In today’s episode, Brooke and Ben dive into different ways of thinking — open and closed, fixed and fluid and whatever exists in between. They discuss their different approaches to rule-following, how they deal with opinion chameleons and why finding common ground is one of the most effective ways to have a constructive conversation.

Ben also explains why he loves playing the devil’s advocate (and why Brooke finds it infuriating!) and finishes with a hard-hitting question: rigid or flexible lollies — which is better?

They discuss:
hypersensitivity
Brooke’s EMDR experience
dealing with narrow-minded people
chameleon opinions and why they’re so confusing
rule-followers vs rebels
improving cognitive flexibility
how to engage different opinions without losing your mind
why hope hurts sometimes
the great lolly debate: rigid vs flexible

Thanks for listening!

Links:
Find everything mentioned in today’s show at brookemcalary.substack.com 
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Access the full, human-made transcript here

Credits:
the tortoise & the hare is a McAlary Media production.
Produced and hosted by Brooke McAlary and Ben McAlary
Edited by Ben McAlary
Studio equipment supplied by shot.studio
Theme music is Edgar Allan Poe by Modern Aquatic

In today&rsquo;s episode, Brooke and Ben dive into different ways of thinking &mdash; open and closed, fixed and fluid and whatever exists in between. They discuss their different approaches to rule-following, how they deal with opinion chameleons and why finding common ground is one of the most effective ways to have a constructive conversation.
Ben also explains why he loves playing the devil&rsquo;s advocate (and why Brooke finds it infuriating!) and finishes with a hard-hitting question: rigid or flexible lollies &mdash; which is better?
They discuss:
<ul>
<li>hypersensitivity</li>
<li>Brooke&rsquo;s EMDR experience</li>
<li>dealing with narrow-minded people</li>
<li>chameleon opinions and why they&rsquo;re so confusing</li>
<li>rule-followers vs rebels</li>
<li>improving cognitive flexibility</li>
<li>how to engage different opinions without losing your mind</li>
<li>why hope hurts sometimes</li>
<li>the great lolly debate: rigid vs flexible</li>
</ul>
Thanks for listening!
Links:
<ul>
<li>Find everything mentioned in today&rsquo;s show at <a href="https://www.brookemcalary.substack.com">brookemcalary.substack.com</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li>Become a paying supporter of ttath and get double the episodes! Weekly shows delivered straight to your inbox for <a href="https://www.brookemcalary.substack.com/subscribe">just $8AUD/month or $80AUD/yr.</a></li>
<li>If video is your jam, subscribe to our YouTube channel <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@thetortoiseandthehare">@thetortoiseandthehare</a></li>
<li>Access the full, human-made <a href="https://brookemcalary.substack.com/p/rigid-and-flexible-pod?showTranscript=true">transcript here</a></li>
</ul>
Credits:
<ul>
<li>the tortoise &amp; the hare is a McAlary Media production.</li>
<li>Produced and hosted by Brooke McAlary and Ben McAlary</li>
<li>Edited by Ben McAlary</li>
<li>Studio equipment supplied by shot.studio</li>
<li>Theme music is Edgar Allan Poe by&nbsp;<a href="https://open.spotify.com/artist/3NH6G625odjefc6B8x21ol?si=s0SgpRcrRi-epsHTor9PcQ">Modern Aquatic</a></li>
</ul>

Fast and slow. Young and old. Hard and soft. Open and closed. Real and fake. Hide and seek. Pleasure and pain… Life is full of dualities and extremes and pick-a-sides. But most of our days are spent in the messy middle. 

the tortoise and the hare is a weekly show from the crew who brought you The Slow Home Podcast (RIP). Each episode is a human-made, homegrown, perfectly imperfect conversation about the either/or of life and the vast grey area in between.

Because we all contain multitudes. So let’s talk about them.

Fast and slow. Young and old. Hard and soft. Open and closed. Real and fake. Hide and seek. Pleasure and pain&hellip; Life is full of dualities and extremes and pick-a-sides. But most of our days are spent in the messy middle.&nbsp;
the tortoise and the hare is a weekly show from the crew who brought you The Slow Home Podcast (RIP). Each episode is a human-made, homegrown, perfectly imperfect conversation about the either/or of life and the vast grey area in between.
Because we all contain multitudes. So let&rsquo;s talk about them.

We all contain multitudes. So let's talk about them.

the tortoise & the hare

Fixed or fluid? Open or closed? Follow or lead? How we think about thinking matters.