Y'all know what time of y'all don't know, y'all back all, suit all looking back to back down, giving them like amazing buck things. And it's not doing me true good it Steve har listening to together for Steve, Please, I don't join joy be doing men. You gotta turn you gotta turn to turn them out, got to turn out to turn turn the water the water. Come come on your baby, Uh huh, I sure will I come on and everybody you are listening to the voice, come on dig me now, one and only Steve Harvey got a radio show. Well, okay, here we go. You know what's important, What's what can be a huge part of your success is if you if you find a balance, if you find a balance in your life. That's that's been very important for me. And I've really never phrased it this way until now, but I was kind of thinking about it after my wife and I mean, we set up one night recently. Man. You know, I often come on here and this is kind of an inspirational moment of the show and I try to remind people about that most important relationship between you and God. And that's that's the apex of it. That's that's the that's the top of the crown. You gotta form the relationship with God. If you don't, everything else struggles. It's hard to be a good husband without God. It's hard to be a good family man without God. It's hard to be successful without God. Man, it's hard to be hard to get through this thing called life without God. So that's clear. But at the same time, you can't talk about God. Twenty four seven. You got to go to work. Come on, man, let's just be real. I ain't your past and I ain't at your church, but let's just be real about it. You know, if people tell you got to keep your mind stayed on Him and all like that, that's that's a true statement. Got to keep your mind stayed in that area. I don't not here to tell you how to live, but you got to keep your mind stayed in that area of God, of doing the right thing, caring about people. That's what I took it as. Now I could be wrong. I apologize if I'm not saying that the way you've been taught. I can only do me now. But after that, you got to go to work. You got to have some fun. You gotta take care of your business. And that's the balance you have to find. So it once you focus on showing up your relationship with God, you got you gotta balance this now. Now you got to allocate some time I don't care who you are, for your family. If you're gonna have a family, you got to allocate some time for them. See, we can't just marry these women or make these kids and then neglect them. And fellas, especially if I'm talking to me and out him, ladies, you can listen to. But listen. If you find yourself struggling in your life, man, and you can't seem to get it together, Let's just go over a couple of things. The first two things, if you find yourself struggling, you can't seem to pull it together and reach your goals and get to where you want to go. Let's just do a check how is your relationship with God? And then next how much time are you taking to allocate for your family? Now, your family don't always live in your house, but if you made them, they yours and the responsibility to them is never lessen because you don't stay that no more. Because you and the girl broke up, you and the woman don't speak a man that don't ever release you from the obligation. Feel me when I'm telling you this now, because I'm not telling you something I'm wondering about. I've had to live through them years. So two things you can start looking at. If you're not where you want to be, and you ain't, you ain't really solid. You can't figure out why you keep spending your wills. Have you just done a random inventory? Man? Have you just checked on your relationship with God? Have you checked on the time you're spending dedicated towards your family, your children that you've created? If them two things is out of saint man, that I can tell you right now, you can go on and get to explain in yourself away just like that. A man, how come you ain't where you want to be? Couz man, I really ain't. But if you really ain't, then you really ain't. The third thing is you got to allocate the necessary time for your business. You got to handle your business. All of this, man, is the way it works, and the order the order is God first, family second. Then you got to handle all your business. But as me, and this is what we do. If I don't handle my business, I can't take care of my family, true statement. But if your business is in front of your family, you out of order. Nah. That's all we're talking about, now, ain't it. See that's that's all we really saying here now, fellas you know, you know, I mean, I mean, come on, man, you know, let's let's have a real conversation about being better. You know, if you have created these children, you got to handle your business. You may not like the girl no more. You and the woman might have broken up, y'all might go your own way, But what that got to do with the child though? Man, you got to handle your business. They got to know who daddy is. That's your obligation, man, And God ain't letting you off the hook for that. Try it, Go ahead and try it, and thank you. Gonna get off the hook with that, because you're not man, You just not. I'm sorry, man, dog Steve, why are you coming like that? Because I did it like that? I did it, man. I was over here trying to reshape my life, getting myself up on my feet when I was a homeless man and trying to come back. Man, I thought I had to take care of me first and then so I can neglect it. Care about them kids. Man, That ain't high work. Man. God keepers knee on my neck for a long time for that one right there, until I finally learned the lesson hold up man, put these phone calls in, Go spend some time, do something. And then it started turning around for me. You know, I can't be there all the time because I am out here on the ground in the hustle. But at the same time, Man, some more phone calls, some more letters, smohaha, he he's something. Then take care of your business man. You got to work hard to be successful. You know. Sometimes I don't put that in there. I just live in and I expect my sons to emulate that. But I gotta talk to him all the time. How hard you got to work to be something. It's an all out of salt on it. Man. If you gotta target in mind, you gotta go. You gotta wake up every day trying to get there. And you can't get tired of it because it's it's it never ends. You're gonna always be this way. That's how life is designed and set up. You got to be a hard worker, man. If you're always looking for some time to chill, and man, I won'ta go do what I want to do, You ain't gonna make it. In order to be successful, you have to do a series of things that you're uncomfortable doing, and work is the thing that most of us are uncomfortable doing. It's so much easier to chill, man. I wish I could kick back with a cigar man all the time, but I can't. Man, I can't because I got to work. Then the last piece of the balance balance piece is you gotta take some time out to enjoy yourself. But if you ain't where you wanna be, you ain't got a lot of time to enjoy yourself. Quit thinking, man, that this balance is even. It's a whole lot of God, a whole lot of family, a whole lot of business, and a little bit of chilling. The chilling can't be equal to the family, the business, or your God. If the chilling is equal to any of them, you ain't gonna make it. Quit chilling, man, and go to work like a man. Do what you post to do. Work on your family, work on your relationship, work on your God, work on your business. And then when you chill, you might not chill is long, but you show gonna chill bigger, You're gonna ball bigger. Baby, you're listening. St Morning Show ladies and gentlemen, man, I have your attention please on this very very blessed Monday morning. We are all very very fortunate to be here. I hope your weekend was great. To hope your mother's Day was a great. Congratulations to all the mothers out there. Thank you for all you do, thank you for all you've done, and thanks for all the things yet to come. It is a great thing to have a mother, man. So that's a blessing. So and it's Monday, is today after and we are all here. We got the two mothers in the building and the other mothers too, so we all here. Yeah, the real Mother's Day is Overnight's just the older mother's day. What's up, hey, Steve, how you doing. I'm pretty fair calling for real, Hey Steve, what's up? Hey? Crew? Junior? Morning up, morning everybody. Jake. I know what to do. I know exactly what to do. Tommy, yeah, cut him off. He gets started. He just can't say I know what to do. I know exactly what to do. What I tell you this season right away. That was the funniest thing I've ever seen in my entire life. I think knowledge hardened when he had asked him, do you know what? He said? Oh? I was crushed. Yeah, y'all have a problem. Huh. Oh we died a long deal. That's dog game. Yeah, with her do that ain't They ain't help the game. But everybody was talking about her hair. Yeah, at least she won. It was trending. I thought that was nice. Yeah, beutiful that we're talking about it in a good way. I always have to ask you, guys, was that a beating or an ass whipping? Which Tommy? Okay, Jay, we ain't gotta keep doing. We ain't gotta do this Tommy day. We lost. Let's just let it go on that. You know. I'm team Jay. Ain't never been a team ever. I'm team j That was Tommy. We lost. That's all it was, was lost. No, I was ass whipping because we went home and on Tommy. That's Steph Curry no points in the first half, thirty three, But Junior, we was at home. The good thing about being home, y'all didn't have that fight to go to go to be Now play the game and just go straight to Jake. We're getting our fantoms and we drive to our mansion's shack said win or lose. So that's it, man, y'all go s We're done. Baby. We all were there with Cleveland. That's where we are. Okay, Shade, they've been sitting now. You weren't over there with Cleveland. Cleveland wasn't even the playoffs. Thank you Cleveland. Alright, I'm glad you look. Coming up at thirty two after the hour, we're gonna find out what the crew did over the weekend inside of weekend review when we come back right after this. You're listening, all right, guys, time for weekend review. Let's just find out what everybody did over the weekend. How is everybody's weekend? Carlo? How is yours? I'm about to say weekend? What's good? Shirley asking what? Un just hang out with the family, because you know the weekend before I traveled, Yeah with the baby? Yeah, yeah, all good? What about you? Mother? The same thing, same thing basically got my flowers? All that got my hope. You that it was Mother's Day's weekend. Thank you. If you can't cook, why would you cook? Oh? Mother can't of all the weekends, I'm not cooking at Mother's Day weekend. No, no, but it was a great about this weekend. Yeah, coming up. I'm a mother and if the weekend keep it going, Yeah, I'm a mother and eat. I mean he did. He just brain food home. He makes a lot of sand with just man. Look, he's fine, Okay, he's fine. He went to the calls him and says, I'm coming that way. You need me to bring each something. I know you'd be hard. Funny funny. There's people in the neighborhood that check on my next door neighbors due. They really do. They really do. Great people. They are. Mister Mexican name black man. You don't come. I was your weekend, Steve. Oh well, I work Saturday, and so I took my wife out to dinner Saturday night, just me and her. Nights Crustaceans. They've remodeled it and they got look food and yet very good owner came out. Chef came out, had a couple of special items for us. It was nice. And then oh the owner come out when y'all go in. I ain't never seen no damn owner. They come out when y'all tell me, you know, always a compassion. Tell me I haven't been there three times since they remodel. I ain't seen the owner yet. The owner come out with you. But Tommy, tell me that if you don't know the owners, the owner could be out there. You just don't know. That ain't what the owner looking like. Then, so since sie, Nope, next time you don't know a little older Asian lady and she come out and talk to you. She said, our restaurant, it's your whole nice to have you back in here. All that money he's spending there, tell me I just spend over five thousand dollars. But unless since they've been reminded, what you gotta do is all you gotta do, Tommy, tom me just get the private room one time and have a chef to where the private room. He didn't know they had a private room. He ain't gonna ask because he don't want to hear the answer where I don't even know to hear they got a problem room? See the reason they don't we read the reason you don't know they got a problem. If you don't ask about nothing because you ask, chick be laughing this time. You just got here. You want to know about noble room because you don't want to answer about the private rule. Every restaurant got a private room. You just got to ask. But see you chief, you don't want the damn answer. I didn't know they had a private room. You didn't know that. You ain't never asked. No, I ain't answer that. No, mouth can't get fed in the private room. That's in the Bible. And I didn't know it was in the Bible. That off, it's not in your aura of thinking because you don't think to ask for extra because you don't want to pay the extra No, j Well, I didn't know that. Every time you find out the extra price, then you got to complain about it. Well, how much is that? I got to feel guilty? How the extra room? How much you say you to spend time? Hold? When you've been there five? Okay, eight times? I'd have spent by five? Okay? Cool? You can't sit in the private room. I can't wait. How much it's the private room? How much have you spent the total times you've been there? At least five thousand on what I'm telling times, I've gone. Now with that in mind, you ain't getting any private room. How much is the private room? It's more than five? You didn't spent for the ten damn times you'd have been there with your cheap as man. Private rooms more than five thousands. You don't hear me? And James, hey man, the private room is more than five thous Tommy, Tommy, listen man. See that why I asked about the private room. Now you see my point. It's not spend well. And that's why you're not fit to sit in the private room. See what is in the private room? Private? I don't like your rich I like that room, table side chairs and just you and your girl. Can y'all do it in there? Well? Ask you a question? Well, hold on, hold on, let me ask you five that hasn't ought to be able to do it? You need to stay in there for five thousand dollars? Can I ask you a question? Go ahead, go ahead, when you go to the restroom in a public place, don't you want to do on your toe? Ain't you? I do want to do? But when you do it in the room you was in it? Can I do it? You could? But they could walk in and see you don't tell them? Why don't you just rent it and find that I'm not gonna do it over five? And I can't do it, Timmy, you can do it. You can doing it again, flat screen, doing it everywhere. But if I'm gonna spend five you idiots, I can't do it. Come on next, It is Monday, so you know it that big to five thousand dollars, you'd be able to do it, but you ain't gonna spend that, so you know you gotta find another way to get it done. Church complaints coming up next, with revenue being a four thousand dollars for purse you got the money to cheap and Deacon death Jam coming up right after this You're listening show coming up at the top of the hour, and entertainment news it is Stevie Wonders birthday, Love us and Stevie wonder and yes, and our girl Rihanna is making big moves in fashion. Okay, we'll tell you about what she's doing going out, but first it is time for church complaints. Yeah, come on, we're here on Monday prepared for complaints, knowing full well what they're gonna complain about. Let me make a couple announcements or for or this Monday morning, want to say or so sorry to the Houston Rockets. What's that got to do? With church complaints. Well, a lot of the members of our church's Rocket Faith, Yes we are, and they all right, obviously you is one of them. So let me just finish what I was gonna say. But but y'all didn't win, and neither didn't win, and I would say or to the Philadelphia seventy six is if y'all don't get Joe l Embid ass under that basket where that would be an option to either throw it low or kick it back out. I don't know who coached this team, but he needed, he needed, he need to reassignment. I just needn't see that we start bad. Could Ambid go to the Rockets and would that be a stronger organization? Y'all don't want to or Golden State. I don't kill who go there? Or you had your attitunity CP was healthy or like y'all. I don't like yo, y'all. Y'all y'all winning skills, so you know I got win. You don't like my attitude. I don't like y'all the attitude about winning. Must not care about it that much? Well, well, no, we don't care about winning, but I don't think we You had an opportunity has the boy out. Well, what did Cleveland do? Cleveland wasn't ever gonna be in it when Lebron went out to the Lakers. Now what talking? If Cleveland didn't do nothing, I'm talking because you is or Houston fan and I who not want to discuss any of it. Well, if you quit talking, it would have been over. I was just gonna pray for y'all in the ocean. Or it's the first time you decided to get somebody some prayer. That's the first time. I'm not a praying minister. Well what what did that mean? You're not a fan. I don't have time to pray because all I handle this damn complaints. Oh okay, so you won't proud, you won't out this situation? Which one you want? And here it is again. When I got ready to pray, what he do? He complained about what I'm talking about. Houston is on the side. Well, Clean ain't doing nothing either, But we wouldn't. We didn't lose the day, do do we? No, you didn't make it. We wouldn't make it. But you show them I'm hoping you did, didn't you your answers at the house. Do you have a church complaint? Church. This is not about what you know as I want to fight you, I wish you he got new for you. You ain't gonna win that either. Due to the Santa Anna wins to the Lace Front relay race has been canceled. But the women are asking can they still do it bowheaded? But it's up to you if if you decided to let him run ball hit it well due to the center and the wind that was blowing all in balls out in baskets in the game that we can't past that. We're not talking about basketball, all right. Well, I'm just saying that must have been their excuse too. I don't kept the ball head women won the race or whatever. Just run it. You can run it with no hell, run it with no Let me right that run in with no one half pastor half okay, that ball headed race? All right. My next complaint is brother Rashid Ambros has an eed problem erectile dysfunction. Now he went and got hypnotized. The problem we're having, Pastor is when he hears the words all rise, he rises. So the usher this past suddenly said all rise, and of course he rose. And we need to fix this because he rises every time he hears all rides. Well, the Rockets got a RECTI problem too, because they can't stand up to the damn Golden State water. Seemed like they just now does that happen to do with right ross? She dad the rash on the Rocky team. No, that is not, Pastor. I have been filing with you and this congregation quite something. I have been a loyal to you. Don't cry, yeah, and I have been here. I tell you what, Dick, you just go to the next complaint. I'm so sorry. I'm not gonna You're not gonna do it. Well, I'll tell you what the huge records and who's the Rocket's not gonna do it? Nah? Nah nah, Now you're gonna do the complaints. I'm gonna do the complaint. But you did not I did. You can come on with Just come on and do them dead Deacon sister, your linder Adam. It is asking to join I would church, not by not physically, but she wants to join the church and by email because she is so busy and do you want her as a member. But let me ask you this right here, ain't sissy, you loan the Adam from Houston, so we're not having another Houston number on this tough church, because I on this crying when they lose, You're gonna lose again next year, so called sister yo Adam, and tell her long sheep for Houston. She can't be your members a church, because then what we gotta do is we gotta tape everybody up every time to lose the damn game and keep loua Lou to Lua lu losing every year to the same damn team. To all right, we gotta go, pastor, we got to go, got go mighty well with my anchor SHOWCA Church. Coming up at the top of the hour, Entertainment News. Right after this, you're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. In today's entertainment News, we have to say happy birthday to our friend and legend, musical legend Stevie wonder Man. Did you wonder sixty eight today? Steve Man, Go Horrs, Baby Taurus Doubo Musical Genius, one of the greatest albums of all time. Songs in the Key of Life, Yo boy, I gotta tell you another good one, though, talking book, I gotta tell you another good one. Do you use aquarium? I gotta tell you another hotter than your lie that boy been making heat so long. I don't know what to do. Boy, you don't know what to do? That boy got hit that boy, he's ain't about thirteen hours, all them songs to hit and one of your favorites as as Lord hammers, No, as as if he s just a just one s Yeah, no, he's stretched ass. What is the anyways? Happy birthday to Stevie Wonder. We love you, Stevie legend boy. Appreciate all the great music. Yes, sir, they don't make him, No, they don't. Don't. Don't do a double album with a forty five on the inside of the case. Superstitious like that stuff. And wh what did you say you heard of? Were you didn't put jodas in the same dinner group with Stevie? Warned stupid young? Is that what? Just did? Don't know? Abody ever say Judaic birthday, jas birthday. Junior thinks he's the fifth member of Joda. See Steve, you don't tell me Jeosi and Steve tell me never said us in the same term. Jake, Yeah, once you said around the world, wait a while before you bring up josy Okay. I think Coli days the Rosebuds know the bloom. It really may come on. Boy, just this kindness knows no shame, no through all your joy in pain, I'm gonna be loving you always. Come on, boy, Tomorrow's no I'm living, but tomorrow row could make me the past. For that, I mustn't feel boy. You that song, right, Joe, she got anything like that? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, we got fun. They got nothing loes Yeah got one peg my mon, same feeling come on the exact same feeling, different at different j as and as me on the rock and you gave me you'll stop and half a mother from helping. You dropped me back down to this cold cold oh too cold. You took me what you got Peening, you got me feen. It's the same feeling. It's the same. It's the same thing. You better listen to Jon Pening. Different things go about you. Yeah, think about you, baby, baby, Oh we got something just like what Come and talk to me. I really want to me, you can I talk to you? And that well anyway, Good morning everybody, Okay, good morning. This is entered with the news The Chairman of the House Intelligence Committee, Adam Schiff, says that Special Counsel Robin Mueller has agreed to testify before the Palel about his team's Russian meddling report. Just when that's going to happen, though, is not clear. Schiff says on ABC News this Week Sunday, the quote, the American people have a right to hear what the man who did the investigation has to say, and we now know we certainly can't rely on the Attorney General who misrepresented his conclusions. Cops in Houston have charged an area man in connection with the disappearance of a four year old African American girl. His stepdaughter thought he'd say that. Little Malia Davis has been missing for a week ever since her stepfather claims he was taken She was taken by a carjacker. Investigators say that blood from the stepfather, dari and Vince's apartment has been linked to Malia, so he's now being charged or tampering with evidence. Surveillance video shows him carrying a full laundry basket out of his apartment and that that basket was recovered out of the trunk of his car, and Malia or her body have yet been found. Finally, the long long long delay Department trial departmental trial of Staten Island New York City cop Daniel Pantaleo begins today. Pantalo's accused in the twenty fourteen chokehole death of Eric Garner, which the medical examine labeled a homicide and which caused of reactions all over the country demonstrations against police brutality. A ruling last week stipulates that the watchdog agency bringing the case to court, the Civilian Complaint Review Board, has to prove that Pamphalleo violated departmental rules, but also that his actions fit for criminal charges. A Staten Island grand jury refused to indict this guy. However, if he's convicted in his police departmental trial, he'll either be fired or lose some vacation. Meanwhile, according to The New York Times, chokeholes, which police brass in New York claim have been banned, there still being used by members of the NYPD. The Time says that records of complaint show that some cops are still using chokeholes, but that only a timely fraction of the cops accused of using chokeholes have been found guilty or faced discipline. Sad news tributes are pouring in for actress Peggy Lipton, who played Julie on the sixties TV detective show The Mod Squad and who died on Satdie After losing her battle with cancer at age seventy two, Peggy Lifton was divorced on Quincy Jones. Their daughters were Sheida and Kadada, were at her bedside when she passed. Finally, even though the detective Pikachu made fifty eight million dollars over the Mother's Day weekend, number one was Avenger's End Game and for the third weekend in our own even if there's a small chance we owe this to everyone's not in this firm to try three will whatever it takes, whatever it takes, whatever it takes. Well they've got whatever it takes. End Game made another sixty three mill. Now back to the Steve Harvey Morning Show. You're listening show all right, Steve and Mother's Day trending news. We have to say congratulations to your beautiful wife, Marjorie Harvey. Marjorie was honored this past weekend at the Women of Excellence Luncheon, Yes by the Lady Like Foundation through the Stephen Marjorie Harvey Foundation. You guys gifted. This is really special, Steve, and wonderful You guys gifted a young lady to pay for the rest of her college tuition. Yeah, that's big right there. Thank you guys, Yeah, thank you guys. You're gonna pay for the rest of her college tuition. Here's a moment when Marjorie surprised a young lady with the announcement. Take a listen. I understand that we unders paying for one year of your college. I don't know if you're going for two years, three years, four years, or whatever. It is. My husband, not you. A lot of people don't know what that really mean. That's so big. A lot of people have no idea what that means when you're getting your tuition pay right man, because you don't know. I really do, because that's an important that my wife recognizes that stuff. This young girl was in Falster Care. She had aged out of Falster Care. She had nowhere to go. She has a boyfriend. Her boyfriend convinced of his parents to let her live with him or with them, and so this parent, these people over in Crenshaw just took this girl in. So she just had somewhere to live. She's a sweetheart of a young girl, and her boyfriend's parents was good enough to let her live that she had no way of paying for college. So my wife picked up the other three years. And I thought that was absolutely fabulous because I didn't know abody till it was done. And then on my last show of the season that we taped Thursday, I went to Kent State and I got seven boys, eight eight boys, eight African American boys. We're paying for eight African boys full scholarship rides to Kent State un WHOA. So that's a ton of nineteens in one week that we'll be sending to college. And one of our goals is margin. I we don't speak about it, but our goal is throughout our career, and we're on our way. I'm not gonna say the number we're now, but it's up there. We're sending ten thousand students to college full pay ten thousand. That's how go out. We're looking at the supply that God has a God has an endless source of supply, So that's what we're depending on. How we're gonna do it. We don't exactly know how, but whenever we get the money put together like we did nine this week, and we're gonna do when we can, and we're gonna see it through. We're gonna make that goal happen before our leaders world. We're gonna send ten thousand kids to college full page scholarship. Whoa go ahead, Yes, thank you guys, Thank you guys. All right, well listen. Coming up next, Jamesony Brown is here. He's going to murder another hit right after this. You're listening, Steven show, All right, Steve introduced Jay Jay Anthony Brown. You can do better than that, ladies and gentlemen. This boy right here, from that other station that was so sorely losing and using him. I picked him up, dusting him off, turned him into somebody. Ladies and gentlemen. He's hell, he is, friends, I do this boy right here, come to work with a smile on his face in spite of his adversity, and God has blessing him in ladies and gentleman, standing strong. Why he's sick? Come on, Joe, hands together for that damn janfing it bron oh man, hit it, create it, hit it, hit it rest, come broke down again. Gotta kiss the bus again. Can't win, can't Yeah, I gotta catch that bus to work. I gotta do. I'm gonna ride and do my buckets. So I gotta take that bus to work. I gotta do. I'm gonna ride into my buckets, so you know I'm tying off around Bud. I gotta get to work. Got my get a boot sown, and my feet are really hurt. And I just missed the last bus to drive A saw me way, Mom. I'm standing at the bus stop, sweating like to stay. Was somebody telling me something when there's another bus coming? Was somebody tell me something when there's another bus come? My child's a board is dude, I gotta get paid. A boss said he would find me if I ever shortly? Ain't the world is getting due in my life should be. I'm moved. Hey, sitting on my bus. I got some gum stuck on my boot and want somebody tell me something when there's another us coming? Want somebody tell me something when there's another bus? Time I got against that bus. Gotta do. I'm gonna ride into my buckets, So I gotta take that bus. I gotta do. I wanna ride to my bucket. That was at get missed up Jay, that was the trails off with good sorget sor gets. Yeah, you want a bus? Got a fleetless. But that's that country songs that you on the harmonica. Yah, he wanted to hits over here. That's what we do. You're still talented. That's just money who kids love. That's all there is. The number one song in the Come Yesterday, is it? Yes? Yeah? What we do here? You true, Jake? You are the true right up there with Stevie One, that Joe to see last week big the biggest rapper this week I got I got news for Junior. Hurt him, Jake, But I'll put you right up there right after Stevie One. I'll put you and Junior about to kill him. Did that you actually take joas is better than Earth Wind Fry, don't you? No? No, no no, They just asked, as I get the same feeling when I hear both, I don't know how to he are you they? You don't get the same feeling? You think the nephew is up next with the praying phone call that's coming up right after this. You're listening to show coming up at the top of the hour. Guys, right about four minutes after, it's my Strawberry letter for today. The subject he can't get rid of his hood mentality right now though it could be three people on this show. Well, actually the phone actually actually actual calling. Yeah, you know you now, come on, I'm good. I don't even know right now the nephew is here with today's bring phone call, what you got for us? And after? Sometimes you got to bring the news, Charlett. Sometimes you gotta let them know you're not graduating. Man, you are not graduating. Wow. Somebody got to bring the news. Somebody got to tell them. Some got to be Everybody got their own role. This is my role. I gotta let you know you're not graduating. Running Hello, Hello, I'm trying to reach a travad place, this humble of this Uh, this is my name is Joseph Work open, student affairs. How are you doing today? I'm good? How are you? I'm good. Listen, you're supposed to be UM. This is your fifth year here at the university. You're graduating and UM in the next seven eight days? Am I right? Yes? There? Have you out of this joint? Okay, listen, I'm giving you a call. We got a bit of a problem here that we want to try and discuss with you, and maybe we can get you over at student affairs and come in and have a meeting with us, but we wanted to bring it to your attention. Now, you took a one of your last subjects was English, uh, and you had an English exam with a You guys are writing an essay. Am I am? I am? I correct about that? Yeah, and yeah, that's true. Okay, see that we got some problems here that the professor there is actually a senior meeting that you may have cheated on this on this essay that you've actually written cheated. No, I mean from from what he's telling us here at Student Affairs is that you may have plagiarized some things that that we're in your essay. Dude, No, I didn't. I didn't plagiarize nothing that was in the essay. Everything is documented like it should be. So I don't know what you're talking about, especially cheating on no exam on no paper now like that. You must got me mixed up with somebody else. No, no, no, not at all. You're actually mister Travan correct. I mean that's me. But I didn't cheat on no exam. But that matter. Okay, Well, let me let me try to bring you up to speed here at Travan. What we're gonna need is We're gonna need you to actually come in and talk to us over here at student affairs so we can try to get this thing rectified. But I will let you know, it's gonna take a few more days longer than graduation. So as of right now, you're actually not gonna be walking uh and graduating with the rest of the students. Man, dude, Man, you got me messed up. What's what you mean? I'm not gonna be walking well until we get this situation rectified here. You're not gonna be graduating with the rest of the students now. Dot. I don't know what y'all gotta do, but y'all need to figure it out or find out what the problem. Man, I didn't cheat on no exam there you're talking about. Dude, My family is coming down here and you're talking about cheating on an English exam. There, I look like cheating on an example. And I'm getting ready to graduate. Man, Now, y'all need to fix it, like right now, like today while we're on the phone. We can't do that. It's a little it's a sensitive subject and like I said, it seems like it's plagiarism. I mean, you know, if we can get you to actually come over the student affairs next Wednesday. Man, you man, you got me? So what you mean next Wednesday? Dude? I'm graduating in a few days. When you saw about next wednesday? Man, why don't my professor didn't give me a call? Why are you calling me sir? This is not something that professors actually take care of. This is a student affair situation now, and it's a very sensitive situation. And what we want to do is try to get this thing taken care of. And if you if what you're saying is actually true, then you'll probably graduating AUGUSTA you got me. I'm telling you writing that this is a you got me August. I'm graduating. This to me, to me here too long to go through some my last few weeks of school, and you talk about August n you didn't even time to hear what you got to say. Man, My family is coming down here from everywhere to see me graduate. Ma, I'm a first fair graduate from my family. Are you talking about some telling about my cheat on the paper? A paper due a paper? Can you come here? Man, i''m gonna work two and three jobs to see me through this school and now I'm coming getting rid of graduate? Are you talking about how to wait until August? A graduate? Man? Hell? Now, I'm on my way to the office right now, and you can tell whoever the professor is, that I'm on my way and he needs to be there too, Sir. I can really tell you that we can try and get this thing rectified and earlier the next Wednesday. Man, what's your name again? And where's where's your office? I'm in suiting the prayers. I'm Joe. Okay, okay, okay, okay. So I'm about to get in my car right now and I'm about to come over there and we're gonna handle it today. And how are you singing to me? Cheating on the exam paper? Then? Is that all the thing is? The professor here? Man? Are you kidding me? Dude? I've been here five Yes, I'm the first man to graduate from Callers. Man. My grandmom is eighty two years old and she coming in here and see me graduate and you're telling me the somebody seeing on the paper and I got a way to I'll get a graduates man. Man, you tell it professor to come to your office right now, because I'm already in my car. On my way to come to your office, and we're gonna handing this today. Man, you got me. I don't have any more room or my schedule to actually pull anybody in today, or you're gonna call me with like this something you ain't got room on your schedule. Man, Hell now, miss missile, whatever your name is, I'm all my way to your office right now, and I sad you. I'm gonna tell you, and I'm telling you up front it's gonna be a problem. I ain't graduating in a few days. You got to be with me. You got to deal with my family and my mama. We're gonna play this thing. I got a start, sir, I understand. Is there a possibility that maybe you plagiarized and didn't know that you did that? Man? You mean the paper was Officer and I already knew, sir? Can I can? I can? I tell you one more thing and then and then all that you can't say you're not ready to call me with somebody. I can't graduate with my class after I hadn't been this for five yep, and you're telling me I can't graduate until August. You ain't got to tell me. I do have one more thing I need to tell you, and then I'll let you be on your way. Okay, man, go ahead, Can I tell you what I want to tell you? New go ahead. I'm telling you this. It was nephew Tommy from the Steve Harvey Morning Show. You just got prink phone called by your best Frian, Brian. What hello? Man? Do somebody gonna playing jokes like that? Dude? Man? Do you know how hard I get out five years years? Man? I'm you are the first black male in your family to graduate from college. You're doing a big boy man. I know. Man, it's been a journey. Bros A. I got one more thing. Ask your baby, what is what is the baddest that? I mean, the baddest radio show in the land? Man? As that Steve Harvey Morning. Was I wrong for that? Yes? No? No, not ready. Anybody feel like I crossed the line? Ain't crossed dead? You always do. Get home? It hit home, you know. I don't care nothing about him, the first one graduate. Ain't need him his grandmama coming. I can't remembo. I don't care nobody. I got a look pass. Why would you? Thank you? Thank you? You never let nothing get in the weight of the break. You not graduate. I don't came about your grandmama coming out and into the school. You ain't your ass, saint. Yeah, take his ass to the private room because he ain't gonna graduate. That man, get ready, chuckles. The nephew was coming to town. Chuckles, chuckles, chuckles. Memphis, Tennessee. The nephew is coming to town Memorial weekend. That is Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. Take us our own sale right now. The nephew was come to town, Shirley, and call all your relatives that are there. I will not be giving them complimentary tickets. I'm telling you get your tickets. They don't sail right now. I have so many, so many, Oh they will they welcome. I I catch you on the nixt city. All right, listen, thank you, nephew. We'll be back with the Strawberry Letter. The subject is he can't get rid of his hood mentality. We'll get into it right after this. You're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show. Time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and listen. If you need advice and relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more, please please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and click submit strawberry letter. Okay, we could be reading your letter live on the air, just like we're going to read this one right here, right now today. Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for you here. It is these straw very lenin. Thank you, ev subject he can't get rid of his hood mentality Here Stephen Shirley, I'm a twenty eight year old married woman and my husband just turned thirty. We have a great marriage, but I need you to help me settle an argument. We are both black, but we come from very different backgrounds. He was raised in a poor urban area that was predominantly black. I was raised in a middle class suburb that was very racially diverse. I often have to tell him that certain things like wearing a dow rag outside the house or blasting loud rap music is not acceptable at his age and in the community we live in. Now, we just found out that I'm pregnant with twins, and we are having a boy and a girl. We've started planning for the two babies, and we've been discussing baby names. All of the names that he has suggested our stereotypical ghetto names, and I won't give you an example because I don't want to offend anyone that is listening. There have been numerous studies on black children with these made up names. These kids constantly have to correct people on the pronunciation and spelling of their names, and they are often ridiculed and passed over for jobs later on. I think it is ignorance on the parents part to do that to a child. I will not do it to my twins. My husband's argument is that the names he chose represent the black culture, and our children will be proud of their names when they are old enough to understand their culture and heritage. No one in my family has a ghetto name, and it won't start now. I love this man, but he can't separate stereotypes from real life, and he can adapt to a different lifestyle. How can I explain to him that I want our kids to have every advantage and not ever be made to feel different. What are your thoughts? Please help us? While you guys are very different, I'm surprised you were able to come together and get married and you got a know that you can't change anyone. You guys are married now and you're still trying to change your husband. I don't understand why you're trying to do that, because how's that working for you? It doesn't sound like it's going too well. But I am with you one hundred percent as far as um you know what you're talking about the culture and all of that, and studies have shown that, you know, kids with certain names are held can be held back. Unfortunately, you know that is true. Certain names do hold us back and all of that. As far as the culture goes, there are many ways for your children to learn it. You can teach them their history and their heritage. Books always a go to the internet, museums, movies, all of that. You can teach them about President Obama. There's plenty of time for them to learn their heritage and learn about their history, just like we had to. Uh. You know, there's going to be many many ways to bring cultural awareness to your kids. We're sitting queath them. The cultural differences between you and your husband, though, to me, that's a much bigger thing, and it might take some counseling to work that out. Because he is who he is and you are who you are, and you guys married each other, you know, and I say this, you might need counseling because the twins are coming and you both want to be good role models for them. You with your middle class background, your husband with this inner city upbringing. You know there's value in both. No one is not better than the other one. You both bring unique experiences. You guys are going to have to come together. I mean, yeah, with the do rags in public and the loud music. Yeah, he definitely cantone that down. But you guys, these arguments and things like that, you're gonna have to figure out a way to work it out or else you're gonna bring these twins into a major problem here in your marriage. Steve, Well, this is going to be interesting because this is right up my alley. Oh, my wife and I suffer from the same problem. So this is very good. Up. Mardree is a lot more polished and diverse than I am. I, on the other hand, am immersed deeply into my cultural blackness. First of all, in your letter you said we have a great manage, were soo do Mardred, But we come from very different backgrounds. Well, not necessarily, but I grew up urban, predominantly black. She grew up too, but she acted mit a class suburb I often have to tell him certain things like where to do rag outside of the house of blasts a love learning. Well, let let's just go back here. She said, we are both black. You need to make a correction. Both of y'all black. He just black up. See not in you can't. This is a gift, lady, This is a get. There are times when the fact that he is blacker can come into play. That's right. Oh, you need blacker people in certain situations. All right, all right, there are times when the black knob got to get turned up. The situation. Sister Shirley. Let me just go watch this. See Sister Shirley's bullshie. Give me any situation and just say something you do. Just name me something you do, and I'll show you how to turn it up. Anything I do, anything you do. Uh, I put my get up, shower, put my clothes on, put my makeup on, and go to work work. That's not now. We got to hear up. We got to roll up out of hill. See sometimes we got to roll up out of hill. Hey, give me something else. I go to the store. I want to buy something. I pull my credit card out and pay for it. We're gonna go down here and get what we can get, and we're gonna leave the rest of it down. Now. We'll be back with part two of Steve response right after this Today's Strawberry letter. The subject is he can't get rid of his hood mentality? Coming up right after this. You're listening to show, all right, Steve, Let's recap today's Strawberry letter, the subject he can't get rid of his hood mentality. We've got a woman who's gonna mess her marriage here because she can't get next to her husband's hood ways. But you married him with these hoods. That's one of the things that drew you to him. His strength, his stamina, his ability to handle critical situations, the toughness that's made from everybody living. You see, we understand that. Well, now let's get into the second half of this letter. We need to go over some black names. Now, let's go. I've asked y'all to send me some if you would look at your phones, But obviously y'all don't want to help out, so I just start. We'll just read your texas and get them to me as I begin. Now. Now, these twins a boy and a girl, Shida and Taquita. Now I know that you don't want this board name Taquia, but Taquito is a good name simply cause it rhyme with schiquita, you see, and that's probably what his thinking is. Now you got Darkisha is the girl and Tai Kuan is the boy. Now Tai Kuan, we need that name because somebody gonna misspelling and they're gonna get asked with everybody that or teach you to learn how to take time, learn the black names to quill to this Tai Kuan. See. Yeah, then you can go like like we like cause its names like the girl named Mercedes and the boy named chevn Wow. See Chevy heavy Chevin Chevy gets your asked for you understand. Then you got you got Lucresia m h and Trevante. Yeah yeah, Lucresha and Trevante. Trevante is a member of a singing group in the Tramps. See, you need stuff like that. And so I'm just telling you, see so you can have like Charles Letter and Charles okay, now Charles that see that on the hood what that on hooded it you got? Then you can go with stuff like oh you can go John Minnel, God what John Minnell John Minnell because we had a lot of John that's a girl, that's John Mennell. We had a lot of names in the John wet. It was many of men that we just pulled out one. So we're gonna name her John Minnel, John Minnell. What's his name? Boosy like the player? Yeah, yeah, you know. Then you got a Quinella because she I want her to grow up to be a swimmer, Aquinella and TrackMan. Yeah, she gonna swim and he gonna be a track star. Yeah. All we can just go straight old schoolhood and be Stella and lero that damned slavery. That's all right. Don't nobody want to be called Stella nomo, But that's what you're gonna be going. Oh, Or we can go h real old schooling Harriet for the girl and Orenthal for the boys, or old j Yeah, but we just gonna call him or Inhalt. You ain't got to bring up old Jay. Okay, we don't want the getting in no trouble people. But or inhal but because you know they're going but they're not, they're not gonna they're gonna call him o all or or or all. We can name the girl, Jo Safius, whoa spell that? And Myrin Myra is like, ask you a question, you can ask this question. But these people get called a lot for interviews. Yes, yes, yeah, don't worry about that. You know they're gonna end up self employed anyway. You know, we need to be more entrepreneurs. Anyway. We ain't raised our kids getting no damn interviews. Our kids gonna open up reb shacks and stuff. Oh, then we're gonna go keep it real old school. Milly and Marcus, okay, Million MILLI. These is good, strong names Milly and all right, we gotta get out of here. Guys, email us your Instagram at your thoughts names on today? Yeah are your names? Yeah? On Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM. You can check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand coming up at forty six after the hour, trending sports news and the NBAS last two okay and but no you love, we'll be back in right after this. You're listening to Steven show. All right, here we go, NBA playoffs, Go junior. We don't have to talk about the yes, sir. One last strong names Kizzie and Harpoo, kiz and harpo. Man, we got the Western conference files. Everything is set for the conference files. We got it. You know, Houston's not in it no more. So we're gonna but Junior wet. But go to State and Portland in the West. And then we got Milwaukee versus Toronto. And shout out to that boy. Man, you got to respect him, that boy Portland, many kid. I had saucer. Yes, he got to go in here. See they got to score on here. Message boy, just greek boy. They got a strong team up in mikey Man. Yeah, man, they got a strong team in Milwaker. They really do man, they bad man. They want over sixty games this year and in this final, go ahead up. I want to everybody pick though, but I just want to know you got Milwaukee or Toronto. Which how you gonna. I'm going with Milwaukee, man, Okay, there, man, I'm going I'm going with Milwaukee because I don't see see he gets down in the paint, unlike Joel Lamb. He ain't gonna be out there just mad threes. He going to the rack. Oh. I know it was hard for Joel and B to lose that game, but going that locker room and getting that dough behind the dough for you. I don't understand. I gotta stand that he was heartbroken. But they ain't got nobody to blame but theirself. Their last three possessions was really man and I agree with the T and T its worst three worst possessions. I've ever seen two shot clock violations and then out on a time out, a shot clock violation because they don't know how to run a at play because everybody out at the three point line. Toronto went out there and covered everybody and gotten in passing ling and they ain't even have an option down low. Just dumbest basketball I've ever seen. I want to measge this on in the West, do you do? You just just give me how many games it's gonna go between Portland and Golden State. They're gonna go seven seven, Yeah, especially if especially if if if Durant don't get back in there Portland. Portland got a hell of a squad to defend. Boy, yeah they do man, Portland Mike beat Golden State. Show really it is. That's the sports update, right this shirt? All right, thank you junior. All right, we'll see coming up at the top of the hour. And trending social Media News Steve Harvey's son Broderick talks about his relationship with his dad. Steve. I can't wait for that. We'll be back right after this. You're listening, okay, Stephen Trending news. Mother's Day was this past weekend, and Father's Day it's coming up next month. You know, well, your son, Broderick. We love Broderick. He'll be a special guest on your talk show. And he talked about his relationship with you, Steve. Take a listen. I didn't really have my dad full time into my life until I was sixteen. Right then, we're moving to Atlanta, and they said, hey, Broderick, we want you to move with us because we really want to bring his family together. Now my mind, I've been living in Cleveland my whole life. I've been living with my mom. It's been me and my mom. That's it. In the back of my mind, I'm like, no, it's going to hurt my mom. But at sixteen, I knew that's what I needed as a man. Wow, d Yeah, are you feeling here that? I mean, you know, it's the truth. You know, people don't no, you know, man, Like we talk about it all the time, all of our children our products of divorce, all of them. None of our kids have not lived through voice and separation, none of them. And so it's been challenging for us to blend our family and to make them feel at home and what love is really like. And we've done a good job of that getting it done. It has not been without challenges, though. Please understand that it has not been without challenging. It has been tough at times because you know, of course, from time to time, they want things the way they want it, and that oftentimes can't be the case. And so my son and I have had many talks. I think one of the moments in the show that you will see is when my son admitted to me years ago, Dad, I understand why you left. I do, because you could not have been who you are had you stayed. And because you left, you don't just belong to me. You belong to a lot of people. You a lot of people's uncle, that, a lot of people's father out there, and that was your calling in life. And I've come to understand that I love and respect that man. My son works for me and with me, you know, so yeah, yeah, I mean it took some time, you know, he told me that we were on vacation in Africa one time, sitting up looking at the end the furthest point of the furthest southern part of the hemisphere of the world. We were looking at the last piece of land before it's just nothing but ocean for it goes around the curvage and starts back north. And he said, Dad, I get it, man, I get why you left. This was a long time ago, you know, And so that that meant a lot to me. Know, we had a lot of moments to get to the relationship that we have. I have a show with all men on it tomorrow and talking about manhood and what it is, and there's so many men on the show that that didn't have their fathers in their life. Heario, you know, huh, I was off and on in my son's like up two with sixteen is actually a little younger than that fourteen. But you know that was that was it, man, And you know, it took us some time. It took me some time to get him, but I finally got him, and you know it worked out. You know, he's a fine young dude now. So that's cool, Steve, and he is he really is, he really Yeah, he's a fine young man. He really is not right a man become you know. Yeah, well it worked out, you know, I can't get him to settle his ass down, but but it goes to right, and it goes to show you that no matter how things start off, you know, they don't they don't. They may not look good starting off when they first start off, when they finish, you know, that's that's what matters. How you run up, you know how you are now, it's not where you're gonna be right, right, and you just gotta hang in out because you don't know how to chap is going to play out in you. That's right, that's right, that's right. So don't judge. I think you know the journey. I think you know, you don't know what people keeping itself, that's right. And everybody has a story too, you know. Yep. But um, that was good, Steve. I enjoyed hearing your son. That was interesting very much. So yeah, all right, we'll be back with more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show right after this. You're listening to the Steven Show. All right, this is what time it is people, This is what time the two thousand nineteen Steve Harvey, sand and Dull Festival Girl, it is going down October October tenth through the fourteenth, where Steve tell Ud. Yeah, oh you can drink, Oh you can part all night long, gamble all sitting around on the beach, y'all night, laying out in the water all night long. What new people? Yeah, fella, it was so many fine women and your mercy boy fell. Listen to me. I'm calling on all the frats out there, get your paraphernalion. Come on, I'm telling you, if you grown, that's what you want. 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Marjorie was honored this past weekend at the Women of Excellence Luncheon, Yes by the Lady Like Foundation through the Stephen Marjorie Harvey Foundation. You guys gifted This is really special, Steve and wonderful. You guys gifted a young lady to pay for the rest of her college tuition. Yeah, that's big right there. Thank you guys. Yeah, thank you guys. You're gonna pay for the rest of her college tuition. Here's a moment when Marjorie surprised a young lady with the announcement. Take a listen. I honestly that we are just paying for one year of your college. I don't know if you're going for two years, three years, four years, or whatever it is. You A lot of people don't know what that really means. That a lot of people have no idea what that means when you're getting your tuition pay right man, because you don't know. I really do, because that's an important uh that my wife recognizes that stuff. This young girl was in foster care. She had aged out of falster care. She had nowhere to go. She has a boyfriend. Her boyfriend convinced of his parents to let her live with him, well with them, and so this parent, these people over in Crenshaw just took the girl in. So she just had somewhere to live. She's a sweetheart of a young girl, and her boyfriend's parents was good enough to let her live that she had no way of paying for college. Who my wife picked up the other three years And I thought that was absolutely fabulous because I didn't know about it till it was done. And then on my last show of the season that we taped Thursday, I went to Kent State and I got seven boys, eight eight boys, eight African American boys. We're paying for eight African boys full scholarship rides to Kent State Union. WHOA. So that's a ton of nineteens in one week that we'll be sending to college. And one of our goals is margin and I we don't speak about it, but our goal is throughout our career and we're on our way. I'm not gonna say the number we're now, but it's up there. We're sending ten thousand students to college full pay, ten thousand. That's how I go out. That's big. Wow. We're looking at the supply that God had AMENI an endless source of supply. So that's what we're depending on. How we're gonna do it, we don't exactly know how, but whenever we get the money put together like we did nine this week, and we're gonna do when we can, and we're gonna see it through. We're gonna make that goal happen before our leaders world. We're gonna send ten thousand kids to college full page scholarship. WHOA alright, yes, thank you guys, Thank you guys. All right, well listen coming up next, JA Anthony Brown is here. He's going to murder another hit right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve, here we are last break of the day and time for your closing remarks. Now, all right, um, you know what man on my last talk show, we recorded it. I may release of it earlier because it was such a powerful show. The two things I wanted to accomplish on my last show was I wanted to be inspirational and motivational. So I had Bishop TD Jakes as my guest, and I wanted to do something uplifting and soul. We gave away to eight scholarships to the eight African American boys, four year full ride scholarships to the very same school that I floaked out of. It was a great accomplishment to do that. But Bishop Jakes was my guest and he was promoting his book called Crushing, Crushing God Turns Pressure into Power, and Bishop Jakes taught me something man, and I just want to share. I'm paraphrasing what he said. He said a lot more eloquently than I could ever said. You know, he's one of the most He's one of the best speakers, the best motivational speaker I've ever met in my entire life. I've never ever met a man more motivating than him. Now he's a preacher for show, but I want you to understand that he gives you real life lessons that can really really help you out. And his book Crushing, How God Turns Pressure into power, and he was reminding us that under when you're being crushed, it's because God is using you like a grape. You know, we are all grapes. Grapes are the only fruit that is grown to be crushed, and grapes are grown to be crushed because grapes are that are not crushed, they the fruit. They just simply grapes. I know a lot of I don't know, nobody don't like grapes. But when grapes are crushed, they become wine. And just because you've been crushed doesn't mean your life is old. When you've been crushed, it means that you're being turned into something and that all of your crushings can take you to a greater place, because grapes are designed to become wine, and wine gets better with time. See, when you get crushed, it don't mean your life is over. It means you now have a chance to become wine. Man, it's such a powerful message if you understand what he's saying, because one of the things he was saying and says it in such a great way, he says, in every painful moment in your life, when the pain goes away, pain always leaves a gift, a present. It's on the table, it's right in front of you. Whenever the pain goes away, it leaves a present for you, a little box with a ribbon on it, and all you got to do is open it. And it's kind of like what I used to side saying, behind every moment of adversity there's a lesson and a blessing. Or Bishop put it better, he said, every time you go through pain, pain always leaves you a present, a gift, and it's something for you to open and unlock. Sometimes the gift that you receive as you are now after this pain, more experienced. Sometimes pain leaves behind a gift of strength. You are now stronger. Sometime pain leaves a gift of you are now free. You know that break up that seems so hurting at the time, that divorce that seems so debilitating and crushing at the time, and you look at all that time you put into that relationship and it's over. Or guess what, You're now free. You're now free to go find a relationship that's really meant for you. That person you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with it to turn out to dog you and cry, shoot well, now you're free. You ain't got to feel that no more. Every time you get crushed, every time you finish your pain, it leaves a gift for you, a lesson and a blessing. The lesson is, now you know not to do that no more. Now you become more knowledgeable, more experienced. So the next time you see that, you know how to handle it a little bit better. But there's also a blessing in it too. Now you get free to go do something else. When they close a chapter in your life, it's time to turn the page. If they close the door, God ain't never close the door without having another door for you to go through. But you got to look for the present after the pain. Stop taking your pain and wearing it all the way out like it's just final, because it ain't. Man Like I said the other day, of all the bad days you've ever had, on all the crushing time you've ever had, your track record for surviving all previous crushings is one hundred percent. And that's pretty good. So Bishop Jake's book is called Crushing. I got it on my desk right now. I got my wife a copy. My wife was there that last show. She says, Steve, please get me one of those books. And so I sent out and I got. I bought four of the books, and I gave one to my wife for Mother's Day. I just put it on her vanity, and I got one on my desk. And I recommend everybody to get this book, man, because God does turn pressure into power. Every time you get crushed, it's an opportunity to become wine finer, more flavorful, more robust, a cabinet. You get to be something now, but you can't be it until you've been crushed. Crushing ain't a bad thing. You ain't a grape no more. You get to go be wine. Wine is expensive wine, and the older it's the bet it is. I mean, man, come on, wow, I know I'm better than I used to be. Ain't y'all better than you used to be? Thank God for the crushing. That's my remarks today. Quit tripping because you're being crushed. You're about to become wine man. Hey God you serve he bad boy. Yeah, y'all have a good week dropping. It's dropped, dropping like a being hot. Crush me for all Steve Harvey contests No purchase necessary, void where prohibited participants must be legal US residents at least eighteen years old, unless otherwise stated. For complete contest rules, visit Steve Harvey FM dot com. You're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show.