and well-being amidst the chaos of family gatherings and holiday obligations. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS


Plan Your Holiday Period: Instead of drifting into the holiday season without a plan, create a structured schedule for both work and downtime. This helps reduce stress and increases productivity.


Reflect on the Year: Take time to evaluate your highs and lows from the past year. Consider what you want to achieve in the upcoming year and how you can make the most of your time during the holidays.


Utilise Downtime Wisely: Use the holiday break to tackle tasks that you may not have time for during the regular teaching schedule, such as cleaning, maintenance, or planning future projects.


Prioritise Personal Enjoyment: Make sure to plan activities that you enjoy during the holiday season, rather than conforming to others' expectations. This ensures that you have a fulfilling and enjoyable time.


Engage with Your Community: Encourage listeners to share their plans and ideas, fostering a sense of community and support among those in the tutoring and teaching business.

BEST MOMENTS

"Have you made proper plans for the holiday period? This feels like a run on from last episode where I said build your day on paper first."

"Don't leave it to chance and go with the flow. It's a far better idea to plan ahead and create a meaningful Christmas period on your own terms."

"There are going to be very high levels of stress... a spike in domestic violence, alcohol-related incidents and a growth of enormous spending."

"While everyone else is slumped in their chair, bloaty with turkey... I'll probably be doing something way more interesting to me."

VALUABLE RESOURCES

www.Neilcowmeadow.com

info@neilcowmeadow.com

HOST BIO

Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years’ experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil’s invaluable advice and tips without the buzzwords and BS!

Neil reflects on the year as it approaches the holiday season, encouraging listeners to take control of their time and plans during this busy period. He emphasises the importance of creating a structured plan for the Christmas holidays rather than drifting aimlessly into the festivities. Neil shares his personal experiences of past holiday seasons filled with stress and lack of direction, contrasting them with his current approach of using a detailed planner to maximise productivity and personal enjoyment. He invites listeners to consider their own plans, urging them to prioritise their happiness and well-being amidst the chaos of family gatherings and holiday obligations. 
KEY TAKEAWAYS
<ol>
<li>
Plan Your Holiday Period: Instead of drifting into the holiday season without a plan, create a structured schedule for both work and downtime. This helps reduce stress and increases productivity.
</li>
<li>
Reflect on the Year: Take time to evaluate your highs and lows from the past year. Consider what you want to achieve in the upcoming year and how you can make the most of your time during the holidays.
</li>
<li>
Utilise Downtime Wisely: Use the holiday break to tackle tasks that you may not have time for during the regular teaching schedule, such as cleaning, maintenance, or planning future projects.
</li>
<li>
Prioritise Personal Enjoyment: Make sure to plan activities that you enjoy during the holiday season, rather than conforming to others' expectations. This ensures that you have a fulfilling and enjoyable time.
</li>
<li>
Engage with Your Community: Encourage listeners to share their plans and ideas, fostering a sense of community and support among those in the tutoring and teaching business.
</li>
</ol>
BEST MOMENTS
"Have you made proper plans for the holiday period? This feels like a run on from last episode where I said build your day on paper first."
"Don't leave it to chance and go with the flow. It's a far better idea to plan ahead and create a meaningful Christmas period on your own terms."
"There are going to be very high levels of stress... a spike in domestic violence, alcohol-related incidents and a growth of enormous spending."
"While everyone else is slumped in their chair, bloaty with turkey... I'll probably be doing something way more interesting to me."
VALUABLE RESOURCES
<a href="http://www.neilcowmeadow.com/">www.Neilcowmeadow.com</a>
<a>info@neilcowmeadow.com</a> 
HOST BIO
Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years’ experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil’s invaluable advice and tips without the buzzwords and BS!

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